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  1. Day 12 Recap of Yesterday’s Goals: Eat Paleo: ✔. No Video Games: ✔. 12:00 Bedtime: ❌. Hit the Gym. ✔ Schedule Guitar Lessons❌ - I bought the lessons but didn’t schedule a time yet. Summary: (171.4 lbs) I’m doing a challenge with a men’s group that I’m part of called December of Discipline. So for the month of December I’ll be posting in their private forum and following daily challenges as part of that program. I’ll try to post here occasionally, but it will be less often. Not playing video games is part of my daily challenge in that program, so I will keep the streak going. Recap of last week’s goals: 3 Gym Workouts: 3/3 ✔ Go on One Date. ❌ Sign up for Guitar Lessons. ✔ Goals for the week (Counting Sunday as the Start of the Week): · 3 Gym Workouts · Go on one date · Schedule Guitar Lessons.
  2. Action Step 04: What Triggers do you need to be most aware of? · Free time in the evening. · Restlessness (especially in the evening) · Stress (especially after getting back from work) · Disruptions to my routine. If a family event or something else throws off my routine, I’m tempted to play games. · Unscheduled time.
  3. Day 11 Recap of Friday’s Goals: Fast until lunchtime tomorrow: ❌ Eat Paleo: ✔. No Video Games: ✔. 12:00 Bedtime: ❌. Goals for today: Eat Paleo. No Video Games. Go to bed by 12:00. Hit the Gym. Schedule Guitar Lessons What I'm thankful for: The Christmas music playing in the background at this coffee shop My new drawing book “How to draw Manga for beginners.” This dog in the coffee shop that’s wagging its tail and looking around. Summary: (172.4 lbs) Yesterday was a good day. I got very hungry around 2, so I gave up on my fast and ate lunch. Just didn’t have the willpower for it yesterday and wasn’t committed enough to push through. No biggie. I still moved toward my goals. Last night I went to an open Mat Jiu-Jitsu night at my old gym in Philadelphia. Then went home and had dinner. I had more energy than I expected late at night and didn’t want to go to bed, so I drew for a few hours until I felt tired. I drew ‘till about 1:20 AM. I’ll probably take a nap this afternoon to catch up on sleep. Nice to know that drawing can engage me almost to the extent that gaming did. I’ll hit the gym this evening to get my third gym session for the week. And sign up for Guitar lessons. I didn’t get any dates for this week, but I have three arranged for next week. .Goals for the week (Counting Sunday as the Start of the Week): 3 Gym Workouts: 2/3 so far Go on One Date. Sign up for Guitar Lessons.
  4. Module 6, Action Step 01: What am I feeling right now? How would I describe my current emotional state? Maybe Melancholy? I'm a little irritated at myself because I didn't fast all day today like I hoped. I got very hungry at lunchtime and had lunch. It was a healthy lunch, but I was hoping to do all day. I'm also kind of mad at myself for watching porn earlier today when I was bored. That habit is no where near an addiction for me, but it's an unhealthy habit akin to eating junk food. I'd like to stop doing that as well. I feel slightly anxious. Afraid that my schedule is too complicated and requires me to make too many decisions which will lead to my reverting to escape behaviors like watching porn or eating junk food. I'm anxious that I'll fail in my diet attempts and that I'll start 2020 feeling fat instead of lean. But all that is a description of the thoughts running through my head, not what I'm feeling right at this moment. What do I feel in my body? A slight unease... I feel my pulse more strongly than I normally do. I feel it in my wrists, chest, neck, and head. My eyes feel tired and slightly sensitive. My legs ache (though that's from soccer yesterday, not my mood). My torso feels bunched up and tight. I think I can remedy that by breathing consciously and deeply, lowering my shoulders, and opening up my chest. Yes, that works. Action Step 02: 10 things I'm grateful for: The Starbucks I'm currently writing in. The 1950's Jazz they're playing in the background My work Laptop that I use for everything. My nice winter coat. My nice boots This green tea I'm drinking. The comfortable temperature in this Starbucks. The Jiu-Jitsu Open Mat session I'm about to drive to after this exercise. This comfy chair I'm sitting in. The headphones I'm wearing that I received as a gift from my younger brother last Christmas. The good relationship I have with my brother and sister.
  5. Day 10 Recap of Wednesday’s Goals: Eat Paleo: ❌. No Video Games: ✔. 12:00 Bedtime: ✔. Hit the Gym ✔ Made Roasted Vegetables for Thanksgiving Party✔ Recap of Thursday’s Goals: · Eat Paleo: ❌. No Video Games: ✔. 12:00 Bedtime: ❌ Goals for today: Fast until lunchtime tomorrow. No Video Games. Go to bed by 11:30. What I'm thankful for: For a Family that is stable and actually gets along well during the Holidays without infighting. For a tradition of meeting at home every year for Thanksgiving. Summary: (174.8 lbs) I ate a lot at Thanksgiving Eve and on Thanksgiving. I knew I would. Still got some good exercise in on Thanksgiving Day by playing a soccer game in the morning. I’m planning to fast all day today to give myself a good re-start to my diet. I’ve done it before and will drink lots of water. I don’t have much planned for the day yet. For now, I’m going to get out of the house and go to my favorite coffee shop to do the next Gamequitters Exercise, then read. Goals for the week (Counting Sunday as the Start of the Week): 3 Gym Workouts: 2/3 so far Go on One Date. Sign up for Guitar Lessons.
  6. Day 8 Recap of yesterday's Goals: Eat Paleo: ✔. No Video Games: ✔. 11:30 Bedtime: ✔. Hit the Gym ✔ Buy ingredients for Thanksgiving Dish: ❌ Goals for today: Eat Paleo. No Video Games. Go to bed by 11:30. Make Roasted Vegetable Soup for Thanksgiving Party What I'm thankful for: That I’m connecting with people at my new Jiu-Jitsu gym and starting to make friends. Last night after training I talked to a guy named Tony who’s about my age and skill level and we did some extra practice after class. That I connected with some nice looking and friendly girls on Hinge and Bumble and have a few dates set up for next week. Summary: (171.8 lbs) .Worked from Home yesterday, did a GameQuitters Exercise, then went to Jiu-Jitsu. I followed my schedule for the remainder of the night and got to bed at 11:30. Feels good to get a consistent 7-8 hours of sleep every night. Makes exercising and focusing on work way easier. Today I’m working from home again. As of 2:00 PM, I’ve finished all my submissions for the day. After work, I’ll buy ingredients for Roasted Vegetable Soup, then make it and go to my friend’s house for Thanksgiving Eve. I've got a few dates set up for next week but haven't set one up for this week. I'll keep trying and see if I can get one for Saturday or Sunday Coffee. Goals for the week (Counting Sunday as the Start of the Week): 3 Gym Workouts: 2/3 so far Go on One Date. Sign up for Guitar Lessons.
  7. How are the goals going?
  8. Day 7 Recap of yesterday's Goals: Eat Paleo: ✔. No Video Games: ✔. 11:30 Bedtime: ✔. Goals for today: Eat Paleo. No Video Games. Go to bed by 11:30. Hit the Gym Come up with a dish to bring to the Pre-Thanksgiving Party. Buy Ingredients for the dish. What I'm thankful for: Another night of good sleep. (Even though I sleepwalked at one point XD) That I have control over the heat in my apartment so I can keep it toasty during the day and cold when I sleep. That I rolled very well at Jiu-Jitsu last night with a guy who is MUCH stronger than me and usually beats me. Summary: (173.0 lbs) Cancelled my date last night after something came up on her end. I’ll try to get back in touch with her after Thanksgiving. Went to jiu-Jitsu instead. I’ve been out for a week due to my shoulder injury. Felt good to be back. I was careful not to go too hard and my shoulder felt fine the whole time. Work is still busy. I’ll try to get to the gym today at noon and maybe put in some extra work tonight after Jiu-Jitsu training. Goals for the week (Counting Sunday as the Start of the Week): 3 Gym Workouts: 1/3 so far Go on One Date. Sign up for Guitar Lessons.
  9. Day 6 Recap of yesterday's Goals: Eat Paleo: ❌. No Video Games: ✔. 11:30 Bedtime: ✔. Hit the Gym: ✔ Make an “Ideal” Schedule: ✔ Goals for today: Eat Paleo. No Video Games. Go to bed by 11:30. What I'm thankful for: Sparkling Water. That my local coffee shop now knows me and starts preparing my “usual” when walk in. I’ve never had a local place that knows me before. Summary: (173.6 lbs) Good day yesterday. Spent the morning and early afternoon reading and writing at a coffee shop. Made my “ideal” schedule. Went to the gym, then followed my ideal schedule for the rest of the day. Did my stretching routine, Read, Drew and listened to podcasts, then bought and cooked food, had dinner, and spent the rest of the night drawing and watching TV. I did have a craving for some sugar at night and bought some banana bites. Need to stop doing that. But good otherwise. Today is looking good. This will be a very busy few days at work, but I’ll have off Wednesday and Thursday for Thanksgiving and Black Friday. I have a date tonight with a girl I’m seeing. I’m not going to count that as one of my dates for the week since I’ve seen her a few times already. I want to continue meeting new girls. If I get some time tonight, I’ll look into local guitar lessons. Friday evening or Saturday/Sunday afternoon would be a good time to schedule lessons since most of my weeknights are taken up by jiu-jitsu. Gonna start posting my daily weight here for extra motivation to stick to eating correctly. Goals for the week (Counting Sunday as the Start of the Week): 3 Gym Workouts: 1/3 so far Go on One Date. Sign up for Guitar Lessons.
  10. Hah! Good creative solution. JRiz, have you ever read or heard of "No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Dr Robert Glover? Maybe I'm misreading, but I sense some passivity and resentment in the way you write about your relationship with your wife.
  11. Day 5 Recap of yesterday's Goals: Eat Paleo: ❌. No Video Games: ✔. 12:00 Bedtime: ✔. Get Guitar, Drawing Book, and Drawing Pad from Home✔. Make an “Ideal” Schedule: ❌ Goals for today: Eat Paleo. No Video Games. Go to bed by 11:30. Hit the Gym. Make “Ideal” Schedule that includes designated TV/Internet time and designated “Activity Time” to Read, Practice Guitar, or Draw. What I'm thankful for: A fun time playing Frisbee Golf with my Dad yesterday. That I slept well last night despite eating junk food. That I made myself sick from eating too much junk food last night. That will give the impetus to commit to breaking my sugar/junk food habit. It’s time to find other ways to cope with unpleasant emotions. Summary: Visited Parents and had lunch with them. Played Disc Golf with Dad. Went back home, then kind of just farted around for several hours. Watched TV, browsed Internet. One win: I drew for about two hours. That’s a good relaxing activity for me. It takes very little willpower and my mind can wander. I also ate a bunch of junk food because I felt bored. Made myself sick from eating a bunch. I’m going to make avoiding sugar a priority during this Reboot Process. Goals from last week: 3 Gym Workouts: ✔️ 3/3. Go on One Date/week: ✔ Perfect! Good Job, Self. Goals for the week (Counting Sunday as the Start of the Week): 3 Gym Workouts. Go on One Date. Sign up for Guitar Lessons.
  12. I'll use Google Calendar to make this easy for me to follow.
  13. Friday: 8 AM Wake Up 8:30 – 4:30: Work. Work part of this time at a coffee shop. Hit the gym during lunch break if not too busy. 4:30 – 7: “Unscheduled Time” – Read or Practice Guitar for 30 mins, 20 minutes of Internet Browsing, then go down the list of At-Home Activities. 7 – 7:30: Eat Dinner and Watch TV 7:30 – 10. Scheduled Social Event OR Get out of the House if I have nothing scheduled. 10 – 10:30: Free Time (Anything below Stretching Routine on the At-Home List) 10:30 – 11:30: Read till bedtime. Saturday: 8 AM: Wake, Meditate, Warm-Up, then drive to Gym. 9 – 10:30 AM: Jiu-Jitsu 10:30 – 11:30: Shower, Stretch. 11:30 – 1: Go to Coffee Shop and Read. 1-2: Lunch + TV/Internet Browsing 2 – 4:30: Get out of the House and Walk around (Schuylkill River Trail, Wissahickon Valley Park, Downtown Manayunk). Train Leaves at 2:20 if going to Manayunk. 5: Go to Gym and workout. 6 – 7: “Unscheduled Time” – Go down list of At-Home Activities. 7 – 7:30: Eat dinner and Watch TV. 7:30 – 10. Scheduled Social Event OR Get out of the House if I have nothing scheduled. 10 – 11: Free Time (Anything below Stretching Routine on the At-Home List) 11-12: Read till Midnight Sunday: 9 AM: Wake, Meditate 10 – 11:30: Read at Coffee Shop 12 – 1: Take Train to Center City 1 – 3: Grab Lunch at Chipotle or Real Food Eatery. Swing Dance in Rittenhouse Square OR walk around. Can also schedule Lunch Dates during this time if I meet women who live in Center City. 3 – 4: take the train back home 4 – 6: “Unscheduled Time” - Read or Practice Guitar for 30 mins, 20 minutes of Internet Browsing, then go down the list of At-Home Activities. 6 – 8: By Food and Batch-Cook for the Week. 8 – 9: Dinner and Watch TV 9 – 10:30: Free Time – Anything below Stretching Routine on At-Home List 10:30 – 11:30: Read until Bedtime.
  14. IDEAL DAILY SCHEDULES: I will not force myself to stick to these 100% or be frustrated if I fall outside them, but this is my ideal. Ideal Day: A day that will be enjoyable while I’m going through it AND will move me toward my goals. Current Goals in order of importance: Break my Gaming/Junk Food habits. Lose Weight while maintaining muscle Date 2-3 girls casually, with them knowing that we are non-exclusive. OR find a girlfriend if I meet one I really like. But NO settling for exclusivity with a woman that I don't want a long-term relationship with. That's not kind to me or her. With this in mind, what do I need to do each day? Breaking the Gaming/Junk Food habits just entails keeping busy and entertained with OTHER habits. Losing weight involves going to the gym 3 times a week. Other than that, the weight will come off on its own if I break the Junk Food habit. Last is creating an enjoyable dating life for myself. Which entails: practicing starting conversations with strangers (both men and women) and going on dates with women I meet in everyday life and through online dating apps. None of that takes up too much time. So my PRIMARY priority is to structure my time in a way that’s so enjoyable I don’t think about Games and Junk Food. Mon-Thurs: 8 AM Wake Up 8:30 – 4:30: Work. Work part of this time at a coffee shop. Hit the gym at Noon if not too busy. Eat Lunch at 1. 4:30 – 5:30: “Unscheduled Time” – Either Read or Practice Guitar. 5:30 – 6: Warm Up my joints, then drive to Jiu-Jitsu. 6-7:30: Jiu jitsu Training 7:30-9:30: Shower, Eat Dinner, Stretching Routine, Watch TV 9:30-10:30: Free Time (Anything below Stretching Routine on the At-Home List) 10:30-11:30: Read until Bedtime at 11:30
  15. My Activity List. I've structured this in such a way that I can refer to it easily when I find myself without a scheduled activity. If I find myself with free time during the day that I would normally spend on Video Games or Aimless Internet browsing, I'll refer to List #1. If Friday and Saturday night arrive and I have no social event or date scheduled, I will refer to list #2. During the week, I'll refer to List #3 if I see that I have nothing scheduled for Friday/Saturday Night. At-Home Activities for unscheduled time (Ordered from greatest mental engagement to least) Read Books on Dating/Game and take notes Practice Guitar Stretching Routine + Squat Hold Draw and listen to podcasts Read Fantasy Novel Practice Coin Tricks/Juggling and watch TV Grip Exercises and watch TV Podcast + Swipe and Message Dating Apps. Getting out of the house on Unscheduled Friday or Saturday Nights Use this list on Friday and Saturday Nights when I do not have a date, Swing Dance, or other social event already scheduled. (Ordered from greatest difficulty to least) Take the Train to Center-City Philly and Walk around. Take the Train to Manayunk and walk around. Go to Rock-Climbing Gym Walk down to the Schuylkill River Trail and Hike while listening to Podcast or Music. Social Activity Options. Must be scheduled in advance. Refer to this during the week when I notice that my Calendar doesn’t have enough Social Events. (Ordered from least preparation to greatest) Check the following Organizations for pre-existing Dances: SwingKat, University Swing, Philadelphia Swing-Dance Society. Invite a Friend to go Salsa Dancing on Friday/Saturday Night Dates from Apps and from Women I meet socially. Hold a Friday or Saturday Night Game Night Hold a UFC Watching Party for people from the BJJ Gym Find a Meetup Group with Activities that interest me.
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