KevinV1990

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  1. KevinV1990 added a post in a topic KevinV1990's Journal   

    May 10, 2017
    Today should have been my 62nd day without gaming, but I decided to play some matches of FIFA again. You could say that I didn't reach my goal to not play video games anymore, but this has never been my goal. My goal was to set my priorities straight again, and I did that. I've sold many of my PS4 games, got a new job, and I started to write more again (I'm even writing a book now). It's a good thing that I've accomplished these things, and I do think that it will be refreshing to stop gaming for some weeks every ones in a while. So I will be doing that in the future.
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  2. KevinV1990 added a post in a topic KevinV1990's Journal   

    May 8, 2017 - 60 days without gaming
    I've reached the two-month mark, and have not been gaming for 60 days now. The biggest accomplishment regarding to gaming, is that I've sold many of my games. Last week I sold five PS4 games again and some PS2 games. Every time when I sell some of my games I decide to buy something else with a part of the money. That way I get to see the other things I can do with the money which I would usually spend on games. It is a good way to quickly feel better when you've just sold some of the games you like. See this as my two month anniversary tip.
    So, I don't have to work for a whole week now, and it feels good. After that just one more week at my current job before I can start at my new job.
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  3. KevinV1990 added a post in a topic My Journal - Alex   

    Good luck with the group conversation!
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  4. KevinV1990 added a post in a topic KevinV1990's Journal   

    May 7, 2017 - 59 days without gaming
    Tomorrow I haven't been playing video games for two months. It's really weird when I'm thinking about it, that it hasn't been very hard. I really have been shifting my attention to other activities, which most of the time are healthier and more useful. And the fun thing is, that I like these activities even more than I used to like gaming. Especially my writing has improved in the last two months. Recently I decided to clean up my site and to go a different way with it, and now I can't stop writing.
    Maybe because of that, I just know that everything will work out with my book too. I haven't been working on writing it the last few days, have been working on another story though, but I did work on many other things that will improve my life. That is a good thing. So I will keep on doing what I am doing now, and will keep improving my life.
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  5. KevinV1990 added a post in a topic KevinV1990's Journal   

    May 6, 2017 - 58 days without gaming
    I'm so happy that I will quit my job in two weeks for another one. Almost didn't get my week off next week, because I supposedly didn't have enough vacation days. A bit weird, when I work way more hours than I'm supposed to. Apparently they screwed up the vacation hours of many other people so I'm not the only one, but I didn't give up my free week. Maybe they will charge me a little bit of money when my contract finishes over there, but I really don't care. They just get on my nerves over there, and I just really need this week. If I have to pay €50 to €100 to have that week, then so be it. I really don't care anymore and am looking forward to my new job.
    Drew a Zentangle today (https://www.zentangle.com/zentangle-method), and thought that it was a fun thing to do, and also very relaxing. Maybe it will become a new hobby. Who knows? Haven't been working on my book lately, but I really like to write for my site again. And as long as I am writing, I'm feeling good.
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  6. KevinV1990 added a post in a topic Does a typing fast course count as a game?   

    Well, the attached image is what it says on the site. So yeah, it is a game, but so is life. You are improving a skill which many businesses think is important nowadays, so it is a good thing that you learn how to type faster.

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  7. KevinV1990 added a post in a topic Ville's Journal   

    Good luck with your journey, and congrats on taking this first step! Remember that there will always be people here on the forums, who are willing to help if you have a hard time with getting rid of your gaming addiction.
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  8. KevinV1990 added a post in a topic KevinV1990's Journal   

    May 4, 2017 - 56 days without gaming
    Damn, I have a headache and I can't seem to get rid of it. Nevertheless, I'm in a great mood today. My favorite football (soccer) club Ajax played a great match yesterday (4-1 victory). Just one more semi-final leg, and we will be playing the final of the Europa League, the first one since 1996. I am also happy because I have the week off next week.
    Haven't been doing very much with my goals lately, haven't written very much too, so I really need to step up my game. I'm sure that it will work out, but I need to do the work and no one else. Have to remember that.
    Thanks!
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  9. KevinV1990 added a post in a topic Sleeping Results (With and Without Gaming)   

    Yeah, that is exactly what it is and I hate it . I don't really care about waking up in the middle of the night, but I do care about having less energy the next day.
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  10. KevinV1990 added a post in a topic Searching for reading help!   

    Yeah, self-help/improvement books can be very draining if you read too many of them one after another. At the end of last month, I started to read my fourth self-improvement book in a short time, and I just couldn't get through it, even though I think that it is a great book (The 4-Hour Workweek by Tim Ferris). I decided to leave it for a while and now I'm reading another book, and am probably going to finish The 4-Hour Workweek later on.

    But I can recommend The 4-Hour Workweek by Tim Ferris. Fuck It! by John Parkin is also a great book. Talk like TED by Carmine Gallo also is a great self-development book which I can really recommend. As of fiction, I need to know which genres you like. If you don't know that because you are a new reader, then tell me what kind of movies you like. Most of the times your favorite book genres will be kind of the same.
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  11. KevinV1990 added a post in a topic KevinV1990's Journal   

    May 2, 2017 - 54 days without gaming
    I haven't been working on myself for the past two days because I decided that I wanted to relax for the weekend. But I went to a safety training at my new job, so I did something. The most important thing is that I'm relaxed. I don't feel any pressure anymore, which is a good thing.
    Last Saturday I told about my new ideas for stories. I have been working on them that night, and I really like what I'm writing so far.
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  12. KevinV1990 added a post in a topic Need some help with writing my book about gaming addiction   

    Thanks, especially for the part about parents. I completely forgot about adding them to the story.
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  13. KevinV1990 added a post in a topic KevinV1990's Journal   

    April 29, 2017 - 51 days without gaming
    So it was BookstoreDay today, which means that it was a happy day for me. I really was looking forward to visiting the bookstores and buy me some books, but I first had to go to work. Done at 12 P.M and rushed to my favorite bookstore. They had one of the limited BookstoreDay books, so I bought that one and another book which sounds promising. But I did want to buy another book which had a big discount today (from €35 to €20), so I went to the other bookstore in the same street. I found the book that I wanted and also found a book which I wanted to read for some time now. A great book haul if I say so myself.
    I got a new idea for new stories today. I don't know if that idea will turn into a book, or that I will turn that idea into short stories. Both seem to fit the idea and I'm really looking forward to start writing again.
     

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  14. KevinV1990 added a post in a topic Fresh Start   

    You are doing great so far. Keep going strong!
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  15. KevinV1990 added a topic in Books & Podcasts   

    Need some help with writing my book about gaming addiction
    So... I am writing a book about getting rid of a gaming addiction. Of course I will write about my own experience, and I will give people help with getting rid of their own gaming addiction. I have written a big part of the first chapter already, but I think that it is kinda short. But I also think that it would be better if I not make the book too long. What do you guys think? And what would you like to read in a book about dealing with a gaming addiction?
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  16. KevinV1990 added a post in a topic [NL] Journal KevinV1990   

    28 april 2017 - 50 DAGEN ZONDER GAMEN!
    Weet je wat nou zo leuk is? Ik heb in die vijftig dagen ook bijna helemaal niet meer aan videogames gedacht, en heb het op geen een enkel moment gemist. Dat vind ik toch raar, aangezien er toch tijden zijn geweest waarin gamen echt een fulltime job was. Dom eigenlijk dat je er dan zoveel tijd aan hebt moeten besteden. Maar dan kan ik beter niet bij stilstaan. Je schiet er namelijk niets mee op om stil te staan bij het verleden. Wat gebeurd is, is gebeurt en daar verander je niets meer aan. Je hebt wel de controle over hoe een groot deel van je toekomst eruit gaat zien, dus daar sta ik liever bij stil.
    Ik heb zojuist mijn site even een UNDER CONSTRUCTION pagina gegeven. Ik wil voor mezelf duidelijk krijgen wat ik nou precies met die site wil, en dat kan alleen als ik niet continu hoef na te denken over dat ik een artikel moet gaan schrijven. Vandaar dus die pagina. Het geeft mij de rust die ik nodig heb, om goed over mijn site na te denken.
    Het schrijven voor mijn boek gaat redelijk goed, en het eerste hoofdstuk lijkt al bijna af te zijn, de eerste versie daarvan dan. Er is alleen een klein probleempje, en dat is dat ik het gevoel heb dat het veel te kort is. Aan de andere kant denk ik ook weer dat je niet te veel in de wilde weg moet gaan lullen, daar hebben mensen die willen afkicken van een gameverslaving helemaal niets aan. Het is denk ik beter om gewoon to the point te komen, een beetje te vertellen over jouw ervaringen, en mensen praktische tips geven om af te kunnen kicken. Dan maar en wat korter boek, als ik de mensen er maar mee kan helpen.
    YOOHOO! Ik heb 50 dagen geen videogame gespeeld!
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  17. KevinV1990 added a post in a topic KevinV1990's Journal   

    April 28, 2017 - 50 DAYS WITHOUT GAMING!
    So today I have reached the 50-day milestone, and I'm proud of it. I'm always talking about celebrating these milestones, but I actually never do that. Thought about doing something special today, and I've decided to give you a little history lesson about the reasons which made me got addicted to games, but also how my past shaped me to who I am today.
    When I was 12 years old I got severe acne problems, mostly on my face. I got bullied because of it, but the worst thing wasn't even the bullying. The worst thing was that people were even sometimes shunning me. That was the thing that hurt me the most. All of this made me very insecure about myself, and I lost my trust in people. This is something which I still take with me, and which I really need to learn to let go. That's only easier said than done.In the summer of 2004 or 2005, I got a Playstation 2 for my birthday. From that day, all the pocket money that I received was spent by buying new games. Since there was a store in the mall which sold second hand games, I got to buy many games for less money. I started to use gaming as an escaping method, wanting to escape from the real world. I hated almost everything and everyone, and I started to isolate myself from that real world. The world in the Role Playing Games which I really liked to play were a much better place to be.In 2007 I hoped to make a brand new start when I got to community college (I think that is how it's called) to learn about marketing. But nothing changed, and the people there were just as bad as they were on secondary school. I quit that school in 2008 and started to work.I actually got a job from October 2008 to April 2009, and it paid much better than the jobs which many of the people in my age group did. Money almost seemed to be growing on trees. I bought myself new shoes/sneakers every month, got myself the latest games, and during that period I probably also bought my XBox 360. The thing I did with buying games for the PS2, I also did for the XBox 360. Buy many games, for less money.After the summer of 2010, I went to community college again to study social work. Because I was about three years older than many of the other people in the class, I learned to let go of my insecurity a little bit. But I got bored with the lessons. Because we had to bring our laptop to class, I started to play games in class with a few other people. We had to do something. You might think that my grades weren't very good during that time, but you might want to reconsider those thoughts, since my grades were perfect. December 2010 was the month in which I got irritated about the childish behavior of about 95% of my fellow students, I really got bored with the lessons, and I heard that teachers were gossiping about students to other students and teachers. I roughly said that they could fuck themselves, and in February 2011, I quit again.In January 2012 I got a new job. The work was kind of boring, but I really liked the team which I worked with. I got better at the job and in a short period of time, I was one off the best employees. The same month, I started to write again. I built my first website/blog on Wordpress, and I started to write. I still played video games, but somehow I played way less than before. As of today, I still don't know what slowly made my gaming addiction go away. It took some time before it really was gone, but every small step was one step closer. I think that it was in 2014 when I really had overcome my gaming addiction.In 2016 and the start off 2017, I started to buy a lot of games again. I haven't been addicted to playing video games for some years now, but I got addicted to buying games again, and I got kinda scared that I would get a relapse. Because I wasn't really feeling good about myself, I thought that the relapse would probably win, and that I would be taken back to a gaming addiction again. That is why I decided to stop buying video games, and to sell that games which I didn't really play.March 2017 I saw one off Cam's videos, and I decided to join this forum. I started writing this journal at the 15th of March, on which I already hadn't been playing video games for six days.April 1st the New York Times wrote an article which stated that you can't get addicted to playing video games. This article made me very mad, and it felt like I got joked about. That is why I decided to write a book about gaming addiction, and how you can get rid off it.April 20th I had an interview for a new job, and I got it. So at May 22nd I will start at my new job.This is a rough timeline off my gaming addiction. I might have forgotten about something, but if I forgot about it, it wasn't important anyway . I still have to live with my insecurity and my distrust in people, but I'm taking steps in the right direction. Every small step is one step closer to becoming the best version of myself.
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  18. KevinV1990 added a post in a topic Website Idea, Need a Team   

    A site like what you want is more difficult to make than you might think, which has a lot to do with that you have to make sure that people won't post copyrighted songs. And like Schwing said, it sounds a lot like Soundcloud.
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  19. KevinV1990 added a post in a topic KevinV1990's Journal   

    April 27, 2017 - 49 days without gaming
    I will reach a new milestone tomorrow, 50 days without playing video games. Two days ago, I talked about the pressure that society gives you about being productive every day. While I don't agree with that you will have to be productive every day, I still feel the pressure. I have the feeling that I didn't do enough with all the time I received in the past fifty days. Maybe I put the bar too high, but that is just how I am. That is why I am going to write down the things I did the past weeks, of which I'm proud off.
    Found a new jobHaven't been playing video games for the past weeksStarted writing a bookI have started drawing againHaven't bought video games for the past weeksHave been reading a lot of books about self-improvementI also implemented much of the information in my lifeWhile I can be proud of these things, I still feel that I didn't do enough. I really want to make bigger steps in life, and while I know that it will take some time, I want it to go much faster. It's making me feel kinda depressed.
    Since my site (I really need to write an article again) now is all about self-development and self-knowledge, I am thinking about creating a site on which I will share my stories and poems. I am also thinking about turning my current site into a story and poetry platform. Every day I want something different, and it is starting to get on my nerves. Make a f***ing choice already!
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    April 26, 2017 - 48 days without gaming
    And suddenly my mind gives me the perfect idea on how I have to write my book. Doing nothing last Monday really helped me to recharge, and I'm ready to take some steps toward my best self again.
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  21. KevinV1990 added a post in a topic KevinV1990's Journal   

    Yeah, but what is meaningful? And why should everything that I do be meaningful? Meaningful is abstract and almost everyone will have their own opinion about what is meaningful to do. I think that it was a good thing for me to just listen to my body and mind, and not do anything that day. Many people don't think that that is meaningful, and that I'm just being lazy (which also isn't a bad thing). I think that the pressure from society, of us needing to do something meaningful/good/important everyday, is one of the main reasons that people start to feel overwhelmed, miserable when they don't live up to society standards, and stressed out (burn-out) when they just can't keep up. That is the point where possible addictions will arise. People will start drinking much more, using drugs, or will get addicted to playing video games, because they feel that that is the only way to relax and empty their minds.
    I think that it is an important thing that people must learn to listen to their body, and not only physically but also mentally. Learn that will not be the end of the world when you will be lazy for one day. What is the worst thing that could happen?
    Yeah! That is something which I've learned the past few weeks.
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  22. KevinV1990 added a post in a topic GG EZ Respawn   

    Welcome to the forum! You already found some good replacements for gaming. Keep it up!
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  23. KevinV1990 added a post in a topic [NL] Journal KevinV1990   

    25 april 2017 - 47 dagen zonder gamen
    Hoe kan je op de ene dag nog vol energie zitten, om de volgende dag vervolgens helemaal zonder te zitten? Eergisteren had ik het gevoel alsof ik de hele wereld aankon, maar gisteren was ik weer een beetje down en had ik helemaal geen zin om iets te ondernemen. Ik voelde me daar eerst schuldig over, maar ik heb geleerd dat ik me daar niet schuldig over moet voelen. Zo erg is het toch niet, om een dagje even helemaal niets te doen? Waarom zou dat erg zijn? De reden waarom veel mensen dat dus wel erg vinden, komt omdat ze geleerd hebben dat je altijd bezig moet zijn. Als je niet continu bezig bent, zul je nooit iets in het leven gaan bereiken. Gelukkig is dat niet waar.
    Het is een beetje hetzelfde als dat mensen vinden dat je 40 uur per week moet werken. Als je minder werkt ben je lui. Tegelijkertijd lopen die mensen maar te klagen over hoe zwaar hun leven is. Zo wil ik niet leven. Dus als ik het red met maar 24 uur per week, waarom niet? Kan ik de rest van de tijd besteden aan het schrijven en aan andere dingen die ik leuk vind. Waarom zou je het leven zwaarder maken dan nodig is?
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    April 25, 2017 - 47 days without gaming
    I had a bad day yesterday. Didn't want to play video games, but I just had an off-day and didn't want to do anything. So what did I do yesterday? Absolutely nothing. At first I felt bad about that, but now not so much anymore. Why should I be productive every single day? Because society says so? Well, f*** society then, it's not like they did such a great job anyway. Nah, I'm doing my own thing and if that means that I will have an off-day every now and then, then so be it. In the past few weeks, I have learned that you need to rest too, something which they forget to tell in (almost) all those motivational speeches. Having an off-day yesterday also inspired me to write an article about it on my site, so eventually something good came out of it.
    I am really struggling with writing my book. I just don't seem to find the right style in which I want to write the book. It is starting to get frustrating, but I will keep on trying.
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  25. KevinV1990 added a post in a topic How do I embed youtube videos?   

    Tried that, but didn't work for me. Let's try it again.
     
    <html> <body> <iframe src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/sGOexEz5ED8" width="560" height="315" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe> </body> </html>Nope, can't get it to work
    ANOTHER EDIT: I give up
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