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Hello there, I'm happy I made it here after 1 year of procrastination, we all start games in childhood i started gaming in 1995 , none of my friends had PC in their homes yet , PC meant games to me nothing but games.

as i grow i managed to play and keep doing good at school I was and still am multitasking getting good grades and all. 

Highschool ended and i got accepted in Faculty of engineering , this is when gaming really affected my studying , living away from my parents and alone it was an absolute freedom to do anything , I've always considered myself a hardcore gamer , i failed for the first time in my education life to an mmorpg game which i never play anymore 2 years wasted in playing worthless game  , I played it because people played it in that country , rivarly and challenge among friends makes you wanna play more.

Did that even stop me?

nope , I've never thought that there is such a thing called game addiction till Cam talked about it.

My father gave me a chance to join other school which I liked more -the dental school- I took things seriously but still I didn't quit gaming i kept playing Call of Duty in my free time , didn't go to friends or anything just straight up to my pc , I remember playing the game on a 15 inch monitor with a low fps - this is addiction obviously- .

I've Graduated as a dentist and later on got married . My second day of marriage I played Call of Duty for 10 hours straight , I've been called a game addict by every single member of my family and I kept and was keeping denying with anger inside me saying " you don't know how precious gaming is to me ". it sounded to me like someone is insulting your parents. My wife loved me and she went through alot , I refused many times her requests to go get groceries and at that time I didn't have a job , my father sends me money and I just sleep play till next morning and sleep again. 

I got employed in a clinic and i thought i would keep busy and manage my time , I knew gaming is my problem at this stage but I just couldn't quit , I like games , can't waste my talent "ughhh" . Unfortunately the clinic has few or no customers , owner is a rich guy with multiple investments pays me monthly for sitting on my desk with a computer with internet , Game addiction devil comes in with this idea , i can't just wait for 8 hours to get to home and play CoD , why don't you play from work. I brought an old VGA card hooked it to my work PC and bought RAM sticks and there you go an affordable gaming pc , till last Wednesday I've been playing 8 hours from work and 4- 6 hours from home , my index finger got injured but i didn't care , in somedays I really was not into playing games but mostly i just escape from my life problems , bills , car installment, kids stuff - btw I have 3 kids-  

I spent almost two years till now in this clinic with almost no customers. 

On last Thursday while playing late at night i browsed google and found Cam's video talking about game addiction. Every thing he says about game addicts is on point , it really shocked me when I found out that dopamine is the thing that keeps me playing for no reason my whole life was a waste . I'm 30 yrs old , what did I achieve in life? I checked how much time I played all series of call of duty it was more than 5000 hours play time on PC only - i has Xbox and ps too- , I remebered a qoute then which is :" when you put so much time in something , you become so good at it" . I told myself " imagine if i've put all this time in my studies , hobbies , and anything but gaming, wouldn't I become a better dentist ?, a better person?"

Of course I'm good at Call of Duty , Why? Because I wasted half of my youth on it .

Did my 100 nukes give me extra attention or money ? did I get rewarded in real life , did I get recognized ? Did an organization hire you for being good at games? 

Then why spend so much time on it?

Now I quit because there is no reason to continue .

I regret how selfish I was . I was prefering buying new gear for my pc over my own kids and my wife. 

This time I'm determined and I don't think I'm gonna go back again.

for a more than 15 years game addiction , i live through hell right now , i dream everyday about Call of duty , withdrawal symptoms are hard for me . But now I have my New family that support me

the family is You 

Best regards 

Yours 

The Gamer Dentist

 

 

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Welcome! Glad you've joined us here. :) 

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Welcome! Glad you've joined us here. :) 

the pleasure is mine. We owe you big time. Keep it up

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I feel you on this "Now I quit because there is no reason to continue" thank-you so much for sharing this powerful story, You can do it!!! Epic post for me thanks brother!

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I feel you on this "Now I quit because there is no reason to continue" thank-you so much for sharing this powerful story, You can do it!!! Epic post for me thanks brother!

you are welcome, and yeah man it's non ending cycle , every year they release hundreds of games and you just keep playing for no reason just like digging the air forever.

I hope my story helps others to see where rock bottom is.

cheers

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Hey GamerAddict. Was just getting set up on the forum, saw your post title and was compelled to click.

I'm married too and if there is one thing I can tell you it's that what you are doing, deciding to quit, is very noble and selfless. Your kids need their father and your wife, her husband. Gaming may have pulled you away from other successes and accomplishments for so many years, but the fact that you are taking action now is all that matters. You have plenty of time to do all of things you claim you've missed out on, age is not a factor. Just remember, your family need you more than ever and they want to see you get through this.

You've got a great community of people here who care and are going through exactly what you are right now. Early withdrawal is hands down one of the worst parts of this, but you're much stronger than withdrawal will make you feel. Take advantage of the forums, the community, the great content Cam has posted and never be afraid to reach out to us if you're feeling weak.

Best of luck and keep going. Do it for your family.

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Hey GamerAddict. Was just getting set up on the forum, saw your post title and was compelled to click.

I'm married too and if there is one thing I can tell you it's that what you are doing, deciding to quit, is very noble and selfless. Your kids need their father and your wife, her husband. Gaming may have pulled you away from other successes and accomplishments for so many years, but the fact that you are taking action now is all that matters. You have plenty of time to do all of things you claim you've missed out on, age is not a factor. Just remember, your family need you more than ever and they want to see you get through this.

You've got a great community of people here who care and are going through exactly what you are right now. Early withdrawal is hands down one of the worst parts of this, but you're much stronger than withdrawal will make you feel. Take advantage of the forums, the community, the great content Cam has posted and never be afraid to reach out to us if you're feeling weak.

Best of luck and keep going. Do it for your family.

Thanks for the kind words , actually you wrote this reply while I'm out in a mall with my family and I want to tell you that I've never had fun being out with my family like this time , I used to crave games alot and rush my way home to feed my addiction, sometimes I use mobile games to keep me busy throughout the whole night out , I'm actually feeling blessed that I have my family like never before. 

So yeah, you are right , the main reason i decided to quit is my family , and I'm not gonna fail them again.

thanks again bro.

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Just don't fill your new found time with mindless searching of the internet and staying disconnected with them!

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Just don't fill your new found time with mindless searching of the internet and staying disconnected with them!

hehe, if there is something in the world i can control it would be browsing internet for nothing . I learnd to optimize it the hard way long time ago. 

But yeah , thanks for the heads up.

 

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"What did I achieve in life?"

You have a Wife and three kids and you are a Dentist. You said your father would send you some money to the groceries,this means you have your family support which is very important in life.You have achieved a lot if you ask my opinion.

If you want to be a better Dentist you need to have clients so I think you should go to another clinic or talk to your boss about this situation and try to change something about it to keep you motivated.

Do the 90 days Detox as soon as you can.

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"What did I achieve in life?"

You have a Wife and three kids and you are a Dentist. You said your father would send you some money to the groceries,this means you have your family support which is very important in life.You have achieved a lot if you ask my opinion.

If you want to be a better Dentist you need to have clients so I think you should go to another clinic or talk to your boss about this situation and try to change something about it to keep you motivated.

Do the 90 days Detox as soon as you can.

thanks for the input

About life achievements you are right , but don't you think if i focused my energy on a valuable cause , I would be better both socially and professionally.

"What did I achieve" I meant the progress in life, in my job and also in social skills.

and about family support

my father was angry past 2 years cuz i spent most of the free time I have in gaming and he rarely supported me , now he is retired and is now without a job . 

4 years ago he offered me to have my masters degree and was willing to support me,

first thing came to my mind . How i'm gonna play Call of duty there . And I refused telling him stupid excuses.

I hope you got the picture now and see how much time and opportunities  I wasted playing a non ending game 

btw I'm in top 10 ranking of the world in Call of duty , what do I get? Nothing

if i'm top of my class in dental school , I would have been rewarded with a scholarship .

but you know , this is life.

Thanks for your time.

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I hear you on those points. I too have a loving wife and kid(s) (one now and one on the way in a couple months). I work a job that has great benefits, perks and pays really well. However, knowing that if I put the time I wasted on gaming/netflix/youtube/partying/etc into something worthwhile like my studies or healthy hobbies, I may be in an even better position career-wise, or who knows. Squandered time and talent spawns some disappointment in yourself. However, luckily there is still plenty of time to turn things around and make the most of life and your talent. 

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I hear you on those points. I too have a loving wife and kid(s) (one now and one on the way in a couple months). I work a job that has great benefits, perks and pays really well. However, knowing that if I put the time I wasted on gaming/netflix/youtube/partying/etc into something worthwhile like my studies or healthy hobbies, I may be in an even better position career-wise, or who knows. Squandered time and talent spawns some disappointment in yourself. However, luckily there is still plenty of time to turn things around and make the most of life and your talent. 

Thanks , EndOfAnEra . This is exactly what I meant in the post.

As humans we are not flawless , but if you keep control on your life, it will be better than mindlessly wasting time on something that doesn't really matter.

I'm not completely against gaming in general , we all need to have fun every now and then but I believe there are plenty of hobbies , sports and social activities you can have fun with along with better mindset and way more healthy and interactive lifestyle.

 Thanks 

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"What did I achieve in life?"

You have a Wife and three kids and you are a Dentist. You said your father would send you some money to the groceries,this means you have your family support which is very important in life.You have achieved a lot if you ask my opinion.

If you want to be a better Dentist you need to have clients so I think you should go to another clinic or talk to your boss about this situation and try to change something about it to keep you motivated.

Do the 90 days Detox as soon as you can.

thanks for the input

About life achievements you are right , but don't you think if i focused my energy on a valuable cause , I would be better both socially and professionally.

"What did I achieve" I meant the progress in life, in my job and also in social skills.

and about family support

my father was angry past 2 years cuz i spent most of the free time I have in gaming and he rarely supported me , now he is retired and is now without a job . 

4 years ago he offered me to have my masters degree and was willing to support me,

first thing came to my mind . How i'm gonna play Call of duty there . And I refused telling him stupid excuses.

I hope you got the picture now and see how much time and opportunities  I wasted playing a non ending game 

btw I'm in top 10 ranking of the world in Call of duty , what do I get? Nothing

if i'm top of my class in dental school , I would have been rewarded with a scholarship .

but you know , this is life.

Thanks for your time.

I think all the people who come here to GQ and admit playing video games was ruining their lives (in some way of another) lost something in life...friends...time...money...opportunities...I lost all of that but I realize I had to stop thinking about the past and live the present in a totally different way.Thinking about new projects and ways to achieve them and spending time doing what I like with my family and friends.

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"What did I achieve in life?"

You have a Wife and three kids and you are a Dentist. You said your father would send you some money to the groceries,this means you have your family support which is very important in life.You have achieved a lot if you ask my opinion.

If you want to be a better Dentist you need to have clients so I think you should go to another clinic or talk to your boss about this situation and try to change something about it to keep you motivated.

Do the 90 days Detox as soon as you can.

thanks for the input

About life achievements you are right , but don't you think if i focused my energy on a valuable cause , I would be better both socially and professionally.

"What did I achieve" I meant the progress in life, in my job and also in social skills.

and about family support

my father was angry past 2 years cuz i spent most of the free time I have in gaming and he rarely supported me , now he is retired and is now without a job . 

4 years ago he offered me to have my masters degree and was willing to support me,

first thing came to my mind . How i'm gonna play Call of duty there . And I refused telling him stupid excuses.

I hope you got the picture now and see how much time and opportunities  I wasted playing a non ending game 

btw I'm in top 10 ranking of the world in Call of duty , what do I get? Nothing

if i'm top of my class in dental school , I would have been rewarded with a scholarship .

but you know , this is life.

Thanks for your time.

I think all the people who come here to GQ and admit playing video games was ruining their lives (in some way of another) lost something in life...friends...time...money...opportunities...I lost all of that but I realize I had to stop thinking about the past and live the present in a totally different way.Thinking about new projects and ways to achieve them and spending time doing what I like with my family and friends.

exactly brother.

"What did I achieve in life?"

You have a Wife and three kids and you are a Dentist. You said your father would send you some money to the groceries,this means you have your family support which is very important in life.You have achieved a lot if you ask my opinion.

If you want to be a better Dentist you need to have clients so I think you should go to another clinic or talk to your boss about this situation and try to change something about it to keep you motivated.

Do the 90 days Detox as soon as you can.

thanks for the input

About life achievements you are right , but don't you think if i focused my energy on a valuable cause , I would be better both socially and professionally.

"What did I achieve" I meant the progress in life, in my job and also in social skills.

and about family support

my father was angry past 2 years cuz i spent most of the free time I have in gaming and he rarely supported me , now he is retired and is now without a job . 

4 years ago he offered me to have my masters degree and was willing to support me,

first thing came to my mind . How i'm gonna play Call of duty there . And I refused telling him stupid excuses.

I hope you got the picture now and see how much time and opportunities  I wasted playing a non ending game 

btw I'm in top 10 ranking of the world in Call of duty , what do I get? Nothing

if i'm top of my class in dental school , I would have been rewarded with a scholarship .

but you know , this is life.

Thanks for your time.

I think all the people who come here to GQ and admit playing video games was ruining their lives (in some way of another) lost something in life...friends...time...money...opportunities...I lost all of that but I realize I had to stop thinking about the past and live the present in a totally different way.Thinking about new projects and ways to achieve them and spending time doing what I like with my family and friends.

"What did I achieve in life?"

You have a Wife and three kids and you are a Dentist. You said your father would send you some money to the groceries,this means you have your family support which is very important in life.You have achieved a lot if you ask my opinion.

If you want to be a better Dentist you need to have clients so I think you should go to another clinic or talk to your boss about this situation and try to change something about it to keep you motivated.

Do the 90 days Detox as soon as you can.

thanks for the input

About life achievements you are right , but don't you think if i focused my energy on a valuable cause , I would be better both socially and professionally.

"What did I achieve" I meant the progress in life, in my job and also in social skills.

and about family support

my father was angry past 2 years cuz i spent most of the free time I have in gaming and he rarely supported me , now he is retired and is now without a job . 

4 years ago he offered me to have my masters degree and was willing to support me,

first thing came to my mind . How i'm gonna play Call of duty there . And I refused telling him stupid excuses.

I hope you got the picture now and see how much time and opportunities  I wasted playing a non ending game 

btw I'm in top 10 ranking of the world in Call of duty , what do I get? Nothing

if i'm top of my class in dental school , I would have been rewarded with a scholarship .

but you know , this is life.

Thanks for your time.

I think all the people who come here to GQ and admit playing video games was ruining their lives (in some way of another) lost something in life...friends...time...money...opportunities...I lost all of that but I realize I had to stop thinking about the past and live the present in a totally different way.Thinking about new projects and ways to achieve them and spending time doing what I like with my family and friends.

exactly 

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