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  1. Zaxxon added a post in a topic Thinking about proposing to girlfriend but worried that I may not have enough groomsmen   

    Hi LilChenChen,
    Not sure if this post is too late or not but, I would suggest that if you are planning on asking her to marry you, that you not let this issue stand in your way. Being honest with your girlfriend/fiancé regarding the issue is a good way to start off the marriage. If she says yes, (congrats!) then you should talk about this sooner rather than later. This way you can both plan on a similar number for each side of the bridal party. If she has tons of brothers and sisters and your family is smaller, then it can almost work in your advantage in a cute/funny way. I guess the bottom line of what I'm saying is.... if you are asking her to marry you... you are asking her to accept you completely. If she knows that this is a topic that could cause you embarrassment, then she will shift her plans to meet yours. Hope this helps. 
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  2. Zaxxon added a post in a topic Life long addict taking step 1.   

    Just wanted to send a big thank you to all of you. Having your support truly means a lot to me. Evergreen Axe, I feel you about Destiny and I think the one part of your message that ring so true is that gaming can literally feel like hooking yourself up to the internet and letting it suck your life away. It feels good while you are doing it. But it's the time not spent on the things that truly matter that is the biggest loss of all. 
    Thanks for the welcome everyone!
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  3. Zaxxon added a post in a topic Life long addict taking step 1.   

    Thanks Reno. I appreciate it.  One night down. I spent last night working on a tune and it felt great. 
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  4. Zaxxon added a post in a topic Life long addict taking step 1.   

    Thanks Cam. I'm happy to be here. 
     
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  5. Zaxxon added a topic in Start Here + Introductions   

    Life long addict taking step 1.
    Hi Game Quitter Forum,
     
    My name is Zack. I’m a musician living in Pennsylvania in the USA. 
     
    To say that entering into this program to quit playing video games is a big step for me is an understatement. I had a revelation this morning while watching Cam’s video “Why You Should Stop Playing Video Games” on YouTube. It was, and still is, very hard for me to admit but, I am now 40 years old and I am a lifelong video game addict. 
     
    My upbringing was rough. My mom was a flight attendant and my father was a workaholic attorney. The net result of this was that I was alone much more than a young child should be. I was a latch key kid. As early as third grade, I would sometimes be left alone for days. For as long as I remember I had a video game console, starting with the first Atari. I am sure that in the beginning it was just “fun and games.” However, somewhere along the way I am also sure that being able to move pixels around on a TV screen became an escape from my not so great reality. 
     
    I played on and off through high school. My grades weren’t great. But I was great at video games. My senior year of high school, I didn’t game and I recognize it as one of the best years of my life. 
     
    I got a computer for college. This is back in the earliest days of the web. I started playing RPGs. I remember one time I went through a bitter break up with a girlfriend. She moved out of the country and broke it off. I was heartbroken. I literally dropped her off, went straight from the airport to a video game store and bought a Gamecube. It was how I dealt with the heavy emotions. 
     
    I lived in Austin, TX for awhile. We didn’t have a TV on purpose. This was one of my most prolific times as a songwriter. But I still managed to overdue it with the original Diablo. Thus launching my love affair with Blizzard games. 
     
    I got into the best music school on the planet. I had a 4.0 grade point average every semester until the last one, when I started playing WoW. I got a couple D grades. Ruined the perfect record. Beyond that, who knows what kind of networking and friendships I missed out on due to the long nights raiding in front of a glowing box. 
     
    I got married. I tried to get my wife to play WoW. She didn’t. I went on to secretly play 4 - 6 hours a night. I quit when I released my second album. Also, noted as one of the best artistic times of my life. 
     
    I ruptured a disc in my back L4/L5. Tried everything to fix it. Finally ended up having surgery. I was on hard core opiate pain killers for 3 years. Many, many times my routine was to pop a few pills and then play WoW. It became a double addiction. I was playing 15 hours a day on weekends. 
     
    Finally, I recently went through a divorce after being married for 15 years. Many of our problems had to do with finances. I am successful. But, only just enough to keep life decent. I went out immediately when she left and bought a PS4. (See a pattern here?) I have been playing Destiny and Neverwinter like crazy. 
     
    Last night I couldn’t sleep because I just knew today was the day that I was going to quit. I am so very thankful to have found this course. I took the first step. I went and deleted all of my games on the PS4. Later today, I am going to sell the console and probably the TV as well. I also deleted Pillars of Destiny from my computers. 
     
    I look back on my entire life and wonder, what might my life be like today if I had gotten angry enough, frustrated enough, motivated enough to stand up and make positive change instead of being lulled into passivity by glowing screens. What songs would I have written? What career moves might I have made? You see…. that is the real killer of video game addiction. It’s the subtle easing of a person’s normal feelings into a catatonic state of false peace. There is nothing in this world more valuable than time. I refuse to let anymore be wasted on video games. 
     
    I look forward to meeting all of you. I want to say thank you in advance for any help you might lend my way during this journey. I also want to extend any help I can lend to you. 
     
    Thank you,
     
    Zack
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