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Objectives for the day
- Deliver the last documents for graduation - Done
- Visit the music school - Rescheduled to next Thusday
- Have a nice guitar practice and get a good progress - Done (it was pretty short though, but who is counting!)
- Have a good day at work (make plans for the day) - Done (didn't make plans, but it was good)
- Practice social skills (smiling, eye contact) and be really social in the music school - Half done, didn't go to the music school
- Exposure therapy, as much as possible - Done
Gratitude journal
- I'm grateful for the food I'm eating
- I'm grateful for the air I breathe
- I'm grateful for the will to change
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1 hour ago, ElectroNugget said:
At the same time, my habits at home are collapsing and I feel very mentally unstable. I'm not really sure what's going wrong right now. I feel like I started this year with big ambitions and pushed really hard to get there and now it's like I'm being whiplashed back into bad behaviour. It feels awful tbh.
I'm not expert on that, but sometimes I feel that my habits are collapsing too. A possible approach could be getting back on track with one habit at a time, and giving kudos to yourself in each step of this process. Stay strong bro!
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43 minutes ago, Tomas said:
But the point I want to make is this. Since I quit gaming I did not really needed the "go to" activities. Well, I am reading more. So that's nice. But at night when I am tired after working I just watch a movie and go to bed. The rest of my time seems filled with natural activities like working and taking strolls. For years I would like to be making and playing more music. I am just wondering if it will become a natural "go to" activity over time, when I am in the process of not gaming a bit longer. Or do I need to take more action on this point?
Hey Tomas! Right after I quitted gaming I replaced gaming with Netflix and movies. It wasn't thaaat bad, but I wish I didn't do it. Reflecting about it right now, before quitting, after work I would play a game for some hours and then go to sleep. I didn't feel tired for gaming, it was quite the opposite. In my non expert opinion in the subject, I think we feel tired exactly because we are lacking that flood of virtual stimulation that we once had, and an easy way to get some similar stimulation is by watching Netflix. But this sensation changes over time, and I'm confident that you will be able to fill this voids with some go to activities.
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Hey, congrats on your fitness achievements!! Exercising gives me a really good boost, right now I can't live without it.
And congrats on the decision of deleting your league of legends account, that's a big step! I didn't delete my Steam account yet, but I gotta do it someday.
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Day 26
Things got a little bit out of control after this weekend. It was a really good weekend, lots of oportunities to socialize and have fun and I enjoyed it a lot. But with all this activities lots of habits were left behind and as anybody can notice I didn't journal or planned my days at all. This, combined with some heavy drinking Friday and Saturday made my daily habits implode and my days were really messy.
I don't feel really bad about the weekend itself, but the main problem is that it took me 3 days after the weekend for me to bounce back to journaling and having a structured day. I got sick on Monday evening/night and my Thusday was a waste of time with lots of Netflix and Youtube. Well, it's water under the bridge, and it's time to bounce back again!
I didn't even notice but I'm on the 2 weeks mark on no fap/porn. Looks like it was yesterday when I relapsed, time really flew by! I'm feeling that no fap is a little easier right now that I got some long streaks going. Especially right now that in addition to porn itself I'm cutting all "virtual stimulation" in my day to day life - from social media to feminine sports news - things are feeling pretty balanced. I still see a lot a hot women in the gym and in the streets but I don't know, it feels different. Anyway, it feels good reaching this milestone!
My guitar practice is falling a little bit behind. I feel like I should challenge myself a little more, but when I challenge myself too much I get a little demotivated with, for example, songs that I can't play. But I guess the most important is to keep practicing everyday. In no time the older challenges are gonna become easy and I will have some newer/harder ones!
Ultimately, I gotta organize the section "30 days challenge", since it's specially hard to track something that I don't do everyday. The cold showers are going really well, but the other ones I skipped some days. Gotta think of another way to organize that, but not right now.
Current Streaks
No games - 222 days
No Porn/Masturbation - 14 days
Healthy mobile phone usage - 1 days
Things that I should do every now and then
Body grooming - Last done 28/01/2020
Hair Care - Last done 29/01/2020
Clip nails - Last done 28/01/2020
Deep organize room - ? - Gonna separate an hour in the day when the boredom hits to organize a drawer or any other thing.
30 days challenge
Diet - 13/30
Cold showers - 21/30 (this is going pretty easy right now, it's really hot these days. Do it again on a cold month)
Practice guitar - 15/30
One amazing thing that happened/I did today
I'm doing it right now, I'm journaling!
Exercise
Gym.
Social
Fear Ladder (1/10) - Keep practicing eye contact and smile.
Exposure Therapy at least once a day
Morning Routine
Day planning - Not Done
Physiotherapy - Half Done
Skin care routine - Done
Brush teeth and floss - Done
Make my bed - Done
Meditation - Not done
Evening Routine
Skin care routine - Done
Physiotherapy - Only in the morning.
Brush teeth and floss - Done
Journaling - Done
Daily Habits Tracker
Staying out of the room - Stayed out almost all day.
Reading
Power of Habit - Read
The Narnia Chronicles - Didn't read
Read 30 mins of something technical - Didn't read
Weekly Goal(s) - (Week starts at Monday! - Update at Sunday!)
Plan the weekend -
Search another music school - I'm gonna visit another school tomorrow!
Search a place to take acting lessons - I've been avoiding this, gotta do it this week.
Find a dentist and schedule it
Cook meals for the week - I made "half meals" for the rest of the week in 28/01/2020
Monthly Goal
Gradute - Almost theeere
Start the programming course.
3 Month Goal
Get back to running. The physiotherapy is really important, SET GOALS!
What went well today:
I got a haircut! I've been needing one and I'm feeling better right now.
What I could have done to make my day better:
It was a good day, but I could have planned my day in the morning.
What I will do differently tomorrow:
I'm gonna have a perfect day tomorrow (planning, journaling, socializing and maintaining my habits)
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On 1/25/2020 at 11:46 PM, Erik2.0 said:
What’re you doing exposure therapy on?
Hey! I'm starting with baby steps and, to be honest, I gotta be more organized. I'm trying everyday to be more "open" and smile at people, even if it makes me uncomfortable. I'm practicing by myself in the mirror at home and I think it helps. Eye contact too.
I'm really self conscious of what other people think of me so I'm trying things like singing by myself in the streets, but that makes me reeeally uncomfortable. I'm pushing my limits with baby steps, but I'm pretty happy with my effort.
Do you plan on doing or already do it?
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On 1/24/2020 at 7:45 PM, ElectroNugget said:
Damn dude your journal is so comprehensive, it's amazing you're keeping track of all this stuff. I get overwhelmed if I'm trying to change 3 habits at a time haha. 😄 But it looks like things are going well! What programming course are you considering taking?
Hey, thanks for passing by! Coincidentally, I got overwhelmed the past few days by all this stuff, hahah. But I'm gonna try to get back on try right now.
I'm gonna take a python towards data science course... I bought it some time ago.
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17 hours ago, ElectroNugget said:
[ GameQuitters : 25 // Meditate : 14 // PornFree : 1 // NoFap : 1 ]
So yesterday evening I decided to try blocking all the time-wasting websites for the weekend just to see what would happen. YouTube, Reddit, Facebook, Netflix, etc. I can't access them on my phone or my PC until early Monday morning.
As a result today was... interesting. 😄 I have spent the whole day in a state of mild boredom/discomfort, feeling a little aimless. The nice thing is that it actually forced me to go out to town just so I'd have something to do. I also played a solo board game for a while, which feels a bit like cheating and is probably not something I want to encourage. That said, all things considered I guess it's OK for today.
Even without access to online media I managed to dig up some Rick and Morty episodes on an external hard-drive and have them running in the background while I do stuff. So that was very illuminating. I've become soooo used to having this constant white noise of entertainment in the background, it doesn't even seem to matter that much if it's new or even entertaining. This is worrisome and I think I'll need to lean into this ban and see where it takes me. I saw on @Southern Northerner's diary that he was planning on making his environment as boring as possible, I think that might be a good tactic to follow. If there's nothing more interesting to do than studying this semester, I should get a lot of studying done right? 😄
Hey, congrats on this attempt! I personally felt a LOT of boredom after blocking social media, some news websites and YouTube. Starting to practice new stuff when this boredom hits helped a lot. But I still use my phone too much, I guess.
Which app are you using to block things? Right now I'm using an app called "Blocksite" both in my PC and in my phone.
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Objectives for the day
- Exposure therapy, as much as possible
- Make an effort to be really social in the singing school
- Practice eye contact
- Get a good guitar practice
- Schedule the orthopedist
Gratitude journal
- I'm grateful for my fears
- I'm grateful for my flaws
- I'm grateful for my conscience
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Day 25
Yesterday was pretty good. I like the feeling of excitement for change. I love the process of challenging myself. Especially right now that I'm trying to be out of my comfort zone everyday, it really gives me extra energy to go through my day.
Today I have a trial singing class. I'm at the same time excited and scared. I'm not at all used to sing in front of other people. But I was told before, multiple times, that I have a good voice. Let's see what happens.
Current Streaks
No games - 217 days
No Porn/Masturbation - 8 days
Healthy mobile phone usage - 2 days
Things that I should do every now and then
Body grooming - Last done 06/12/2019 - I think I'm gonna do it today!
Hair Care - Last done 17/01/2020
Clip nails - Last done 13/01/2020
Deep organize room - ? - Gonna separate an hour in the day when the boredom hits to organize a drawer or any other thing. Step by step.
30 days challenge
Diet - 12/30
Cold showers - 17/30 (this is going pretty easy right now, it's really hot these days. Do it again on a cold month)
Practice guitar - 14/30
One amazing thing that happened/I did today
Exposure therapy was good.
Exercise
Gym.
Social
Fear Ladder (1/10) - Practice eye contact and smile
Exposure Therapy at least once a day
Morning Routine
Day planning - Done
Physiotherapy - Done
Skin care routine - Done
Brush teeth and floss - Done
Make my bed - Done
Meditation - Not done
Evening Routine
Skin care routine - Done
Physiotherapy - Only in the morning.
Brush teeth and floss - Not Done
Journaling - Done the morning after
Daily Habits Tracker
Staying out of the room - Stayed out almost all day.
Reading
Leisure reading -
Read 30 mins of something technical - ?
Weekly Goal(s) - (Week starts at Monday! - Update at Sunday!)
Plan the weekend - My weekend is full, actually
Search another music school - Scheduled a trial class: 18/01/2020
Search a place to take acting lessons
Find a dentist and schedule it
Cook meals for the week - I made meals for the rest of the week in 22/01/2020
Monthly Goal
Gradute - In progress
Start the programming course.
3 Month Goal
Get back to running. The physiotherapy is really important, SET GOALS!
What went well today:
My efforts to be more social.
What I could have done to make my day better:
I could've woken up earlier.
What I will do differently tomorrow:
I'm gonna put big effort in the social skills exercises.
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Objectives for the day
- Exposure therapy, as much as possible - Done
- Practice eye contact - Done
- Get a good guitar practice - Done
- Schedule the orthopedist- I forgot about it!
Gratitude journal
- I'm grateful for a rainy day
- I'm grateful for my honest smile
- I'm grateful for another day and another day to improve myself
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Day 24
Today was a good day. Reflected a lot on objectives for this year and I'm excited to put things in practice, especially exercises to improve my social skills. Not gonna write too much, just update the other stuff. Peace!
Current Streaks
No games - 215 days
No Porn/Masturbation - 6 days
Healthy mobile phone usage - 1 days
Things that I should do every now and then
Body grooming - Last done 06/12/2019
Hair Care - Last done 17/01/2020
Clip nails - Last done 13/01/2020
Deep organize room - ? - Gonna separate an hour in the day when the boredom hits to organize a drawer or any other thing. Step by step.
30 days challenge
Diet - 11/30
Cold showers - 16/30 (this is going pretty easy right now, it's really hot these days. Do it again on a cold month)
Practice guitar - 13/30
One amazing thing that happened/I did today
I'm sticking to my plan of improving my social skills. That's an effort that I value a lot.
Exercise
Gym.
Social
Fear Ladder (1/10) - Practice eye contact
Exposure Therapy at least once a day - Begin tomorrow
Morning Routine
Day planning - Done
Physiotherapy - Done
Skin care routine - Done
Brush teeth and floss - Done
Make my bed - Done
Meditation - Not done
Evening Routine
Skin care routine - Done
Physiotherapy - Only in the morning.
Brush teeth and floss - Done
Journaling - Done
Daily Habits Tracker
Staying out of the room - Stayed out almost all day.
Reading
Gonna read a little more before bed and I read during commute.
Weekly Goal(s) - (Week starts at Monday! - Update at Sunday!)
Plan the weekend - My weekend is full, actually
Search another music school - Scheduled a trial class: 18/01/2020
Search a place to take acting lessons
Find a dentist and schedule it
Cook meals for the week - I made meals for the rest of the week in 22/01/2020
Monthly Goal
Gradute - In progress
Start the programming course.
3 Month Goal
Get back to running. The physiotherapy is really important, SET GOALS!
What went well today:
I'm even more excited about my plans for social skills improvement.
What I could have done to make my day better:
I could've woken up earlier.
What I will do differently tomorrow:
I'm gonna put more effort in the social skills exercises.
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Objectives for the day
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Social skills practice-
Buy yogurt and oatsGratitude journal
- I'm grateful for having the will to change
- I'm grateful for gamequitters to exist
- I'm grateful for the people with whom I can change experiences
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Day 23
I've been reflecting on how easy it is to fall in the comfort zone. We really gotta push our limits in order to see significant changes in our lives, but most of the times you relax and slow down exactly because the comfort zone is so convenient. Although I've been doing many things to better my life, I don't think I'm pushing my comfort zone enough. My lifelong problem revolves around social situations: public presentations, meeting new people, and other stuff. It's not that I can't talk to people, but I don't have charisma. I can't "charm" people. I get nervous in situations where I shouldn't. This shit affects my job, my relationship with my SO, my relationship with my family, basically everything.
I have perfect awareness that in order to get better, I gotta put myself in uncomfortable situations. That's the only way. I gotta get daily exposure to every uncomfortable situation so that they become comfortable. So tomorrow I'm starting a plan to get exposure to these situations everyday by climbing a "fear ladder" (something I found out in google). It's gonna be hell, but I'm gonna get through it. I scheduled on Friday a trial class in a singing school that I found out the other day. That's an extra, and it's certainly gonna be uncomfortable, but fuck it. I wanted to learn how to sing for a long time and it's gonna better my voice.
Current Streaks
No games - 214 days
No Porn/Masturbation - 5 days
Healthy mobile phone usage - 0 days
Things that I should do every now and then
Body grooming - Last done 06/12/2019
Hair Care - Last done 17/01/2020
Clip nails - Last done 13/01/2020
Deep organize room - ? - Gonna separate an hour in the day when the boredom hits to organize a drawer or any other thing. Step by step.
30 days challenge
Diet - 10/30
Cold showers - 15/30 (this is going pretty easy right now, it's really hot these days. Do it again on a cold month)
Practice guitar - 12/30
One amazing thing that happened/I did today
Work was good! Conducted a test today pretty well.
Exercise
Gym.
Social
Fear Ladder (1/10) - Day one:
Morning Routine
Day planning - Not done
Physiotherapy - Done
Skin care routine - Done
Brush teeth and floss - Done
Make my bed - Not Done (SO was sleeping when I got up)
Meditation - Not done
Evening Routine
Skin care routine - Done
Physiotherapy - Only in the morning.
Brush teeth and floss - Done
Journaling - Done
Daily Habits Tracker
Staying out of the room - Stayed out almost all day.
Reading
Gonna read a little before bed.
Weekly Goal(s) - (Week starts at Monday! - Update at Sunday!)
Plan the weekend -
Search another music school - Scheduled a trial class: 18/01/2020
Search a place to take acting lessons
Find a dentist and schedule it
Cook meals for the week - Didn't cook much! Gotta cook tomorrow.
Monthly Goal
Present the final project and graduate (Got a day, 19/12!) - DONE (missing graduation)
Start the programming course.
3 Month Goal
Get back to running. The physiotherapy is really important, SET GOALS!
What went well today:
I'm excited about my plans for social skills improvement.
What I could have done to make my day better:
I could've planned my day in the morning.
What I will do differently tomorrow:
My day is gonna be productive. Gonna plan my day in the morning, do my social exercises, practice guitar and cook meals.
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Hey @Zenrenn, welcome back! Contratulations on your son! Must be a big surprise having a son out of a sudden but maybe he is gonna transform your life!
From my experience, journaling is a good way to track your progress and hold yourself accountable, so I highly recommend you start a diary.
So, once again, welcome back!
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Objectives for the day
- Get a good guitar practice - Practiced just a little.
- Get a good reading session - I was out all day, couldn't read!
Gratitude journal
- I'm grateful for waking up joyful today
- I'm grateful for the desire to be better
- I'm grateful for the fresh water that I drink
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Hey, congrats for the progress, I like you mindset! It seems like yesterday was a really good day for you, enjoy!
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Day 22
It was a good day, not much to report, just update.
Current Streaks
No games - 212 days
No Porn/Masturbation - 3 days
Healthy mobile phone usage - 3 days
Things that I should do every now and then
Body grooming - Last done 06/12/2019
Hair Care - Last done 17/01/2020
Clip nails - Last done 13/01/2020
Deep organize room - ? - Gonna separate an hour in the day when the boredom hits to organize a drawer or any other thing. Step by step.
30 days challenge
Diet - 9/30
Cold showers - 14/30 (this is going pretty easy right now, it's really hot these days. Do it again on a cold month)
Practice guitar - 12/30
One amazing thing that happened/I did today
Had fun with my SO
Exercise
Rest day.
Social
Only normal conversations.
My conversations for many times are really shallow and I'm really complacent on that. I will try to have more interesting conversations everyday with strangers or people that I know. This conversations could be simply talking about the weather, praise something someone is wearing, a tattoo, a dog, asking something about the person, whatever. I gotta get used to have genuine interest in other persons. And to tell the truth, I am interested. I'm just REALLY complacent in this aspect.
Morning Routine
Day planning - Done
Physiotherapy - Done
Skin care routine - Done
Brush teeth and floss - Done
Make my bed - Not Done
Meditation - Not done
Evening Routine
Skin care routine - Done
Physiotherapy - Only in the morning.
Brush teeth and floss - Done
Journaling - Done
Daily Habits Tracker
Staying out of the room - Stayed out almost all day.
Reading
Didn't read.
Weekly Goal(s) - (Week starts at Monday! - Update at Sunday!)
Plan the weekend - Starting next week
Search another music school - Scheduled an experimental class: 18/01/2020
Search a place to take acting lessons
Find a dentist and schedule it
Cook meals for the week - Next day: 19/01/20
Monthly Goal
Present the final project and graduate (Got a day, 19/12!) - DONE (missing graduation)
Start the programming course.
3 Month Goal
Get back to running. The physiotherapy is really important, SET GOALS!
What went well today:
I'm getting back on track with my habits and journaling.
What I could have done to make my day better:
I could've woken up earlier
What I will do differently tomorrow:
Guitar practice.
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6 hours ago, ceponatia said:
Interestingly I've been thinking about finding an acting school too!
Nice! That would be a huge step out of my comfort zone, and I've been avoiding that intentionally. But I'm sure it would make wonders to my public speaking skills.
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4 hours ago, dirac said:
Thanks for your reply, it actually really helped me to not game today. I read it last night in bed and it got me thinking.
That literally put a smile in my face. Glad to hear that!
Good luck in this journey!
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Hey, nice job fighting the urges man!
36 minutes ago, Phoenixking said:Whether I should reset or not, it's not worth relapsing. So I'll just continue. Steady as she goes. Ish.
And this is the best output you can get from this situation. Our brains try to convince us that relapsing is ok, but as soon as you relapse you regret it immediately. Try to wipe this ideas from your head and keep forward!
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Objectives for the day
- Get a good guitar practice - Broke the streak today, didn't pick the guitar. Tomorrow I gotta compensate that.
- Search some music/acting schools - Done. I have a experimental class scheduled for next week.
- Do the laundry - Done
Gratitude journal
- I'm grateful for the weekend
- I'm grateful for my fears that push me to change
- I'm grateful for another day to do better than yesterday
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Day 21
Didn't have time to journal yesterday again, ugh. Actually I had time, I just wasn't organized enough to stop and journal. So, today was a pretty normal day. Went to work, everything went fine. After that I went to the gym and then home. It was/is raining quite a bit, so my travel was canceled. I guess I have to figure out what I'm gonna do this weekend, especially in a rainy day. Thinking about it right now, I gotta start planning my weekends ahead of time. Like planning a tour to a place where I never been before in my city (museums, parks, touristic attractions, random events, etc). I think I'm gonna dedicate maybe 1 hour of my week to planning that, it should be good.
My guitar practice was really weak yesterday, but I least I picked it up. Today I'm gonna focus on getting a good practice and get some good progress going.
Current Streaks
No games - 211 days
No Porn/Masturbation - 2 days
Healthy mobile phone usage - 2 days
Things that I should do every now and then
Body grooming - Last done 06/12/2019
Hair Care - Last done 17/01/2020
Clip nails - Last done 13/01/2020
Deep organize room - ? - Gonna separate an hour in the day when the boredom hits to organize a drawer or any other thing. Step by step.
30 days challenge
Diet - 9/30
Cold showers - 13/30 (this is going pretty easy right now, it's really hot these days. Do it again on a cold month)
Practice guitar - 12/30
One amazing thing that happened/I did today
I got a perfect week on the gym!! Wohoo!
Exercise
Gym!
Social
Only normal conversations.
My conversations for many times are really shallow and I'm really complacent on that. I will try to have more interesting conversations everyday with strangers or people that I know. This conversations could be simply talking about the weather, praise something someone is wearing, a tattoo, a dog, asking something about the person, whatever. I gotta get used to have genuine interest in other persons. And to tell the truth, I am interested. I'm just REALLY complacent in this aspect.
Morning Routine
Day planning - Not Done
Physiotherapy - Done
Skin care routine - Done
Brush teeth and floss - Done
Make my bed - Done
Meditation - Not done
Evening Routine
Skin care routine - Done
Physiotherapy - Only in the morning.
Brush teeth and floss - Done
Journaling - Not done
Daily Habits Tracker
Staying out of the room - Stayed out almost all day.
Reading
Didn't read.
Weekly Goal(s) - (Week starts at Monday! - Update at Sunday!)
Plan the weekend - Starting next week
Search another music school
Search a place to take acting lessons
Find a dentist and schedule it
Cook meals for the week - Next day: 19/01/19
Monthly Goal
Present the final project and graduate (Got a day, 19/12!) - DONE (missing graduation)
Start the programming course.
3 Month Goal
Get back to running. The physiotherapy is really important, SET GOALS!
What went well today:
I'm getting back on track with my habits and journaling.
What I could have done to make my day better:
I could've woken up earlier
What I will do differently tomorrow:
Well, tomorrow is already today, but I will maintain my daily habits, all of them.
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On 1/16/2020 at 2:13 PM, SteveA47 said:
This is day 1..... I have deleted all of my games, deleted steam, deleted everything.
Great first step, welcome!
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