Jump to content

Gaming the System 006 - James' First 30 Days As a Digital Nomad in Thailand!

LiamL

Enough is enough..

Recommended Posts

So for a bit of background, I'm 29 and have, like many of you, been gaming since I can remember back on the Sega Mega drive.

I've graduated university and have had several jobs, without any in particular stimulating me as much as gaming does. I've even worked on the opposite side of the world, where I only used a PlayStation once over the course of a year. That time was definitely the best and most productive year of my life, where I completely grew as a person and met some amazing people. I long for the day that I can go back to feeling this way.

I live with my girlfriend of 2 years and she is amazing. She's accepted that I've gamed and never had much of a problem until recently, where my work situation has changed and I'm not doing enough to resolve it. I would be the most stupid guy on earth if I lost this girl due to a few pixels on a screen, so I knew I had to do something about it. 

I found this community by Googling "do I have a gaming addiction?" The article suggested 9 signs of being an addict and I'm ashamed to say I ticked every box.

I've lost interest in things I used to enjoy (gym, playing sports etc) and have probably gained 10KGs over the past 3 years. I've used gaming as a way to relieve me from negatives moods and an escape from my mental health problems (anxiety and a lack of motivation). 

The two that resonated with me the most are the lying about my gaming and the fact that I've turned down job opportunities so that I've been able to maximise my free time to gaming. I recently lost my job in June due to being unable to relocate at the current time and I'll admit I've been playing on average 10 hours per day instead of being proactive in my next job search. I've also continually lied to my gf who I live with about what I've been doing with my day, claiming to have spent the whole day applying, yet arguing with her when she wants to see proof. I've failed with 2 interviews within the past 2 months and I know that I could have been better prepared if I didn't spend as much time on the PlayStation. 

Last week I finally admitted to myself and those close to me that I had a problem and I haven't switched the PlayStation on for 10 days now. I've also gone cold turkey on watching gaming related content and on games on my phone. I do feel that I'm in a better place, I'm slowly becoming more productive with my time and enjoying spending time with my gf more.

I'm going to need help and motivation from more than just her and myself, so I'm looking forward to interacting with you all who are in a similar situation. If you can resonate with my situation or just want to chat about your own journey, I'll be more than happy to offer some help. 

Thanks guys.

  • Like 3

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

well , your situation is kinda like mine , i ruind 3 years of my life by gaming , but gaming was not all the reason i did that but its a huge part of that.

you are so lucky to have such a nice gf like her! i think she is enough for you to move on and start making progress. my gf but she ha some issues  her self , i tried to save the releationship but it didn't work out. anyway if you don't want play again i suggest you to throw away your play station or give it to someome , at first i stopped playing league of legends but people kept sending me massage asking to boost them so i delelted all the game and i don't have good internet to download it again. just do one thing. start go to gym you get so much energy from gym .

 

P.S : i myself am in a bad situation somdays i lose hope and energy but only thing that matters is to move on and  get better everyday

  • Like 1

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
5 hours ago, reza Mrb said:

well , your situation is kinda like mine , i ruind 3 years of my life by gaming , but gaming was not all the reason i did that but its a huge part of that.

you are so lucky to have such a nice gf like her! i think she is enough for you to move on and start making progress. my gf but she ha some issues  her self , i tried to save the releationship but it didn't work out. anyway if you don't want play again i suggest you to throw away your play station or give it to someome , at first i stopped playing league of legends but people kept sending me massage asking to boost them so i delelted all the game and i don't have good internet to download it again. just do one thing. start go to gym you get so much energy from gym .

 

P.S : i myself am in a bad situation somdays i lose hope and energy but only thing that matters is to move on and  get better everyday

Thanks for reaching out buddy. You haven't ruined the 3 years. We're both not in the best situations, but by admitting things, being positive and trying to better ourselves we will get away from the problems.

Your ex gf probably wasn't the right one for you. Focus on yourself and I'm sure you'll meet someone once you're in a better place both physically and mentally. I'm back in the gym now and exercising 4 days per week. If you need to chat just message me on here and I'll help as much as I can 🙂

  • Like 2

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Congrats on quitting @LiamL. I'm glad you realized what you were losing before it was too late.

I'm 29 and struggled with a gaming addiction for as long as I remember too. But I'm celebrating 29 days of no games today and I couldn't feel better.

You've taken steps in the right direction, and the only thing left to do is to keep taking them. Go forward everyday and don't stop to look back at what happened in the past. 

I'm moderately active on these forums, and am more than willing to help in any way I can. So if there's anything I can do for you, just shoot me a DM.

Again, Congratulations and Welcome to a better, happier Rest of your Life.

 

  • Like 1

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Thank @Kwshake, better late than never. It's now been 12 days since I last turned the PlayStation on and I've definitely been more productive and enjoyed spending time with my partner more. Thankfully, I haven't had the urge to relapse just yet - even though the guys I used to play with are constantly bugging me to get online and sending me videos of them playing.

Thanks for the offer of support and likewise, if you just want a chat then the DMs are open. Enjoy your day. 

Edited by LiamL
Tag

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Join the conversation

You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.

Guest
Reply to this topic...

×   Pasted as rich text.   Paste as plain text instead

  Only 75 emoji are allowed.

×   Your link has been automatically embedded.   Display as a link instead

×   Your previous content has been restored.   Clear editor

×   You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL.


×
×
  • Create New...