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  1. Thanks for posting this. Really needed to hear that right now.
  2. Hey @Roan, glad you found your way here. I can tell you it's a lot easier to get a game plan together when you aren't focused on playing video games. It sounds like you your girl means a lot to you. Don't let you addiction to video games compromise your relationship with the woman you love. Take it from somebody who lost his first true love to video games. That is a regret that will be with me for life. Not trying to scare you or anything. Just don't want you to make the same mistake I did. May the path ahead be clear for you. Mike
  3. 3000 - 4000 hours is more than a third of the year! I'm just going to go ahead and say, yeah, you might want to consider quitting. I can tell you from experience that you will regret the time that you spend playing video games. It is time you will not get back. I'm not trying to push you into anything but just imagine a future where you continually do that for 5, 10, 15 years. In three years alone you have given one year of your life to video games. Just consider what you might get back if you did quit. All the best. Mike
  4. Thanks @Martinof, that helped. I'll figure out something fun my brother and I can do over Skype or something. I look forward to being able to spend some time with him IRL when this lockdown is done.
  5. Hello all! It's been a minute since I've been on. Most days I just don't feel like I have much to add to the conversation. Today I have something to say though. My brother and I live about an hour apart. He knows my situation as I have explained it to him in detail. Recently though he tried to convince me to get some online board games that we could play together online. I'm a little ashamed to say that I had to seriously think about it before I ended up saying no. Part of me really wants to play games with my bro again but I just can't. It took me a day or two of pondering whether
  6. All the best @FenderUser, you can do this. Just remember why you are here and I know you can make this work!
  7. Hi Terry, glad to hear you are quitting gaming. The best advice I can give you over the next few weeks is to just let yourself feel however you are feeling. If you are bored be bored. If you want to sleep let yourself sleep. If you are sad be sad. Your brain is going to be all over the place for the first few weeks and sometimes a lot of the time you might feel bored, tired, etc. I quit smoking in the past and I noticed that the withdrawal symptoms to quitting video games were not all that different. For the first 3 weeks or so I say do whatever you want (within reason). Anything t
  8. Thanks @BooksandTrees, I really needed to hear that. I very much appreciate your thoughtful response. I feel as though I've been going fairly easy on myself these last six months. I have started new hobbies that I truly enjoy and intend to continue. It's just that the last few weeks I've really been feeling out of sorts. I don't miss video games. I guess I miss how they made me feel. I'll just keep doing positive things in my life and trust that things will work out in the end. Thanks again for reaching out, Mike
  9. Day 188 Haven't had too much to say lately. I've had a couple of days off to relax. I've been suffering from a bout of self doubt these past two weeks or so. I really don't know what to do with myself or what direction to head in. I'm nearly 45 and I barely have any direction in my life. I feel like I'm just at the very beginning of changing my life around and working towards my true goals but I'm still not exactly sure of what my goals are. I feel like I'm on the cusp of realizing what I want out of life. It's bee a bit of a struggle since I quit playing video games. On the one hand I'm
  10. Hey Martin, Happy to see you found your way here. I totally felt you when you mentioned struggling to delete your games. The money factor was a big one for me. I spend thousands on games. When I quit I parted with over roughly $5000 in games and consoles. That was tough. Looking back now though? Totally worth it. All the best!
  11. Day 168 Hard to believe it's been five and a half months since I stopped playing video games. In a way gaming seems like a distant memory, but I realize it really hasn't been that long. I played video games when I was a kid. I played video games as a teenager. I played video games for my entire adult life. Compared to that, five months is very short. Still, I feel very accomplished having finally put that addiction aside. I really don't have all that much to say. I work full time, often 6 days a week. My usual daily routine is... get up and meditate for an hour, go to work for
  12. Really happy to hear you're pushing through and seeing the benefits of a life without video games.
  13. Hey @Phoenixking, I was finding taking cold showers to be just brutal at first. I learned that's there is an easier way then to just jump in to a cold shower. Start with your usual warm shower and then gradually start to make it colder. All the while take long slow deep breaths. Keep doing that until you get the water as cold as it can get. Once the water is at it's coldest try to stay in for a set amount of time. I started off with 15 seconds. Every week I've been adding an additional 15 seconds. When you do the showers that way you don't shock your body with the icy cold water. H
  14. Day 142 Pretty tired at the moment. Just wanted to take a few minutes to share some good news. I was in a bit of a bad place mentally for the last decade or so. I was neglecting life and just gaming my time away. While I was ignoring my life I ended up ignoring some friendships as well. Including a childhood friend. Somehow, over the years I had completely neglected him. I thought I had pretty much neglected things into ruin. However, a couple of days ago I wished him a happy birthday on Facebook and as a result he reached out and contacted me. We talked tonight and caught up. It was
  15. Hello @Amphibian220. I do not experience compulsive thinking after working on a board game. If anything I'm not nearly as mentally invested as I'd like to be. I generally don't feel compulsive about playing or creating board games. I've been procrastinating on finishing my first game. It's nearly 100% done but I keep pushing aside the last few steps. When I was deep into the creation phase I did end up thinking about it often but I was happy to do so. The thoughts were usually different ideas and changes that could be made. I never felt that the thoughts were obtrusive. When the cre
  16. Day 141 Another solid day. Meditation in the morning followed by a cold shower (2 minutes of icy cold). Headed off to work. Today that involved me driving around the city, and helping out with moving furniture. Oh, the film business is truly glamorous. Finished around five and then headed home. Did a short yoga session followed by a Wim Hof breathwork session. After that I played a board game (Century - Golem Edition) with my wife. That was fun. We haven't played a board game in a while. I like board games. I get the fun of playing a game but I feel no real attachment to the games o
  17. Hey @Moonlight, since you just started quitting I can only say that your anxiousness is fairly natural. You will likely find that you feel like that for a while. It's makes sense as you are giving up something that has been with you for a very long time. Obviously, you don't view video games as beneficial to you anymore or you wouldn't be here. The best advice I can give you is to go easy on yourself. Allow yourself to feel however you are going to feel over the next month or two and just try to be okay with it. Do whatever you want or don't do anything at all. Whatever you feel or don't
  18. Day 140 Good day today. Did an hour of meditation in the morning followed by a 2 minute cold shower. (I've been working my way up from 15 seconds - trying to build up my tolerance so that in the future I can try doing an ice bath). Headed to work and listened to some audio files from actualized.org. Leo, the guy who runs the site, has some very insightful and useful information. It's been good to listen to while I drive. Makes the commute go by very quickly. Work went needlessly late today and as a result I missed my meetup breathwork session. It's too bad as the host is very g
  19. Hey @Lorcangalvan, welcome! I'm glad you made your way here. Congrats on taking the plunge!
  20. I had gaming related dreams pretty often in the first couple of months. Still do every once in a while but not nearly as often now.
  21. For myself, I could see no other way then to quit completely. I have an addictive personality. I used to smoke but I quit that too. For me it's all or nothing. I know that if I started smoking again I would be right back to a pack a day. I'm pretty sure that if I started gaming again it wouldn't be any different. Maybe you can game in moderation. Maybe not. You know yourself better than anybody else. Have you gamed in moderation before? It sounds like you have your life in order but you are here and you have regrets about not accomplishing things you wish you had. Do you think allowing y
  22. Thanks @Mohammad, that's good advice. Visualizing myself as a healthy old man is pretty great motivation. I'm going to start a food diary today also.
  23. Day 133 Lately I've been thinking a lot about relationships. Mainly, that I don't have many close contact to anybody but my immediate family and a friend or two. I've been very aware of the time I lost while i was gaming. Most of the time I feel great but today I'm feeling a little doubtful. I'll get over it. I know that I have made progress in my life since I quit gaming. It's just that sometimes I feel like I've wasted too much time to truly accomplish anything with my life. Again, I know that's not true but it's hard not to have these thoughts from time to time. I'm also ha
  24. Day 130 Worked a short day today and was home by 3. Ordered a veggie curry and fried rice from a nearby Chinese food restaurant and then went for a hike. Jived to a musician that I was just recently introduced to called Aurora. She is fantastic. Really made me realize that I'd been living under a rock for such a long period of time. This is the type of band that I would have gone crazy over in my past but I was too busy laser focused on video games to notice. Anyway, I've heard her now and she is wonderful. Highly recommend you check her out if you haven't already. When I got home I