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  1. On 4/27/2022 at 4:30 AM, brayden.jolly said:

    I am leaving for a missions trip soon and was thinking about selling my Switch. My mom and sister (I haven’t told my dad but he will likely object as well) are very much against this idea. They say it is hurtful to my mom since she had gotten it for me as a gift. My sister also points out that I use it all the time so it is not without at least some value. My sister tells me I should just practice self-control since I can still use my games sometimes. 

    I am torn. I used to definitely have an addiction to gaming. However, since going to college I haven’t had much opportunity to game. I also have somewhat grown out of the addiction. However, whenever I get onto minecraft, it is like I cannot help myself. I will legit play for hours upon hours even though I have other stuff that needs to get done. I also struggle a lot with an addiction to using the internet… I have a porn blocker on, but when it is not on I have a lot of issues with that too. 

    I was away for 3 months and the only game I had was pokemon go. I am back home and ever since I have been having massive issues with using my phone and playing minecraft. 

    Let me know if you have any questions and what your opinion is about selling the switch. Thanks!

    It sounds like you really want to put it away but family obligations are stopping you.   I would reckon put the Switch into storage/shed while you're on mission and say you're doing it so you don't lose it or have it damaged. Then just forget about it. If anyone asks  "Oh, I should get that out sometime." and then don't. 

    If you decide you want to continue using it - perhaps see if there are apps that you can install to help with restrictions? Another helpful thing to do is work out statements. 
    Example: "I am allowed to play on Switch on Mondays from 5-6pm." and then keep a diary of you doing that so if you ever dont do it - you see it yourself and know you need to take a break from it.  

    But mostly, I'd recommend re-reading the "Respawn" book again especially the first few chapters as it talks about finding replacement activities which should be useful for you. 

     

  2. On 5/23/2022 at 2:39 AM, slowby008 said:

    I have a expensive Gaming PC, im only 14 and i got this PC drin my Patents that means i dont wanna sell It because its unrespectfully. What cann i do with this Power?

    Why not just delete all the games from it or (in my case),  find a way to put all those games out of sight? Like in storage shed or such?

    You know what else an expensive Gaming PC can do besides gaming? Lots!  You could set it up to learn how to draw, do music, learn film editing or even animating.   In a similar way that little kids find multiple uses for a stick (wand, sword, etc) - do the same with your gaming pc :) 

  3. As the titles describes - I'm in a fun position where short courses aren't happening for another 3 months and everyone's busy with families or the work life.

    My city ain't exactly a bustling scene either. Last time I managed to go to a workshop art thing, there was a horrendous age gap between myself and the other participants. (also two of them are higher ups at work soo yeooouch) 

    Any advice on how to proceed?

  4. Sounds like a good start to the week!   

    Wouldn't recommend hooking up with colleagues - doesn't end well in the long run though great fun at the start from personal experience. If you think you're going to leave that job soon that's another story though.  
    "I did everything I could" is a good philosophy - I hope it serves you well with anything setbacks that you might come across so you can bounce back easily. 

    Keep it up!  

  5. 15 hours ago, Max said:

    Day 25.

    Wake up time: 6 AM.

    Studying: 2 hours 41 minutes.

    I went to the doctor in the morning and was diagnosed with gastritis cause by H Pylori. That shit sucks but I'm starting my treatment tomorrow so I think I'll be fine. Also my sister came from Germany to visit, so I've spent the evening with my family. So it wasn't very productive studying day, but I've done a lot of other important things. So in the end I'm happy how it turned out. 

    Also because of my treatment I have to shift my eating schedule 'cause my diet is very restricted and I can't cook myself because I don't have time, and I have to take pills before and during eating. So I have to shift my sleeping schedule as well. I'll wake up at 9 AM from no on. Let's see if it affects my productivity. I think it's gonna be fine. 

    There's value in spending time with family so glad to hear you're not too bummed about the studying part of the day.  But mostly ouch in regards to the gastritis - I'd be probably be giving up for the rest of day so think its great that you're rolling with the punches and continuing with stuff!  Fingers crossed for this next week for you though I'm sure you don't need it

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  6. Day 4/30

    Objectives completed: Smaller Health Routine Things 
    Had work today that took up most time and spent the rest of the time browsing social media or relaxing on youtube.  It was enlightening to notice how I'm spending my time - perhaps the journal isn't so bad? Counter is certainly helping - thanks again @ Lobares

    Will try reading tonight and hope to pick up a magic tricks book tomorrow at the library so I can find something.

    Mission: Finish a book before Day 14.
    Mission: Find something interesting to do on daily commute instead of social media. 

  7. 11 hours ago, Lobares said:

     

    Studying, 5 Hours Per Day | No PC Usage | Training | Eat healthy

    9/90

    Day was a bit better again.  

     

    @Proxee

    Yea well the education system is different in every country. I dont really care about it and I dont blame it. I think you can do most of the stuff by yourself, but most people dont even have a goal. Of course it can be made better, but I dont really think about the bigger picture behind it anymore. Just focusing on my goals nowadays.

    A good way to approach it. 

    Glad to hear today was a bit better for you. All the best!

  8. 39 minutes ago, Hitaru said:

    82 days.

    Surviving. I fear this anxiety will make me sick so I'm trying my best to handle it. Been hanging out with friends, the sun and socialization did their job. I think I'll try meditation and breath exercises next. 

    Going walking has really helped me with my anxiety when meditation hasn't worked so totally recommend that if meditation or breath exercises don't help!

    Read the last few entries and well done for stubbornly resisting the urge for gaming.  I'm sure future you will be thankful for all you've done but I'd recommend focusing on what present you is grateful for what past you did instead.  Focusing on that means focusing on what you know rather than a possible but unknown future. 

    Good luck!  

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  9. 10 hours ago, Lobares said:

    I have a time limit set up for all my devices. E.g. 2 hours of youtube in total, at 8pm all websites get blocked etc. should be possible on any device I guess. 

    Most important point is to never ever make an exception, never say ‘ohh 3 hours are fine too’. Stick to your own rules, if you cant do it, dont start. Otherwise it destroys your self-confidence, and will affect every other time you would set up such rules(you broke them once, why not again? etc those things make it harder, of course not undoable, but still its better to do it on the first time)

    honestly, that's where I've failed before in the past. So very easy to go "Just 20 more minutes."   A good reminder that once I get my rules sorted, I'm going to probably also write them up and put them somewhere I can see so I can guilt myself into doing the right thing. Time blocks seem to be the way to go for me atm as I don't think I'm at a point where I can moderate my time over my kryptonite without blowing it all in one go.  I suppose this is the joy of doing similar things in the past - I know at least a few of my failings. 

    Day 3/30

    Objectives Completed: Bedsheets changed, clothes washed, rubbish taken out, took the dog for a walk, shower

    Still Working On:  Rules of Time Usage for Devices + Working out Mentally Engaging, Resting and Social Activities. 

  10. 10 hours ago, Lobares said:

     

     

    hi Proxee, thanks for your post 🙂 I did a lot of research way ago but at the end it comes to the common methods, what everyone does basically. What I learnt wayyy ago is that there is no gamechanger methode, just a lot of studying. However the way I go currently is sufficient, I guess. Need to keep that up + extend the study sessions.

    Studying, 5 Hours Per Day | No PC Usage | Training | Eat healthy

    8/90

     

    Motivation nearly 0 today 😄 So I was not that productive, but since I solved old exams It didnt have much influence, since you are actively solving something eg its not that boring. I need to start way earlier, to finish faster and to stay more motivated. On my first days of the detox it went quite better. Hope I can somehow get back to that mode.

    I REALLY think the only reason why I am still on track is this damn counter I use in this journal. I cant believe it myself, but that pressure let me do it. 

    Today I thought a bit about some old friends, which all are gaming 24/7 in their free time. Some of them still study some rarely. It feels like this addiction is no real problem if you dont have high goals in your life. One of my friends plays basically all the time, but does a few hours of work for the university and its enough, because its an easy subject. And this is something which is really common, I feel like.

    This ‚problem‘ we all share is just one because we call it like that. Some people have low standards. They know what they do is bad, but they accept it. Here the people are totally different, they never accept this procrastination/gaming life. This is something which you all can be proud of. I feel like most of the people just take it as it is. Failed -> lower the standards. But for us its like failed -> never accept it and fix the problem behind it. 

     

     

     


    I think you're a great example of the saying "Fall 6 times, get up 7."  The fact you've already looked into studying methods really shows off your capability and adaptability! :) 

    In my opinion, the education system in any country is a big culprit for low standards and giving up. Most tests and assignments literally go "You failed? That's it. No do-over." when in real life, it's so much more different. If you're working, your boss isn't going to fire you because you didn't complete a task well (though they may get pretty pissed off).  Perhaps the education system isn't to blame but I think society has got to ask - is the education system helping people develop a positive or a growth mindset?   

    Sorry to hear that you're not feeling the motivation today - that sucks. Hope tomorrow is better  

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  11. Day 2/30

    To be honest, I'm not prepared to cut myself fully off from games as the Respawn book recommends doing. At least, not just yet. (I have mad respect for those that have chosen that path though!)
    So instead, I'm going to tweak the steps in the book to suit what I hope to achieve.  


    I've just read Chapter 2 and am interested in the "barriers" to video games.  I think it's true what it says about there being little to no barriers to playing video games so I'm going to create some.  I'm going to put restrictions on my phone and my computer for the first 3 hours of the day so I can't access my usual time stealers. My computer is set up in my room, so I'm going to disconnect the keyboard and put it away when I go to bed tonight.  I'll continue to experiment with different ways to create barriers though if anyone's got any ideas - please let me know!

     At this point, my only goal is to make my room tidier and go out walking more often. I have done a little bit of cleaning up today - it's not as much as I hoped but it's a start! 

     

  12. 2 minutes ago, Lobares said:

    Welcome 🙂

    I recommend you to write down your goals. You dont have to share private stuff, change it as you like. For me the journal is kind of a pressure to follow my goals. Maybe you implement a counter, eg 30 days of doing XY. Always when I just opened a journal to write now and then - I failed miserably. But when I decide to write everyday to update my counter, it works much better.

    The main point of all this: You want to accomplish your goals. Thats the Nr. 1 thing here

    ooh counter idea sounds good - much thanks! Didn't even consider that! Brilliant and thank you! :D 

  13. Some other people mentioned that you're inspiring and I utterly agree with them - I think what you've done in the face of failure is amazing and something I hope to manage to do with enough practice!

    Totally relate to the whole issue with keeping the mind occupied  - have you tried seeing if friends or anyone in your area does board game nights or DnD? I think it might be useful though I know it can become an obsession (the buying of board games) if you're not careful. 

    I am curious though - do you feel that you're accomplishing the goal that you wanted to do as a result of quitting gaming?  

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  14. Hiya Lobares!

    Suggested this to another user but you might find it useful too https://www.booktopia.com.au/how-to-be-a-successful-student-richard-e-mayer/book/9781138319868.html  - it's a book that helps you find new ways to approach studying so it doesn't feel like you're hitting your head against a brick wall.    Medical school is indeed tough and it's amazing that you've kept going despite how insane they make it - well done! :)   Have you considered ways that you can take breaks to help you feel better recharged? Visiting a nearby park? I hope you're finding ways to take care of yourself in the midst of all this study.  A healthy body helps the mind stay healthy after all 

    It's very inspiring what you're doing - I wish you all the best with it! 

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  15. Hi Max! 

    I hope you're feeling better soon. It's an extraordinary task that you've taken on and I think no matter what happens, it's really cool what you're doing. Remember to take a break and do something like go take some photographs in a park for 30 minutes though!  It's a proven fact that nature can really help improve our mental capacity after all! 

    If you can, I recommend getting this book in some way or form https://www.booktopia.com.au/how-to-be-a-successful-student-richard-e-mayer/book/9781138319868.html  - it's great for helping find new ways to approach studying and how to make it more meaningful so you don't feel like you're just smashing your head up against a brick wall.  There are probably similar books out there so hopefully, you'll find something useful. 

    Wishing you all the luck!  

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  16. I begin this adventure in journaling by summing up the range and depth of my complex feelings on the subject of journaling...

    :2_grimacing:

    I don't have the attention span for this and I also consider myself pretty private - Does anyone have any tips on how to proceed? 

    I will give it an honest shot but I'm honestly in despair as I've attempted journaling before.
     

    Today I'm grateful for:

    • The weekend and not having to work today.
    • Being able to continue to interact with my international friends with games. 
    • My house has so many trees around it
    • My dog's good health! He's 14 years old and still acts like he's 9. 
    • That I live in a peaceful neighborhood. 

    I hope to adapt this journaling style as I go but I'll probably get obsessed with reading other people's journals as a form of procrastination. Wish me luck! 

     

  17. Howdy!

    I go by Proxee -  Gaming has been a lot of things for me.  A chance for me to do things by myself, escape my own issues and solve interesting challenges. 

    But like everyone else here, I've gotten to this stage of my life where I don't think I have a lot going for me except gaming and consuming content.  I don't think my family has much faith or belief in me either (though that just might my own negative thinking at play.) 

    So with whatever time left, I want to do what I can to have more than just gaming and such in my life. Hence why I'm here! 

    I'm doubtful that this will be the thing that solves my issues but I hope it'll at least steer me onto the path or make it easier for me to walk it.

    Wishing everyone all the best with their own journeys! :) 

     

     

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