Falky

Ok I've been sitting here for the past hour now whilst my Fiancee is watching her rubbish TV. It's around 22:30 and I'm bored out of my skull, it's that sort of time where I would pop into a game for an hour or so whilst she watches her garbage. I'm in that sort of state where i'm too tired to learn anything new or exercise etc. But not tired enough to attempt sleep...without the tv, there's not much for me to do to unwind and relax. What do you all do when you reach this sort of point?

As someone who had Severe agoraphobia and anger issues, I realised the only way I could triumph over them was to just say screw it! What will be will be and that's it. I would say "bring it world, what will be, will be!" every panic attack, every morning, every day and eventually my panic attacks subsided and I grew confident within myself.

Good job on the first step of your detox! Uninstalling your games and staying away from your computer is a great first step. I'm on Day 19 at the moment and the best advice I can give you is to always keep busy and perhaps write a list down of what needs to be done. Best of Luck.

Welcome friend! I was pretty much like you, at one point the only thing I watched and read was WoW guide and videos. You nailed it on the head as well, we spend so much time leveling fictional characters, that we actually forget to level ourselves up. I used to have a notepad on leatherworking, blacksmithing and enchanting recipes...since I went into business for myself and quit gaming I now have a notepad full of goals, life tasks and accomplishments Instead of the having a list of locations for rare mounts and spawns...I know have a list of goals I need to reach before years end. I may have to check out The Minimalists stuff soon too, it sounds enlightening! Anyways Welcome and I'll pop over and check out your Journal.

Thanks! Day 19: Sunday Lunch It's day 19 and I'm feeling really good. I went around my parents for Sunday dinner and had a nice roast. Whist there I did a bit of gardening for them which was good, the fresh air was a refreshing change. This is the reason for a late journal...and because I slept in haha. Yesterday was great too, I managed to get a lot of work done so I was really happy. My productivity has definitely sky-rocketed since quitting games, that's for sure! All I have got left to do today is, do a bit of organizing around the house, research into learning Spanish and research Yoga & stretching. But in regards to my gaming Detox it's going really well! What I'm Grateful for: Online ShoppingFresh AirMum's cookingToday's Agenda: Research into learning Spanish more.Research Yoga & Stretching.Organize stuff in the house a little bit.Write In Journal.Do Gardening For Parents.Cya tomorrow all!

I was going to suggest this lol, since I quit games all that's in my recommendations now is food review videos and music videos

Day 18: Rugby & Treat Day Yesterday hmmm, what did I do yesterday...my memory is seriously bad! Does anyone have any technique to improve memory lol? Oh yeah I said I was gong to relax a little yesterday and that I did lol! I wanted to get a bit of work done but only did like a quarter of what I needed to do. So I'm going to try and finish off some work before the rugby starts. I know there are quite a few Americans here but there's a Rugby Tournament called the 6 nations and it's the last day today. England have the chance of doing a grandslam which mean we've won every game played against the other 5 countries. I've got some snacks and treated myself to some breakfast which isn't that healthy and depending on what we decide later we may order in some food. Tomorrow will be back on healthy eating and head down with work again. I haven't gamed in 18 days now and feel like I can do the full stretch at this moment in time. When I reach the month mark (30 odd days) I will give an update on how I feel and how my life has changed since gaming. Today I may write up a plan for myself in regards to physical and mind activities because I'm feeling a bit stiff in regards to body and mind. That's the only thing I really miss about games is that they kept my mind sharp and alert. What I'm Grateful For: Freshly Cooked Sausage RollsTelevisionFamilyToday's Agenda: Finish off the work I was meant to do yesterday.Relax and Pig out!

I've been with my girl for close to 8 years now so I don't have much experience in picking up many different girls. All the girlfriends that I picked up before I did the following: Be calm and make them feel comfortable. This means don't over compliment them or under-compliment them. If you over-compliment them you'll creep them out and make you look sleazy and creepy. If you do the opposite and under-compliment them you'll make them feel crap.Don't talk to them in the aim of getting them in the bed or to be your girlfriend. Talk to them as if they were one of your friends and you want to be friends with them. This makes them feel more comfortable around you and girls love friends.Make them laugh. Don't tell lousy pick up lines or one liners but...smile, tell her a funny story of an experience and laugh at anything funny she says. No girl likes a depressed or unfunny guy.Be yourself...as cliché as it sounds this still holds true. If you can't be yourself around them, then how are you expected to go out with them and fake it all the time.Those are my main pointers. The more comfortable you are the more comfortable they are...you want to know why all the bad boy get the girls? They are CONFIDENT and comfortable with themselves. 3 quarters of my girlfriends were close friends of mine at one point and we spoke for years. So the friend zone myth is a load of crap too. If you're confident and can flirt subtle you can get out of the friend zone. (it's more of a long term game though if your close friends) All the best, I hope this helps.

No problemo mate...we're in this together here.

Yup, I believe consistency is everything. If you have passion for whatever you do in the first place it'll be much easier to maintain that consistency. Many superstars you see nowadays, have put in years of dedication behind the scenes. The difference between them and the amateurs are that they kept on going when things seemed impossible or hard. The same goes for business and your personal life too. Consistent action in the right direction = success. Take for instance Stephen King...he was rejected hundred of times by publishers before someone actually noticed his work. If he gave up at the beginning, then you wouldn't see his work. I would've gave up months ago with my business with the amount of mistake and failure I've had, but I kept on going. Now things are starting to look up and im discovering things I never knew about my self.

Day 17: Real Busy It's now day 17 and I'm feeling alright. Yesterday though I had some real bad cravings. Everything I looked at kind of reminded of a game in some way, I'd be watching Orange Is The New Black and want to play that Prison game on Steam. Or see something on Facebook and want to play World of Tanks or a mobile basketball game. I don't think it helped that we had a massive discussion on my games I stored away...I forgot about them until someone mentioned them lol. I stuck with the detox though and managed to not game at all which is good. Also yesterday night I found myself working instead of gaming...which is a real first for me lol. I managed to get a plethora of work done yesterday so today I may take it a little easier. Unfortunately my Fiancee took another test yesterday and she isn't pregnant so false alarm Not going to be a daddy anymore which sucks, but we both said we want to wait until after our wedding next year anyways. Today I plan to get my head down for a few hours, do some publishing work, work on my site and do some learning. What I'm Grateful For: This ForumMy BedPen & Paper (I love writing stuff down)Today's Agenda: Complete some publishing work.Write in this journal.Complete some website work.Learn Something New.Keep my social networks updated.

I just wondered that was all. I found selling some of my games, including ones that I haven't played in years, and had no intention of playing, to be a cleansing ritual of sorts. I applied similar logic to my Steam account. I deleted all of my games from my library, even though there is a way to get them back if required, so I understand your perspective of wanting to do it through pure willpower, because it is quite a simple process for someone to get the games back, be it physical or digital versions. For me personally, it just felt good to remove games from my life that I had no desire to return to. Regardless, I hope you pass the willpower test! Since this discussion I'm actually thinking of flogging a few of the games I have...kind've need the money anyways lol! I love that gif too haha. I think I may create a gif folder in a sec

Even whilst gaming I would love watching films and TV shows. Both combined though took up so much time I couldn't get anything done. I would become engrossed in my games for literally all day then slump on the sofa to watch a couple of films because my brain hurt from so much thinking haha. Watching films is something I would never give up.

Welcome! I think a lot of people can relate to your situation of escaping responsibilities. Best of luck and look forward to your Journal.

Haha, three quarters of the games are in my steam library anyhow, so the majority of those discs are redundant. Most gameaddicts would cringe at the thought of me still having my steam installed and one game still left on . I like the willpower test...if things did get too bad I would do a overhaul and get rid of everything. But it's all good at the moment. =]

Welcome friend! Keeping your mind busy and your day active is the key. Also try to eliminate any games or consoles from sight and not allow the temptation. If you're a PC gamer then uninstall every game form your PC and get rid of things like Steam, Origin etc. Also If you haven't yet create a Journal on here to log everything that's on your mind and to keep yourself accountable. Best of luck & hopefully look forward to your Journal soon!

Hey Falky! Nothing beats a nice dressing gown and a comfy pair of slippers! Congrats on your progress so far, it sounds like you've got a lot of things to keep you busy which is great. I'm curious as to your plans for that pile of PC games on the previous page? Haha yeah man, I drink the whiskey every night all I miss is the slippers and cigar Regarding the games, they are currently stored away and out of sight. I'm not sure whether I'll sell them or not, but in the mean time they aren't a problem for me.

I normally watch Netflix, Write or D.I.Y to relax now. A lot of people tend to exercise and meditate to relax too. But writing for me now is my main relaxer, perhaps start a blog or something? Anyways keep up the great work!

Fantastic...this is exactly how I approach my life. Just DO IT! I also definitely agree about the brain not having a manual either. It' such a complex thing that even nowadays with the technology we have, we don't actually know the brain properly. Keep up the good work mate and keep that positive attitude!

Yup! I used to always watch them because I enjoyed them whilst eating dinner etc. Now I'm not gaming its quite hard. It's a bit like an drug addict watching someone else shooting up and getting that high lol. Day 16: Business As Usual Yesterday I managed to get the aerial installation done, attaching the compression connector and crimping etc. My uncle came round earlier than expected so we ended up, putting up blind in the kitchen as well. I managed to do everything apart from finish my book (I was around 3 quarters done). I was a little bit moody yesterday, but managed to plough through the day . I didn't look at games or even touch one, so still all good on that front! Today I just need to crack on with my normal writing and blogging schedule, so it's business as usual. I'll start by just browsing this forum quickly and helping people, then watch perhaps one episode on Netflix with breakfast and crack on with writing and editing. What I'm Grateful For: Masonry drillsThis cold sugar free energy drink.Comfy Dressing GownsToday's Agenda: Write In Journal & Help OutFinish Off Book (properly this time)Schedule Video For Tomorrow (definitely do it this time)Create a scheduled Blog to accompany video.

Day 15 - Busy Day Scheduled Today I woke up pretty late close to 10am and I perhaps feel like I need to start waking up a little bit earlier. It's now 12 and I'm only just starting work! So I may set my alarm for around 8ish tomorrow, try and get an early start on the day. Yesterday I did some prep work for today's TV aerial installation and I managed to do some video editing and a little bit of book work. I can definitely be doing more though...I need to be a little bit more disciplined I think. In regards to gaming and cravings...I didn't game, but I was silly enough to watch a few game reviews. To say I wanted to game is an understatement lol. I felt the urge arrising and quickly turned off the gameplay and review videos. Anyways today's agenda is finish off a book and schedule yesterday's video for Friday. If I feel motivated enough I may create a blog too. What I'm Grateful for: Comfy SeatsMy ChromebookHaving A Roof Over My HeadToday's Agenda: Finish off a book.Schedule Video for Friday.Write In Journal.Finish Off Aerial Installation.Until next time, take care

Thanks man, I plan to improve on the mumbling, I'm not the best of speaker...i'm more of a writer haha. So speaking is on my list of improvements. Regarding the accent...England has many different accents (mine is more of a southern/London accent.) Thanks for the feedback, I'll look into the links

Day 14 - Reached My Previous Best It's day 14 and I've reached my previous best of 2 weeks without gaming! I must admit half-way through the 14 days it was quite tough and I felt pretty depressed. But now I'm back to normal perhaps a little better actually. Every morning (yesterday was an exception) I write in this journal and express the things I'm grateful for. Plus my motivation with my fiancee being pregnant. Apart from reaching my previous best, I haven't got much to write today. Still going strong with no gaming and feeling strong. What I'm Grateful For: Share Bag Crisps (chips)Monster Energy DrinkFresh AirToday's Agenda: Splice a coaxial cable and put in a TV line.Book Work.Edit a video for tomorrow/Friday upload.Catch you soon all, oh and below is the VLog I shot yesterday. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UsnP3z2-RRw

Thanks so much, Falky! And....congratulations on discovering you'll be a daddy! Good tidings to you and your fiancee! Cheers Dan

Welcome Nate!