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Luiz F.

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  1. Yeah that's a really good quote Reza, it gets me every time since putting yourself out there sometimes is very difficult, but most of the times is just because you're not used to it (speaking of myself lol). I agree. And I don't take it in the bad way, after all when we are trying to find a partner we are just putting ourselves on the market, and the best "product" will have more success. Thanks for the replies guys, I will get a lot better, just the beginning is hard!
  2. So I'm 28 right now, and it's been a long time that I don't get in a relationship (5 years or so). I thought that by moving to Canada things would change, I mean, myself basically. But I feel like it's getting worse with time, to the point that I feel lonely but I don't have the WILL to get into a relationship or to approach girls.. The last girl that I approached with the intention of getting a date? I can't remember. The last time I kissed a girl was last year was in this big festival in Brazil, 3 days of partying and free booze, with around 10k people. Everyone on that party was there to hook up, but I couldn't do shit. Luckily I hooked up with some random girl that I wasn't even attracted to - for a few seconds. The thing that annoyed the hell of me is, in this party, I remember that I was there with the intent of doing what everyone else wanted, but even if girls would stare at me, I couldn't do SHIT, even being a little bit drunk, I would just freeze and "enjoy the music". My point is.. I don't know how to date anymore, how to seduce, how to stop having this fear of rejection and just enjoy, you know? It's been 18 days that I haven't played games, and soon I will be starting dancing classes which I think is gonna help me. And I also have been going to gym for the past 5 months. But I feel like I didn't change a bit in matter of dating life since I haven't done anything focused on this matter. Have any of you guys gone through this? I wanna hear your stories and tips would also be appreciated 🙂 Thanks for reading all this drama
  3. Hahah yes!! this is one of my favorite shows, can't wait for new season ❤️
  4. Hey Reza, welcome to the forum! And your english is pretty good! If you wish to improve your english listening/speaking, I recommend doing English classes in a school where they only speak English the moment you enter there. I did that back in Brazil and it improved 100%. You said you stopped gaming for 2 years and things were still the same. That's really possible, since the issue might not be exactly the games, but the procrastination maybe. Like for exemple, you quit gaming, but then you just stay at home watching videos/streams/netflix or mindless browsing the internet. That's almost the same as gaming, since you're looking for instant pleasure. But the thing is, it might give you the pleasure, but right after you do it (watch video, play a lol match, etc) you probably won't feel so good about it. One of the things that I would recommend is finding healthy activities, or just productive ones. Activities that will make you challenge yourself, like the Gym as you said. 3 days a week is perfect, I also do 3 times a week, and I've gained ~8kg in 5 months, which is REALLY awesome for me that have been always skinny my whole life. Other activities that you can do is ones that will take you out of your comfort zone, maybe something that you never imagined to do, like dancing, climbing, painting, going on meetups, tinder, running, going to parties (even alone), there's plenty of stuff you can do. That will open your mind, socialize a lot, challenge yourself like you never planed. Well anyway I've talked a lot already lol, but I feel your struggle and a LOT of people around here - like me - have been in a similar situation, and they are very supportive. So keep us posted on how it goes!
  5. Hey Caleb, I feel your struggle. One of the reasons why you have a hard time sticking to these healthy hobbies is mostly because of the games, because games drain all our energy since they are so intense, and because of that it makes enjoying other activities (like reading, doing sports, meeting people, etc) REALLY difficult. But if you quit gaming (for good) you will start to notice in a few weeks that these types of activities will start feeling good again, and you will also have less excuses to not stick to them. I know it's really hard to give up on all your games, but trust me, it only hurts for a while, until you fill your time with other stuff (stuff that will fulfill all your needs like games did, like being rewarded, dopamine bumps, socializing, the feeling of knowing what to do - goals, etc). Keep us posted on how you're doing.
  6. MAN, I FUCKING LOVE this video!! I have watched it dozens of times hahahaha
  7. Thanks Neman! I'm definitely gonna start a journal, didn't start yet because "procrastination" basically lol. I'm gonna follow yours as well.
  8. That's awesome! I also just purchased the Respawn, and lately I was doing the same, but with TFT instead. I just sent a request to delete my LOL account and also gave away my steam account with lots of games to a friend. Wish us good luck!
  9. So a little introduction, I'm 28 years old, and I've been gaming since I was 5 or 6 (SNES). Man that's crazy, I thought I started around 13 or something but damn it's been so long. But actually I haven't always been too much addicted. I think my real addiction started when I was around 14, playing Tibia and Lineage II. I've tried quitting gaming before and I did for a few months, but it was too easy for me to relapse since I didn't have any other hobby. And man, I can't count how many times I have tried to quit, and that's been since one of the first Cam's videos. My last gaming day was yesterday, where I set like a goal for myself: Luiz: Hey, it's okay, you can game today, but that's it, you're gonna finish this game (Celeste) and get the Gold Rank on LOL TFT. And then you're gonna stop. And that's what I did. Uninstalled everything, including unfollowing game channels and people that only talk about that. One of the main reasons that I'm doing this is because I feel like I'm not connected to the real world anymore. I don't feel much pleasure in doing outside things or going to the gym. I just moved to Canada 7 months ago and I barely enjoyed Montreal, and man, this place is amazing. But not only the place, but also people, my family, my friends, my job. It's been years since my last relationship and well, it just goes worse. Anyway, that's a lot of stuff already. Hope to meet some cool people here and hear your stories. Thanks for your attention
  10. I'm currently struggling with distractions, mostly from 9gag and youtube. So how are you doing Jimmy? It's been one month almost since your last comment about this issue.
  11. Yeah, 25. Congrats on the 90 days. For work, You can do it! I had to put out 100's of applications/resumes before I got a couple interviews. Work is a win-win, social + financial. After watching the video on Dopamine / Brain Chemistry before/after 90 days, i'm excited to return to baseline. I already did some interviews and no success yet, and sometimes I think: maybe I should work on a different area just for the experience? Which video is that?
  12. Holy damn, that sounds like me mate. Are you also 25? That's even more scaring. I didn't even introduce myself here in the forum, but I've already done the 90 detox and stuff, and it really is a good thing. The only difference between you and me is getting a job, I'm still struggling with that. Congrats man!
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