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Hello! Today was a good day with a lot of laughter. Still on a flu so I missed my BJJ exercise. I've had some weird short flus this winter but it seems to be quite normal since the people around and kortheo have mentioned it as well. Today I hung out with my friend after school. Pretty much a basic day once again, not too much happening by means of events. I'm currently on a bit of a dissatisfied mood. It's probably just missing my exercise and being a little sick. I thought about my ideas about relationships today. There are some ideas I'll need to write here, but I feel like today is not the day. Let's see if I'll have more energy to write tomorrow. Some random anxiety seems to accompany this day. @Cam Adair Thanks! This journal is a great help in keeping me on the right track. I'll update it to my best capability. The best thing that happened today (besides dancing) was seeing my friend. Today I'm grateful for: Listening to podcasts on busses, It's awesome to learn while sitting in a carSwing, It's great. Electro Swing is really cool too.Writing an animal fairy tale, It's awesome to break the barriers of reality while writingRobbie Williams, Angels! Damn it was awesome dancing to this song todayMy mood is way better after doing this gratitude journal and listening to happy music

Hello! Today was good. Pretty basic by means of productivity. I got all of my habits done and made some steady progress in schoolwork. I've caught a cold so I'm going to skip heavy exercise for a while. The best thing that happened today was the conversation I had while dining with my friends. Thinks and Grow Rich is a great book. It's well written, has a clear point and humour. The lessons in this book are applicable to many areas of life, not just wealth. I'll keep on enjoying it! Today I'm grateful for: Taking a walk and getting some motion todayEmpiric evidence on Think and Grow RichPublic transportUnderstanding that people who you spend time with affect your life quite significantlySpending family time

Hello! Today has been a good solid day. Slept 11+ hours and took a nap. The sleep I borrowed Friday is mostly paid back. Today I have worked on school-related tasks and reading. A basic and productive day. The best moment of the day was going to our grandmother for dinner. Great reindeer soup and an amazing cake with cinnamon cardamom cream on top. There are a few things I noticed last Friday/Saturday. First of all I need to create distance to a person, just for the sake of both of us. It feels hard making this decision but I feel like we'll both be better off this way. The second thing I noticed is that I found myself binding my self-worth to my weaknesses in some areas of my life. I wouldn't really say it's a perfectionism issue. I don't think that if I for example score better numbers in school I'll be better as a person. It's more about forgetting to accept your weaknesses and letting that negatively influence you. This week I improved my conversation skills by making sure I won't interrupt anyone talking and listen carefully to what he/she is saying. It worked out really well! There were so many times where not saying anything made the conversation a lot better. It has to be remembered that listening is not passive. Exactly the opposite. Being observant helps you contribute in group conversations as well. Altogether this weeks project was a success. Better conversational skills are something that will help me with my goal of dating. I'm a real newbie in that area. There are traits I need to improve to be a better partner for sure, but at this point I feel like my biggest trouble is going forward from the initial getting to know each other phase. I'll give you an example: There is this one girl whom I've got to know with the dancing lessons. We've had fun together and it would be great to get to know her better. The problem is just that we share only this one class. Well that probably ain't "The Problem". It's just that I don't really know how to get to know non-guy people better. For guys it's pretty much just this "Hey you up for [football, a movie, BJJ, bar, adventure, trying out a new hobby, sauna]. Yeah, there are plenty of guys I haven't known before and in the evening we are all together naked drinking beer in sauna. I'm feeling this type of an approach wouldn't quite work with girls. Texting is also not my strongest point. I feel like I'm comfortable talking to people in person, but there is something (maybe fear/shame based) in texting. I don't know maybe it's just that I feel like I need to be interesting or entertaining, not just myself. Well, I'll be working on this. A wall of text, well it happens. Today I'm grateful for: Going to eat crackers, cheese and jamFoo FightersHaving time to reflect and write todayHaving my energy directed in progress at the momentHot breads with cheese mustard and mettwurstGoing to a camp next weekend!

Hello! I missed my entry yesterday due to organizing a party with my friend. It was awesome! Many of our friends participated and we had great fun together. Today I've taken it a little easier. The best thing that happened today was going to the cinema to se Tarantino's new movie the Hateful Eight. I'll write more about the things I've come up with later since my bed looks very tempting at the moment Today I'm grateful for: Writing myself a message while I was drunk, I was able to come up with an answer with the help of itHaving plenty of good books to read right nowRobert SchumannNothing broke yesterdayReading through old notes my friends left me after a camp last summer

Hello! Lately I've been feeling peculiar. At the same time feeling satisfied and dissatisfied with my life I guess. This feeling may arise simply from the fact that my schedule is different from what it was last year. I can't really get a grip of the meaning of this feeling. It might well be that it's just one of those feelings that arise some days and disappear the next ones. Anyhow I've been busy lately, had little time for anything else than my activities. I feel like I'd like to spend more time reflecting and reading, but on the other hand I feel like I want to just live my life while tuning the reading and reflecting section of my life down a little. Today was a solid day. Morning routine was as it usually is. School was great, once again really enjoyed the dancing/prom class. I missed my earlier plan because I took a little nap that ended up being a little bigger nap. I tried reflecting my feelings on my personal journal but couldn't write anything that made sense really, for now at least. I wrote about wanting to control your life. Making sure taking control of your life doesn't turn into senseless micromanaging. Well I'll sleep my night with these thoughts and see if they mature to any direction. The best thing that happened today (besides dancing since it would probably be mentioned fairly often ) was the good progress in mathematics today. Today I'm grateful for: The Devil Went Down to Georgia, by Steve OuimetteSalmon pastaFace creamsPlaying piano loudGood conversation I had with my friend todayOur Economy class is interesting

Hello! Today was a social day! After school I hung out with my group of friends and ate some pizza. After that I went on to celebrate my friends 18th birthday to a nearby pub and had a real good time with him. All in all today wasn't on top of the health scale but working out in the morning balances the scale at least a little. I'm not going to feel too bad for not doing every habit, I had awesome time with friends and I celebrated one of my oldest friend's birthday. The best moment of the day was dancing, once again. It's a great way to meet new girls and just have fun with them. Today I'm grateful for: History, as it is so interestingSoftcare scent-remover, It works really well eliminating unwanted scentsBananasThe temperatures are more humane currentlyStretching, keeping my body mobile

Hello! A great day once again. Tried out a couple new things. I cooked together with my sister and we tried quinoa out. It seemed interesting and is definitely worth trying with other recipes. BJJ was also a lot of fun today. Celebrating the little wins actually helps by a ton. Stringing a couple of small wins together makes a great difference. I feel like the atmosphere around was negative for some reason. Some people around me apparently hadn't had a good day. I tried being empathetic, since I know that everybody has those days sometimes. I just hope it doesn't last too long since too much whining sucks energy from each of us. The best moment of the day was landing an armbar that I practiced a while ago with my friend. It was so satisfying to finally connect it. Anyways I feel like I have a good drive, going forward. Plenty of activities coming along and that is great. Now I'm off to a doze to get that sufficient sleep. Thanks Man! I'll look into the dayboard extension. Reading "How to Win Friends and Influence People" again would surely do no harm for me. Carnegie has sure caught some evergreen advice there. Today I'm grateful for: Being both Mr. Pavlov and his dog at the same time (okay that really sounds creepy)Sparring with people of an equal skill todayMy friend lending his copy of the Catcher In the Rye.Carrots, good and easy way to add some kind of vegetables to your plateDishwashers

Yo! Today was good. Planning out the day beforehand was a great help. Got a lot of miscellaneous stuff handled and kept up with my habits. I trained some BJJ today. I'm having hard with it since my training schedule hasn't been stable. To Improve my motivation and drive for the sport I'm going to put more focus on small wins and I'm going to try dark chocolate as a reward for completing a training. I'm not completely sure whether the chocolate will work as a reward but it's totally worth the shot! I've noticed that if I plan only one day ahead my schedule will work out much better. There is always something spontaneous popping up, but If you just plan for the next 24 hours the executableness of the plan increases by a whole lot. Plenty of activities happening today so I'm late on my sleep schedule. Now it's my time to get the 8+ hours. Today I'm grateful for: Learning how to manage side-control and kimura armlock better Oven-cooked beetsMy new phone has a working earplug hole, hallelujahClassical music while reading and writingFace cleaning cream I got as a present from my aunt, It's worked really great!Oh yes and the positive moment. I really liked the conversation I had in the canteen, met some new people and strengthened my bonds with the people whom I already knew. The listening challenge is working out really well!

Hello! Today was an eventful day. We invited our relatives to a cup of coffee and spent a couple of hours with them. Got an adequate perfume as a gift which was awesome. I need to try it out carefully so that I won't attract too many women. :P I cleaned around a bit in the afternoon. As I was cleaning I thought about what should I do with my PC. It's a decent machine to be 3.5 years old. I'm probably not going make too big of a bucks out of it but the sooner I sell it the better. A subject that has recently caught my interest is Willpower. I could read the book Willpower Instinct To learn more about it. I notice that at the end of the day I'm naturally out of willpower. I'm just wondering whether deciding what to eat in the morning will really matter that much. Well you shouldn't definitely look down on the small decisions. Interesting topic, general knowledge would be beneficial. I think it's time for me to try out a new weekly challenge. This weeks challenge touches social skills. Being a good listener is often said to be one of the most important factor in having good social skills. To improve I'm focusing this week on making sure I'm not interrupting anyone while he/she is speaking. In addition to this I'm going to pay even more attention to what he/she is saying. Also just for fun I'm going to include the no complaining-challenge. The best thing that happened today writing on my personal journal. I made good progress. Today I'm grateful for: Studying german in comprehensive schoolWhitesnake, Here I go againGreat casual weekendLiving in a safe countryPlanning a good schedule for tomorrow

Hello! Big day today, It's my 18th birthday. In Finland I'm now legally considered as an adult, which means that I'm able to vote, drive and enter pubs. Naturally with freedom comes responsibility. There will be plenty of new interesting things to try out! Despite my birthday I was able to go to the gym and maintain my habits well. I've been noticing some random angst recently, not completely sure what is causing it. I'm rereading parts of Carnegie's How to stop worrying and start living and Brown's Daring Greatly. I should not forget the foundation for healthy and positive way of living. A part of the angst is probably caused by thinking too much into the future. Keeping your focus on just the one current day tragically helps me in keeping everything tangible. The best thing that happened today was laughing and doing some acrobatics with my sister! Today I'm grateful for: Going to the pub with my old manDeadlifts went a lot better todayThe bovine and the garlic potatoes we cooked todayThe face wash gel I got as a present, It will be extremely usefulMeeting my relatives tomorrow

Hello! Today was a good day! First week of school is over. Slowly getting back to study mode. We relaxed this friday evening in my friend's place. It was great! The best thing that happened today was dancing. I really enjoy it as an activity! I'm currently tuning my goals. After finishing "Mate" I decided not to rush towards the next book (which will probably be the infamous Think and Grow Rich) but to reread and take concrete advantage of the advice in the book. It's tricky to create effective habits, but I'm sure I'll get more out of the book than if I would just move on to the next book. Tomorrow is going to be big day in some regards, looking forward to it! Today I'm grateful for: RaisinsOur tilestoveSpending the evening with friendsWaltz is fun to danceMeeting a friend who is back from Thailand

Hello! I'm on a tight schedule so I'll need to make it quick. Thank you for your support, it matters a ton to me. The first day of getting back to usual work/school rhythm was like it usually is. It was fun being back and meeting the good old people there. The momentum for the common rhythm will form over time. Today was altogether a productive day. I was able to shorten my to do list with a solid tempo. The best thing that happened today was the conversation I had on a bus with a friend of mine. Tomorrow I'm going to keep working on the projects I still have left and optimally try out catch wrestling. Today I'm grateful for: The support from my familySweet potatoes and Brussels sprouts, cheap and healthyDancing was funWool socks, it was -25° Celsius todayHaving courses with great people

Hello! Today was a good day. I just wrote 3 pages on my personal journal about last year, so a little exhaustion is to be noticed. Today I attained the goals I set for myself: meditated, did the conditioning, took a cold shover, ate well, re-organized my furniture and plenty of other things. What a day. What a year actually. Recapping the events that have happened in my life was astonishing. Last year was so eventful both in good and bad. If this year is going to be anything like the last one it'll be impossible to say what I'm like when writing this post in 2017. I'll work my hardest to keep the direction positive. The past is clear, now it's time to move forward. The best thing that happened today was getting the organizing done. It's awesome to see everything in it's right place place and no unnecessary stuff. I want to thank All of you guys before getting back to my school life. Gamequitters has been an indescribable help for me the past year. Having a forum where I can come together with likeminded and oriented people helps me to keep a direction in my life that I want. Thank You! Sounds Great! S6 seems to have received good reviews as well. I think I'm going to continue my Samsung streak and buy it. Today I'm grateful for: Mozart, Helped me to concentrate on writingCCR, brings up warm memoriesGetting back to school, It's nice to see all the friends againGreek yoghurt, Tastes great with a little muesliThe pastel-shades when it's freezing outside.

@Cam Adair Yeah, that is very true. I should re-read Brown's idea of striving for exellence instead of tying you self-worth into your accomplishments and situation.

Hello! Today has been a good day! I've got everything I wanted done so this is a day won. The best thing that happened today was watching Men's U20 WC-hockey final in which Finland managed to narrowly beat Russia. Great fun watching it with my hockey-enthusiastic friends. While reading @bassitone's journal I could really identify with some of his experiences. I think that some of my problems might stem from what I feel like was some kind of perfectionism that I had as a child. Over time I've learned to let myself me imperfect, but on some areas of my life I feel like it still might affect my behavior, especially in human interaction. Well I don't know guys, sorry if this is on the edge of oversharing. I recon this could be just a far-fetched deduction. Might well be. I'm going to see if my thoughts clears up a bit during the night. Also I want to make sure I'm not making any excuses. If there is something I can get out of it great, if it's just an excuse, okay, let's move forward. Hey guys, I need to ask you a question! What kind of phone would you recommend? I'm currently thinking about buying a Samsung Galaxy S6. Any opinions/Better suggestions? Today I'm grateful for: Green chai tea was enjoyable todayGoing to gym and meeting my palsExited to try juicing out tomorrowGreat sales in clothing stores, going to see them out tomorrowScarves, saving me from pneumonia

How did you find Radical Acceptance? The Shallows really sounds like an interesting book as well!

Hello! Today has been a productive day. My to-do list helping me to get everything done. In the evening I went to do some drilling and sparring with my friend. Had fun and learned a new joint lock. The best thing that happened today was hmm, I guess the whole day actually. Today was a solid, productive and social day. I found out that I had let my self-talk get negative aspects once again, so I wrote the thoughts down, read them aloud and recorded. It's ridiculous how critical you can sometimes be talking to yourself. But just making them concrete takes the edge off them. This method was suggested in Gorilla Mindset by the way. One of my favourite parts of that book. Yeah, I had a pretty similar experience. It was great though since most of the people took it easy and had fun. Today I'm grateful for: Cozy pulloversEggsDance classes coming in the next phaseAfter rolling there is no stiffness in my backGamequitters making profit, It is well-earned!

I found out there was a beginners course that had just begun near my place. I decided to go there and try it out since I wanted a hobby and martial arts sounded interesting. The first time I went there I was put sparring with people without any idea how to roll and knowing one submission. I felt like a train had run over me. But after a while I started understanding the positions and the flow better. Give it a shot if you like! It's hard to tell whether one will enjoy it before trying it out.

Hello! Today was a great day! I was productive and did plenty of the things I wanted. A friend of mine invited me to join her and some of my other friends. We had a lovely evening playing board games, watching a movie and chatting. The best moment of the day was playing and enjoying the new add-on for a classic board game "Afrikan tähti". I introduced some neck and grip conditioning to my morning routine in order to have those little exercises help me with BJJ. Also regarding my morning routine my headspace account has run out of juice. If you have any good alternatives please let me hear them. It feels different meditating without headspace, I need to be more careful while practicing and remember to apply mindfulness to my everyday life. I'm currently feeling that I should try to figure out a staple method to get momentum going with my social skills. I feel like there is something bothering me. I'll work on it if it becomes a trouble. Now I should focus on getting rid of this cold so that I'll be able to hop back to training BJJ. Wrestling while sick will just get my friends sick as well and it can be dangerous to do aerobic exercises even in a common cold. Today I'm grateful for: Grandmothers blackcurrant juice, my secret weapon combating the coldCleaning a moment everyday. A good way to manage this big projectSnow on the ground, finally Breakingmuscle.com, a good source for BJJ articlesAccepting my situation, taking responsibility for it, trying my best and being content with it

@AlexTheGrape Sorry for not answering earlier, my recent posts have been big and a little disorganized. Hmm, nutritionist sounds like a person who could help me with my diet. Also got some great advise from the guys here. I'm also looking forward to getting drivers license since it really is a step that will bring all kinds of possibilities to your reach. Let's keep on keeping on! :^)

Hello! I've set my goals for 2016 today. That's a big step and I'm more than glad that I was able to see what I wanted. They are still in quite a raw form but I feel happy that I have a start or a penny in in the Slight Edge way of thinking. This morning I had no idea about my goals. I woke up did my morning routine and opened "Mate" and the GQ-journals. Feeling like I had not a clear direction I spent my day around the house cleaning, cooking and stretching. After sun set at 15.15 pm I decided to take a walk outside. While walking through the forest I noticed a feeling. One that I had felt last half a year ago. The feeling of no direction, emptiness to be honest. As I continued walking I came to a lake. Stood there for a while. After just being there a thought popped into my head, "What advice would I give myself if I could speak to my half a year younger self?" (Summer was a time when I was struggling the most with getting my life together) After a while of thinking it through the lens of helping my former self I was able to set 3 goals for myself. Goal 1, A blue belt in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu Time to accomplish: a year and 3 months I want to improve in this sport. It gave me plenty of satisfaction and confidence when I first started doing it. After a while I started to neglect some trainings because I felt I was too busy with school and other activities. But I know BJJ gave me a lot of sense of meaning to my life. I improved in it even though it sometimes felt like I was just getting stomped round after another. The way I'm going to work towards this goal is to get my drivers license so that I will be able to train with tighter schedule. I'm also introducing some grip and neck conditioning to my morning routine. And most importantly I'll work on training consistently and forming a habit out of practising. I need to work on the cue and the reward. Goal 2, Learning about dating Time to accomplish my goals: 6 months and five days I want to create deeper and more intimate relationships with women. I have more specific goals, but I'd like to keep them personal, after all this is quite a personal are of my life I'll work towards this goal by: specifically selecting and improving specific areas of mate value, especially socially, mentally and aesthetically.Creating a good Tinder profile. Get some confidence with my conversation skills. We have the finnish version of prom next phase so that'll be a great opportunity to meet and have fun with girls i don't know yet.I will present Goal 3 once I've shaped it out. I'll write these all out and write about progressing in them in this journal from this point onward. I'm making myself accountable for accomplishing these goals. I don't want to put this work in and end up with a list that only attenuated my craving for a meaning for a while. Today I'm grateful for: Feeling that I have a clear directionAmazing mushroom pie my mother made todayFinland beating Canada in hockey (Just for you Cam, jk)Still having a week time to clarify my goals before the school startsMeditating, accepting the things you can't change helps with moving forwardI'd like to end this with a quote by Carlson Gracie, from the famous Gracie family:

Happy New Year Everybody! I missed yesterday's entry due to celebrating new year with my friends. We had tons of fun together. Today I've been regaining my strength. I've kept up with my habits and done good progress today. The best moment today was an early conversation I had with a friend of mine. Altogether I've had the joy of having really meaningful conversations with my friends lately. Once again the question about sexual transmutation pops into my head. I'm trying out an optimal streak by trying 10-20-30-day cycle. It's important to find the most personally fitting cycle. I'm currently feeling bit perplexed about my goals altogether. I shall keep looking for the things I actually want in life and work towards them. Visioning something big splitting the bigger into smaller, precise attainable parts and working towards the big goal through the small goals consistently. I need to put these cool words into actions, not just write them out in in my journal here. To be honest I feel like I'm out of motivation currently. Probably due to sleep deprivation hangover and partly due to releasing my sexual tensions. But to rely on motivation is a train that will at some point easily run out of track. Rather than motivation I feel like the momentum from the small habits is what is currently keeping me going. Well off to a good sleep right now. 2016 here I come! Today I'm grateful for: I just spoke for momentum over motivation but hell, how can you be unmotivated while listening to Van Halen - JumpNo headache todayBeing able to talk through things with friendsBrazil nuts, they taste awesomeSmoked food, some adds great flavourEven though New year's eve is just a day in the year it still feels like somewhat of a new beginning

Thanks guys! I'm currently listening to music with Sennheiser HD219. Been working great for many years now! With diet it's probably true that common sense, general knowledge and balance between the natural ingredients goes a long way. I'm going to improve my diet by trying new dishes and juicing out.

Congratulations Tom! It's awesome to have been with here with you the 90 days. Give yourself a good pat on the back mate!

Hello! Today has been a bit on the unproductive side. Getting sports back to routine helps me manage my days. I need to learn how to arrange social meetings better, since a part of the reason today was unproductive was failing to effectively contact people. Waking up late makes it easier to skip the breakfast, so I need to pay attention to eating properly as well. Well that's a plenty of fixing to do. There were plenty of positive things today as well. Cooking a good meal, reading, listening to podcasts, cleaning up and watching a good documentary. The best moment of the day was eating Thai food with my father. It was a great alternative for chinese food that we eat more commonly. The idea of diet has been circling in my mind for a while. There are many experts promoting different kind of diets that don't necessarily match with each other. Paleo diet has a great idea but I think it lacks some evidence to be complete. The finnish diet generally consists of lots of milk, rye, wheat and pasta. Nearly all of them are on the paleo's nono-list. For now I'm trying to eat as low processed and well-rounded as possible. I'll need to try things out. The documentary I watched today "Fat, Sick & Nearly Dead" told about benefits of micronutrient rich diet and it was genuinely awesome! Introducing some sort of blended vegetable/fruit shake to my daily diet would be great. Not to go too ham with it, maybe around once or twice a week. If you guys have insights on food and nutrition I'd love to hear them! It's awesome to read a lot of positive posts around the forum. For instance Tom's 90 days and Alex being back in action. Great job guys! Laney - I picked it up on Tucker's podcast Django - Your whole name screams Tarantino. I've liked especially Django, Inglorious Basterds and Pulp Fiction. Need to watch From Dusk Till Dawn when I have the time. Today I'm grateful for: Acoustic guitar songsThai foodThe documentary I watched, It was great to see the "Ripple Effect" in actionSelf-compassionate willpower mindsetGood headphones