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  1. Day 9: finally setup some headphones and banged around on a piano today, wow I'm so much worse then I was even just two years ago. 

    For the next ~4 days I'm helping our local church run livestream services for easter stuff, so that's cool.

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  2. Day8: oops these last two days have been very busy and productive, so I'm happy 'bout that. 

    I'm planning a workout for the extended future, how to get back into music (I dropped it in favor of video games 5 years ago), and yeah.



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  3. Day 6: nothing of note today, but I feel obligated to post something.

    Watched some war (World War One era) movies. Really makes you think just how stupid some of our modern struggles are.

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  4. On 3/26/2021 at 1:41 AM, wazzapp said:

    I'm not sure I am willing to give up gaming in certain social settings. Specifically console games on TV with friends irl

    Imo, as long as you aren't either

    A. Using friends as an excuse to game.

    B. Obsessing about those games to beat/help friends with these games.

    It should be fine. Also of course if it leads you to download personal games, it's a no-go. 

    I'm personally detoxing completely from games as a whole for now, but I could see a future me where I'd allow myself to be pulled in to these "party games" without addiction.

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  5. 1 hour ago, Pochatok said:

    What do you mean by "surreal"?

    I've dreamed I'm characters in a game before, or even that I'm touring the universes in games, but never actually dreamed that I was literally playing the games, right down to how I arranged skill bars and chatted and stuff. It felt visceral and real until I woke up.


    Day 5:

    Was really ornery today. Got a lot of household chores and cleaning done. Kinda just feel like shit though. I'm telling myself that things will feel better soon but I haven't convinced myself either.

    This experience makes me really miss my ex though, we could talk about anything. That was one of the things that led me to gaming away my university semesters, oh well. 


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  6. Howdy Tess! Welcome to the community. 

    I'd recommend making a journal post if you are so inclined in this sections of the forums. Being aware of your progress and having a trackable record of your days while quitting games (regardless if you are doing a full 90 day detox or something else) can help significantly with whatever you are struggling with. 

    15 hours ago, Theresa said:

    I realize I need to stop running and face reality.

    This mindset is already so much better then many others addled with Gaming Addiction. Go get em!

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  7. Day 4: 

    So bored. Still exhausted. Very irritable today.

    I need hobbies.

    The biggest pull on me has been the urge to rejoin old communities. Haven't gone through. Also dreaming about gaming is rather surreal.

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  8. 1 minute ago, WhoCares said:

    Maybe I’m missing something

    Our brains are computers--very very complex computers, but programmable nonetheless. You've (and me too) spent the last ~5 years programming your brain to accept Overwatch as a--no, THE--only reward it wants. It's no personal problem with you--we've spent the last five years rewarding our brains with the digital equivalent of Ecstacy. Of course we are going to struggle with normal day activities.


    What this article suggests is intentionally programming positive interactions with yourself. Every time you catch yourself saying something like...

    4 minutes ago, WhoCares said:

    I see myself as a failure

    Or something like...

    On 3/14/2021 at 11:16 AM, WhoCares said:

    I think this is it. I don't wanna change. Even when I hate myself and my life, I'm not committed enough to make a move.

    This is proof of a **Fixed Mindset**. A fixed mindset indicates that you think you can't change, no matter how hard you try. You need to start reorienting yourself towards a **Growth Mindset** (e.g, instead of saying "I'm going to relapse" say "I'm feeling some strong urges to relapse."). This is critical because a growth mindset allows room for Hope of change. You aren't going to change over a two/three week period, but you are going to chip away at some of the habits, and eventually overcome your habits in game addiction.


    Here's some practical examples. The moment you think a hopeless thought such as "I'm never going to get better" or "It'd be better if I just played games," correct yourself in the moment! Say stuff like "progress is slow" or "it won't be better if I game, I just need to find another thing." Even if you don't believe yourself, just correcting yourself will improve your mood and ability to avoid games over time! 


    Quitting games is really, really hard. Don't expect it to be instant but on the other hand, don't give up! 

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  9. Day 3: 

    Just felt bored today, first day I haven't been at work. Cleared out my reddit. Started writing down campaign notes for DnD. Thought about getting into copywriting.

    Also felt really out of breath all day. Couldn't exercise or anything due to it, which sucks. 

    I'm taking a close look at new hobbies and activities.

    Edit: end of day, I run around my yard with my dog and am so out of shape gotta fix that

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  10. Despite Day 3 technically not being over, I still wanna post--first responding to above posts.

    First, thanks for the concern all. I love how active and helpful this community is and I also love how honest everyone is. 

    6 hours ago, Rudianos said:

    I think that real friends would stick with you no matter what, though it might be a bit challenging to find new topics to discuss.

    It's sad for me to say, but I can only think of one or two people who I haven't either shunted out of my life due to my reliance on games, or were friends just through games. Still, I'm already looking at places to find new friends.

    3 hours ago, Carya said:

    I think that I will have to draw the line NOW to stop using computers for entertainment altogether and only using them for work-related purposes.

    This is one of my commitments. However, I'm making a caveat as far as researching personality science, and compling Tabletop resources go. Obviously if these things take the same attention as games do, I'll cut them but I doubt that will be the case (personality science because it's mostly centered around others, and dnd because you really have to culminate your work with others in meetspace.).

    50 minutes ago, Jason70 said:

    Internet browsing was a problem for me too.

    Wiping my Chrome profile just let me notice how often I went for internet surfing (though in particular game forums and discord). 

    50 minutes ago, Jason70 said:

    What personally helped me is that I hid my phone in a completely different room as for my laptop

    I wish I could--I use my phone and home computer for work, and the way the business I work for operates makes it very hard to differentiate between work and relaxation. All too often I'd (for example) set some VPN servers updating, and "while waiting" would rationale with myself that I could just check a hearthstone site real quick before losing 3 hours on reddit or whatever. 

    52 minutes ago, Jason70 said:

    even just sitting in silence thinking

    I do need to get better at this--I've got ADD symptoms that make it very hard to not fidget or multitask. 


    Ok, Day 2:

    I was out at work all day today. I kept keeping myself from browsing the web, though it was less frequent then yesterday.

    I also couldn't keep myself from pacing. If I wasn't actively working or talking, I'd pace around til I made myself sick. Other than that, it was a good day.

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  11. I've always had a knack for making friends quickly--even while at the University I failed out of, I made many different friend groups with ease (and frankly, games were a way to hide from these people after "disappointing" them).

    But the area that I live, there just isn't a whole lot of people around--certainly not a lot of young adults near my age group (that quasi group between teen and adult, 18-25?), and those that I knew either game compulsively like I used to, or have moved on past me into university/marriage/whatever else.

    What do you all suggest for finding people in a community that just doesn't *have* a lot of people? I've considered posting fliers around town but I'm not necessarily the best at coordinating groups. 

  12. On 10/15/2019 at 1:27 PM, CornishGameHen said:

    I'm curious about this.  Are MMORPG's more difficult to abstain from, versus Single Player Games?


    I don't really get addicted to single player--don't get me wrong, they still trigger that "dopamine hit"--but multiplayer suddenly brings in community, competition, etc.

    One of my worst addictive times was when I was competiting in regionals for Super Smash Bros. It was all-consuming. 

  13. On 4/30/2019 at 8:08 PM, Guest said:

    Playing an RPG (not an electronic one, but in real life, with friends, together around a table) - this one I need to know your opinions, is it a good idea?

    Yes! Nothing builds community faster than Tabletop! I'd recommend checking out DnD 5e (much simpler then old DnD) or Savage Worlds.

  14. Yup. I hate to be "that guy" but you are going to have to analyze those friendships. For me I don't think I have a single friendship I can salvage now that I'm quitting games. I'm willing to let that go because of how destructive games have been for me. 

    You may be able to keep some friends--and I hope you can! But being honest with yourself is key here--why are you quitting games? 

    An addendum here: analyze why you're friends with these people. Do you have a real bond with these people? Or have you been using them to fuel your addictions (and frankly, have they been using you to fuel their addictions?)

  15. Among Us is just like playing mafia together--it's only really fun with other friends. Trust me! I tried to play with random people but it's boring and frustrating. 

    In my opinion, it's a fine party game, just in lieu of games like Monopoly or UNO. This party game is just facilitated by use of computer/phone.

    Of course, if you feel the temptation/addiction, please cut it cold turkey! For safeties' sake I'm cutting it as well as youtube and gaming related websites. It's more of a person-by-person thing I suppose.

  16. What does the community think of meetspace Tabletop Roleplay games? I've always loved it as a medium for building community and friendship (though for a long time I've delayed/procrastinated with video games.), but I'm not sure how that works with/against the gamequitters program.

    Any thoughts?

  17. Day 0 (I forgot to write yesterday):

    I've been pretty lethargic, last night I cleared off Discord, all the games, and wiped my Chrome profile clean of games. I haven't felt too emotionally extreme in either direction (neither excited to be clean, not depressed and anxious without my drug) but I've been notably tired. 

    I deleted my Discord account and haven't done games for about four days now, but putting it officially into words is a bit... Nerve racking? For lack of a better word. Still, I'm determined this is the right thing.


    Day 1:

    Today, I still don't feel irrationally stressed or angry, just melancholy. I realize that *all* of my prior friendships have been framed around games and as such are unlikely to last now that the influence is gone. 

    Sometimes I catch myself going on my phone searching the first letter of various gaming sites I'd visit, catching myself off guard. How often was I keeping myself distracted (more accurately, drugged) by browsing these sites and monitoring these community sites for new activity? 

    I've been planning on how to meet people--maybe I'll actually run that meetspace DnD group I've always wanted now haha.

    Today though, I'm at least distracted by work, which allows me to focus on something else. Filling in the time does help.


    Day 2 tommorow 🙂

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  18. Hi, my name is Ethan, I'm 18 and I've decided to quit gaming after 8 years of addiction to games like WoW, TF2, and other multiplayer games. 

    Due to these addictions, and the need to escape from my responsibilities, I've dropped out of University, lost all non-gaming friends, and attempted to run away from my home in an emotional, not well thought out, attempt to cut cold turkey.

    A lot of my personal habits are more so related to the gaming community, rather than games themselves. I may have spent "only" 3 or 4 hours a day actually gaming (often at night when I should be sleeping!) But many of my waking hours were spent reading game news and talking to communities within those games. 

    I've already cut out games and Discord off my devices and tried my best to purge my browsers and email from the numerous gaming news/communities I'm involved with, but losing a community is honestly terrifying now in lieu of COVID-19. 

    Still, this is the first step towards a better life. Day 1 has been going strong, and I'm ready to be clean of this. 


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