Hey Pema -- Sometimes when I'm with a not so comfy person, and the action to take is not obvious, and it's just uncomfortable, I remind myself of two things. One, don't wait for my suffering to end to be happy. And two, anything that takes the smile off my face is not the truth. Continue wishing them well and notice their discomfort as their own, not letting it interrupt the joy of your living. The joy of your living is ultimately the inspirational force that makes people like the not so comfy people adjust -- and if they do not adjust on their own, it is the clearest force that brings you clarity of mind and action as for when to act. Because you are acting out of compassion, now, out of the sincerest wish for all beings -- including you and them, to be well. To be in harmony, in peace. Thanks for being a part of this too. Andrew

Hey Andrew I like your reply. I agree that sending love or reframing people compassionately helps you be in relation to them. Especially with people you aren’t as comfortable with. Ultimately I’ll send everyone love and really try to love them from afar when they chafe me mentally too. I just imagine sending love beams to them. But don’t get involved much more than that.   How do you manage it when it’s a not so comfy person(s) in your immediate environment?    Thanks for being a part of this Pema

Hey Matt, This is really good. Thanks for sharing. I’ve ran into some people who matched the description you gave of the guy at the gym. I’ve felt the same discomfort especially when I went to the free rec center gym. I had people with severe mental health disorders yell threats at me etc.  I found a gym that’s like much more calm feeling and has been safe for me. Especially if I go early in the day when it’s less crowded. If you need a few days to you know deep breathe and let your mind relax before going back to the gym I think that’s good. Is your gym usually chill and this person was the exception? Or is it like that free gym I went to where almost every time I went someone was showing up and vaping in the gym, accosting people verbally or blasting profanity on max volume on their speakers?  Last point: you aren’t the only one that dude was acting like that to. The guy yelling at me was reported to have been yelling at members multiple times a day and was eventually banned.

Hey Andrew good new post I quit porn too and masturbating 

Hi Amphibian i really like your idea to do good deeds for others to heal your own addiction as well as helping others of course