Entry 12.11 (Written on 13.11)  Day 773: No Useless Videos Day 771: Sticking to Food schedule Day 374: Eating Only between 06:30 and 19:00 (Last bite before 19:00) Day 77: Being in bed before 23:15 3 Things I did well no matter how small -11 pomodoros -Set parking visit meeting -15 minutes in sun 1 thing I could do  better -Stick to pomodoro pause timeframes apart from going out to the sun

Tue 11.12 No mobile games - 203 days No compulsive social media use: 41 days No compulsive research: 41 days No passive screentime before bed, first thing in the mornings, or during work: 44 days Well yesterday was a tough day; indeed it had its good moments, but still tough. It did end on a good note though. My wife has also been feeling pretty shitty (how she put it) and it helped a lot to just talk with her. We have had a couple of busy days together, with all of the birthday planning for my oldest, coordinating plans between her family and mine on top of that. And she also had a day full of errands yesterday too, so she was quite drained. We've fallen behind on chores overall, something we're going to work on together; what this means for me is to stay on top of chores at home, and actually respect my Pomodoro breaks. I often tend to work through them, I have to stop that honestly. I have noticed that this tends to happen with frustrating tasks at work. I'm only making it worse though by not taking my breaks. So that is how I'm going to do my best to help her. Another thing is that her parents tend to have a lot of background TV on all the time, something which really bothers me and overwhelms me; but on the flipside, my family tends to have music playing all the time and they interrupt a lot, something which overwhelms her. So we recognize that these are two things we can't change ourselves; it's how we deal with them at the end of the day. For me, I've thought on it and I think one thing that can help is to bring something to read, so I can tune out the TV when feeling overwhelmed. It is too distracting for me otherwise. She has her own strategy as well, but that's not up to me to share. Today was a much better day overall. I finally made some progress with that project at work; finally got past the authentication nightmare it was to set up the data pipeline, now I can finally actually start with the fun stuff. I am relieved. And I absolutely going to take a day off after this part of the project is done. I already told my wife that today. I'm gonna use that day off to do chores around the house and work on my 7 Habits exercises, which I've been slacking on a bit the past two days; I haven't been doing quite as much of them as I would like, I've been drained after work. Hence why I'm planning to just take a day once that component is done. ----- Things I will do to stay healthy Sleep around 8h - we were both tired and went to bed at 10:30pm. Woke up at 6:30am. Back to 8h sleep 🙂 Tomorrow is an early morning, so I best set off to sleep.  Brush teeth + floss - I went to brush this morning, I'll be doing both after this entry. Go for walks / Exercise - I got a gym workout today with my wife, did bicep curls, tricep extensions, standing rows, and push-ups. Very good arm day. My oldest isn't feeling well today, he caught a cold. He was at home with us, and he accompanied us to the gym too lol. He tried lifting a 15lb weight by himself, which he did, but we told him not to touch. Other than that he was pretty chill. This only works because the gym we go to is part of the apartment we live in (for residents only), no other gym would've let that fly lol. Shower + wash face - After working out, did both. Drink Water - I kept this up, admittedly starting my entry early in the day still helps me alot with getting that reminder. Read a book - I just got done working on my Goals and finishing up the "How" I plan to tackle for one of these goals; I started working on these things yesterday, but I only got the "why" for the goals fleshed out. That part was covered earlier in the Oct 8th post actually, but I reviewed the goals to make sure I still felt excited about them. I modified all of them to have a clear objective called out; mostly Goal 2 was the one that was the most unclear imo. Really what it is for me is the Confidence in myself, seeking to gain that awareness and mindfulness I keep practicing through meditation, journaling, and the 7 Habits. So I added more details to that goal in my personal journal on my phone (this has been very helpful to have with me honestly, glad I went for another S-pen compatible phone for quick notetaking). For the How part, read more details below. Meditate + Deep Breaths - Another meditation about anger. Something I've been struggling with, but I think it's because I've been fighting my anger. Rather, I need to remember, as the meditation says, it's just a feeling; and it's one which can be witnessed and sensed, rather than pushed and drowned. We don't have to repress it, and equally we don't have to engage it. We can just be aware of it and let it go rather than holding on to it. That is how the meditation guides me into reframing the feeling of anger. Nutrition Breakfast: birthday muffin from yesterday, with coffee Lunch: there is more leftover pizza that I had Dinner: my wife made air-fried hamburgers Talk to my partner - yes, as per above I discussed the project at work and my plan to take a day off. She had another busy day today, lots of errands to run, and ofc unplanned time to take care of my oldest and the baby at the same time (she is still on mat leave). I gave her a hand today with cleaning out the sink, which had a lot of clean dishes piled up. Ofc, tonight it is about the same after having washed all the dishes from the burgers 😛 It never ends but that's ok, it keeps me busy. Talk to my kids + play with them - yes, after work I once again used all of them as my "weights" to do lifts while laying on my back. I was also in charge of baths tonight. Practice French - This morning I did a little bit, but I didn't think of taking time to do French practice in my work-breaks, as I usually do. As I said, I really have to start respecting my breaks again, this is part of why I feel less present and more irritable. Journal - entry is here ------ 7 habits - proactivity test - day 25 Commitments yesterday: post 7 habits workbook exercises (maybe do more too) The How is what I covered yesterday and today. The book only asks me to do this exercise for one of the goals for now, so that is what I did. Eventually I know I'll have to do it for all 3. So here's the "How" for the first goal I wrote for myself: Goal 1: Get promoted! Strive towards continuous self improvement in my career, taking the opportunities I am given, and also making an effort to create opportunities for myself and others. How do I plan to strive towards continuous improvement? By taking the opportunities I am given and looking for ways to create opportunities for myself How do I plan to take opportunities for myself? By speaking up about what interests me. How will I know when to speak up? By paying attention to the big team meetings and listening for areas that I can contribute to. How will I know an area arises that I can contribute towards? Listen for common pain points from the team that may require my knowledge, experience and skillset. How will I identify these pain points? By reviewing, documenting and logging areas of improvement in our shared backlog of work items. How will I know that something is already identified? By working with my teammates and leaning on their knowledge, asking for their feedback. How will I work with my team? Using our team retros and reviewing our backlog regularly, as well as my own notes from personal journal and 1:1s with my manager. How will I review these items? By scheduling time weekly on my calendar, to go through the above; one item for my own review, and another item later in the week to seek feedback from the team on those items and get their ideas so that they also feel included. In this way, I am not only creating opportunities for myself, but I am also creating opportunities for them to also contribute. ❤️ It was at this point that I felt very confident with this goal. Look at that, an actionable item at the very end, with clear values that I'm looking for. I think this can really and truly lead me to getting promoted; what I've been doing a lot of is working by myself. Not really as a team. By actually asking for feedback, and forgetting about being "criticized" or whatever, it will also help me with Goal 2 of gaining confidence. ... which is now making me think that maybe I need something more concrete for that 2nd goal lol. This is a lot of work! But I like it. I'm going to leave it at that for now. Remember to lean on top lines when getting frustrated This was helpful today as I wrote my entry, journaling is something that really helps me. It's tough especially when a child has a hard time going to bed. Commitments for tomorrow Re-review my two other goals identify a "when" for goal 1 Review my mission statement again -- As I said, this was a much better day overall. I really think this is a good take-away lesson; just because one day is bad does not mean I have to let it ruin the rest of my week. I can reflect on it, I can observe it, I can think back on it, I can talk to my partner as I did last night. Or as my wife put it; one shitty workday does not need to make a whole shitty day haha. K time to put this down. Night everyone!

It is, and thank you for the validation!  I was just getting so irritated with that game.  And I kept looking at the clock helplessly, as if I were stuck in some vortex.  That's the power of social gaming.  People really pull you in.  I am going to practice a script to tell my sister and her husband if they ask me to game with them again.  Like you mentioned, perhaps we can plan something else like meeting them for dinner outside of the house.  Or a board game at my house?  Or anything unrelated to computer games, we can do elsewhere.  I'm going to find a city website that lists free things to do in my community throughout the winter season.  

Anger is a natural emotion, and I think it's very brave of you to recognize how you felt in the moment. So good on you for removing the game off your device. If your sister ever suggests the game again, you always have the option to decline and suggest something else you could do together. Do you have any ideas of what else they'd be up to doing? Something to think about. Cheers!

Jour 4, samedi 9 novembre 45 mn sur smartphone, pas mal d'activités en famille Jour 5, dimanche 10 novembre 35 mn sur smartphone et 1h de jeux vidéos, stage sportif Jour 6, lundi 11 novembre 6mn sur smartphone et 0h de jeux vidéos, activités en famille et sport le soir J'ai ajouté un mot de passe compliqué pour modifier les paramètres de blocage de mon téléphone.