Hi Josh,
I did only quit for 8 months, not 7 years. Then I started again for about a month. I could not tell my girlfriend either (we are not married, but have a child). She did not realise that I was gaming again I think and it was just for about 2 hours a week. But it was increasing. The last week was more than 16 hours in total. I did not want to and felt guilty. I never promised to stop though. This makes a difference, but I still felt really bad about myself. During the 7 months quitting I was thinking about gaming a lot. Perhaps even every other day. What now completely destroyed every feeling to have to game again was a Zen Sesshin I attended for a week. When I was there it did not feel as if this could help. On the contrary. I thought about gaming a lot and somehow even came to the conclusion that I could play games when I returned and it would not even be any problem. I was kind of confused. My analytical mind told me that this should be dangerous but my feeling was that it was right. When I came back the first thing I did was to play one of my favourite games. I did so for 2 minutes then I stopped and started to prepare my computer for Ebay. I was simply shocked by the violence in the game and the unmanagable cognitive load. I was annoyed by the advertisements I was shown before I could play. And I was not able to enjoy this artificial world at all. Now this feeling of wanting to play might come back someday in the future. But if it gets very strong, I will just sit with it and practice Zazen for many hours a day. I might even take a couple days of Zazen. After I will play a game and I will know that I do not want to.
I am living in Germany too by the way. If you want, I can help you find a monastery to learn about Zazen. xD