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  1. Day 11, Thursday 6:19 am. Non-gaming consecutive days: 3; total screen time (non-productive) since last entry: about 4 hours I don't have enough energy to be doing something all day. As I wake up before 6:00, I'm usually out by lunchtime. I don't mean that I am working physically digging trenches or anything ike that. I don't know if I am sick, lazy or what. I know that I am filled with negative emotions, especially fear. It's possible that I'm exhausting myself just with that. Yesterday I had pretty strong urges to play but somehow didn't. Didn't do much productive stuff though. Watched two movies back to back in the middle of the day to calm myself down emotionally, felt that I might as well be playing games. Is this progress!? It's ridiculous. I just go on this huge emotional waves over the slightest incident. I know I am overreacting, but that has no effect on how I feel. I can't spend hours watching movies or days gaming just because somebody said something or someone looked at me with disapproval. I am a wimp. Goal for the next 24 hours: -> continue to strengthen my ability to resist urges. 1) no gaming 2) no porn or masturbation 3) morning routine (get up at 5:30; jog - walk for 1h; meditate; breakfast shower) 4) no unproductive screen time 5) keep busy and active to build up my energy and ability to be productive for a longer part of the day, and to fall asleep more easily 6) work on my life plan
  2. Fair enough, I guess I was talking about myself but thought that my ideas might help you specifically. What I should have done is post a comment into my own log that didn't specifically point at you. Than if you read it you would have "liked" and agreed or ignored it if not. I have removed the post
  3. What you describe applies to me, too. About appearing to be much more sensitive than other people to external stimuli.
  4. Day 10, 8:45; Consecutive non-gaming days: 2; total screen time (non-productive) since last entry: 2 hours Well, yesterday went well. I was able to stick to my goals, except that I watched some youtube to put myself to sleep. Both my meetings went well as well. The second one especially was very emotionally significant and may represent a breakthrough in the intense Cold War that my ex-wife has been fighting against me ever since we separated and then divorced 3 years ago. Goal for the next 24 hours: -> continue to strengthen my ability to resist urges. 1) no gaming 2) no unproductive screen time 3) morning routine (get up at 5:30; jog - walk for 1h; meditate; breakfast shower) - done 4) no porn or masturbation 5) keep busy => do 1 thing at a time with focus; pay attention to tiredness, boredom, hunger; switch activities after a while - including some more physically active things to complement work at a desk. myself out with tasks as they arise or follow to do list if I can't think of anything productive to do - so I can feel like I accomplished something today and to help me fall asleep at night
  5. Day 9, Consecutive no gaming days: 1; total gaming time:6-7 hours; screen time (non-productive): all of yesterday I'm on here instead of writing a business proposal for a meeting today. So I lapsed several hours after sending my 7-consecutive days post - to "reward" myself for being so good. Actually, I think a part of me is trying to sabotage any success I may have at this (or anything else). I spent all of yesterday looking through this site and watching "Science and Futurism with Isaac Arthur" (free promotion) on the Tubes. Today is going to be an emotionally challenging day with 2 difficult meetings to attend. Goal for the next 24 hours: -> stretch my resistance to urges: 1) definitely no gaming 2) no unproductive screen time (so what am I doing now?) 3) observe my avoidant behaviour; observe my urges; 4) no porn or masturbation 5) keep busy and tire myself out with tasks as they arise or follow to do list if I can't think of anything productive to do byee
  6. Giblets, I now realise why your posts sounded familiar. Two years ago, when I was first looking at game quitters, it was your referral for Cam's program that caught my eye, as we are in somewhat similar circumstances. It's your thoughts and story of success that stayed with me and convinced me to finally give this program a serious try. Thanks. Glad you are still here, and glad to have met you in person online. Greetings from Melbourne.
  7. Day 7, Sunday 14:00. No gaming consecutive days:7; screen time (non-productive): several hours each day Just came over the line for a complete 1 week with no gaming at all. Had an upsetting and busy week with an unexpected death of of an elderly close relative. Today I am free of all obligations and alone for the first time since Monday, but despite some cravings and feeling bored and uncertain what to do with myself, I haven't reached out for games. In the last week, it also would have been easy to have done some gaming in the evenings to "deal" with the emotional roller-coaster, but it just seemed too trivial a thing to do with my time (although I did still manage to waste a lot of time on-screen). I am glad that I've been able to do that. I don't think I've ever before been able to go without gaming for anything even approaching a week, unless it was completely unavailable (for example: when traveling). I will need to tackle other non-productive activities in due course, but I will now continue to focus on no-gaming for the next week. Hopefully, I'll be able to succeed on a less intense week, where I have already succeeded when emotions were rough. Thank you everyone.
  8. Day 0, Suday 13:11 Consecutive days without gaming: 4; then 2 days gaming: 30 hours (approx) I am going to stop resetting my count to zero every time I relapse (from now). It feels like I'm not achieving anything and is undermining. Instead, The day count is for how long I've been making being sober a top priority. I am making changes and need to stay positive that whenever I choose non-gaming it's a win. As Cam says: It doesn't matter what you did in the past, it only matters what you choose to do now (probably not an accurate quote). Last week I faced to a number of challenges and found that I COULD cope, I also had positive outcomes when I have stood my ground. Then I told myself that I need a reward for how well I've been doing and play for a bit. I only stopped after 2 days. But 2 days is better than 7 days! I'm not going to worry or beat myself up (more than I already would). I need to believe that I have (more) agency in my life if I choose to take it. When you wake up after a drunken binge, your headache leads you to take some positive action in the moment (water and aspirin?) = that is a moment of nirvana. (It is not changed by relapse later = both are true). I am not just an addict or just a person dealing with addiction. From reading some posts here, I can see that a lot of people are pushing themselves to be "perfect". I can see that a lot of us in the forum have fallen for the self-help "be your ideal self" line. I don't believe that this is true, or possible, or healthy. There's a lot of inputs that went into making the me that I am at this moment. Biology, chance, cultural trends, family history, beliefs about who I am and what the world is, etc. etc. Most of what happens to "me", including what the "me" inside of me is, is stuff that just happens, predetermined = . I can push the nobs and dials on the console but I'm likely to push the aeroplane into a stall if I just push the nose up and push the engines to full thrust. The system runs itself (it's had 3.5 billion years of development) and pushing on the controls too hard will just lead to a series of increasingly dramatic over-corrections. This is called "pilot-induced oscillation" in aeronautics: Pilot-induced oscillation - Wikipedia There, I've just contradicted myself from the middle-part to the end-part of the post. So be it. The ancient Greeks were great because they believed in moderation in everything, including moderation itself! Cheers
  9. DW1909X13, How are you doing, mate? I am also starting to quit gaming after 30 years of playing, and am looking into starting a business working from home. I wish you all the best and hope to that you'll keep talking your developments. I think keeping up a regular (incognito) journal is a great way to keep honest and develop thoughts and feelings consciously.
  10. Giblets, you seem to have a lot of good advice for a lot of people, what you said to me about weekends was spot on. What has been your degree of addiction and are you "fully recovered"?
  11. Thanks Giblets, I am 30% fat and have never been into sports even as a child so when I tried c25k it was completely undoable as I would get so knackered I wouldn't be able to do anything else. It was at that point that I realised that advice for "normal" people wouldn't work for me and I have to set goals based on my actual situation, regardless how pathetic it looks to others or especially to my inner-critic self. I jog for 20 minutes + 2x5 min walk warmup/cooldown. During the jog, I actually jog for 15" per 2':30" period. If I do this 2 days in a row my legs chafe for the next couple of days. At that rate I'll run a marathon when I'm 1000 (if they get very good at life extension) still, you have to know your limits. I had to look up who Jocko is.... Re screen time, this is shorthand for all the unproductive ways to sped my time with devices and internet now that I'm cutting down/quitting gaming. I've noticed in the past that I will just switch to the next avoidance activity: porn, youtube videos, documentaries, binge series watching. Then there is the food - whenever I'm bored, worried, etc. - I hit the fridge or go scavenging through the shelves. For me at least, addiction is not the problem but a solution I have found a long time ago to all the things I couldn't deal with. And then it's just become the default solution to any form of struggle or unhappiness. I know that I need to deal with each layer of addiction as they reveal themselves. At the same time, I know that if I try to do it all at once I will fail, I've done that a million times. That's why I decided not to commit to 90 days, because that is just too overwhelming. Nor can I plan my schedule two weeks in advance. Instead I just plan very small activities about an hour ahead. This way I've already found my moods changing, my depression lifting. As compared to gaming 24/7, because the bar is so low, my current level of productivity per day is already comparable to my previous output for a month. The other thing that I found has really worked is writing out not positive affirmations or abstract 5 year plans but intead just stream of thought reasons for not doing anything to help myself. Doing this for just a few days and looking on what I've written, it's immediately obvious that I'm mostly scaring myself with some extreme thoughts. I can now look at some of them and move past them. Enough rambling for 1 day.
  12. 16:02 Day 2 yesterday: gaming 0 hrs, screen 7 hrs (?) yesterday was productive I did a dozen small things. Then when I went to pick up my son from school some unexpected unpleasant news. I couldn't sleep at night so I wrote a strongly worded warning to the ex regarding her not living up to our agreements and putting our son in danger for her own comfort and ease. After that couldn't fall asleep until 3:00ish. Mind churn. Got up at 5:30 this morning. Two job interviews. 1st one went ok and its a job I'd be ok with doing. 2nd one I wouldn't touch with someone else's dick and the feeling was mutual. Incredibly still haven't played, despite the tiredness and emotional roller-coaster! Thanks, you too. Have you had positive outcomes with meditation. I've done it for about 20 years but never on a daily basis - somewhere between 3-5 times per week. I'm not sure if it's not actually make me re-traumatise myself.
  13. 9:44 am Day 1, yesterday: gaming time 0 hrs, screen time 9hrs. Goal for today is to keep busy with activities from my to do list & have 0 hrs gaming and 1 hr max screen time (non-productive). So far, I secured two job interviews for tomorrow morning. Woke up at 5:30, morning jog, shower, breakfast, reply to emails and do some admin, laundry, unpacking from a trip last week. Next, Jack Kornfield "meditation for difficult times", bioenergetic exercises, a little yoga, check government support for starting a new business
  14. Day 0, played from 4:00 till 9:00 a.m. when I decided it was time to put away the pc again. Instead watched youtube for the rest of the day. DId see some interesting videos on addiction: 3 part series from Extra Credits: Doco on Korean gaming rehab:
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