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Studying, 5 Hours per day | No PC Usage | Training | Eat healthy
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The day went fine. I never ever want to go back to this mindless surfing all day. There is still so much room to improve, currently I am only focusing on the most important things, but all those years of procrastination, gaming, surfing on the internet left so many things unfinished, that I cant fix all those failures in one go. But I simply just dont want to go back.
In a few weeks I have some exams which I should have done, literally, years ago. I just always ran away from it, I was like overwhelmed because it was an unbelievable amount of stuff to learn. Now I see that it just keeps getting better - if you invest those countless of study hours. Its not like anything changed, the only thing that changed is & more hours of studying & much more focused thanks to promodoros. However - I dont want to think to much about it. This time I just want to get things actually done. Finishing those damn exams.
Another goal for tomorrow: I need to write an important report. Should have done that earlier(what a suprise) but now I must do it. So this is a must-do goal for tomorrow. Should take only 1-2 hours max, but with the current schedule, which is still new to me, I need to focus on doing my tasks as fast as possible.
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Studying, 5 Hours per day | No PC Usage | Training | Eat healthy
Check - 4/90
I didnt have time to post here because I was really late with my tasks.
Today:
I knew I had a meeting today. Thats why I went straight to my tasks after I woke up. I did everything I could in that time, and thought I will continue with the learning after I am back home. However - I cam back really late and I literally had no time finishing my 5 hours of learning.... The last days gave me really a good feeling. I felt like I am actually getting work done this time(maybe the promodoro system helped me, since I am really well focused in those each small learning brackets, who ever has Problems with procrastination while studying - maybe this is something for you).
And I dont know, but I know this journal helped me very, very much. I had moments were I just wanted to relapse and forget about the plan for a day, but I knew I had to come here and post this counter. Somehow it gave me pressure - but in a really good way. It reminded me on my very first detox. I started a lot journals in the past, but only in the first one I had the /90days goal. And this time as well, I really think this helps me to stay on track.
I didnt really relapse, because I did not do my tasks due to porocrastination, I simply couldnt. But in this early stage, I cant do any excuses at all. I have to adjust everything according to my routine for the next months. After that you can have some fails like that for a day. But not in the beginning. Ill reset this counter and start fresh tomorrow - but I am really worried about whether I will get the same power I got when I started this journal. I hope so.
What I want to do better: Get your things early done! Plan your day according to your routine, plan realistically. Other than that - do the same like the past 5 days.
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Studying, 5 Hours per day | No PC Usage | Training | Eat healthy
Check - 3/90
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Today was okay as well. Did my 5 hours of learning again with success. Cant remember when I learned for so long on two consecutive days, sad, isnt it? However like I said yesterday I need to extend the hours. Didnt made it today sadly. Probably I should start earlier so its not too late and I have more motivation to do another hour or so. However my main focus is to do these 5 hours, built up that routine - only that matters.
Yesterday after I wrote my post I checked my old journals(League of legends detox). Its funny, a thing which I mentioned ALWAYS was ‚man I cant manage to quit youtube/pc usage in general‘, nowadays I do this without really thinking about it. I said things like ‚days feel wasted without internet, not being uptodate‘ and I know many people here have the same problems. Why is it now not really a problem anymore? I doubt that I got a key moment or anything, there was no big game changer. I think certain problems get fixed by itself when the environment changes and you do other things as alternatives. I actually just want to say: never lose hope, focus on the routine, and suddenly a problem which seemed unsolvable is now solvable.
I also remembered a lot of people which opened a journal at the same time I did, so we regularly followed each other. I checked a few of the peoples journals again, some are gone(relapsed, no new threads etc), some other are keep going with success. Of course I wish everyone to make the detox in the very first time, but I am astonished by some people which open up a journal over and over again, never giving up. Always try to improve to finally make it. That makes me happy. However: Really, focus on make it on the first time. At least for me the first time was the easiest detox try.
Studying, 5 Hours per day | No PC Usage | Training | Eat healthy
Check - 2/90
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Today was fine. I had not much cravings, I mean it was the very first day, so the motivation is there . The next days will be important.
I am thinking right now what I could improve, what should I change... The promodoro system is great if you stick to it. But I made two bigger breaks which I shouldnt do. I want to keep the big breaks small, maybe 30min. Between each promodoro I only make a 5min break, so thats good. But I dont want to take a really big break while I am working off my promodoros. So I want to change that tomorrow
Ill stick to my goal of 5 hours of studying everyday for now, but its probably not enough. I will try to do 2 hours additionally tomorrow, but I dont want to change my list for that, because I am not yet sure whether I can make that. Ill try it tomorrow with no pressure, and then I might change my everyday goal.
Studying, 5 Hours per day | No PC Usage | Training | Eat healthy
Check - 1/90
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And one thing I want to write to myself, which I can read up again when I go to rough times:
Dude, you knew it would be tough. Continue to do what you are doing right now. You created this routine so you get better, feel better. Follow this routine and everything will get better by itself, you dont have to change anything. Stick to the routine, everything will get easier then, the routine is the solution. Just keep doing it for a few more days and you will see.
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Wow 16 days already passed since my new start.
The total abstinence from the pc in general was a really good idea. This was the very first time I did this for multiple days, and it worked like it should. However there were some other things in real life which let me procrastinate once again and even after a bunch of days I didnt learn anything for the university once again.
Sad!
What can I do better this time? The hard days were definitely there but I pushed through some of them, but I didnt make it for a longer period of time, sadly. Like always, you allow yourself 1 not allowed action, although its a small one, and you repeat that every day since you allowed yourself yesterday already etc... You know the drill. So I really have to push through the first weeks without any excuse. Other than that my plan is once again the same.
One more thing I want to do this time is a counter here. I remember in my very first LOL detox I had that 1/90 days counter and added also some small things like studying, programming etc. that worked great. Thats why I will do this too now.
1. Studying, 5 Hours per day
2. No PC Usage, this means no youtube, browsing, social media, netflix, I mean literally nothing, I only want to study with it.
3. Training
4. Eat healthy
However - the only point which really matters is Number 1. And its the toughest one for me since ever. Always failed to built that routine... The reason of so many problems in my life. Maybe THE reason that I procrastinate so much, since I feel overwhelmed.
Thanks for reading, I wish you guys good luck on your journeys 🙂 Gonna start the counter 1/90 tomorrow hopefully.
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Alright gonna restart this.
Its not like the last months and years were totally unproductive in terms of what people think someone at my age should do in their lives. I made what everyone speaks about, but all that doesnt change the fact that I am not doing what I am supposed to do.
The biggest problem since all this started is my med school. I just cant push through somehow. I made progress but its faaaar away from what ‘normal’ people do. I am totally willing to invest 10+ hours into learning sessions, if I could. But the procrastination destroys every ambition I have. The procrastination is the reason for all of my problems. I can just sit on my bed doing nothing all day along, it does not have to be something digital(games, youtube/netflix, social media...).
I see the same problem in a lot of journals - many of us can quit games/youtube etc. for good - its hard yea, but we can do it. The real struggle starts then when you actually want to get your things DONE. And you cant just block procrastination like you block certain websites etc.
I started to procrastinate literally in the same moment when the work overwhelmed me(last year of highschool, had to get the best grades possible to enter med school). The moment I would adjust my lifestyle(eg quitting med school) I probably would have no procrastination problems anymore. Currently I have a lack of motivation to do the simplest things, all because I am feeling overwhelmed from med school.
Thats why this time I want to focus on what I want to do instead of what I not want to do. Not doing certain things are the basics of course, because they will inevitably stop you from breaking out of procrastination loop.
My goals:
- Doing at least 10 Promodoro-Cycles per day for med school(that means 5 Hours of learning), will try to start slow in the first 2-3 days then increase
- Workout everyday(ofc some rest days here and there according to the plan)
And a lot more, which I dont mention for now, because I want to start with these two things. After a week or so I can expand it.
I will start right now after posting this with my study session. Then later gonna block literally everything on my pc which isnt necessary. The block-sites thing works really great for me(you guys should try it).
I know I will feel reeeeally bored/bad for a long time until I adjust to that new routine but thats how it works.
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Just wanted to say that your process is kinda normal. I read a lot of journals here over the years, and almost everyone who quits games (even with success) doesnt straight go to fulfilling their goals now. Its more like you described it. Quitted -> feeling like shit -> 0 motivation and of course no discipline to fulfill your goals -> laziness
Most important thing: Dont think ‘hey this is useless, I waste all my time doing nothing AND feeling bad!I could also game in that time and at least feel good’ -> this will lead to an endless cycle where you never escape from stage 2(eg getting your work done). So definitely keep distance from gaming etc. even sitting on your bed doing nothing is better than that. From high dopamin gaming to zero-fun-studying is a big jump. But going from laziness to studying is much easier.
Try promodoros and choose one specific timeframe in the day where you will start to do your work for x hours. Start slow and expand it slowly. Built a habit, this takes several months. Remind yourself that it will get easy AND fun suddenly, out of nowhere. You just have to wait and endure.
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Read a bunch of your journal posts and I think you are doing pretty well mate!
Its pretty interesting, since we share a lot of things, I was also addicted to Lol, I am also studying medicine. For me it all started after the final year of school, same like you after that exam, because of all the stress. I kept playing and playing, even when the med school started. I literally learned 0 hours in the first year. I dont need to explain what that means in med school, you know it yourself. Struggling since then to get back up. Sad thing is I never got back to that old me in highschool, but still trying(somewhere you mentioned that you want get back to your old-self, thats why I mention it). I keep procrastinating although I quitted Lol for good. This is also something I think you are doing great. You didnt just stop Lol you actually try to get work done(eg your long learning sessions) Definitely focus on that.
Will follow your journal from now on, might get some good tips for myself too 🙂
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A thing which I see every time when someone is quitting games, is that it leads to nothing if you dont limit or quit internet usage in general. I feel like 90% of the people here have an internet problem in general and not just a gaming problem. Its the procrastination while getting some dopamin peaks whereever its possible.
It was the same thing for me literally. Although I didnt touch games since years, it doesnt matter when I also dont stop youtube etc.
Your very first goal must be to be productive. Because thats your goal, right? Getting that degree. Of course after that you cant think ‘hey I did some work now back to games’. Because this leads inevitable to the fact that you relapse in the next days(‘one game then I start again’)
After all those years I think the only way for some people is to really rebuild their whole day. 90 Days of building up a total new routine and completely forget about the old habits. Not staying infront of that pc, not be at home much in general if you are not studying etc.
Since thats so hard, many people keep relapsing over and over again
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Hm it depends how it affects ur life. I could read all day and it would affect my life in a bad way. I would focus on productive things first, after that do what you want(but no addictive things like games which destroy your routine)
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Ah nice to hear its going good! You start university or what are your plans now?
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Hey man, well you made a GREAT step to come here (again?) to talk about it and stop the process of getting near to relapse.
I am basically in the same situation, 3-4 years out, now again this ‚hey why not‘. That all happend for me step by step, I relapsed on some other things and the more you fail the easier it gegs to fail even more and to think its ok. League is basically the last thing I stop myself to do but its the most important thing to stay away from. The reason for all of this is that I have some
problems in rl again. Maybe u too? Otherwise I would probably not have these cravings.
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Welcome, wish ya the best
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34 minutes ago, Marius said:
Med student here as well. Have you tried Anki? What's your learning method? Why do you study medicine? dream job? what makes it your dream job? If you don't have one, look for one.
From my own experience: Don't shy away from looking up basic stuff you are unsure about. Learning advanced things becomes much easier that way. Always look up unclear definitions. Medicine studies is mostly about repitition I would say, so try flash cards etc.
Do you know ALI ABDAAL? Former UK Cambridge med student on youtube, heavily focusing on productivity.
Hi, yea I know Ali and my learn system is basing on his videos(Google Sheet not Anki, but its basicslly the same). I only do repetition all day, I know that medicine is 99% memorizing that stuff. It does work but I need a lot of time. I cant really say whether I am slow or fast, because some of my ppl in the university are saying they have to learn 8-12 hours daily, others are only on 3 hours etc. But basically I cant keep up my learning routine of 4-6 Hours daily sadly due to procrastination. But I think that procrastination is also coming because the learning is so difficult for me because its so much things to memorize..
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Good luck on your way! I read your posts and I think its good that you try it over and over again to get to the right path.
It seems you are trying very hard to stay away from games, which is obviously good, but I see that those pretty common problems of replacing it with browsing and other stuff hit you too. I think you should try to focus on filling your life with other things, making alternatives. It makes it much much easier. Try things which are easy to get better in, so you stay on track. I always tried new things but it was so hard to succeed in these and thats a bad thing for ppl who are trying to getting out of that totally gaming focused life. For example if you like football, then dont join the next football club full of pros. Rather play with some newbies so you feel good while doing it. I mention that because you said learning peogramming etc is boring after some time, which is true. With the time you can do harder things again.
When I stopped gaming, it was really important for me to stop watching gaming content too. Because its like hanging out with alcohol addicts in a bar although you want to stay sober. Stay far away for that
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Hey guys,
I know gq now for some years, at start I was facing a huge addiction to gaming. I could fix it immediately when I started to do these daily journals. The first 90 days went good. I know many people are suffering from these gaming addictions much, and they relapse over and over again. Since I doubt that these people are ‚weaker‘ than others, I think this addiction is different to everyone. For me gaming was easily fixable, because it wasnt the real problem.
Which leads to why I open this new journal. My problem is the procrastination itself. I am a Medical Student and I have to study much. Even 6 Hours per day lead not to a big success which leads to more procrastionaton. I really want to finish Med School with success thats why I want to change my procrastinating. I do everything most likely something at the PC but It could be anything.
So my goal is to stop that and start to actually getting my things done. Not just med school, I want to do many things but I tend to be too lazy -> too much PC instead and imaging how it could be instead of starting.
Tomorrow I want to start with my studying again. Then I want to setup again a 90 days detox plan, filled with activities + learning routine, which I will post here.
I hope gq can help me again to fix this problem now and hopefully forever.
As always I will read postings here(even that I could do for hours instead of learning lmao) to get new ideas how to improve my strategy since many here are having the same problem.
Thanks for reading!
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However: Good learning day today! I wish I could be so productive every day.
Ill try to keep it up.
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5 hours ago, Alexanderle said:
What makes you believe that? In my opinion, everyone struggles with procrastination today. Say thank you to technology, which is used as a means to fill some emptiness, loneliness or unfulfilled needs.
That is esoteric bro science. Sure, there is this idea of dopamin and that we get a kick of certain things. Absolutely, but whatever: Behaviorists put rats in cages in the last century and gave them two pots of water. One with clean water, the other one with drugs. The rats were all alone and had nothing else to do. Guess what, they became addicted and died quickly. No surprise. This experiement has been replicated many decades later, with a small difference: The rats were living in paradise. They had many companions, good food, things to play with. Guess what, they ignored the drug water, because they could play, interact with mates and have sex. What is the lesson? If you have other, MEANINGFUL things to do, which are interesting to you and fun, if you have a perspective and some aims in life than this stuff is not important anymore. I make this bald prediction: If all porn addicts would have the opportunity for regular sex with a beautiful mate, there would not be a porn addiction.
If you would have so much other things on your plate, which you like and which fulfill you completely, you what not want to spend time, mindlessly browsing on youtube. For instance, if you really want to become good in your job later, if you feel that this is something you really have to do than you will start learning. This is then not just learning, where you just put stuff in your brain for an exam. You are doing this for yourself. I am right now learning for a history exam in my psychology studies. And it is interesting to me. This is not just about passing the exam, I already learned so much regarding trends and pseudosciences, something, which is more true today than at any point in history. Every moron can start a youtube channel and spill out "science". Bullshit like no fap and whatever is out there. This perspective makes it meaningful to me. Make your studies meaningful to you. Like seriously. It you can't do that, maybe it is not the right subject for you. Sure, sometimes there will be less interesting things, but that is life.
Yes, everyone suffers at procrastination BUT some people doesnt get negativ effects from it that fast like others. Lets say you live alone and you have a job. The only thing you have to do is to go to your job and to earn money. Rest of the day is basically free. Sure, you have other goals/hobbys. But hey? What happens if you dont go after them? Nothing. So its okay for them to waste their time on xy. An other guy may have kids or family on which he has to take care of or other things so he cant allow himself to procrastinate.
Of course you can always say ‚if this subject doesnt motivate you enough then it isnt yours!‘ that makes it pretty easy. Like you always miss something and thats why yoi get addicted to things. I really doubt that tbh. It simplicities this whole case totally. You totally miss the fact that many subjects are not nearly equal to your job later. I can hate the university but love the job later.
Just because you hate to do sport and instead you browse in the web, you shouldnt do sport? No you have to do it although you dont like it because you like the result(eg health)
So I think you got it that there are some holes in your argumentation I guess. But thanks for the post It helped me to think about my hobbies again. Personally I think I really love them but for me that doesnt leads to the point that I do them frequently. I like to make music -> but the way to do good music later is tough, you will play bad first but you keep going because there will be a time in which u will be better and then you are proud of you that even in the hard time where you hated it you still did it.
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When I read my last post, its pretty much the same but a bit worse.
Exams are coming and I really have no clue what I have done all the last month. I am so slow when I start to llearn. Getting tired all the time, need very much time to understand things. Its like I am now 2 years in Med School but still didnt find a good working system on which I can rely on
However there is still the problem with keeping up the learning routine. Its so freaking exhausting to keep it up. These times are so tough, especially when I see how easy other peoples life is, without a stressful degree as their target. I cant even remember the times when I woke up without having kind of a pressure or struggle.
Its still much youtube and other stuff in the internet. I guess those things, doesnt mattet how much I reduced them, forbid a reset of my dopaminsystem. Like it will always be tough if I cant get away from that, because my brain is so adapted to easy dopamin. I mean doing your work is such a good feeling but still this isnt a reason to start. Its dumb, but thats how the brain works.
So my goals are now to keep my learning routine back up and especially BEING ACTIVE when I start to study, not like just read in the book without trying to memorize it. I need also to build up other hobbies again, although its tough to do that after a full learning day.
So I am gonna learn 6-7 hours now and Ill see
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Struggling right now. Really I am not sure how to fix my problem with learning. Sometimes I cant learn properly due to some other important things. That would be no problem but sadly even when I am free I tend to be a bit lazy. Today I could just have gone to library to study, but I decide to stay at home and work there, because I wasnt in mood. This happens sometimes. At holidays when I dont have classes its different, because I am not that exhausted at weekends. I think everyone understands that.
So, how to fix that? I guess I need to get back to a proper morning routine which can even help to get out of bad mood. Like having a shower, eat a good breakfast etc. Any tips there? I tend to want to change everything at once, like eat healthier, more sport, more studying etc. but that doesnt work. Changes are slow but have to happen steadily.
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Grind at library definitely is way better than at home. So it is okay so far, I hope I can go on like this.
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Good session yesterday, but I am always thinking I am learning too slow -> wrong. But when I speak with my guys at university there doesnt seem to be a right way. Everyone just grinding whole day to somehow make it. Some guys lie and say they dont have to learn much, but at the same way they always say ‚wow its so stressful‘. Yea so its weird
I want to trust more into myself and just do my work and stop thinking whether there isnt a better way to study. But I am simply never sure, because maybe there is one...
Tomorrow university opens again and I am usually learning at the campus. So i feel today a bit like making a day free and tomorrow ill start the normal grind(I am very used to learning in a library etc. at home its always tough to concentrate)
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Keep up the routine mate 🙂 Really strong what you are doing currently, those learning hours are really something!