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  1. ThePerfectApology added a post in a topic 19 year old male looking for an accountability partner   

    I have found an accountability partner.
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  2. ThePerfectApology added a post in a topic One year without gaming   

    Btw I am interested an accountability partner. If anybody here are interested too reply to this topic: http://forum.gamequitters.com/topic/3768-19-year-old-male-looking-for-an-accountability-partner/
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  3. ThePerfectApology added a topic in Accountability Partners   

    19 year old male looking for an accountability partner
    Hello
    I'm a 19 year old male from Norway that is taking courses currently in mathematics and computer programming. I have been a year without video games now so I have therefore decided to set some new goals after being inspired by Cam's video "how to set goals", which was mind-blowing to me. Four goals I have this year is:
    -Complete a computer program I have been working on by April 29
    -Run a 7km race on June 5
    -Complete the Introduction to Computer Programming Degree on Udacity in three months, starting after I have checked off my first goal.
    -Run a marathon in November
    The main thing I am looking for in a partner is an interest in embodying change(Respawn, self-help books, etc). Being interested in health & fitness, meditation and computer programming is also high up there. My preferred method of contact is Skype about once per day or every other day. WhatsApp in-between works too.
     
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  4. ThePerfectApology added a topic in Celebrate   

    One year without gaming
    Hello everyone
    My name is Torleif, I'm 19 years old and I come from Norway. Since April 17 2016 I have officially been video-game free, which was the day I entered the military to serve my country for a year. Although I've tried multiple times before to quit video games (with varying levels of results) this has been my longest period without it. Moreover, I have avoided easy entertainment for the most part while cultivating healthy habits, such as jogging, meditation and reading.
    The purpose for why I'm writing this is to give some general tips and tricks for those of you who have started walking the path. I'm not going to share my story (most of it is detailed in my journal) and the year in the military I would rather not speak of. In many ways it was very tough and sad and difficult, probably more difficult than anything I have ever experienced before, and I believe it would make you sad as well. Anyways, let's get straight to it.
    My top recommendations
    1) Listen to Cam. Cam knows what he's doing and the stuff he has written in Respawn is the real deal. Sometimes the advice you tell other people is the advice you need to follow yourself -- I realize that I am often guilty of this -- but I am telling you right now that if you do what Respawn says you WILL succeed.
    2) Buy a slow-growing pot plant. It seems silly but a plant is much like yourself: it starts small, growing ever so slightly every day. Sometimes it doesn't even seem like its growing at all, but it is, you just can't see it. All it needs is time and energy, just like you. The weeks go by and some small sprouts starts to appear, becoming stronger and stronger, until perhaps one can see some real change, like magic. Left to itself it will become mighty, just as you will if you manage to be patient.
    3) Seek simplicity and consistency in your habits. The Slight Edge sums it up well, which I recommend you reading.
    4) Have a growth mindset, which I know is easier said than done, but try at least (read Growth Mindset by Carol Dweck).
    5) Keep things simple.
    I didn't want to write any of this, even when Cam asked, because I still feel like I'm far from where I want to be. Who am I, I thought, to give you advice, advice that I have trouble following myself, when I still spend too much time on the computer (looking at cars mostly) and I still don't have a social activity. Anyway most of you are probably a hundred levels ahead of me in terms of applying and embodying what Respawn says, so my hope is that reading this you will at least become a tiny bit wiser, just a tiny gram more prepared. Personally I have a long way to go but what I think matters is that I am on the path. Who knows, perhaps I will take the 30 Day Challenge and Beyond. I'll end with one of my favorite quotes, from the lord of the rings.
    It's a dangerous business, going out your door. You step into the road, and if you don't keep your feat, there is no knowing where you might be swept off to'.
    -Bilbo Baggins
     
     
     
     
     
     
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  5. ThePerfectApology added a post in a topic Torleif's Journal   

    Day 57 (17/4/2016) - "The unexamined life is not worth living",  "Karpe Diem, seize the day"
    I am going to the military tomorrow and therefore the likelihood of giving regular updates about my detox is uncertain. The curve of my life is heading in a positive direction; many ---  my parents especially --- say I am happier than ever. Before going I will print out a bunch of SMART - goal templates and fill them out. Also reading Napoleon Hill's "Think and Grow Rich" is on the do to list. It's important for me that I make a battle plan for how to reach my dreams now, and not when I am in the army. Not so far in the future I will reach the US and I will prepare myself for the ultimate adventure: traveling to Mars. I KNOW that it is possible, almost palpable in a sense. What I have to do now is figure out how to get to that point.
    Gratitude journal:
    -I am grateful for being alive after reading "When Breath Becomes air" by Paul Kalanithi. There is great wisdom in knowing that one day you are going to die.
    -Kindle Paperwhite
    -Mars colony
    -Love and compassion
    -amazing family
    -books
    -clouds and blue sky
    -forest clad mountains
    -warmth from sun
    -calculator
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  6. ThePerfectApology added a post in a topic Torleif's Journal   

    Day 56 (16/4/2016)
    Gratitude journal:
    -warm, beautiful weather outside
    -tractors driving around fertilizing fields that will provide cows with food
    -warm thoughts to all farmers out there, who for often meager pay take care of the land and grow crops. Couldn't eat without them.
    -glad that I had the money to buy a biography called "the Wright brothers". The book gave me the same advice that almost all biographies of great people give: have a positive attitude, work really hard and follow your dreams.
    -happy since I got to talk to one of my neighbors yesterday. He has a good heart and is enjoyable to be around.
    -again, really grateful for all my clothes and shoes. Sometimes one take this things for granted, but then realize that it is a luxury.
    -flowers and green grass everywhere
    -the smell of summer
    -sea gulls hunting for worms
    -Nasa website!
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  7. ThePerfectApology added a post in a topic Torleif's Journal   

    Day 54 (14/4/2016)
    Gratitude journal:
    I am grateful for the fact that I have everything I need to cover my basic necessities, such as a toilet, food, shelter and clothes. Today I also remembered how blessed I AM for having a mother and father who have tried as best as they can to give me a good upbringing. Many billions of humans cannot say that they experienced such a luxury. I probably should thank them more and be grateful whenever I can. Finally I want to thank Mother Earth for the perfect living conditions it provides: atmosphere, crops, water, land and so on. I should treat her better, because Mars, Venus and Mercury are all horrible in comparison. 
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  8. ThePerfectApology added a post in a topic Torleif's Journal   

    Day 53 (13/4/2016)
    Gratitude journal:
    -chocolate
    -Duolingo
    -computer
    -water
    -birds
    -car
    -post service
    -dog
    -blue sky
    -spaceX
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  9. ThePerfectApology added a post in a topic Torleif's Journal   

    Day 53 (11/4/2016): (I AM NOT SMART! I AM NOT SMART!)
    I am not smart. Nobody comes to me for advice. Nobody cares for what I have to say. Nobody knows who I am. I could slit my wrists tomorrow and the world would go on as NORMAL. Eighteen years I have lived in a country with access to books, technology and computers. What good have I done with all that knowledge? Nothing. I have not made any peoples lives better nor made a difference in this world. There are two billion people on earth with no access to electricity. They would kill for an opportunity like the one I have. And I have wasted it.
    I was disgusted with myself today for making a disgusting choice. Instead of taking an opportunity to learn something really hard in programming today, I quit. Looked to hard. Made me feel dumb. Can't have that right? There is this fallacy in my mind that people who are smart don't struggle. Everything comes easy to them without any effort. That's why I skip out of such opportunities. And I hate myself so much for it. 
    Talking to people I always try to give the illusion that I am a smart person. Why? Why do I do that? Why not just admit that I know very little, that my knowledge is the size of a single piece of sand in the Saharan desert? Maybe I should quit talking.
    Gratitude journal:
    -blessed to have been gifted a safe childhood free from trauma
    -thankful for all the information I have available
    -grateful for the fact that I have food and water
    -happy since I can get a haircut
    -inspired by how animals live in the present
    -I sometimes want to thank my mother and father for bothering to raise me at all
    -warm clothes
    -watch 
    -safety
    -freedom of speech
    Quote of the day:
    "Never neglect an opportunity for improvement" -Sir William Jones
     
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  10. ThePerfectApology added a post in a topic Torleif's Journal   

    Wow..., I would kill for an opportunity like that!
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  11. ThePerfectApology added a post in a topic Torleif's Journal   

    Day 52 (10/4/2016)
    There are many demons/hungry ghosts in my life that I want to get rid off. The number one most pestering right now is me constantly checking for new news-stories on my two fav companies: SpaceX and Tesla. I have a great passion for both of them, and I own stock in Tesla, which also has had a bad effect on me, since it leads me to constantly check the stock price. Any advice on how to deal with this would be great.
    Another demon is porn (NSFW ahead). I want to stop watching porn because there is no real reason to watch porn, and it's better to fuel that sexual energy into work. I'm planning on making a SMART - plan and some of the things I did for Respawn to stop this habit. I'm hoping that the constant activity in the military plus my preparedness will lead to positive results. Again, any advice would be great (I'm currently on my second week in "the science of willpower", which is teaching me lots of techniques to help with demon).
    The third hungry ghost I have is listening to music as a form of stress-relief, not for entertainment. It is necessary to stop this since music is addictive, and I would rather just exercise or meditate to get out stress. My spider-senses tells me that it will be addressed in the military.
    The final one is sugar. I have already gone without energy drinks for about 40 days, but I want to make some headway on refined sugar that you can find in candy, and chocolate. Right now i feel as if I don't have the control over my sugar intake; yesterday I ate a whole bag of chocolate in 30 mins for example. I want to be the master of my own actions, and right now I feel like my second personality (I call him "ronkemannen") is in control of this area of my life. Advice appreciated.
    I like to dwell on the positive progress for the most part, so here is a progress report (still no gaming - related activities )
    -50 min of piano
    -50 min of spanish
    -90 min of computer programming
    -four hours of reading a book called "the giver"
    -120 min of meditation
    -45 min walk
    Gratitude journal:
    -funny birds chirping outside today
    -Spacex landing its rocket on a sea-platform, marking the start of the space-revolution
    -warm weather and little wind 
    -lamps in my room
    -income from stocks
    -vaccinations I got from the state
    -blue atmosphere full of o2
    -motivational videos
    -healthy food on the table
    -milk, tea and water available to me (fresh fruit also), which would be an incredible luxury in the older times
     
    Quote of the day:
    "Never contract friendship with a man that is not better than yourself" -Confucius 
     
    A short reflection on why so many people fail to reach their potential
    I watched Cam's video on motivation today, and I really liked it. What made me though sad is that I have never had a friend like Cam (I'm guessing most of the people also on this forum) - who is both a dream-chaser and hard working and inspirational. If I had I probably never would have ended up in this mess, where several YEARS of my life has been spent on video games. That's why I picked out the quote above today. To remember to always surround yourself with great people if possible, because they WILL bring you up with them. As I read somewhere on the forum a couple of days ago: your income is the average of your five friends.
     
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    Day 51 (9/4/2016)
    Today I finished planning my trip to the military. It was nice to get that burden of my shoulders, because it had really stressed me out lately. I also went on a long mountain trip with my dog, Dina, and I think she liked it as much as I did. Hopefully we can get another one next week (bad weather stay away!).
    Gratitude journal:
    -happy that I have enough money to by myself some decent running shoes 
    -grateful for the beautiful weather I had today, and the lovely snow on the mountain peak
    -warm inside as a result of the great dinner I had today
    -thankful for a nice conversation with my sister 
    -inspired from watching the movie into the wild yesterday
    -blessed by the fact that I could buy a new book on my kindle
    -amazing future life
    -all the people that have died in the past for me to live a life in freedom and comfort
    -online education bringing about the opportunity for people like me to realize and relish their dreams
    -the chance that I will be able to help people in need if I continue working hard every day on myself and becoming a better person
     
     
     
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    Day 50 (8/4/2016) 
    Gratitude journal:
    -beautiful blue sky outside
    -puffy clouds
    -I am grateful for the dinner that I got today, both nutritious and healthy
    -Grateful for being able to play a small part of "can you feel the love" by Elon John on Piano
    -Thankful for having warm clothes and several pairs of shoes
    -Blessed by the fact that I have soap (surprisingly important) and toothpaste
    -Appreciative of my teachers that taught me how to read, write and do arithmetic
    -Happy that I am alive and the fact that I am starting to enjoy every moment of my life
    -Love to all people around the world 
     
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    Day 49 (7/4/2016)
    Gratitude journal:
    -the smile that I got from a friend of mine today
    -following my passion instead of going to school
    -financial stability
    -nice conversation with neighbor and mother
    -chocolate <3
    -exciting future
    -electricity and tea
    -having a comfortable bed to go to every night
    -being able to get from A to B in a short amount of time
    -atmosphere to let me breath, thank you Earth!
     
    Quote of the day:
    If you quit quitting, then quitting will become harder and harder for the the rest of your life. -Me
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    Day 48 (6/4/2016)
    Gratitude journal:
    -thankful for the fact that I can wake up every day without fear
    -thankful for my trusty calculator
    -happy that my sister and I have a good relationship
    -glad that I will go to the military, where I can grow as a person
    -blessed with being born in a first world country
    -blessed with health, love and warmth
    -grateful that have been able to see many different places in my short life
    -also want to thank my country to for paying for my schooling and vaccines
    -the cold, light rain in the evening that reminds that I'm not on Venus, where it rains acid
    -a nice watch to let me keep track of time.
     
    Quote of the day:
    "The best way to predict the future is to create it" -Abraham Lincoln
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