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Hmmge
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How is it going my man?
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You're waiting for external circumstances to make you feel better. Even though treatments can make your body stronger, that is only a small factor compared to your own mind. What if the doctor doesn't have anything useful for you? Are you just gonna give up? Are you only going to fight hard if someone else gives you a bone? That's like flipping a coin. If you retain this mindset, there will be another external circumstance that will put you down and then you'll say the same thing. "If only XYZ didn't happen/happened!". One of the main tenets of self-development is taking responsibility for your situation. Doesn't matter what bad or good things happen to you, it's always YOU who chooses how to respond to it. And the range of responses you have available is massively wider than you think. Don't wait for someone else to fix you. Fight the hardest you can to take the absolute best action at every moment and if somebody makes it easier for you - cool, you can run faster. If somebody makes it harder for you - cool, you still keep going. You are the master of your life, not some dumb bacteria or a doctor or whatever the fuck.
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Are you sure you can't think of other outlets? And do you even want to just find an outlet to 'waste time'? I can think of tens of ideas on the spot even if I broke both of my legs(I really don't know what you have so I'm just kidding around:) ). Try to sleep on it, meditate, visualize, think of what you want to do with time and then if you can't figure anything out, let us know. Of course it's always 100% your decision, I'm just verbalizing how I would approach things(theoretically, the implementation is a struggle for me too!)
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Welcome back. Awesome that you came back so fast! This is a long-term oriented process so don't worry about it. It wasn't all for nothing - you went for 58 days! That's incredible! Imagine how much time you would have wasted otherwise and how different would you feel if you hadn't succeeded for 58 days!
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I know what you mean. I have friends that would like to come over, but the idea of it actually happening is scaring me a bit. How did it go?
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On 2/28/2019 at 11:16 PM, Average_Guy said:
Maybe I'll get some more insight into whether or not I can consume gaming content (videos not streaming) at all later..
No. Absolutely not, don't do it, it's a trap. Consuming gaming content only makes you cling to the old life and identity of a gamer, it reinforces your mental relationships with the players/streamers and makes you want to play again. And EVEN IF that would somehow magically not be the case - what would be the point of consuming gaming media anyway? Ask yourself why do you want to watch that stuff? Does it help you progress towards your goals? Does it help you relax? If so, is there not enough amazing non-gaming content that does the same or better job? Does it make you happier? More healthy? More present? I would wager it's the opposite. Quitting gaming is just the first essential step, but there is more to this whole process - it's to change your lifestyle to be more aligned with your values and aspirations. For that, we need to give up some of this comfort, it's just not worth it.
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"Few days after quitting..."
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1 hour ago, katsudo19 said:
I experienced incredible emotional pain and numbness.
What happened?
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On 2/22/2019 at 8:55 PM, Phoenixking said:
Well, I've been working in a dull office for a while and this is kind of me taking the jump and daring to find a more fulfilling career. I have many things that I'm capable of or passionate about, the main one being talking and speaking to people and helping them grow. But it takes a while for new skills to grow, let alone actually being able to market and sell them and live off them. So starting from the 1st of March, I'll be working part-time at the boring office and I'll have 4 days a week (weekend included) that I'll be filling in as I seem fit. I'll probably worry a lot about money and do stuff like actualy make a home office. But I'll also go to castings and try to audition for stuff and I'll try and figure out along the way what I want to be doing. Short term I'll be making money by acting, doing improv and public speaking. So lots of trying to get gigs and next month I'll already be teaching improv, so I'm trying to get several revenue streams. The months after that, wel... It's a mystery! My girl is a psychologist and thinks that coaching would suit me well. But I have many skills to develop, I feel, before I dare say that I'm ready for that. But I could also try my hand at social media or marketing. I could start a blog about communication or emotions... There's just so much ambition!
I absolutely love this so much! I have been toying with an idea to go part-time after I finish my degree as well and make music with the rest of the time, but it's still about half a year away so I'm not planning that yet. I wish you so much that you succeed, I think this is living the dream, this is sick!
On 2/24/2019 at 10:22 PM, Phoenixking said:"Ik hou van je"
Do you live in Amsterdam by any chance? If you don't wanna disclose for the sake of anonymity that's fine. I was just thinking of doing some kind of meetup at some point, if there's enough game quitters in NL.
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I think it can be okay for some people. I personally have a very deep addiction, but soundtracks don't trigger any cravings for me, even if I'm listening to tracks that I've listened to while gaming. That being said:
On 2/19/2019 at 7:33 PM, ArcadianChild said:Because I would admit, when I listen to the music I remember the good times and that makes harder to let them go.
this means clearly it's not a good idea in your case. There's a lot of mind-blowing music out there, the few gaming OST albums are not worth it.
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51 minutes ago, Phoenixking said:
I have an improv show Saturday night and during the day a workshop about how to teach classes of improv. My first class I'll be teaching is in April. I don't really know if it's going to be making me any money, but the experience is more valuable at this point. I need to educate myself more and prove on my resume that I'm capable and experienced. Elien also pointed out that the volunteering she does for a phone center for people in need could be useful for me because I mentioned wanting to help or coach people and because they give great training. I did agree, but nuanced that I might need to look a bit closer. My only actual proven skills are acting, performing and speaking. Those will be my bread and butter for now. I'll have to pick 1 more aspect, only 1 more longterm goal to work on this year. Will it be starting a blog? Will it be training to be a coach? Will it be educating myself in social media or copywriting or content creation? I have to be focused because if my spectrum is too wide, results won't come fast enough and I'm not made of money. I think it's good that I take things so seriously, but we'll have to evaluate things every month at a time.
May I ask where you're going with this? I haven't really been following your journal so far, but this sounds spicy ?
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I'm on this plan.
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On 2/8/2019 at 4:55 AM, BooksandTrees said:
Hey,
Don't fucking give up. I'm telling you right now you're here for a fucking reason. It's ok to waste your nights sometimes. As game quitters, we feel the pressure to succeed and make progress in things at all hours of the day. We need to do well at work, come home, eat as fast as possible, and play games to progress our characters, story lines, and exp rates. We need to win and feel progress. This isn't real.
We're not going to make progress each and every night. That's why gaming made us sick. We exhausted ourselves and didn't heal over time. We kept trying to progress and it took a toll on our body and mind. Quitting games is knowing that some nights are meant to relax. Some nights you are allowed to do nothing. If we want to do something, it's hard to start new things. I really think you should take the time to find a large picture hobby and a few small picture ones. I'm producing a full length cartoon from scratch as my main project. I tried podcasting and didn't like it after a while. I like to read sometimes, but not all the time, I like to cook, I like watching hockey all of the time, I watch a few cartoons, I write a lot, and I try to see friends.
This isn't the thing I'll be doing forever, but I'm trying to keep doing new things until I do find those things I love. I still love the gym and yoga, but I haven't had time. I'm determined to stay the course because I know gaming broke my heart and I know it broke yours too.
Remember the reasons you came here. Write them down, print them out, and tape it to your wall. Treat yourself like a loved one. If you saw your brother crying alone in his room and you asked why he was sad, and he says "I regret all of these things in my life because I gamed instead of lived. I never gave myself the chance to do these things and I am suffering for x amount of reasons..." What would you say?
I know you're hurting right now, but take 30 minutes to relax, go to bed and start again tomorrow. Make a commitment to yourself this weekend to come up with a few long term and short term activities to try and jump into them. Journal about them.
Don't go back. Do not go back. Do not give up on that spark inside of you. We are game quitters, not life quitters. Moderation does not work. It will work temporarily and then you'll start to get happier the more you game and you're going to relapse back to where you were and potentially worse. Don't you dare quit. Don't fucking do it.
Damn I should put THIS on my wall lol. I felt every word of it, very true.
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Love the attitude! I wish you so much that you succeed! I'm back on the forums now so I'll be checking ?
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19 hours ago, karabas said:
Obviously, the biggest win is that I'm still not watching vids. I'm almost 2 months into it now, which is huge. The only issue has been my partial return to facebook usage, but it's been fairly mild so far. I'll try to wind it back again.
This is like guiness world record worthy wow.
Holidays always mess us up. Personally, I've come to dislike christmas for this reason. The association with video games is way too strong in my brain, because christmas was the first time I started playing online ever since my parents gifted me a copy of warcraft 3 as a kid. Let's get our habits back together!
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3 minutes ago, karabas said:
Plus, I'm still not watching videos or playing games. I'm now past my previous record of video detox and I'm past 120 days of no gaming. Pretty awesome
14 days sleep before midnight as well man that's epic. Your work hours don't add up to me though, if you sleep 8 hours per day and don't waste time on games or media. Do you spend all the rest on chores, family and religious study? I'm just curious, you don't have to answer of course.
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10 hours ago, Silverlining said:
2) I stopped using my Pomodoro app most of the time. I still use the Pomodoro technique, but mostly using a 30-min hourglass. One reason is that the app is on the phone, and inevitably I need to check my phone to use it every time, which may lead to distraction. The other reason is that I don't want to be too strict with the time limit on each session. When I watch a lecture video, I prefer to stop at the end of the video, instead of having a 5-min leftover. And especially when I am coding, sometime I just can't stop when the alarm rings.
You can use an online desktop app like Pomodoro-tracker.com for computer work. When I usually also don't take the breaks and just keep it ticking. You can also just press skip.
Besides that, sounds like you're doing great, good job!
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6 minutes ago, Deku said:
I'm just flat out ready to end this semester at this point.
Duuuuude exactly. Please let this year end already lmao.
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I'll just leave this image that @Silverliningposted some time ago in my journal to encourage me. It's very important to keep it in mind at all times.
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18 hours ago, Silverlining said:
In general, this week has been fine. Everything is normal. We didn't watch any movies. I exercised every day. Although an RPG that I had been looking forward to for a few years has released recently. I was tempted. Then we decided that after I hit 90 days, my husband would play it while I watch. It's supposed to be story rich so it would be like watching an anime series. I don't think I have a problem with solo RPGs. These is no social aspect like in an MMORPG. There are no daily quests. No "guild members" or "friends" expect me to get online every night. And there are no raids so that I can stop playing any time I want, without worrying about not being a "team player". And it's a one-time thing -- I have never played an RPG twice. And I have only played a handful of RPGs in my whole life. Although I'm not sure if it will be a trigger to relapse. But there are still 40 days so I don't want to worry about it now.
I would not recommend trying this. EVEN IF this doesn't trigger you to relapse, it's still a massive massive time-sink(assuming it's RDR2 or a similarly long RPG). I think this is just cravings from both of you calling. There are activities that will bring more long-term fullfillment and it's almost never worth spending time on a long game, in my opinion.
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1 hour ago, karabas said:
Also, I've put in a good amount of time into developing my business. I have a lot of the marketing collateral done, so I might even have time to work on generating some content. That way I'll be able to do some sales right away in the new year. Let's see.
Nice. Is this the online course you were talking about earlier?
Also, your video detox means absolutely no videos, right? Pretty hardcore haha
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1 hour ago, Silverlining said:
And now, I know exactly how many productive hours I have every day. So I can't afford to procrastinate any more. On the other hand, when I have a big project or a bigger dream, I feel confident that if I have a plan to work on it consistently, I can make it happen.
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So true! ??? So many years went by as if the time disappeared when gaming, with little results to speak of.
The sense of belonging to a community that is striving to grow and thinks critically and holistically is HUGE and very understated. Journaling here has been a major breakthrough in my life personally - it keeps me very consistent. I'd like to spread this idea more, somehow... Anyways, keep crushing it!
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Step in the right direction, welcome and good luck!
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Have I sent you this already? I've been posting this vid a few times on this forum, but don't remember where. I really believe this thing is crucial and very few people are aware of these basic concepts of human behavior.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F1fAWT6eRWA