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On 12/19/2023 at 4:37 PM, Amphibian220 said:
Im feeling anxious because I just got assigned to a new manager at work who is very demanding.
I am scared of a real prospect of being dismissed. I have rent and bills to pay and losing this work can put me in an uncertain situation. Im looking for new work already in my spare time because I don't know how long I will be able to get work done at this high standard.
Edit: Im losing sleep over this issue so I need to go play soccer outside until I get so tired I can no longer stand.
You could also end up being this manager's favorite worker. Make sure to ask them their preferred communication style, what they expect out of someone in your role and how to succeed with them. Show that and they'll know you're ready. Just keep your cool and be you.
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I read an article about how big companies were trying to lay people off and they'd start with forcing people back to the office to see how many would quit before official layoffs. Twitter, Facebook, and Amazon just did it. It's a business strategy. I think my company will do the same and essential people don't be effected. So I'm thinking I'll be ok. We'll see.
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My boss just said we might go back to a hybrid working schedule. I don't want to commute in traffic again. Fuck. This sucks.
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I've been dealing with weight shame by snacking less and trying to stand more at my desk rather than sitting. I know that won't do much but it's been helping.
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I worked 60 hours this week because 4 submittal days changed to this Friday rather than a couple weeks. How is that possible lol. But I'm tired. Didn't write at all this week but I'll try this weekend.
I didn't eat that well this week but I made sure to keep good hygiene.
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17 hours ago, Amphibian220 said:
This is a quality post.
You’ve detected an underlying need just in time. It wouldn't have happened without an effort on your part.
from Cam’s post, people overeat because they fail to realize they need a glass of water. (Thirst not treated properly)
I can now see harmful habits as decoy traps engineered to harm health.
Thank you. Lots of research and being able to stop myself and ask why before I give into a craving. I find it very powerful. Sometimes just a hug really helps. I know everyone does not have this, so maybe there are other ways that are healthy.
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8 hours ago, Pochatok said:
This is so wonderful- I'm so glad it worked for you, and hope it will work for me if/when necessary 🙂
Keep searching for reasons you watch if this is an addiction issue. I used to get bored of the sex in porn videos and only watch for the intimacy. It was deep rooted desire for companionship in the only way I knew. Now I have true companionship.
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I wrote almost 2000 words this weekend and am almost done with another chapter of my book. I think I'll finish the rough draft by this coming summer. I'm very happy with my progress. There are days where I think I could have written or that I should be done by now but I've never made this much progress before and video games give a false sense of what progress actually means. Not everything can be measured the same way.
I also felt like watching a lot of porn this weekend during times of stress. I solved this by asking for hugs from my wife and just realizing I needed emotional comfort. The cravings went away instantly.
I exercised today and flossed more this week.
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I'm pretty ashamed about my weight and how I run out of breath going up the stairs. I'd like to try being more active and want to start slow with some yoga during the week.
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On 11/27/2023 at 10:50 AM, TonyMelo said:
So, I used to be a hardcore gamer back in the day. I used to be a competitive CS gamer and, later, I got really into world of warcraft, where I used to raid every night and spend all my free time.
Some years ago, I was able to quit playing videogames, managed to get a really good job that allowed me to have a very confortable financial life, got married and have a 6 year old daughter. I think I can say I'm doing good. Sometimes, like a few weeks ago, I relapse and try to play again, with some moderation, but I always end up having to quit because it is getting out of control. Last thursday I quit from diablo immortal and am feeling some of the drawback effects. Hard to be interested on other stuff, getting angry really easy and feeling depressed.
What I wanted to ask you all about was about switching from one addiction to another. When I first quit videogames I focused on being more social and getting a girlfriend. After I managed to do that, I started spending all my time studying to get a good job. After that, my focus was on my job and reading. I feel like I can't enjoy something unless I obsess about it, and when I get a big drawback on that obssession, I end up thinking about games again as a way to deal with my frustrations.
Anyone else feels like you are just constantly switching from one addiction to another?I quit gaming and started watching porn heavily. It made me realize I had a porn addiction as well as gaming and I had to go to therapy to come up with healthy stress outlets.
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9 hours ago, MotivationalYoungin said:
But these aren't really that important tbh since it's just more tv.
When I first quit gaming I started looking back to things that made me happy. It's kind of weird, but I didn't even associate anything that made me happy with the 15 years of gaming. I instantly went back to legos. So it takes some trial and error.
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I've flossed my teeth 4 times in the past 2 weeks after writing about it in the shameless Saturday post. It's the most I've flossed in months. I'm really happy about it. I'm also feeling better about my mood overall and how I'm doing in life.
I think I'm gonna keep up the posts on Saturdays. I also wrote another chapter of my book.
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On 11/24/2023 at 6:00 PM, Bagradain said:
Seeking solutions.
For what?
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12 hours ago, Amphibian220 said:
have to work the steps of recovery and participate in sport even when I’m ill.
What if you created a regimented restoration time to heal and recover? You're very strict with yourself. I think that is tough to maintain unless you can balance it.
If this system works for you then maybe you create a rest period where you only do certain things for that set of time to recover.
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I've taken a lot of steps to restore myself this weekend after a very stressful few weeks. I've taken lots of naps, done tons of house work and cleaning, and wrote 3000 words for my book.
I feel so happy with myself. I haven't been able to write for weeks. I needed this and feel good that I provided myself this feeling.
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On 12/1/2023 at 7:33 AM, Antoni said:
Sometimes I quickly gave up doing hard things because of prior commitments.
Careful calling this a loss. I think it's a smart thing to do, to prioritize commitments and recognize how you're spending time.
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I told my wife that I get power trips from anger because it was the only thing that gave me strength and hope as a kid, and even though my temper is better now, I need to work on how I react when I'm backed into a corner. I explained how she can help and how I need to work through things.
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For last week's shameless Saturday I flossed my teeth because I'm ashamed of my dental health and neglect flossing. I felt cleaner and happier. I want to floss at least once a week now.
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People recovering from addiction often turn to addiction to hide from the power of feeling shame. Shame can take many forms. Rather than hiding from shame, I think it's important to face it head on when you're ready. You'll know when you're ready when you're tired of hiding.
Rules: just post something you did to combat something you're ashamed or embarrassed about. Don't need to write a huge post.
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It's ok. I've got this.
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Absolutely quit watching gaming. It's a major trigger to relapse if you want to quit gaming.
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I had to miss my writing coach meeting this week because I needed extra therapy after a difficult week. But I'm not upset about this. I solved my issue at therapy and have a great sense of relief and happiness now. I'll continue to write and I only have to wait 1 extra week for writing.
I'm thinking of starting a post in the community forum about doing something to help you overcome something you're ashamed about. I'm gonna call it shameless Saturdays or something.
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On 11/28/2023 at 8:32 AM, FDRx7 said:
Agreed. I hopped on for about 10 minutes and was witness to a long reactionary debate about religion vs atheism. Not really the place for that. I felt like I was on Reddit or something. I only use the forum now. It's important that people are encouraging to one another on this journey. Things like that don't help. There also seems to be those who are there specifically to make others' lives more difficult, almost like putting a bottle of wine in front of an alcoholic and saying, "It's not cheating if you just smell it."
It's a bad environment for sure. I honestly wrote a huge rant about it and edited my post because it wasn't worth it.
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11 hours ago, FDRx7 said:
Yes, I think you're right. I turned it over in my mind last night, seeing as my mood was pretty low. It was an all around frustration, feeling tired and angry. On the surface was a feeling of not making progress, but I know that wasn't entirely true. I think it was more holding myself to a standard that is not always achievable.
I pushed very hard over the past 3 months to really change things in my life. I had failed over and over in the past. This time I wanted it to be different, and it was. I've made incredible progress. Now it's time to pull back for a bit, focus on the most important pieces, and build slowly from there.
I appreciate your comment. Burnout is no good. I've been there before and I should heed the signs.
This is something I've been trying to highlight for a while now. We're very focused on achieving goals and I think it's really important to heal and rest. I'm not doing hobbies as much, but when I do them, I'm making incredible progress and feel like I enjoy it more.
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Ending My YouTube Addiction
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I always tell people it's gonna take 3 weeks or so for your mind to stabilize after quitting an addiction.
This is very real. I used to write such elaborate posts with titles and stuff, but it turns into a job. I think you gotta use Journaling as a means to support and heal yourself. The long posts are exhausting and I see so many people do them and quit. So kudos to you for doing it for the whole 90 days.
Great job!! I'm glad you're sticking around and look forward to seeing future developments.