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  1. Mark added a post in a topic My Wall of Text   

    Without the need to go into detail, I've had a tough week due to factors relating to my health. My time spent browsing the internet has reduced further partly because of this, but I don't really view that as much of an upside to the frustrating time I've been having as of late. It is my intention to modify my gym routine for tomorrow and hopefully things will start to settle down sooner rather than later so I can get back to feeling my normal self again. For now, I just have to take it one day at a time. I've been to work this morning, and I'm now getting ready for an afternoon of football now that Euro 2016 has started!
    The above is nothing more than a paragraph of me ranting, but sometimes it's helps to get things like this off your chest 
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  2. Mark added a post in a topic My Wall of Text   

    That moment when you've spent close to half an hour typing out a post only to close the page by mistake...

     
    Things are going well for the most part. My battle against internet procrastination is very much ongoing. There have been days in which I have failed to manage my time spent browsing, but rather than dwell on this, I feel it important to learn what lessons I can from these failures and move on, while focusing more on the days in which I have succeeded.
    I hope everybody is doing well, it is my intention to interact on the site more in the coming week, so I'll catch everyone later 
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  3. Mark added a post in a topic Nick's Daily Journal   

  4. Mark added a post in a topic Why You Should Not Game After Your Detox   

    If you have identified MMORPG's as a problem, then you are doing right in staying away from them. Playing games in the same manner that one did before the detox, but simply with the intention of playing less, is a plan that is almost certainly doomed to fail in the long run. That's just the opinion I've built up over the course of my detox and from past attempts to moderate my playtime.
     
    Respect to @Cam Adair for the way he gets his point across both in this video and in others. I like the fact that he gives his opinion on the subject, but it's not forced down your throat that this is what you must do! 
     
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  5. Mark added a post in a topic My Journal - Travis   

    I just wanted to say that this really struck a chord with me. During this detox some of the simple targets I have set for myself, at least that's what they appeared to be, where in actual fact lacking clarity. I might have to nab this framework for myself! 
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  6. Mark added a post in a topic My Wall of Text   

    Both yourself and @kortheo make some great points. I'm going to discontinue counting the days for the time being. I have updated my first post that now details the start and end of my 90-day detox, because both dates are significant personal milestones, but I don't want the number to have more emphasis than it should have, and like Travis said, to define me in some way.
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  7. Mark added a post in a topic A warning about gaming after your detox   

    The timing of you uploading this video and where I'm at in my journey couldn't be more apt 
    100% agree with what you said however. I feel like I'm being careful, and as stated in my journal, I'm going to spend some time processing the feelings I got from gaming again, both positive and negative. 
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  8. Mark added a post in a topic My Wall of Text   




    Cheers guys!

     
    I'm glad that you can relate to some degree. I hope to see you at the finish line as well, although it doesn't end there, we must continue to move forward, continue to learn 
     
    I have played video games in the past week, but I will not go into detail about that, I want to spend some time processing the feelings that I got from the experience, but also, I don't see how it would benefit those who were reading it. 
    For now, I would define a relapse for myself to be the loading and playing of a multiplayer game. I'm not sure whether I should continue to count the days post-detox, or whether @Cam Adair would prefer me not to, as by the standard definition, I'm not completely game-free.
     
    The past week has been a frustrating one. I had a difficult week at work, and a back injury prevented me from going to the gym. I managed to salvage the situation Sunday and yesterday by having a couple of productive rest days. Speaking of productivity...
     
    Post Detox Goal #1: Internet Procrastination 
    I have talked previously about setting some targets for myself post-detox, some of which may relate to gaming, while some may have no connection whatsoever. Internet procrastination has come up in my journal before, suffice to say it's a major problem for me, so I am going to implement the following rules...
    1. No browsing of the internet on my computer/phone in the morning. I cannot log on until I've competed my normal morning routine (showered, dressed, made the bed, had breakfast etc.)
    2.  No browsing of the internet on my computer/phone after 9pm. As stated, after that time, I will go to bed, read a book, whatever, but no more time browsing.
    3. Set an alarm on my phone to go off after a certain time to limit my internet browsing.
     
    If anybody has got any suggestions regarding the tackling of my internet procrastination, then feel free to let me know!
     
     
     
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  9. Mark added a post in a topic My Wall of Text   

    Day 90;

     
    My 90-day detox is complete! I have a few thoughts on my mind that I'd like to share, some of which may come in another post, anyway...
    Firstly, @Ironfly, @Danielk, @Primmulla, @WorkInProgress, @Merdoc_Rowboat, @Falky, @Dannigan (I know there are others, apologies if I didn't tag you!), I'd like to thank those who I have interacted with over the course of my detox, be it in my journal, or on other parts of the site, all of whom have been supportive of myself and others, and come across as genuinely nice people. Last but certainly not least, a big thank you to @Cam Adair for creating this amazing site, dedicating so much of his time into helping others. I'm so glad to see that his little part of the internet is getting bigger and bigger (seriously, the rate of growth from when I first joined to now is ridiculous!).
    Coming into this detox, I was coming into it from a slightly different angle than someone like Cam for example, who was spending so many hours a day, everyday, playing video games. Over the years my average playing time gradually reduced to a couple of hours every day, with the occasional binge of 5/6 hours, which in itself had become a rarity. That being said however, I am in no doubt that I showed symptoms of addictions when playing certain genres of games, notably multiplayer shooters. Thankfully, I haven't touched Left 4 Dead 2 and Team Fortress 2 for two and four-years respectively, and this detox has helped me to ascertain that online games of this ilk are a problem for me, and I will not return to playing them, period. I don't even want to play these games again, which is a great feeling in itself.
    Something which has troubled me in its own weird way over the course of this detox, is that I found it quite easy to complete, easy to the point that it raises more questions than it answers. It was long yes, and the temptation to play was present in occasional moments of boredom, but I didn't crave it, I wasn't desperate, I never felt in danger of relapsing. I've gradually weened myself off gaming over the years through various means to get to the point to where I was at the start of the detox, and I have to believe this partly explains why the detox wasn't that difficult for me personally.
    It is my intention to return to gaming in some capacity, but it will only be single-player games, and I will be very particular about which games I do play. I will not moderate in the sense that I will allocate a set number of hours each day/week to play. I will not play for the sake of playing, that is when it becomes a negative habit. My future presence on this site will focus more on other aspects of my life that I wish to change, and to respond to other topics which I feel I can contribute to, but I will continue to monitor any time I dedicate to game, self-awareness is key. I will be sure to act on the first sign that gaming is having a negative impact on my life again. For now, gaming will be nothing more than an occasional hobby I pick up.
    Something that I feel like I can't stress enough. Please don't use my experience to justify your gaming habits, not only is everybody's situation unique, but there is every chance that I might be full of horse shit! Only time will tell on that one. 
    Whether you are/were playing for 16 hours a day, or a couple of hours a day, if you are on this site as a registered user or as a lurker, something has clicked in your brain to tell you that something isn't quite right in your relationship with gaming. Whether you want to quit playing video games forever, or whether you want to moderate your playing time. Take a break, not for a couple of days, not for a couple of weeks, do your utmost to complete the whole detox. This allows you time to become aware of other aspects of your life, to reflect on your gaming habits, and to see how you can improve as a person. What is involved in that? Complete the detox and find out!
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  10. Mark added a post in a topic Pinned topics in the Main Room section   

    @WorkInProgress has produced a great list. Personally I would alter the wording of the question Why shouldn't I try to moderate? to Can I play in moderation? I imagine the prospect of never playing games is quite daunting for some, even to the point that it may put people off. First and foremost, get people onside with the 90-day detox, and state why they shouldn't play games during this period, then explain that they can use this time away from gaming to see whether moderation would be right for them if they so wish. Agree/disagree?
    Why should I quit gaming and for how long?What are the benefits of the 90-day detox?Am I addicted or do I just have too much fun gaming?Can I play in moderation?Why should I start a journal?
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  11. Mark added a post in a topic Dannigan's Journal Entries   

    Hey @Dannigan, it's great to hear that this works for you, as this is something I would like to implement myself 
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  12. Mark added a post in a topic Larry's Detox Journal   

    Congrats on reaching the 90 day milestone! I'll be joining you in a few days time 
    It's good to see that you were honest with yourself when examining your relationship with gaming, I intend to do similar post-detox.
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  13. Mark added a post in a topic My Journal - SpiNips   

    Hey @SpiNips, I can certainly relate to this! Some of the best exercise workouts are the ones that you don't necessarily feel like doing but grind through regardless, I've had a couple of gym sessions like that over the past few months 
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  14. Mark added a post in a topic My Wall of Text   

    Day 85;
    Legs day done at the gym, and with the dog walked as well, it's been a good day on the whole 
    I haven't done a situation update in my journal for a while. I've continued to have little problem not gaming. My gym routine has remained consistent, I've put on weight through eating and exercising (which is a good thing with my medical condition), I've returned to playing football after a lengthy lay-off due to injury, which is a major plus. Getting back into my yoga schedule would make things perfect, which I fully intend to do this week.
    Gaming and exercise goals exempt, my other targets simply haven't gained traction whatsoever. I've had a couple of unforeseen successes, such as my experimenting with minimalism and selling nearly all of my gaming equipment for a decent amount of money, both of which have benefited my bank balance. Post-detox, I'm going to put a lot more focus on my other goals, such as reducing my internet procrastination, my time spent reading etc. While continuing to hold myself accountable when gaming, making note of how I feel when I do play, and whether it's a pastime that I really want to return to, and to what capacity.
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  15. Mark added a post in a topic Dave's Log   

    Hey Dave, having read your latest post, it's a tough one, perhaps I can relate to some extent... 
    From the moment I signed up to this site, I never viewed quitting games forever as the ultimate end goal, the be-all and end-all, I was open to the idea, but it wasn't set in stone in my mind that I had to. Everybody's story is different, but if I was to generalise, I wasn't playing games that much in recent years when compared to most, but at the same time, by joining this site, I was acknowledging that something wasn't right and was in need of changing in order to better myself. I have to believe that applies to everyone if we're being honest with ourselves. How much this change is to do with our gaming habits, again, this varies from person-to-person. For some it come be that gaming is the sole problem, for others there can be additional issues such as porn like yourself, or internet procrastination as in my case.
    I have 5 days remaining of my detox, and as detailed in my journal, it is my intention to continue gaming in some capacity, but I intend to carry on posting here with the hope of improving other areas of my life, getting on top of my internet procrastination being one of my primary goals, and to hold myself accountable for when I do game.
    My advice, which you can happily ignore if you so wish, is to see out the 90 days. I believe @Cam Adair is right when he said that if you can't go 90 days without gaming, you probably shouldn't be playing at all. For me, completing the detox was about proving to myself that I could go without gaming for an extended period as much as anything. As @WorkInProgress said though, do what is best for you 
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