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Simply amazing! Gratz and now keep going and make something beautifull out of this life <3
- Velzen
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Hi guys, it's been a while!
Today I've decided to share my recent news with you. I think my last journal entry was six months ago. Things have changed a little bit since then. I haven't gamed since then except for a two-week period in May, when I played Action Quake just for the nostalgia. My brother said that there were still people playing it, and this game was a big part of our teens, so I installed to play with him. This was different though, I didn't play everyday, and the longest was for about 3 hours. After two weeks, the nostalgia was gone and we both stopped it.
I'm back working at the hospitality industry (gotta put the bread on the table). On my free time, I'm mainly playing the guitar, reading and writing. I'm pursuing a career as a writer and have been working on my craft since, I don't know, the end of my detox? Right now I'm at a crossroad, and it's been really hard to figure out what path to choose regarding where I want to take my words. Right now I'm writing soft erotica for the sake of practice and have something out quick (two stories out), but this is not what I'm aiming at the far end. I wonder if I should keep on putting those stories out to establish a source of income or I should move awaiy from it and never look back (which is kind of sad, because I've put some effort on it already. Kind of remind me of the sunk cost falacy).
I really gotta go now (or I'll get late to work), sorry for not being able to write a proper closing statement. I wish you all good luck.
Hey man,
Great to hear that you're still away from gaming. That's the only way you'll find your true purpose my man.It sounds like you are on a journey trying to find your way. I guess just follow your heart and do what makes you happy. Please stop by sometime to let us know how you're doing!
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I agree with the post above me. Gaming is fun in the moment, but once you get out of that world you'll get depressed because you have nothing in the real word. This is what I experienced at the beginning, but now that I'm working on improving myself in real life I will never go back to gaming. I'm reading a book currently called ''Maximum Achievement by Brian Tracy'' and 1 of the things in it got me really thinking.
1. Life is hard. For you and me and everyone else.
2. Everything you are or ever will be is up to you.
3. You can learn anything you need to learn to become anyone you want to become.
This really puts the power in your own hands. Go out and stop wasting you life in video games. Make this 1 life everything you ever wanted it to be.
* The things I started doing when I stopped gaming was going to the gym and going throug pain and suffering. Everytime I did something I thought I couldn't do like a 5K run and I did it anyways I felt more alive.
If you want to find out what kind of things you'll like and what your purpose is in the world you got to stop gaming and go out and find it for yourself man. -
Always enjoy your posts Robin!
Thanks Cam. I hope your doing well in life :)!
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Day 1
- No Gaming
- No Twitch
- No Youtube (Except educational/Music video's)
- No HLTV
- No Twitter
- No Porn
- No Fap
Activities
- 85 Push-ups ; 85 Sit-ups ; 22 Pull-ups (Missed 38)
- 60 KM Bike ride 22-23 KM/H
- 5.08 KM Run 11.0 KM/H
* Today was one of the most active days in a long time. My legs are super painfull and it was hard to complete the run.
A year a go or so I was also addicted to video games, but Cam and these forums helped me a lot. I don't struggle with gaming anymore since I just really don't like it anymore. The reason why I came back to these forums is to have a sort of system to keep myself disciplined and maybe help others along the way.
* Someone who really inspired me in life is David Goggins. And I will work hard and follow his lessons to better myself.
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Daily
- No Gaming
- No Twitch
- No Youtube (Except educational/Music video's)
- No HLTV
- No Twitter
- No Porn
- No Fap
Week 1:
Running: 25,6 KM
Pull-ups: 250
Sit-ups: 1000
Push-ups: 1000
Running
Day 1: 5K - Medium (10.5/11)
Day 2: 2,7K - Fast Short (13.5/14)
Day 3: 7,5K - Long Slow (9.5/10)
Day 4: 2,7K - Fast Short (13.5/14)
Day 5: 5K - Medium (10.5/11)
Day 6: 2,7K - Fast Short(13.5/14)
Day 7: /
Strength Reps
Day 1: 85 Push/Sit ; 60Pull
Day 2: 250 Push/Sit ; 25Pull
Day 3: 85 Push/Sit ; 60Pull
Day 4: 250 Push/Sit ; 25Pull
Day 5: 85 Push/Sit ; 60Pull
Day 6: 250 Push/Sit ; 25Pull
Day 7: /
These are my daily objectives. I'm training for military bootcamp (Dutch Marines) and I wanted to journal it to see how my progress wil go and if I run into problems I can maybe find out why etc.Feel free to respond/follow along!- Velzen -
Hey guys!
My plan was to start my training program for 16 weeks and after that apply for the military. The problem is that the docter diagnosed Glandular Fever which is the reason of my overall fatigue. I can't do a thing at the moment. Does anyone have experience with this? And when should I expect to be able to run again? 3weeks -> 3months? It's such a bad timing since my school ends in 3 months. I need to be able to train so I can prepare for the army but the fever destroyed that vision.
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Day 3 out of 90
Done!!
Day 4 out of 90
So far so good!
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Joined as well! Great idea
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Hey, have you tried chains.cc to measure you streaks more easily!
Greetings, Mad Pharmacist
Just checked it out thank you :)!
Awesome! I think we can all make a GQ group(s) for many different streaks!
Btw. also coach.me is an awesome one! Chains.cc is easier however and there is a possibility to check your goals from any time ago, and on coach.me you can go only 7 days ago
Hey, have you tried chains.cc to measure you streaks more easily!
Greetings, Mad Pharmacist
Just checked it out thank you :)!
@ hycniejsy, do you also use it
? Great you spread the message about it!I've created today the GameQuitters group on chains.cc. Join me there with your gaming-free chain
https://chains.cc/groups/lmai5LEWSUeeOzSI used it before but now I'm using this https://www.best-you.pl/
However, I made an account and joined you on this streak! I think everyone from GameQuitters can join it!
Hey, have you tried chains.cc to measure you streaks more easily!
Greetings, Mad Pharmacist
Just checked it out thank you :)!
@ hycniejsy, do you also use it
? Great you spread the message about it!I've created today the GameQuitters group on chains.cc. Join me there with your gaming-free chain
https://chains.cc/groups/lmai5LEWSUeeOzSAwesome guys! I've just joined as well
Cool to see eachothers progress!
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Hey, have you tried chains.cc to measure you streaks more easily!
Greetings, Mad Pharmacist
Just checked it out thank you :)!
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Day 2 out of 90
1. Meditated <02>
2. No Fap <02>
3.No Gaming <02>
Also the first day of my calisthenics journey. I decided to go back to the basics. This is incredibly hard, but will pay off in the long run. I know it for sure!
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I am late but I would still like to add one point: Since we are in the winter time right now, you might see a doctor and talk about a winter depression. I read that many people suffer from it without knowing they do. The lack of sunlight and warmth always pulls me down. Might be the case for you as well. So, this is just an idea you could try. Whatever you do, I wish you the best of luck and the greatest success.
Thanks man! I don't think that's my problem though.
It is true that the winter sucks right now haha. I would like to see a bit more sun so that I don't have to wear 10 sweaters
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Hey guys!
So for the last few days I've really been looking for reasons why I'm feeling so depressed and have no motivation to do whatsoever.
I think I've had a burn out, but didn't know it was called like that and I'm still in the burn out mood. Already for 3 months or so.
3 Months ago I was the best version of myself. Literally everything went great in my life.
I worked out 6 times a week, tracked all my macro's etc. didn't eat unhealthy a single time. I also had some experiences for the first time with a beautiful girl.I was so determined to becoming better and better. And I remember telling myself: "Soon you will relapse to gaming and fall into the deep again''.
And it happened. For 3 days in a row I played WoW non stop, but I didn't think of it as being burned out from all the stress from never doing enough or over achieving.
So right now I can only remember how I was like before that relapse and everything after that is just a blur for me.
Right now I'm gaming, I have no motivation to workout, to read, to meditate. Basically all the things that I used are gone. All the good habits I'd developed.
Do you guys have experiences with this? Or do you know how to recover from this?
Thanks in advance!
Hello Robin,
I've done 110 days myself (just about 3.5 months roughtly), so I can relate to your struggles.
I went back to games last year sometime Februry. I guess for me it was different. I did my meditation and took better care of myself (sleeping habit was waaay better), but I guess for me I thought I could go back and not get trapped. But that of course wasn't the case.
For me it was like I was on the otherside of the fence. Games to me felt like a waste of time. At the time I was converting all the energy I would have spent gaming on my business designing board games, so I guess, for me it worked.
But for you, I'd consider diging back into your meditation and trying to focus on why you wanted to stop in the first place. Sure you can say that it was the better yourself, but it appears to me the stress of continuing your betterment lead you to short-circuit of sorts. Try not to place so much stress on the aspect of achievements. Maybe this was something you pursued in games? Were you an Achievement hunter in WoW or elsewhere?
Most importantly - don't think about your new good habits as gone. Consider this a checkpoint of sorts. If you've been gaming for a long, long time. It's going to take some trial and error.
If you come up with anything in regards to reaccuring your motivation, let me know because I can use some pointers myself haha.
You got this.
Thank you so much for taking the time to help me with my struggles hehe ^^
I was definitely super addicted to achieving new goals and levels in games. I always wanted to be the best in the games which led to so much time wasted. After I'd quit gaming I kind of had the same mindset in real life. I wasn't allowed to skip a training, I wasn't allowed to eat unhealthy stuff etc. etc. These are all good things, but I had put so much stress on myself by telling me this every single day and never taking the time to reflect on my self where I was. I didn't see any progress (in my opinion) and it was burning me out.
This time I will rather enjoy the process. I will not put so much stress on myself and I will not be mad at myself if I don't reach a goal fast enough. I will just simply reflect on myself and do better next time. I've sold my PS4 and bought a Calisthenics course for 1 year. I'm planning on learning new skills such as Muscle Up, Levers, Plance etc.The army is really what inspires me and I want to be better for myself and so that I can contribute to a safer world.
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Good job starting your journal again!
Hey gj on investing in you. I'll check daily if you did Journal. MAybe put a Meditation Counter up so we(and you) feel the pressure of the chain method. I would davice oyu to go for a limited time first. 2weeks or so. A time frame you can realisticly say that you will mange to do your daily Meditation whatever happens. I' ll start together with you. I am lately a little bit inconsistent with meditating.
Thanks guys! I really appreciate the support <3
It's day 1 of the 90 day challenge today
1. Meditating <01>
2. No Fap <01>
3. No Gaming <01>
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Oh my God, this topic has started and I didn't say the word of TRUTH? Shame on me!
Sex is part of the base of Maslow's hierarchy of needs.
The biggest lie ever put to Maslow's hierarchy. This is an excuse and I'll explain it easily, proving it by science.
"The lowest" needs from Maslow's pyramid are these that our survival depends on them. In other words, you will die if you stop drinking, eating, sleep, breathing, maintain homeostasis or excretion, it's only the matter of time how long it will take.
However science proves, that nobody ever died due to the lack of sex or masturbation (which these two are obviously not the same!).
So, this is not a survival need. Obviously it is important to cohabitate to maintain the whole species. But you won't explode/become blue on your balls/face/get a prostate cancer etc. This is all bullshit and justification for people.
Ok I'll switch things up then. My no fap counter is now just for porn.
That's a mistake my friend.
Something that will make you weaken in social situation. You'll be just less likely to "achieve" one of the goals on your signature - finding a girlfriend.
And even if you find a girlfriend and will have a sexual relationship with her, by doing masturbation for a long period of time you will be focused on yourself (that's act full of egoism) instead of your sexual partner.
And that will hurt as hell once you will wake up from this state you're in right now.
The most important is to get your literally sexual energy into social interactions with people and especially woman, so this way you'll become a real man and will feel much better with it. Instead of getting this sexual energy out of your body.
About wet dreams - if you're not in stable sexual relationship, this should be a normal physiological reaction of your body to maintain the level of hormones and semen. However it was destroyed nowadays by wrenched from context sexual acts.
That's the brutal truth and nothing else. No excuses, no justifications. You can accept it or deny it. The choice is yours
Think about it and let me know what you think.
I relate to so much you've posted. And I really agree with your points.
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It seems you lost momentum and got drawn back in to your old habits. Try one of these:
- Focus on small daily tasks and build momentum from that - if you haven't already, you might want to build a morning routine and get some stuff crossed out of your list early on.
- Look for opportunities to new experiences - These give you new things to explore and learn from.
- Change your environment for some activities. If you work out everyday at the gym, you might want to have a exercise routine at a park or go swimming one day a week.
I've tried all the above and they worked for me in one way or another.
Mario also said something very important, at least to me: remember to have fun when challenging yourself.
Embrace your fears. It's going to be ok.
Thank you so much for the kind words and support!
I really love the swimming idea which I'll definitely take action on. I have a swimming pool just 4 minutes from my house haha!
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Update:
Just sold my PS4 with games and headset for 250 euros. Will be using that money to expend my home gym and buy a training program which I can progress in.
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Day 01
So a few months back everything was going super good for me. I worked out 6 times a week, tracked all my macro's, had a girlfriend etc. etc. The problem was that I focused my energy on way to many things at the same time and I can't stand it when I'm bad at something. So I wanted to be better than average in all the things I did at the time. The next problem was that I was never proud of myself or never satisfied with my progress. I simply didn't see the purpose anymore in what I was doing, because I thought that I did everything for nothing. All of this led to a burn out which I haven't recovered from till this weekend. My dance teacher came up to me and told me she saw that something was wrong with me. This really got to me because she is one of the most important persons in my life. So as I got home I began to look on the internet for what could have went wrong. I came across the word Burn out and started searching more about it. It turned out that that definition/explanation of a burn out was almost identical with what happened to me. So I took the first steps again. Deleted all my games and joined the Discord chat group. I really want this journal to be chill and relaxed since that's the most important thing to me right now. I don't want to put any pressure on myself. I simply do what I feel like for a while and try to sleep/meditate as often as possible. We'll see where it goes from there.
Although I don't want to pressure myself I want to complete 3 things each day and that's also where you guys should hold me accountable for:
1. Meditating every day
2. No Gaming
3. No Fap / No Porn
To begin with I'll start with a 90 day challenge. Just 90 days doing these 3 things every single day. And if I feel like writing more in my journal I'll do just that.
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This post, my story, is long overdue. I wanted to post something at 90 days but I glossed over it. I wanted to post something about 6 months but then I was so busy with other things in life that I didn't get the chance, until now. Sorry not sorry for the length
I'd like to take a step back first. When I was younger school was easy for me. Well above average grades with not that much effort. Gaming was an integral part of my life, I'd play on my Gameboy all day and later I moved to playing purely on PC. I'd combine playing with paying attention in school and that worked till I was about 16 years old. After that, I had to choose my major and continue in that, but in higher education, I noticed that I had to put in the effort. What the schools would give me was not enough to succeed, so my methods didn't work at all.
I didn't notice how bad my behaviour was. I'd game all day, sometimes go to school, notice that I wasn't going to make the cut so to run away I'd game and game and game. Instead of changing things up I just continued because the world of games was all I knew and everything else was boring, not as exciting and just couldn't hold my attention. With competitive games coming up it got even worse. I'd play to be the best, I'd try to join a more competitive scene which sucked up even more time and attention. In the meantime, I slowly started to notice a pattern where I ran away from anything as soon as I had to act like a responsible human being and take action. No matter how small the thing I needed to do was, whenever I had to take action I just felt like there was this sort of barrier that I couldn't get through. This caused me to not action in just about anything. Slowly this started to penetrate my social life as well. I turned to lying after some time to avoid dealing with people. If I was asked if I took care of something I'd say I sent an email but there might have been some issue with my mail client or something similar.
It felt like the lies allowed me to continue with the bad behaviour. Play games all day, lie about shit I needed to take care of, repeat. It took me too long to realise it pushes people away. People don't want to deal with someone who points fingers all day. Someone who acts irresponsible and never takes responsibility for their actions. Someone you can't rely on. All traits of a despicable person when I look back. It gets comfortable, never having to deal with anything. And man, practice makes perfect, so constructing lies got easier and easier. This got to the point where I'd photoshop a report card so I could avoid disappointing others and fake success. Gaming allowed all of this, It allowed me to keep this up and avoid thinking about it. Gaming just lets me avoid feeling bad and often a motivation for lying would be having more game time. It was a vicious cycle that just built upon negative things and caused even more negative things. 6-14 hours a day of game time.
I took a wrong approach. I was trying to look for the reason behind the barrier and I couldn't find it, so the barrier stuck around. I realised I needed to stop lying and that helped me a tonne. My social life slowly got better, however, I still kept fucking up my education. This should've been the first realisation that I needed to take action instead of just thinking about it.
Five years later, a year back from when in writing this, I started talking to others more. I started to listen more. People said to me that my gaming habits were unhealthy, that maybe quitting might be the right thing to do. I tried moderation, failed horribly and I got so so sick of myself and my own behaviour that I decided that a change was long overdue.
20th of June 2016, I'm 21 on this point. I Quit smoking and gaming on that day. I've changed so so much for the better. I'm getting compliments from people around me, setbacks now motivate me. I've learned that life can hit me in the face and I can still continue. I'm no longer a zombie, I am now honest towards others. I must admit, over the last 7 months there have been some difficult times. I've had days where I fell back into the old behaviour of avoiding everything. I've learned that if I can remove two huge addictions in my life on the same day and keep at it for 7 months (and counting) then I can basically eliminate any other bad behaviour and keep the good stuff around. This is one of the major reasons this has been such a huge success for me. Eliminating the bad forces me to deal with myself, which in turn allows me to think and deal with bad sides. Confronting myself and being honest with myself allows me to be a better person.
This all turned the second half of 2016 in a year where I deal with being responsible. Being responsible towards both myself and others is now something I take pride in. I no longer point fingers and blame others for my own mistakes. I confront myself with that head-on and I learn from that experience. I've been growing since day 0 and I'm still growing on day 222 and I do not plan on stopping.
Part of my growth can be attributed to this community. Thank you, Cam and everyone else, especially everyone in the Discord chat!
So much respect for you! You've inspired me to start counting the good days again and bettering my life.
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That's sick! Good luck with it ^^
I've been dancing for 7 years now. I do Hiphop/Streetdance instead of bboying and it's a ton of fun. I also go to competitions with my crew and stuff.
You can check some clips out here if you're interested: https://www.instagram.com/robinv.velzen/
And let us know when you got some moves down!
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Hey I ahd a phase where I put a lot of pressure on myself and all progress was nto good enough. That's the dark side of motivation. Cam recommended the book "Play: How it shapes the brain".
It isn't about how computer gaming is bad as you might assume, but about the importance of play in our lives. Things we just do for our enjoyment. How little kids play basically. I found it an interesting read and it helped me a bit to put things in the greater perspective. If you force yourself to hard it starts to feel like you "must" do things.. This is never the case by your own progress. You want all these things. But if you go too far and want things to fast this way of looking at things changes. You stop focusing on the good feeling you have after a workout or how proud you are of the things you achieved and want more and more. It was hard for me to stop this over ambition. But I found it important to focus on the few things i really wanted to do and let the rest of things I could/should have done be. Also helpful is to set a low daily/weekly but high 6month goal. We always overestimate what we can handle in a short time. But the cool thing is that we can recover our energy and over time we can do way more then we think we can. These recovery phases are the most important thing in progress(similar to bodybuilding).
Your habits and good things you developed aren't gone. It is like muscle is coming back faster and easier after a longer training pause. Your positive habits will come back faster too. Just start slowly again and be aware of the reasons why things went wrong last time so you can make it better this time. This relapse could be the best thing that happened to you. Because now you know how much you can take before you break. Better to experience this now then with 30 when you commit to be in stressful job just because your ambition is to high. This failure can be a step to a better you. That is the beauty of failures. They show us where we stand and really let us learn stuff. Fail fast and fail often!
I would recommend you just to commit one daily thing and stick to it. Start slow but start.
This was incredibly helpful! I can't thank you enough for these kind words.
I will save your comment and review it as often as possible. I think that I'll start by committing to meditate daily, because it sets me in a good mood which will snowball the rest of my day hopefully!Thanks again <3
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Hey guys!
So for the last few days I've really been looking for reasons why I'm feeling so depressed and have no motivation to do whatsoever.
I think I've had a burn out, but didn't know it was called like that and I'm still in the burn out mood. Already for 3 months or so.
3 Months ago I was the best version of myself. Literally everything went great in my life.
I worked out 6 times a week, tracked all my macro's etc. didn't eat unhealthy a single time. I also had some experiences for the first time with a beautiful girl.I was so determined to becoming better and better. And I remember telling myself: "Soon you will relapse to gaming and fall into the deep again''.
And it happened. For 3 days in a row I played WoW non stop, but I didn't think of it as being burned out from all the stress from never doing enough or over achieving.
So right now I can only remember how I was like before that relapse and everything after that is just a blur for me.
Right now I'm gaming, I have no motivation to workout, to read, to meditate. Basically all the things that I used are gone. All the good habits I'd developed.
Do you guys have experiences with this? Or do you know how to recover from this?
Thanks in advance!
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Yo guys,
So the original template is not gonna work for me.
I rather just freely talk about my day ^^
28 November 2016
Today has been a great day!
I've eaten healthy, had a great workout and uploaded a new video!
I'm so grateful for all the love and people in my life.
I figured that I should focus on the 3 most important things in my life first every single day.1. Workout
2. Eat Healthy
3. Rest
I truly feel like these 3 simple things will be super important for in my life. They are the key habits to my success.
I will also post my workout and daily calorie intake below for people that are interested :)!
Workout Upper body:
Dumbell press 3x 12
Incline dumbell press 3x 12
Pull ups 3x 12
Bent over Rows 3x 12
Military Press 3x 12
Shoulder press 3x 12
Alternate bicep curls 3x 12
One arm tricep push down 3x 12
Daily Calories:
Calories: 2235 (Today I ate 2400 because I did more cardio than usually)
Protein: 145
Carbs: 274
Fats: 62
Supplements:
BCAA
Creatine
Multivitamine
Omega 3
Here is also a link to my YT channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOEeQ7Da8GZQyzJ52EZ0rTw
I had the mindset of creating content instead of documenting my journey before. I watched a video from Gary Vaynerchuck and he inspired me to just document my journey for myself and for other people. For me it's kinda normal what I eat and do, but for other people it could be possibly helpful.
Thanks for the support <3
Sleepwell guys
HI Robin, it's good to see your new YT viodeo. Would you also share your daily food besides of the supplements?
Rest is very important, in this few days, many people get sick including me. Take care!
Hey!
Thanks for your reply
Rest is indeed super important especially while I'm on this mini-cut. My energy is really a lot lower than before.
Here is what I eat on a daily basis for the most part:
Breakfast:
- Oats
- Milk
- Water + Black coffee
Lunch:
- Whole wheat bread
- Cheese 20+ (Low fat High Protein)
- Chicken filet (For on bread)
- Apple
Dinner:
- Brown Rice
- Vegetables (Broccoli for example)
- Chicken or Lean Beef
- Some kind of sauce like sweet chili
Snacks in between:
- Low fat Yoghurt/Quark
- Frozen berries
- Banana
- Kiwi
- Rice cakes with peanut butter
And I drink loads of water :)!
I want to live my life!
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Plus Ultra man!
Don't focus on too many things is my suggestion. That way you will maybe get burned out yea and escape from reality in gaming again. Just do what feels right for you. Stopping with gaming is the first step. That way you will have sooo much more time and you can experience what life really is.
We will be here along the journey. Just don't give up. Ever. What the hell would Deku do huh? HE WOULD FIGHT FOR IT! hehe
- Velzen