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Skyline123 added a topic in Social Skills, Dating & RelationshipsWays to gain confidence + social skillsYo new to this thing 19 here and that , 2nd post ever, looking for great ways to boost confidence and develop some social skills summers coming up and ill be off for 4 months which i think i can hopefully improve productively for the next year in university although i feel like being shot with a bullet as i cant push myself to do it unless i get approached 1st which i shouldnt really be relying on.
1 way i managed to stop these games dramatically was by focusing purely going for work and that, and kept the games to a severe minimum with almost half a week of nothing to being busy with studies and that ,working out at the gym also filling up the time and gotten some enjoyment from boxing Although i fear that when my classes end i may go back to my old self which i dont want to happen i used to just binge games all the damn time
But the main thing really is to be more sociable and stop relying on others to initiate, developed some anxiety and basicly keeping a low profile so to speak unless asked where i can respond reasonably well, and its a bit weird i feel insanely fine with old longtime friends who i talk to now and then as i known them from way back and its like im 2 different people lol 2 opposites
What would be a good way to start out this new chapter some suggestions to break out of this would be great
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Skyline123 added a topic in Start Here + IntroductionsMy story new hereHey there
im Jake im a 19 year old and and feel as though im 13 or less lol and want to break out of it and catch up on life experiences and that
Basicly as a kid ive been rather sheltered everything done for me which may of led to me just playing games it was easy to get and so picked it up i felt fine until about high school where it changed a bit and as being a foreigner in the uk i assumed it was that (from US) and that led to me trusting people severely less, where i ended up just playing games instead which fed that and there were a fair few ppl out there though which approached me and i did get along well but gradually overtime grew more distant and then and since the end of that i came to think its to do with games perhaps with the lack of experience out there and running back to it to prevent that idk as then thts all i could talk about and a bit now but much less so while others did their own thing i felt a bit like an outsider
I think that was the main problem which games made worse as i couldnt maintain the friendships enough or relationships for that as the social skills are still a bit limited. Towards the end of that ended up just joking around being sarcastic to get laughs out of people but that was the limit as i couldnt really go beyond that. But for presentations or work stuff easy super confident you would think im some1 else which i still cant really understand to this day anyways
Recently scrapping that moving on, started working out, joined some airsoft and living 1 day at a time i dont feel depressed or anything but i think im getting closer to that i feel incomplete as have lost courage to talk to people in groups but 1 on 1 easy but sometimes a pause here and there and i feel awkward on that but removing games may be a good start
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