[Question for those of you who have already stopped!]

On 9/4/2020 at 1:36 PM, amchow said:

It will feel like a battle at first and you won't feel good emotionally at first. 

But trust me it gets better. I've been over 90 days free and it feels so good! :D

Thank you man, this is exactly what I needed to hear! I was just feeling really agitated and tired since I quit gaming and I thought that maybe if I did nothing and waited for a while it would just go away but it never did. But you telling me that I can just do whatever I planned on doing and those feelings go a way kinda changed my view. 

So thanks a lot!  

[Question for those of you who have already stopped!]

After you guys stopped gaming did you instantly started to do productive things/ things you always wanted to do (eg. learn instrument, study for uni etc) or did you first just kinda did nothing like stare at a wall, read, lie in bed.

For some reason I find it very difficult to pick myself up and I was wondering if this was normal or if I should apply myself more.

 

Thank you in advance!

[How do you do things?]

1 hour ago, Alexanderle said:

Seems to be that this is not the case right now. If it would be than you would do it. So with this reasoning, I define capability as what you are actually capable TO DO RIGHT NOW.

Bro you are actually right. Thanks a lot for your help, you are the best! Have a nice day 

[How do you do things?]

1 hour ago, Alexanderle said:

 things I do right now, a year ago - they would have been impossible. 

So you are saying I should start slow and build myself up, doing more and more each day (or week)? Sounds good to me but if I only do one thing a day I feel so useless like I am lying to myself because I know I am capable of so much more than that. You know? 

[How do you do things?]

Bro you are asking some deep questions haha 

Yeah I stopped gaming for the second timen now (first was 20 days) and am 8 days in now. Then I realised I wasted to much time on youtube and stuff so I stopped that one too since today.

1 hour ago, Alexanderle said:

Who do you want to be? Not who you think, you should be or is socially desired of you.

 

Yeah I kind of do know what I want and how to get there. Maybe not a perfect version but it's enough to start I think. I just don't do what I planned. I kind of did stuff while I gamed but now I do way less it seems.

[How do you do things?]

Hey guys hope you are all doing well and are healthy!

Ever since I quit gaming I feel really ,for a lack of a better word, empty. I don't really feel like doing anything except laying in bed and doing nothing. Don't get me wrong I do have ideas of things I want to do and learn so it is not so much the lack of ideas that stops me from doing things. It's more the general listlessness I feel. I don't have any motivation to do any of the things I really want to do (quite ironic ey?). I know that my brain is kind of fucked because of all the instant gratification it got flooded with over the years and whatnot, but I really don't like this situation.

So my question would be: Does it go away/get better over time or do I need to worry? Advice on what I should do next would be very much appreciated as well.
Thanks guys

[Need help: Youtube and Netflix instead of gaming??]

7 hours ago, Southern Northerner said:

My boat as well. I thought I was doing pretty good for myself on the whole quitting gaming, that is until I actually evaluated how I was spending my time, at which point I was hit by the train of truth, that truth being that the time I spent mindlessly watching YouTube videos wasn't any more productive than the time I would spend gaming. Thus for the past three days I have quit YouTube entirely in addition to quitting gaming. Hasn't been easy, but I've found telling myself constantly that it will get easier with time has helped. Additionally I know exactly why I want to quit gaming and YouTube, which I use as a motivator any time I feel like I'm about to flop; by that I mean, before making a rash decision to quickly navigate to YouTube for a quick video binge session, I take a minute to remind myself why I am doing this after which I generally find the willpower to steer clear of that treacherous swamp of instant gratification and intellectually crippling balderdash.

Otherwise advice that might help: Go outside and get away from your devices, turn off; sell or get rid of your devices, block those websites using blockers, find alternative hobbies and if you fall... get back up, always keep moving forward.

Alternatively get yourself arrested and put into solitary confinement. (I don't advocate this and I am not responsible if you or anyone takes this route, but I mean it is technically an option for breaking bad habits...)

 

I hope to hear of your triumphs in the future!

 

 

Thanks for the kind words Mr.! 

Yeah the idea of reminding yourself what you are doing all of this for sound pretty good tbh 🤔  But don't you feel that you miss out on new information and don't you miss the feeling of just mindlessly chilling for bit by quitting YouTube completly?

Good luck on your journey too my friend 💪🏼

[Need help: Youtube and Netflix instead of gaming??]

33 minutes ago, creationlist said:

There are different approaches:

Do other activities like take a walk. The more easy the activity, the more it will help you to stop about thinking of media.

Set a time limit how long you are allowed to consume any sort of media a day (I set myselve 1 Hour once, slowly it was easier to turn off Movies even in the middle, until I did not watch any media for a while).

Try mediation i. e. nothing electronic to reach for x amount of minutes.

Do you watch nonsense media or real educational videos? Becouse there are tons of educationional videos for any topic at youtube (gardening, music, crafting, camping, you name it), for free. I think it's the better wikipedia (becouse you can listen to it while doing other stuff). It's sad that the most dump videos got the most clicks. But I would consider still doing a time limit on that. Becouse all the theory in the world is not as good as practice. Maybe those videos help you to find your next hobby.

If you really want to learn something new however, there is nothing better than a good book. Try visit a library or a book store(they sometimes allow you to read for free).

Thanks for the reply and the advice!

The problem is that I feel useless, like I am wasting time when I do nothing like taking a walk or lying in bed to chill. I feel like I should be doing something productive. 

Yeah I watch a lot of self development videos, but there is a line where it just gets to much which I cross often enough. I really don't seem to be able to adhere to the rules I set myself and when I break them I just feel like shit lol. For the last couple of days I only opened youtube if I knew what I was going to watch beforehand, so no more browsing which works good enough for now I guess. 

[Need help: Youtube and Netflix instead of gaming??]

Hey guys, 

so I have been trying to quit gaming but instead of improving my life I find myself binge watching YouTube or Netflix time after time. I just can't seem to be able to quit everything at once especially since it's a lot of fun to watch a couple of videos or a movie. 

Any advice?