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  1. Not gonna lie, I still suffer from this issue and it seems to be very common about gamequitters. Replacing an addiction with another one. I think that I will have to draw the line NOW to stop using computers for entertainment altogether and only using them for work-related purposes. There are billions of other healthier ways to pass time during breaks.
  2. Honestly, I have seen many games where it was routine to see people playing more than 10 hours a day. I really doubt that they are all able to moderate successfully, without damaging their life in some way. But the problem is that time spent isn't the only metric to take into account. I was addicted way before spending a lot of time on the games. When you begin to think about your games outside of the game (something that was quite frequent in the real life circles I was in), that's where the orange flags begin. It's also very hard to define, because at the end of the day, whether you play 1 minute per week or 3 hours, there is only one person who can decide whether it is REALLY detrimental or not: the player himself. Another thing making it hard to quantify is that we don't have the full context, we can't see the whole story. Someone who played 10 hours yesterday could have done this as a "once every 30 years" thing or it could be a daily thing. Or maybe, they are already satisfied with the state of their lives and don't care about stagnating a little bit. But I think that it's like smartphone, internet, social media addictions and the likes. Very underreported and underrated problem.
  3. Single player, multiplayer, it's all the same #%@$! for me. In fact, I have my doubts, If I wasn't more addicted to single player games than multiplayer games, just saying. The problem is that "single player" games don't really exist anymore, in this age of internet where you can find leaderboards for almost any single player game. If there isn't, you can still easily create your community and/or upload your scores somewhere. It was maybe more relevant back in the old days without internet and indeed the friction of having to physically move to events or find real life friends could make up for it, but that's really not the case anymore. Also, even in 100% solo games, you can still create your own challenges and compete against yourself, giving yourself infinite replay "value". I don't even bother with gaming, I really see it like a three card monte or similar cons. The only way to win is to not play, because I can't really "win", all rigged from the start.
  4. Good luck! Oh and on a side note, if you could (and want to), I might make you consider playing a real life instrument. Also, stay relaxed because you are far from the only one finding this game addictive, there were a lot of players even those who spent a lot of time in it who quit the game to better focus on their studies and real life stuff. Looking forward your progress 🙂
  5. Nice. I am glad to know that you found some thing that work for you, I was aware of the bed trick, I did it often subconsciously and it helped a bit. Yeah, I can't wait to see what you have done and log your progress 🙂
  6. OK, I get it. I used to be exactly like you, thinking on the short term, playing video games wherever I could while getting rid of everything getting in the way. But here is the thing, I realized that while they were fun on the short term, but weren't giving much on the long run for me, you seemed to realize it too, so that's really good. I know that you are clever, playing video games seriously is really taxing on your energy and requires your attention, I can confirm this. Add the fact that you could realize what your problems are on your own means that you do pay attention. You know the saying that most people won't change? Most people can't even realize that they have a problem, in the first place. So, to go straight to the point, what I would suggest you is to stop paying attention to the bad habits of other people, like really it's not because they are thousands to do it that they are right. The majority can often be wrong when it comes to some things. You know that investing more in something will pay off sooner or later? It is the same thing in life. What I would suggest to you is to start paying attention to your life right now. Pay attention to what you are doing and what you will have to do, pay attention to the clock. Don't delay things, even for a few seconds, do them right now. In fact, the more you wait, the harder it will become to do said things. Stop doing things in autopilot, be conscious about what you do. Life is sometimes hard, but it's in these hard that we can differentiate the serious and clever people from the people living mindlessly in the matrix. Just do it. Put your games on the side for a few days, focus on what you have to do, ideally find healthier things to do in your free time, to not have to stare at an empty ceiling and report your findings here.
  7. Sorry, but teamfight tactics is likely a big no-no. Strategy video games are still video games and they will still release massive amount of dopamine with flashy onscreen effects, an ever changing game with patches and the likes, not good at all. Add the fact that it was made by the same company who created one of the most addictive video game on the market and I would really stay away from this. Chess is a special case, because it was a board game originally and not a video game, but playing it online could be harmful and as addictive as other things. It depends how you approach it, what do you gain, what do you lose and why are you doing it.
  8. I can definitely relate to all of this. If we are being honest, sad and ugly truth but... we all know that 3 hours is a bit much, especially if it's done through uncontrolled impulsive behavior. Honestly, if you struggle to not play more than one hour a day, when you have a lot of work to do, you should take your addiction seriously. I also think that gaming is far from the only thing to take care of, the problem of mindlessly browsing the internet may need some attention too. However, the root cause of your problem is this: Why are you even doing all this "work" in the first place? Is it because you want to or because you are "forced" by someone else? If you don't want to do it, is there an alternative way to fix it? Just something to think about and you should take this question seriously because it may determine your entire life.
  9. That hurts so much just to think about it but i think that this is it. When I played games, most of the times I played for the games, sure, but I mainly played it for the social aspect of it, to be able to showcase my "skills" to the world on internet, to show others how "I was better" and indeed I got this recognition, but I also realized that gaming is not good for my life for a myriad of other reasons. You would think that single player games would be immune from this and while it may have been true for days way before the internet, I find this point moot, because it isn't hard to find leaderboards and the likes on the internet related to your game and we are back to square one again. But at the very least, it taught me one important thing: be careful who your "friends" are, because they can easily drag you down, without even realizing it. Social pressure is a strong thing. In theory, saying "no" is very easy on paper and is "an easy fix" for this, but it doesn't quite work that way and that easily in real life. One simple example: with some real life friends, we talk about video games, we compare each other to ourselves etc. If I wanted to, I could in theory say "no" and quit this game for say... one week. But in the meanwhile, I will be out of the loop for the latest jokes, tricks and other things going on. I don't think that not spending a few mins "to stay up to date" is worth losing friends and that was the problem. If I don't play, my skills risk to degrade, they will beat me skill-wise and I will have less respect and recognition. I am basically in a dilemma and loop where the optimal behavior (on the short term) is to continue playing games and breaking the loop isn't easy. The thing is that leaving just a few friends is already a hard thing to swallow for me, I don't even want to think about say... Youtubers or other personas with 10k views and the like. The sad and scary thing is that it doesn't only apply to gaming, but to everything else as well. I know a few people who do questionable behavior on social media. If they do enjoy it and it is not harming them all good for them. However, If I were in their shoes and I would want to quit this behavior, I don't want to imagine what a nightmare it would be to potentially lose half of their friends like that in an eye blink. It can apply to say... friends who are fans of some tv show or anime. Stop watching it and you will be out of the loop with some of your friends. I think that I could enter in some of these circles and try to say "no", when I don't feel like it, but honestly I prefer to not enter nor having to choose between these dilemmas. I am however grateful for one thing: that it also works the other way in a positive matter. For example, I have noticed to be more productive working in a room full of productive people, less likely to procrastinate or slack when I am surrounded by people who hate this. More likely to go to the gym, if I am surrounded by people doing so and I am sure that there are plenty of other examples. My post is very long but I hope that it gets the point.