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Good evening! Finally, the Miracle has happened! I'm not sick anymore. I've now attended a couple of BJJ lessons last weekend and had a blast. I've got to work myself back into the shape I was before getting ill. I have 4 exams this week, which is quite a lot. 300 pages to study altogether. But that is just this week. The hardest part of the year is nearly complete! I'm currently focused on schoolwork so I don't have too much time to read books. Maybe scheduling my day would help though. My current goal is to improve socially. Mostly the focus is on creating deeper relationships. Having close friends is really important. Maybe I could even ask one girl to a date, but we'll see. Gratitude Journal of the day I'm thankful for not being sick anymoreLearning new languagesHaving cool friendsGetting to attend BJJ classes once again

Thank you both for advice! I ended up working on my analysis on a poem and made some decent progress. :^)

Hello! Today I'm feeling a bit down. I was supposed to train BJJ today but training sick would be stupid since I could infect others and it wouldn't do good for me either. Well I hope Saturday will be better! Currently feeling that I'm in a little bit of a funk. I planned on training today but that plan is gone now. I should create some sort of a backup plan for days like these. As previously recommended I should try to make this day the best I can. I'm looking forward to reading at least The Slight Edge and Daring Greatly. Probably could read the one book by Keith Ferezzi too. At the moment I'm still putting the knowledge from The Power of Habit and HWFIP to use. Today I'm grateful of My theater lessons in schoolPlaying the pianoThe good weatherGetting to know new peopleThe fact that I'm still doing better fluwise than last week.

Hello! Today I have felt little more irritated by everything. Meditation is a real life saver in this field. Just did a short session and now I feel calm. I feel like I can wind my mind down by letting go of the bad feeling causing emotions. What do you guys think, is it worth it to buy the headspace membership? I'm currently reading the section of How to Win Friends and Influence People where Carnegie writes about ways to influence people in the right way. Generally a good section. It takes myriad of concrete practice to really learn these things but they will surely be useful. Generally doing well! Today I'm grateful for: Gamequitters stickers My friends for being so positive and polite towards mePlaying the piano, and well music altogetherThe calm feeling after meditationSaying no to pitying!The fact that Chuck Norris is into BJJ too

Greetings! Today I continued to read Carnegie's book How to Win Friends and Influence People. I'm starting to notice that many of the books advice come down to empathy in the end. It's makes sense. The benefit of the Golden rule of putting yourself in the position of other person is still as accurate as it has always been. So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, Matthew 7:12. I've heard that the advice occurs in many other religions too. Carnegie's book has also made me more confident with conversation. Understanding that being interested in the person you are talking with is an important matter for good conversation. Of course the conversation doesn't have to be about the other persons life. Still the backbone for a good conversation is to talk about something that the other person is interested in and pretty much everybody is interested in him/herself. Otherwise life is pretty good. Helping my sister make her schedule and contemplating my curriculum too. My flu is resilient. My goal is to attend my BJJ class next Thursday. For today I'm grateful of: This great website! Having a place, where you can discuss with people who share the same endeavour as myself, helps a lot during this journey. Big thanks to Cam!Feeling more confident in my conversation skillsHelping my sister outGetting to sleep lateHaving bought good and healthy food for breakfastBooks. Reading something from paper is somehow really calming if you compare it for example to reading stuff from my laptop

Just read this now but I have to say that Judo sounds like an epic hobby!

Hello! It's Day 70 Today has been mostly cleaning and studying. Me and my friends organized a surprise party for my friend yesterday and it turned out great! Currently doing well apart from the flu. I don't know whether my busy phase in school affects it. I remember having a long flu last year too during the roughest phase. I have a lot of work to do once I get back to BJJ since I've missed a month straight. Well It will surely pass someday soon. What comes to gaming, I haven't really even thought about it a lot lately. Sometimes nostalgia or friends occasionally talking about Hearthstone remind me of games, but honestly not feeling too big of a pull towards them anymore. I decided that a gratitude journal might be good idea, so it would help me notice all the positive little things happening around. Today I'm grateful of: For my friendsGood books that help me understand the world a little betterGrowing up, learning new thingsYesterdays party was a real success!School won't begin until 10.00 am next Tuesday

By the way Cam if you record your talk, please upload it somewhere. I'm really looking forward to seeing it!

The evening was great! I had a lot of fun with my friends. Doing this kind of things always cheers me up. Today while cycling home I started thinking about women and relationships. I have never had a SO. I generally have no problem with girls. I come along with them really well. For example the school in which I am has approx 1 guy per 4 girls. So it is just natural that I have to be with them quite often. I believe that the fact that I have quite many friend girls but no girlfriend is mostly due to the fact I really don't know how to take the relationship deeper or like make it into something more than just friendship. I really don't know how to deal with this right now. Like of course I'm quite busy now that I have school and hobbies and all other extracurricular activities, so I don't know whether it's even good idea to trouble myself too much with this thing. My friend told me that the way he found his SO was just by being. Apparently he had just met a girl in cafeteria queue. Somehow they just made a contact and ended up together. I don't really whether I can expect these things just to happen. Well I'm a young guy. Of course things like this float in my head all the time. Have you got any tips/advice you want to share with me? But anyways guys, Have a good night!

Hello! For a little while now my mood has alternated between confident and anxious. Sometimes I feel great, energetic and social. And some other moments I feel anxious and tired. With a lot of work on my back currently it is easy for me to neglect my social needs. Today I just messaged my friends to come out to play little basketball. Going out with friends always boosts my mood.

Holy shit! Just read the Ninth Chapter. It really opened my eyes. I've been the Gambler ever since playing the games. Really so many pieces of the Puzzle suddenly come together. Now I can finally understand why I was going through what I was going through. Habits play a massive part of our lives. Bigger than I could've ever expected. After reading the book I have begun noticing the similar course of action in all the examples. I feel happy and motivated. This is good. The hope that I got from the book, the fact that I can just redirect the flow of my habits, is really calming. The example of the 28-year-old William James, who was on the verge of suicide was really moving. Icing on the top I could say. TL;DR The Power of Habit, by Charles Duhigg is really worth the read. Singlehandedly explained me why I was suffering and how to move towards wellbeing.

Hello! Today I tried making my own snack to eat during school to keep me refreshed. Bread didn't really survive the whole day so I'll try something other out. After school I decided that I need more clothes so I got myself a new pair of trousers and a T-shirt. Updating my wardrobe for Autumn. Still looking for a cool pullover. I'm in love with Fair Isle ones. For now I have made it to the last chapter of the Power of Habit. It has been a great book so far. The sections with more info on habit building on personal level helped me the most. I've been thinking that it might be cool to make some habits with my friends too. Usually I've considered hanging out to be spontaneous thing, but it really doesn't have to be that. Actually having that kind of habit would be cool, so It would be easier to arrange social meetings. If you have any suggestions on how to and what to organize I would be grateful for them. The best thing of all is that I'm getting better. Soon I will be able to get back to sports and have even more energy. It will be more pleasant writing since there will be more things happening. Looking forward to that! Thanks for reading.

Thanks guys! It's solid advice you have given me. I must keep working towards my goals. I'm currently trying to make a habit of doing my schoolwork straight after school. That way they won't bother me for the whole day. There was a problem that I needed to solve. When I got home from school I was usually quite exhausted. You could actually say that my willpower was worn out already. I thought to myself What was causing this, and I found out that for the last lesson and cycling home were the things that exhausted me the most. So today I tried eating a sandwich for a snack before the final lesson. It ended up being a good idea. I was able to concentrate well during the last class. The ride to home went easily. When I hot home I made my homework with just a little effort since I had willpower and energy stored. I don't know whether that has anything to do with habits. Or actually I should make that a habit, would help me have more energy to do other stuff. Today was a cool day too. Found out that my blood type is O,Rh+. Always cool to learn new things. We also went to theater with my class. I enjoyed seeing a little less common form of art.

Good evening! Today was partially good day. We had a picnic with my friends and it ended up being very pleasant. After reading the Power of Habit yesterday I decided that it's a good time to work on my willpower and general habits. I'm starting by doing the same basic chores every day and working on my studying and homework. I should do some sort of habit of making them. The current mood is a bit off. It's just the flu and a lot of schoolwork in one pile. Since I'm not able to do any sports I'm pretty much using my spare time home. Of course there is a lot of things I can do home too. I organized my wardrobe and cleaned around today. Really, I'm just a bit unsatisfied with my life at the moment. I feel like I'm a bit out of direction currently. Or rather that there are so many directions where I could go. Listening to music cheered me up though. Probably the wisest thing is just to do activities I enjoy that aren't too hard physically. Letting myself rest allowing the fact that I can't just change the fact that I'm sick. Well that's how it is going currently. It will get better.

Oh, I'd love that!

Today is a rather basic day. Have not been up to much. Mostly resting, reading the Power of Habit and listening to music. Focusing on resting and getting better. Currently feeling little unsatisfied with my habits and hobbies in home. Usually I have all kind of activities like sports and friends to enjoy my time with, but now I really don't have the energy to do that. I'm having a little trouble putting the teachings of the Power of Habit into use. It requires a lot of cleverness to spot the right circles of habits and find out the ways to reconstruct them.

Good evening! It has certainly been an eventful weekend. Celebrated my friends 18th birthday and had a really nice evening. We sat by a fire and grilled some sausage. Today I have been mostly resting after these quite wild days. Managed to do good progress on my schoolwork. I'm considering reading Jeff Olson's the Slight Edge. Seems to pop up quite a bit in the books you should read section. Goddamn flu. Still haven't got rid of it. Today I decided to show it what I'm made of and googled how to get rid of flu. Ended up eating garlic and drinking vinegar. I guess stomachache only lasts a couple of hours, so I'll win in the end. Doing progress on winning friends and influencing people. Currently on the second section of the book. There is so much good information. I really should work on putting that information into action. Well I'm going to read parts of the book after I've finished it since it might be best to have a general view of the book too. Altogether doing well, hope you are doing too.

I don't know whether you have seen any descriptions or some youtube videos like "7 advices from How to win friends and influence people". In my opinion there is more to the book than just those things. For example when I watched a summarizing video of the book on youtube I just quickly checked the 7 advices and moved on without really getting anything out of it. The book was completely different. Even after finishing the first chapter I had found more information and reason in that one advice than I had found in that video. The book really is awesome. For me the key was just the awesome examples that were in the book. It's that much easier to find the real reasons in those guidelines. I really recommend this book! Well written and full of wisdom. I like it because it's not just "top 7 tips to make you satisfied with your social life". It's full of good advice, that I think most of the people can get behind.

Hello everybody! Today was once again cool day now that I think of it. 5 months ago when I was feeling a bit depressed, I would have done anything for a day like this. So today after school we went out to a restaurant with a couple friends of mine. Had an awesome time once again. After all I have to really grateful for what I've got. Yeah, being grateful for what you've got. Living in a nordic welfare state. The thing of which value I have no idea about before you lose them. Last summer I was wandering in Lapland for a week. Sleeping with 2 guys in a tent meant for 2, that wasn't waterproof and it rained a lot. Not really much food and the food we had was mostly dried pasta with tomato sauce, just add water. Carrying that 23kg bag for 110km. When I got home from that trip I was so thankful. Sleeping in your own non-wet bed, eating fresh food, having warm shower, oh boy was I grateful! Somehow a person can be unhappy despite all these amazing luxuries. Not saying I'm unhappy currently. Well I don't know why I wrote this actually. Just popped up in my mind. I guess it has something to do with the past spring. Oh well. Back to the current day. So I got home and really just lagged till the evening. Got my studying for the day done, but pretty much nothing else. Should probably read the Slight Edge. Sounds like I book that could help me manage my time. I'm also waiting for the moment I can properly focus on JiuJitsu again. A lot of droplets in my little pond of inner peace once again. Sleep will do wonders. G'night.

Hello once again! Currently on my 60th day. Oh how the time just flies by. Today was a little tiresome day. Although it, too had its moments. I visited friends that I hadn't seen in a long time. Feel like a lot has changed since then. A friend of mine who had been ill for nearly half a year was finally able to come and meet us. I felt relieved when I saw him in a good condition. It might be that I took too quick start after my fly. Got sick again. Goddamnit. The day counter has lost a part of its meaning. And thats good in my opinion since I'm not just staring at the counter waiting for the day when the world suddendly turns into wonderland. I'll write my thoughts on NoFap in some of the following days. Imo its a topic that requires to be discussed a bit. I know it shares the opinions of the people. And in my opinion for a good reason. Anyways Good night/day! I'm going to get some sleep!

Once again a short post since it is getting late. Today was once again an eventful day. After school we went out to a little lake 6 miles off the city. Had nice time hanging around with friends. Currently I'm neglecting my school work a tiny bit, but I just think spending these sunny days of summer inside doing schoolwork is just not worth it. In Finland the really hit days like these are few ad far between. I'm getting started on my How to win friends and influence people-journey. After the firsr chapter I decided that I wouldn't complain in the current week at all. It has been working quite well. This "experiment" really helps you notice how much you actually complain.

Writing this on my phone so I'll keep it short. Today has been an awesome day once again! I'm feeling that nothing is going to weigh me down. Currently having a tight schedule, but still managing just fine! The highlight of the day was definitely my Bjj class. Was fun to roll with people after the break. Tomorrow is going to be fun day as well. I'm currently a tutor so I get to attend an themeday made for people in the first grade. Thats about it! Have nice day!

Getting Back into to normal routine Finally. All I wanted when I was sick, was to get back to doing my daily business at full energy. But really is there even such thing as a normal week? I don't really know. Every week I get surprised by all the things that actually happen. When the fall rolls a little further the daily routines will probably start being more actual. Today was definitely cool! After school I went to a caf

50th day Game free Today it has been 50 days since I relapsed. Really nice 50 days, I have to admit! Been making a lot more progress than I was before the Relapse. I'm slowly starting to feel a little better and so I decided to go play some basketball with my friends. Had really nice time. This is one of the most pleasant changes I've noticed. I can enjoy the moments with my friends a lot better now that I'm not thinking about being home gaming at all. I guess you could say that I have expanded my comfort zone. Anyways my life seems a lot sunnier today. TED talks gave me some food for thought. I decided not to just fall into self pity. I know its a bad idea to suppress feeling, but I see it more like a way of thinking, so I won't be suppressing any feelings either. An awesome day!

Thanks for the kind words! The post is quite a messy one. I used to like these days. I could just play LoL the whole day and not worry entertaining myself. Still need working on my things-to-do home stuff! Changing my habits day-by-day.