destoroyah

ENTRY #92: Your momma is so fat, google maps called and said that they were running out of disc space on their servers.

ENTRY #91-2: Everything in life comes from the hip. A good dance. A good kick. Even you came out of somebody's hip.

ENTRY #91: Everything in life is about getting inside. Once you're inside - you feel better.

ENTRY #90: Meet incompetence with patience. Also: find something to do while you wait for results.

ENTRY #89-3: In seeking help know that only you can help yourself. It still is recommendable to seek help though, because only a futile search for help grants you the power to help yourself.

ENTRY #89-2: If you think too highly of yourself, you will face resistance from your environment. Hindering your progress in becoming who you think you are. If you think too lowly of yourself, seek help.

ENTRY #89: You become who you think you are. You never are who you think you are. You can always become less or more than you are.

ENTRY #88: When helping - always ask for permission first.

ENTRY #87-2: Be wary: Some individuals are eager to feel offended.

ENTRY #87: Nodding and intentionally closing your eyes for a brief moment are universally accepted forms of communication – even among animals. But no one knows what they really mean.

This is about her brother, you are generalizing the situation. It is the love within family. If you feel that I'm making this thread be about me, take a look in the mirror. You are the one talking about some girlfriend moaning about her life (completely offtopic). You are talking about your grandpa (completely offtopic). The stories you tell aren't even remotely connected to the subject. How will this help her (you even got the gender wrong, dude!) in confronting her brother? The outspokenness I meant, was the outspokenness among siblings. Not with you. That is why I will hold my opinion of you to myself for now, as it has absolutely nothing to do with the thread. If I want to convey you a message expressing my personal opinion, I would send you one instead embarassing you publicly. I called her "kid" because she seems to be in a dire situation in the need of stability. Unknowing how to handle it. The role of a kid can be very comforting, as it is free of responsibilities and guilt. Furthermore she's presumably a decade younger than me. I was actually, more or less, at least trying to give her answers to the problems imposed and present stability. As for my sarcasm - I used it in a single post to emotionally detach her from the importance of some stupid day in the calendar, as it seemed to me, that her taking it too seriously could be a problem. Also writing "just my opinion" everywhere, doesn't solve anything. It's not a free ticket for misconduct... You are detaching yourself from the words you write (presumably because you know they lack quality). Sheesh! The thread is now completely raped. I will now go play some videogames.

I would always respect my brother. I would always value my brother. And if he has an opinion which I disagree with, I would tell him that I disagree with it. I would not assume some thought in his mind and scheme, I am outspoken in everything with my siblings. Yes there are fights, but we always forgive one another. My siblings may always fall in my back - I would forgive them until I die. That might be a flaw. Blood is the strongest bond.

ENTRY #86-2: Don't incite fear in other people and destroy healthy relationships – that would be a very stupid thing to do.

ENTRY #86: Don't look for whose fault it is, when confronted with problems. Solve them. If you want to incite fear in other people and destroy healthy relationships - look for whose fault it is.

Actually I really liked Paulo Coelho. Maybe I was in a situation that made me blind to its tackiness. Back then it helped me in accepting my own heart, because I had been overriding it frequently. I had locked up too many emotions. Also - in accepting tackiness and ignoring public opinion can you start embracing yourself. Don't try to be "cool", or adhere public views, when on the journey to yourself. Yes you should take your brothers word seriously - at least to the degree that he gets the respect that any human being deserves. Sure, you can prove him wrong and an idiot, but try to listen and not just "nod him off". That would be very poisonous for any relationship In spotting weakness in others and being presumptuous can you conjure great strength instantly. This is very useful in some situations - but mind, it will turn you into a very lonely and hated person if you use this "cheat" longterm. True strength is not found in pursuing the light (running after public opinions), or embracing the darkness (spotting weakness in others), it is found by becoming the light yourself. How do you do that? If I knew the answer, I probably wouldn't be sitting here, but I'm sure reading some books can help. Nourishing. By that I mean a lot. Giving attention. Giving praise. Giving time. Giving materialistic things. These are all good deeds, when you give them away - but it is very important to not give away more than you can. Hm. As for cost/effectiveness calculations, I am not so sure. But any process in nature is very aware that resources are scarce, there is no room for uselessness. I am currently on the quest for fulfilling this natural order of things, by reading some Marcus Aurelius. I want to be a good leader someday, and leaders are constantly faced with difficult decisions where cost/effectiveness plays a very important role. The right decision is not always the happiest one. Also mind, there's like three words: efficacy, effectiveness and efficiency. Whoa...