NEW VIDEO: I Quit MMOs and THIS Happened
BigPete247
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I feel like I'm so out of touch with the world and if I don't change I'll end up being a burden, an old man that his brothers and sister has to support, God forbid.... Meanwhile, I don't even know how to cook, let alone drive. Video games are all I know.
This. This is the best motivation to use to get you started mate! Continuing on from this, its when developments are happening in world news and you have no idea what they are talking about as well. It's like World War 3 could start right out your doorstep and you would have no idea.
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Those sound like some great goals. Hang in there! ?
Thanks for being such an awesome support!
Nice goals man, mine don't have nothing on yours
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I occasionally have a day where my body says...we need a break, period. There is that temptation to beat myself up for being weak but I take a day off (just one) and by the next day I'm ok again. It has to be serious exhaustion, of course, to make me do that.
Usually, i don't try to beat myself up on my off days but when i do its because it has something to do with the yard, after that the exhaustion just jumps on me.
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Hey man, i know how that feels keeping a buttload of stuff, didn't really say a whole about when i was going to use it again. As far as not eating for more than a few days, idk. But, good luck to your printmaking dude.
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Day 5: Alright, got some good news coming my way and man does it feel good to finally get these in the mail today after so many years of hard work. I think this is a great first step towards self-improvement for anybody if they put their minds to it. I would award myself with a nice session of Forza Motorsport but now that i actually have some merit in my life, not quitting from gaming would have just reminded me that i suck at life and can't get nothing right, all of you can agree, some of you can't, and it's fine just as long as you have something to look forward to at the end of the day.
Anyway, it should be easier to apply for the technician and therapist jobs i have been researching for weeks now and this made me even happier. Now i can finally move on the next thing in my life: Getting my Bachelor's Degrees and scouting for jobs. And i have you all, Cam, and my other support to thank that pushed me to snap out my 'virtual world' and do what i was supposed to do in the first place. So, thank you.
Back to reality, ill just keep this short, leaving from my second group of classes today i met a 15 year army veteran and he told me the in's and outs of how to beat the VA's system. Look hurt and file for PTSD. With gaming, i never really would've paid attention to it but now that i'm fully attentive, i actually listened to him and accepted his advice. Two wins.
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Good luck, Vlad, hope you bring in more than a few employees
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Funny how there are small things that can get you to log back in.
yep. same thing with Killing Floor 2- daily drop, summer events etc etc. the event ended and I ended with it, burnout finally got me.
Researchers found that every notification you get on facebook shoots some dopamine-the reward chemical- into your brain. This results in you opening the notification to see it out of curiosity causing you to spend more time on facebook and occasionally jot some content down on the site.
As for the social aspect, I have good enough friends on steam, I think. I have known most regulars for 2 years and some for 4-5 years. I sent a message out to each group telling them that I have currently got a lot of priorities in life to deal with and that I will be off steam at least until around December (don't even bother giving a specific date, they might start messaging you when it drops). If they are unhappy about that, just tell them "I know but you know how it is, work -life balance, the family, other friends." If you can find something completely unrelated to games that you share a common interest in perhaps grow that interest from there and never mention games again. Delete the app and ask someone who does not play pogo to hold your account by changing email and password for the time being.
I deleted everything even vaguely game related off my computer (even went so far as to clean install it), removed myself from the groups on discord and then removed discord, removed the hard drive storage so that I couldn't install loads of games on it and that was that. I am sure some of them who didn't get the memo in time have messaged back, but I am not going to be bothered in doing a rain dance to view it. Only a small ounce of guilt crossed my mind but knowing I parted on good terms-at least temporarily was good enough for me. If I want more social; I will take up a social hobby and make new friends, there are plenty of other nice people in the world (but the really good ones are 1 in 100 I swear).
I got rid of virtually every aspect of social media including facebook and felt a lot better for it-If I could not delete it then I made a gmail account, spent some time changing emails and then deleted the gmail account. At the end of these 90 days I will think about selling my steam account (dodgy but how are the robots at steam gonna know? I want to recoup some of my costs back).
That was step one for me, i plan on joining a club or organization in college. That new game or email update you got about a brand spanking new feature/meta will get you to log back in. I'm just glad i found this forum to see if anyone else had the same problem.
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I almost went into game search mode again, so yeah, better not to do it.
Yeah, steam can be tempting...
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15 Aug 17
Days to go: 244
Running is as easy as it sounds @BigPete247! You don't need to start out running wanting to be a sprinter or a marathoner or expecting to have speed likes Usain Bolt. Running is running, just one foot after the other. Just you, your mind, and the road. Before you know it you will start to see gains. So many people are afraid to start because they thing they will be "bad' or it will be "painful". Even if you're out there for 5 minutes and doing the hot shoe shuffle, you're still running.
Had a great chat with @Cam yesterday, and I think I'll try to make a video about it today. It made so much sense - I am always trying to push my boundaries, and I have been when I was a kid. Not because I wanted more money or more achievements, I just wanted to do more. A great example is running after I did the half-marathon last year for charity, as soon as I finished most people were saying "never again". All I could think of is "when does the full marathon start?" I think I registered the very next day for the marathon in 364 days time. Same as when I was playing games, I could beat the game, sure, but can I do it faster? Can I do it with less lives? Can I do it with a higher score? I guess that is why I got into speedrunning so much. I thoroughly enjoyed it for those reasons. Now in my life I am trying to do more every day, be more productive, read more, listen more, lead more. I listen to podcasts on 2.5x so I can fit more in. I listen to audiobooks at 2x so I can get through more books. I use to do lists and systems so I can complete more at work. When I sat down with my leadership coach last year and tried to work out what was driving me and therefore why I do the things I do, after about three months I worked out it is because I want to be valued, by my family and by my friends. If I can do more I can be valued more. Anyway, the whole point of that rant is I am always living on the edge and never settling, and sometimes I translate that uncomfort into stress, which is what I am feeling right now with my life. I assume that my coping mechanisms have taken a bit of a hit, but I think the reality is I am probably just tired or need to fix up my nutrition. I know I can't take the foot off the pedal because then I get the feelings of guilt, being unproductive and become unhappy. I am like Keanu Reeves in Speed, need to keep the bus above 50!
I contemplated flying to another city this weekend that is doing a half-marathon. I got the taste again from the city2surf on the weekend, and want to do longer races and in events. I found that the event let me push harder and enjoy what I was doing a bit more, even if I had to dodge so many people. I don't think I will end up flying to this other race though, I had already organised a few things this weekend to do and I don't really want to cancel or change them, I tend to cancel too many things these days. Will go back to the drawing board and see what I can find for next weekend. I think part of what is driving me as well is I have decided to collect as many medallions as I can from these races. Usually they sell merchandise or photos or other stuff, which you look at or enjoy for about a day and then it just clutters up the house. But they also give you a medallion for finishing the race. I saw an idea for a board on twitter to display them all on the wall and it looks amazing, so I am going to collect all mine and do the same. In the long run it will not only save me money from not buying all the extra junk, but it will be something that I can be proud of. Just remember to put on sunscreen next time...
Spent far too much time yesterday researching Doom and Doom mods. While it amazes me that there are still communities dedicated to these old games and keeping to breath life into them, the result was I got barely any study done. I didn't end up getting involved in last week's debate so I really need to get in there this week, and reading about Doom mods is not helping at all. Even just writing about it now is derailing me a little. Push those thoughts out, and get back to reading academic journals for study. This is the point where I would run to clear the mind pretzel but it will have to wait until lunchtime.
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Work flexibility. I have probably been grateful for this before so am just retreading an old topic, but I can attribute a lot of my success this year with personal development and running down to how flexible work is. I try to go to work half an hour early and minimise my breaks so I can run over lunch and not have to rush back after a shower. There are few jobs that you can do this with, and it is the first time I have been able to do it. It will be a challenge in my next job but I will do my best to still find a way. It has definitely put a lot of things in perspective, and I will endeavour to be as flexible as possible from my team with their requests as well.
True, @giblets, you have to start off slow to gain more distance, i once backed down from running 10 laps around a mall (equivalent to almost 7 miles), but eventually i had to face my fears, pick a day, and just run. I really didn't care about where i was going just as long as i can feel good for doing something right. Good luck on your half-marathon.
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When i was 19, i was a serious stress eater, never exercised, never even tried to do something proactive, the only thing i had to look forward to was gaming and whatever my dad cooked. I had friends that i would hangout with after school but with my dad being an army veteran, he apartment hops a lot so i never got to see them again, now 24 he lives with me and my grandmother in her house since his second house foreclosed 2 years ago.
It honestly wasn't until my 2nd year in college that i figured out that i had to lose weight. Being over 192 lbs in college wasn't great for my well-being and made me feel like one of those old people you see at retirement homes without the balding hair. Still gaming, i started doing something proactive and signed up for a gym and hit the weights and treadmill hard, sacrificing some of my game playing time. starting a diet, now i weigh almost 180 lbs feeling confident.
So, its ok, its all about how you take care of yourself, everybody who posted above may have similar advice, good luck NewComer.
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Following your dreams takes a lot of courage. Do not blame yourself for that. Everyone make mistakes. We always hear about those who dropped out of schools and made billions afterward, but we never hear about those who drop out to follow their dreams, without getting much success.
WHY do you keep coming here ? HOW can you solve those problems ? I once read the story of a guy who wanted to kill himself by jumping of the golden gate. He survived it, and he tells, when he jumped he suddenly realized how this decision was completely stupid, as EVERYTHING else in his life was fixable. It will not be easy. There will be ups and downs.
You need professional help. We can only help you so much, none of us here is a professional, even if we might have some knowledge to share. It takes a lot of courage to ask for help.
I agree, like me it takes an amazing amount of mental strength to endure without fault, but its really up to us to make that decision to improve our lives, only YOU are responsible for YOU, i wouldn't let nobody take that from you as you find your strength and weaknesses. Knowing that, Life won't set you up to fail, negativity will.
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Day 4: Just came back home from school today after being there for 6 hours, and it went ok. Wasn't thinking about creating my next character online, wasn't thinking about buying games, wasn't trying to force people to 'add me online', school isn't a dating site (for gamers, lol). People come there to learn and focus on earning their degrees, and the best part about it is that i'm in a class with upper level sophomores, seniors, and juniors with no nostalgic teens to break my concentration. So there are some high expectations for me and no nerds trying to game in my classes, its all black people trying to get somewhere.
Being back in class reminds me of my senior year in high school, all pumped up and motivated for that first lesson. The teachers there seemed more open about a plethora of literal and up-to-date topics on what's going on out there in neo trump america and the local areas of where i live. I feel that i can really do this now minus my books, i'm still having trouble getting those after some confusion in my financial aid.
The real challenge has just begun.
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Tommorow will officially be the day that I can have freedom to get through college without gaming all the time and I made some long term goals and short term goals to keep me focused:
1. Maintain a 4.0 GPA (its a Psychology major, rquires an amount of work)
2. Fix my car (Water pump overheated)
3. Build Social Skills
Short:
1. Control my finances
2. Concentrate on studying
3. Detox from gaming (threw this in as a bonus)
So, like you all I want to live as proactively as I can. I want to use this to help encourage myself and others to live a better life by making goals, but in order to do this it takes practice, like @CamAdair says in his videos.
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Congrats on finishing the race...I can only imagine what running with 80,000 people must be like. Like an entire stadium running at once.
Keep it up @giblets, running isn't as easy as it sounds (ran 5m in AIT training before), except my group was a little smaller so the pace was moderate
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@Mettermrck Thx, like for you all, it was probably a fight trying get off console/PC
@Vlad Right, would be best to write a quick note to remind myself why should I quit
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Welcome @BigPete247! I bet you're actually small
thx, hahaha, 5'6 @ 181, not that small, honestly doing a personal HITT workout at a MuvFitness gym got me back on track toward actually losing the "gamer's weight suit" after the military. I was originally 192 lbs and cared little about excercising but kept my eating down to a minimum when I was in Korea. My NCOs made sure of that but it wasn't enough to pass my running test, unfortunately.
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@BigPete247, I meant news subscription, not offers like xbox gold or ps+. Not monitoring game reviews helps a lot. Reviews often pushed me to try "next cool game" only to be disappointed.
Whoops, misread the post, I still get you though HappyCat, much luck to you and your family
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@CamAdair Thx for letting me join
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You got this Daniel, quitting for the first few days is tough
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Day 3: I'm starting to have those urges to game again, my mind keeps making me think about Assassin's Creed, but it can't make me do anything since i sold my games and my PS4. And with me being broke paying for school, idk what will happen once i do get paid, i fear i may relapse and start gaming again.
Update: Ok, i guess watching youtube videos while playing with a deck of cards at night helps keep my mind occupied, i feel bad that i wasnt able to make things happen when i was gaming but im happy that im making a change in my life. I cant move out of my grandparent s house yet, but there's going to be a light at the end of the tunnel, just got to pray. At times, the only reason i leave the house is to either clear my head or pick something up for my grandmother who has Alzheimer's.
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Day 3
I've almost made it through 72 hours without gaming. But I was damn tempted to game tonight, and still am to be honest. Was out with some coworkers after work, having some drinks and playing pool, and I got home a bit tipsy and just had this intense desire to blow shit up. Partly because I didn't think I could focus on anything in this state other than games.
I had the console all set up and had fired it up, but I just sat with the controller in my hand and didn't start the game (doesnt count I hope? :X), and I just had this deep feeling of anxiety and sadness go through me. I quickly put the controller down and pressed the power button.
A couple reasons why I convinced myself to not go through with it and turned it off, was that number 1: I knew if I didn't play tonight then I'd officially hit the 72 hour mark. And 2: I was thinking about this coworker of mine that was out tonight, a chick i've had a huge crush on, but who is taken, and just thought about how much of a loser she would probably think of me if she knew I played video games. It's probably not the healthiest reason not to play, but it got me through another night, so whatever works!
But i've got to admit, i'm not sure how long I can hold this demon down. It almost had me. 90 days is gonna be tooooooouuuughhh.......
Yep ninja, going on 48 hours for me today, i had that feeling of turning my system on when i did my first detox years before i got on these forums. I ended up playing again, The Xbox won. This time, i admitted my faults and nothings going to convince me to go back, gotta quit cold turkey.
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YOOO! What's good Game Quitters? It's KO! Day is the day. What makes this day so special? Absolutely nothing! I'm just going "monk" for one year while I record my progress. Abstaining from all time wasters and vices. And replace them with more meaningful activities. After every week and month, I will give myself a debrief and then a final review once one year has elapsed.No excuses just effort and execution.
DAY 2
YOOO! What's good Game Quitters? It's KO with day 2 of my EPIC journey. DAY 1 IS DONE SON! NOW LET'S GO FOR TWO! Quitting is hard but replacing the old and implementing the new is even harder! If anyone has any tips and tricks they would like to share post away!
Daily Quests:
Meditation-Yes/No
Fitness-Yes/No
Reading-Yes/No
Project-Yes/NoAchievements:
Short Term
Quit Games (2/30)
Quit Internet(2/30)
Quit Porn(2/30)
Learn how to sell and start selling
Long Term
Scroll(s) currently being read:
Influence
Stats:
Spirit: D->F (-Went down because I spent half the day doing nothing, +caught myself before the whole day wasted)
Wisdom: D
Strength: D
Charisma: D
Potential: AAdventure Log:
Wake up(5:30 am) to 3:00 pm- ZEROOO!
Reset my mind with a cold shower and a meditation session.
"A setback is a setup for a comeback"
Whatever you do man, please don't stop that vibe, it's good your finding out your passions like us to keep you preoccupied brother.
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Greetins, fellow quitters. Here be my log) For the most part my problem is not the time spent playing, but time spent trying to find a game that I would like and that I'd be able to play on the road. Too much time commuting to/from work and a 4 month old kid takes most of the time. Obsession to find "the next good game" doesn't really help because I'm not even playing, I am worrying about my choice instead.
Day 1: Registering on GameQuitter subreddit, cleared most of installed games. Cancelled varios gaming-related subsciptions.
Good thing that I didn't run any or looked through review of any game. Basically at this pointI want to try 90 days detox and see if my obsession ot find/fear to miss games would hold after that.
I can relate HappyCat, working on my 2nd Detox from gaming, i learned from my first detox (that didn't last more than a month) that game subscriptions can be enticing and i admit i too fell prey to the Xbox One subscription a few years back. I ended up making a plan to waste money because of its great features. As funny as this sounds, i went and decided to buy the Xbox One in pieces (Kinect, Games, Xbox) to save money. As i was doing this i was working at Walmart at the time so i didn't care. And that's where my problem lied, so i quit my job and went to continue my schooling and not worry about gaming. So, i'm glad i'm not the only one.
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Yep, watching 'The 20 Worst Ubisoft Games' wasn't related to what i was doing so i deleted everything, games, videos. Congrats, Eli