Best Toby Oce

Wow, what a story my man! Truly that made me feel pumped for your progress! I'm very sorry about your family, and I wish you your family the very best for the future. I'm a single 21 year old so I can't even fathom how that must feel for you but honestly I hope it works for the best. Some things I can actually speak about though, is what you can do otherwise. If you've read Cam's 'Respawn', you may know about it, but regardless, i'll put in my own two cents. You need to occupy the time spent gaming with other things, other hobbies. Cam has a hobby tool where you can get some ideas, or maybe you have goals you want to meet already and have things in mind. For me personally, I cannot stress the point of investing in yourself enough. I would HIGHLY recommend you read brother, and I have a few recommendations if you want to know where to get started. Essentialism: Greg Mckeown - i'm reading this book for the fourth time right now. Every time my eyes open to something new. To put it simply, this book is about being an essentialist. The way of the essentialist involves doing less, but better, so you can make the highest possible contribution. The power of this is profound, very highly recommend. The power of habit: Charles Duhigg - This is a highly recommended book by Cam, too. It goes into the science of habits and how you can use it to change your own. It's very powerful. The tips in here are helping me move past bad habits such as gaming (and helping me formulate new, good habits), it's life changing. Atomic Habits: James Clear - This book is kind of similar to The power of Habit, but I feel like it's more practical in application and less scientific based. Still a VERY good read, and probably a good follow up book to the power of habit, but you'd be perfectly fine reading either this or the power of habit alone. 7 Habits of highly productive people: Stephen Covey - i'll admit, I haven't read this yet, but it's on my bookshelf. Many have said this is an amazing book and its been a best seller for ages, so I guess it's worth a read, too. Aside from books, the youtube channel "College info geek" and it's associated podcast (with the same name) has also helped me be more productive, too. (I should note he no longer focuses on college, as he's been around for a while and since graduated, he focuses on a lot of things...he introduced me to this website, actually!) Again, I really hope things get better for you, my dude. I understand quitting gaming can be a lonely journey, but is it possible you could stay in contact with gaming friends through other platforms such as facebook or skype? Regardless, i'd be more than happy to keep in touch with you, should you wish. Best wishes, Toby

Hi all, my name's Toby (and i'm not an alcoholic) I know a lot of gaming addicts have dramatic stories about how their life was turned entirely upside down by video games and how bad it got (like cam and his suicide note). But for me, things aren't that bad...here's a quite run down. So, I work part-time as a waiter/barista at a restaurant in which I'm told I will be becoming an assistant manager soon. I study full time as a commerce student as well and my grades are great. I'll admit, i'm hard on myself with them and know I can solidify my knowledge of the content better (even though I tend to get 6's(75%+) and 7's(85%+) on a 7 point gpa scale). I have a website/blog which I haven't posted regularly on in some time (you can check it out here), but I intend to do that a bit more when I quit. I'm a big guy who has lost a lot of weight in the past but i've stagnated in the last year and have put on 10kg again. I'm exercising and trying to get this back down, but I think the stress I got playing League of Legends made me eat more and so i'm back up 10+kg. I love to read non-fiction books and I listen to podcasts. Typing this out, I feel like im gloating a little, and I apologize if I do offend someone. Basically I'm just trying to say that I'd hardly say i'm an addict, per sae. Though recently, over a two week holiday period in which I INTENDED to get a whole lot of assignments done in, I spammed league games day after day. I've effectively wasted most of my holiday playing league. I want to know what I can do without games. 'Imagine what I could do if I didn't play so much' I think to myself. So I wanna test that out. I thought I wouldn't need to do a detox, but I want to prove to myself that i'm not an addict and I can control myself sometimes. Games have been part of my life since I was four years old, though. I'm worried that i'll be bored and relapse because I've only ever really found a whole lot of joy in video games. I'm really anxious about it, but i'm committed to 90 days. I'll be packing away my nintendo switch and uninstalling league. It may not be goodbye to games forever, but at least for 90 days. I'll also be posting my daily thoughts throughout the challenge on my website, if anyone wants to follow along (again, you can see that here). PS: sorry for sounding like a privileged douche and linking my website. I don't wanna be that guy, but I do want to be honest with you guys.