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  1. Kad added a post in a topic Hello, fellow Game Quitters!   

    There are many on this forum at your age who were also dealing with the stresses of high school and game quitter.  It is awesome that you are starting now!  Someone you might relate too is "AlexTheGrape"
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  2. Kad added a post in a topic Hi all!   

    Congrats on the great start!  Here is a vid by Cam on how to deal with Cravings.   Keeping busy was the best thing for me. Good luck to you!
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PjLmwn_0GWM
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  3. Kad added a post in a topic Hello!   

    One of the things on my to do list is a 5k Color Run too!  I am in progress of changing major couch potato lifestyle so it will be awhile for my goal but it is moving and in progress!  Some things to make fitness more fun is the app "The walk" of very campy plot and story for while i walk (where my progress is atm) and there is the Zombie Run app for fun too.  The 7 minute strength app can start your morning off well and who can argue I don't have 7 minutes!  Good luck on your goals!
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  4. Kad added a post in a topic Nothing feels the same   

    I have often wondered if there is an association with gaming and depression and/or anxiety.  It seems a lot of gamers have that issue when they did not before gaming and after the detox it improves quite a bit especially if positive life changes.  Depression can be a significant medical issue and it should not be ignored.  It may be worthwhile to seek treatment especially when trying to do tasks like detox.  Untreated depression could get in the way of your goals and be a significant and possibly more serious health concern.  Others have mentioned that lack of light makes them feel down and lights help.  In the end always best practice to take care of yourself!
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  5. Kad added a post in a topic Nothing feels the same   

    I found the items that Cam suggested were very helpful esp the gratefulness and exercise part.  Took me longer to get the benefits of meditation though.  The most immediate impact was finding 3 things to be grateful for.  Some days in the beginning I would struggle to find items to be grateful for and had to do things like- I am grateful I have feet so I can walk or hands (which are honestly fairly amazing things). Then it moved to my family and I am not living on the street today.  Now I find so many little treasures everywhere that bring joy its hard to find just 5 things.
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  6. Kad added a post in a topic Building me   

    Here you go Cam!  This is the non-guilty look as I stopped her from eating the plumbing!

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  7. Kad added a post in a topic Hi everyone! (Everydayart's big wall of text and misspelling) :)   

    Welcome to the journey!  It is awesome that you quit for 6 months before and that shows you are successful and just need to modify abit!  The respawn and Cam's vids really helped with ideas and distraction during the first weeks of knuckle biting phase!  I can not emphasize enough the importance of activities, setting goals and new habits.  It will feel uncomfortable at first but that is the stuff that will keep you off games and make your life so rich you don't want to go back to games!  Journaling will help keep you in touch with what is really going on in your head so you can address your needs that might trigger a relapse.  The book "The power of habit" gives awesome information on how to start changing your life especially if you are prone to addictions as you state.  I have learned with myself that the need to escape into an addiction (gaming, smoking, overeating, alcohol, whatever) is a sign that more robust coping mechanisms need to be developed because life will happen.  So what is your plan to deal with stress?  Gym time? positive self-talk to get you through? a walk? Journaling to get perspective?  Make a plan, did it work? does it need to be improved..it is a journey. Life is the best game!
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  8. Kad added a post in a topic Building me   

    Life building journey day 33 (post 90 day detox-because detox is really only the beginning).
    Today is good.  First day puppy accident free day yesterday!  There was rejoicing!  Puppies are pretty intense time commitment and its such a long time since I had a puppy.  The training techniques are all different with supposedly more behavioral science.  Training not working - research and find a new strategy, apply, fine tune and win, lol!  Training techniques are certainly more positive than in the past which I like.  Just shows - positive training works and we should not be too harsh on our training either to the new lives we want. 
    Today's daily quote "When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better, too."  I do find that so true at the moment.  Each positive change seems to ripple outward.  Each step makes the next one easier and builds on what went on before.  Now I see some of my hard work and life engagement coming back to me with compliments.  I don't need external reinforcement as I chose this journey but it is nice to see external validation that the plan is working. 
    I see how much this site is growing and almost don't recognize it but the energy is exciting.  I hope more people discover the freedom and richness of a non-game stuck life.  My moderation plan continues to work and I play something from time to time but pretty quickly get tired of it just like I would with a book or TV.  I don't live there anymore or hide there.  Its about balance these days and my personal commitments to the life I chose.  I never realized just how satisfying setting goals and making them, overcoming barriers and issues and seeing the positive effects would be.  Not all my goals work out..some end up being discarded but not without a serious trial, research and patience.  For example, mediation is finally after almost 2 months getting to the point I am getting what my goal for the activity was.  I had set an internal 3 month reassess plan to give an honest trial because not everything will work for you.
    Keep the faith and know it is worth the rough stuff at the beginning!
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  9. Kad added a post in a topic My Journal - Joe   

    I love my bird feeders too! I have a hummingbird one and a small bird one.  My daughter got to see Nature in action as a Hawk got a little bird at the feeder.  She shrugged and said "Hawks have to eat too".  The one upset was my teenage son. LOL.  Thankfully that only happened once in the last couple of years.  We don't have squirrels we have raccoons. We got them their own feeder and changed the bird feeder to the type that the perches are weight based.  Weigh to much and the perch folds down so can not get to the food.  Pardon the amazon link but it is something like this.  https://www.amazon.com/Perky-Pet-5151-Premium-Squirrel-Be-Gone-Breakaway/dp/B00PK3CU3M/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1468129822&sr=8-2-spons&keywords=bird+feeder&psc=1   Good luck on your squirrel battles and I hope it is fine also.
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  10. Kad added a post in a topic Joseph's Journal   

    To help get my habits in place I use an app called Productive and just swipe them as I do them.  I have the morning routine ones, things I want to do so many times per week etc.  It feels good to swipe them done and helps me keep track so that i don't forget about them.
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  11. Kad added a post in a topic Building me   

    Busy week and lots of craziness.  Not sure what to say ..it was fine.  The puppy is winning on the training department.  Puppy brains - what can you do but love them and be patient!  Had a medical procedure that was rough going and went well and fixed some problems.  Messed all my routines up that the puppy had not messed up lol.  So life is about getting back in the saddle and doing your routines when you can and mainly you go day to day living.  I have been studying in free time and my moderation experiment is working with some kingdom heart.  I did ask my hubby if he felt like I was checked out with the kingdom heart and he said the most amazing thing.  Nope you are a successful gamequitter and fully engaged in life now.  Even with kingdom heart..your doing it with your son and not as an escape after you did everything else you wanted/needed to do.  I like that things are working and wish I was less tired so I can get in all the things each day I want.  Time runs out before my list does! 
    The transition of wanting a life to making a life to ok now enjoy said life is interesting.  You see your choices in action.  I thought this and chose this and it worked or did not work.  I see were so often I do not value my choices or what i have.  I chose it so therefore it is flawed and something else/someone else is better.  As I am more engaged in life and with every new task I take on - I battle more and more negative messaging.  I went for a walk! yea it is up to 3 miles now from hardly a mile- ....thats nothing says the inner voice.  I can now hold a plank and the modified side plank is less modified- well u should do it better etc.  I keep reworking the messaging and trying to enjoy the moment of what is happening now and LETTING myself have those little victories.  The victories give so much satisfaction and joy in life (not sure why but they do for me anyway) and energize me so much.  Found the weekly vid interesting and there was this about you have to believe it before it will happen and do think that is so true.  You have to give permission to win or overcome to believe in yourself.  I am watching Naked and Afraid and it is interesting how increased their self confidence seems to be for suffering like that..because they learned they had more than they thought.  We are all more than we think.
    Grateful:
    Sleeping puppieswaterpizza deliveryscented candles and beautiful holdersBooks for pleasure...just because you can and to learn nada
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  12. Kad added a post in a topic 3 Tips During a Period of Transition   

    Very helpful video
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  13. Kad added a post in a topic Building me   

    Day 19 of phase two -
    Learning to get my am habits in when I can with new puppy.  Rather proud I managed my 7 min strength app and meditation today! Go me! I set a small goal of an hour walk twice a week and was able to get the first one in also.  I am always moving these days.  Having to come up with creative ways to train puppy in a positive yet successful way.  Thankfully the cats are now eating, out from under bed and no cat accidents.  Phew big sigh of relief on that success and they were here first.
    I have been doing meditation before bed as well as in the morning last couple of days to improve my sleep with a different app, Calm.  My sleep is better now than most of my life and yet somehow I need more than ever.  Not sure you can make up that kind of deficit.  Been working on getting my 8 glasses of water in for the last 2 weeks and pretty successful at that plan and feel better. 
    I realized that even though I have a gaming plan, I don't game or even really think about it.  Too busy to be honest or too tired at day's end.  Things are different somehow and I don't have a good way to explain it.  Perhaps someone more eloquent has the words.  I have more joy in my life and I laugh more.  The puppy is a new commitment I could not have done while gaming. No energy and no allotted time.  That is true more for so many things - cleaning, shopping and just tidying this up or that.  I do chores and work and yet somehow they are not bad tasks or dreaded like before.  There is good days and bad days, yet now more good days then bad days and it used to be the other way around.  I am focused down on accomplishing my goals and tasks each day with flexibility cause life is not smooth and yet somehow less worried about me and what others think.  The day is what it is, accept it or change it and keep going.
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  14. Kad added a post in a topic ONE YEAR   

    Massive congrats to the two of you!! Woot!
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