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  1. Journal 9th Page (14/05/16) DETOX TIME Day 47 Hey everyone, had a fantastic few weeks. I have moved out of the girlfriends house, got accepted to do nursing training at my local university and spent a lot of time with old friends. Already meet some amazing new people and am continuing to push myself to go out as much as I can! I am excited and very nervous about going back to university to study again and am glad I wont have to move away from my friends. Its a shame that I have to leave my current job as I have enjoyed more than any job previously but I release that to do the things I want to do I am going to need job prospects that go above what I can realistically achieve just working in care. Seeing the ex a few times to organise moving things out of the house has been super awkward but no surprise there ! Got to pay for my half of the rented house till the end of September so that is not cheap, but would be far worse if I had to live there till then. Have tried my hand at the wonderfully fucked up world that is on line dating again.Don't really see it working out given how many crazy girls I have met through it previously but will see how it goes. Am really happy with how bust I am at the moment anyway so not desperate to find anyone else ! Detox is going great too, haven't had any physical symptoms from my depression/anxiety and sleeping well. So that is it for me right now, I am out !
  2. Journal 8th Page (17/04/16) DETOX TIME Day 20 WOW ! What a difference a week makes... Breaking the Girlfriend Trap The last few days have been insane ! Meeting the new band members meant I met a great girl who might not really be my type but did show me that my girlfriend isn't the only girl in the world ! Had a long chat with my old friends and was nice to get their opinions on quitting gaming, going to uni and most importantly breaking up with the girlfriend. Knowing I have the backing of the people that know me best makes all the difference. While breaking up with the girlfriend can't be done super quickly because I live with her I am at least able to start making steps towards getting out of the house. For once the idea of being single doesn't actually bother me, probably because as harsh as it sounds. None of the best memories of this year so far have been with her. Just a quick journal entry tonight but got a good plan and some goals moving forward so I am pretty happy !
  3. Hey man great to see you on here. Can't recommend this forum enough. There are lots of challenges you will face as you go though this process but taking it one day at a time and realising your strengths and weaknesses will make a big difference. I wish you luck
  4. "This is another problem I struggle with. I'm really good at money management but I fail to 'not' spend money" Definitely something I still need to work on too !
  5. Journal 7th Page (09/04/16) DETOX TIME Day 12 Day 12.. Pretty damn happy with that. Had a few arguments with the girlfriend recently, worked long shifts at work, have slept over at work too and all without gaming at all ! Went to a university interview day yesterday and did really well in the tests and the interviews so feeling pretty confident about that. The course I want to do is probably only going to be funded by the government for this next year before they rack up the prices to the point when its not even worth it so will have to take that into account if I am offered a place. Haven't met up with friends a lot because of work but still chatting with them when I get the odd free moment so can't complain ! Going to see some new musicians later on today to meet up about starting a new band and while I doubt it will come to anything will be fun to go somewhere new and meet some new people. Get to drive to into Cambridge too so will be good to see somewhere relatively close that I have never seen before. Have realised that taking things one day at a time really does make all the difference. While I am nowhere near where I want to be, I can at least say I am moving in the right direction for a change. Its certainly better than no direction at all !
  6. Would love to try meditation and definitely think it would help me but have no idea how to begin. Any tips you can give me would be appreciated
  7. Thanks Cam ! I have indeed joined the study
  8. Thanks Cam ! I have indeed joined the study
  9. Much appreciated thanks Definitely need to get a good morning routine worked out !
  10. Journal 6th Page (30/03/16) DETOX TIME Day 2 Decided to completely stop gaming again. I have been playing a bit on lots of different games and consoles over the last few weeks and while I haven't spent a lot of time on each one I I don't want to get drawn into spending money or indeed any more time on something I am definitely not enjoying as much as I once did. So with that in mind today I uninstalled Steam. Something which took my laptop a long time considering how many games I have installed ! Next I have given myself a deadline of the end of May to get rid of my Xbox 1 and 360. Been mentioning it to friends and my girlfriend the last few days too so that should help with accountability! Time to find out if going cold turkey and doing the detox will help. It sure can't make things worse Taking extra shifts at work so while that won't leave me a lot of spare time in the next couple of weeks it will at least help get me out the small debt hole I have. Finally got in contact with a few fitness group around my area too so can start getting a bit healthier too, just walking more and eating a healthier isn't enough.Only thing I need to do before going to work now is decide a good way to celebrate once I get to 90 days without gaming!Got to keep the positive thoughts coming and come up with more goals to put on the calendar too Favourite Lyrics at the moment "How young are you gonna be when you die?I guess I've never really thought about thatYou're dying when you start thinking like thatAll I know is time is undefeated so far"
  11. I am in Bedfordshire, in Flitwick if you know it, basically between Bedford and Luton. I haven't been doing the gaming detox, mainly just been been cutting down the hours of gaming I do per week atm but might start the detox in the future if need be Yeah yeah I know it, have some family there :), what a small world ^^. N yeah I'm coming up to a month's detox I may start again moderately to see how it goes. Yeah well definitely let me know how it goes for you. I have just decided today to start the detox and see how I go. Haven't got anything to lose that is for sure !
  12. Journal 5th Page (23/03/16) The new job is going well so far, looking forward to getting paid finally! Get on with everyone at work really well which helps. Chatting with new musicians in hopes of starting a new band which will be awesome (I play bass, piano and trumpet). Looking forward to saving up money over the summer and deciding where I want to go on holiday next summer or next March (for my birthday). At the moment the top of the list goes to Reykjavik. Husky / reindeer sledging, hot springs and the Northern lights sound pretty sweet to me ! So as the job is going well and I am assuming it will continue to the next challenges are 1. Get fitter. I got on the scales last week and I have never wieghted more so that needs to change big time. So gonna look into fitness groups around Bedfordshire as well as do more workouts at home. 2. Decide whether I am happy living with my girlfriend or not. Now this one is a bit trickier because at the moment I am experiencing depression and anxiety and obviously don't want to walk away from something good if that is the reason for the problem. I am taking counselling and going through the motions through but am starting to get mentally prepared to leave if I need to. Think I would be quite happy living alone and I know my family and friends would be supportive so that helps. So that is me up to date anyway, let's see what the next few weeks bring
  13. DUDE I'm from Houghton Regis! Where abouts you from? Are you still on the gaming detox? Hey Damn that is close to me !! I am in Bedfordshire, in Flitwick if you know it, basically between Bedford and Luton. I haven't been doing the gaming detox, mainly just been been cutting down the hours of gaming I do per week atm but might start the detox in the future if need be
  14. I can definitely relate to this. I've never chased dreams either. I hardly know what my dreams are because I haven't done anything else besides play videogames my entire life. I'm hoping to change that. I imagine you are too. We'll do it together. Sounds great to me , wish me luck!
  15. Hey Smoked Beef, also looking forward to more journal entries from you. Good luck for the next 90 days !
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