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'Sup guys ! I'm not a big gamer (only playing on emulators from time to time) but still, I feel guilty about gaming so I don't want to do that anymore.I use to play A LOT of video games during my childhood and then less during my teenage years 'cause I cared more about MUSIC (which is my Life Purpose).My attraction to games comes from nostalgia, boredom, fear of emptiness, sadness/depression, need for accomplishement, need for adventure/excitement and need for having a blast ! I always bullshit myself into thinking that video games are just another art form just like comics, movies, music or whatever or that they can be a spiritual experience since they're very immersive.But why would I feel so bad/guilty about myself while playing if that was the case ? Not only that, I've been on NoFap (no porn and no masturbation) for 8 months and then relapsed last April (and therefore felt shitty) and that's where I started to get attracted to video games again (I used them as an escape).I say "again" 'cause I've already commited to abstain from them around the same time when I started my NoFap Journey.So in summary, I did NoFap + No video games ('cause I wanted my overall Life to be better) relapsed on NoFap, felt shitty and used games as an escape.The reason I don't play much is only because I feel guilty when I play and therefore stop as some point.Then I don't play for like 3 days to one week and relapse again.And I don't play online games like MMORPGS, only solo games on emulators.

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You managed to get to 8 months of no fap?! That's hardly something to scoff at, heck the peek of the challenge is 90 days. Now I'm not sure if you're a guy or not, but I know that going 8 months of no fap is no cake walk. Relapse WILL happen sometimes, so don't beat yourself down on that. We have your back!

So welcome to game quitters and I wish you the best Blazing Man!

Also finding alternative activities to video games and porn is a great way get past those bad habits. Like joining a gym or exercising daily, reading and maybe even learning a new skill. Those are somethings that I would personally do to avoid video games and porn, but the choice up to you.

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1 hour ago, Justin Whitelock said:

You managed to get to 8 months of no fap?! That's hardly something to scoff at, heck the peek of the challenge is 90 days. Now I'm not sure if you're a guy or not, but I know that going 8 months of no fap is no cake walk. 

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10 hours ago, Justin Whitelock said:

You managed to get to 8 months of no fap?! That's hardly something to scoff at, heck the peek of the challenge is 90 days. Now I'm not sure if you're a guy or not, but I know that going 8 months of no fap is no cake walk. Relapse WILL happen sometimes, so don't beat yourself down on that. We have your back!

So welcome to game quitters and I wish you the best Blazing Man!

Also finding alternative activities to video games and porn is a great way get past those bad habits. Like joining a gym or exercising daily, reading and maybe even learning a new skill. Those are somethings that I would personally do to avoid video games and porn, but the choice up to you.

For me, quitting video games, porn or ANYTHING is not a challenge, it's a LIFESTYLE ! Let's say I do the 90 day "detox", then what ? I've already spent 90+ days without gaming during my NoFap streak, but then came back to it.The thing is: if I don't understand WHY video games are bad for me, I'll keep coming back to gaming sooner or later.In fact, that's what happened with my porn addiciton: the reason I kept relapsing is because there was still something within me that said that "PMO is ok" so when an urge came in, the relapse was guaranteed.I had to hit rock bottom and see how DESTRUCTIVE to my life porn was to FINALLY realize that NoFap is my highest path and that there's nothing for me in PMO except misery and pain ! So now that I'm fully COMMITED to NoFap I just don't give a shit about the urges anymore and I just let them pass no matter how strong they are 'cause I KNOW where PMO is going to take me if I relapse.It's not about a specific technique to overcome urges or porn blockers or understanding how the brain works or whatever, fuck that, it's about COMMITEMENT TO A PATH and UNDERSTANDING WHY THAT PATH IS YOUR HIGHEST PATH ! Video games NEVER ruined my life like PMO did and I honestly don't consider them as dangerous/bad/harmful, that's what keeps me "relapsing".But when I play I think about Gamequitters/that a life without gaming is possible and then I feel guilty and stop.I just don't get it dude, what's the deal with video games ? There's a REASON why Gamequitters exist ! There's a REASON why you guys don't play video games ! See, I'm into personal developement/spirituality and I noticed that almost all the folks that have quitted gaming are also into that while almost all the folks that indulge in gaming are just average Joe's who live an OVERALL unhealthy life ! And at the same time you've got successful people like Robin Williams (RIP) who played video games or Simon Sinek who said that video games "in moderation" is ok.I'm just confused.Bottom line is that for me life has a meaning and unless I understand WHAT video games are and WHY they're "bad", I won't stop playing ! And I'm the Blazing MAN homie, so of course I'm a dude.

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Damn dude. You sound motivated as fuck. I can relate to the whole porn thing. I quit a couple of months back but I've always felt this itch in the back of my mind. Something that pushes me towards selfdepricating things like drinking, bingewatching stuff, scrolling reddit for hours, porn... I saw the Simon Sinek video and his comments on the instant gratification aspect of our society is something we ex-gamers know all too well, I feel. The ability to have a rush of dopamine whenever you want it is soooo dangerous. Especially when you use it as a reward for putting hours and hours into a game to get that one special killstreak or medal.

I mean, wasn't there this rat experiment at one time? Where they hooked one of the little fellas up to a machine with a button and every time the rat pressed a button, it released endorphins or dopamine into the brain. If I recall correctly, it became instantly addicted and stopped eating and sleeping and just kept pressing the button, like a zombie. That's what porn and all of this instant gratification will do to your brain. So big ups for quitting both porn ànd video games man. That's a really tough nut to crack. 

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13 hours ago, Phoenixking said:

Damn dude. You sound motivated as fuck. I can relate to the whole porn thing. I quit a couple of months back but I've always felt this itch in the back of my mind. Something that pushes me towards selfdepricating things like drinking, bingewatching stuff, scrolling reddit for hours, porn... I saw the Simon Sinek video and his comments on the instant gratification aspect of our society is something we ex-gamers know all too well, I feel. The ability to have a rush of dopamine whenever you want it is soooo dangerous. Especially when you use it as a reward for putting hours and hours into a game to get that one special killstreak or medal.

I mean, wasn't there this rat experiment at one time? Where they hooked one of the little fellas up to a machine with a button and every time the rat pressed a button, it released endorphins or dopamine into the brain. If I recall correctly, it became instantly addicted and stopped eating and sleeping and just kept pressing the button, like a zombie. That's what porn and all of this instant gratification will do to your brain. So big ups for quitting both porn ànd video games man. That's a really tough nut to crack. 

I remember that rat experiment, it's just both frightening and fascinating at the same time.Porn turned me into a lazy dopamine junkie and that lead me to search a false sence of achievement through video games, to me the connection is CLEAR.Furthermore, the more I'm rebooting my brain with NoFap the less I feel attracted to video games at the same time 'cause life (REAL life) starts to feel better.Porn is having sex virtually and video games is accomplishing things virtually, they both have nothing to do with real life and everything to do with instant gratification and dopamine (as you mentionned).Thank you so much for your support, I wish you the best for your Journey !

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6 minutes ago, Phoenixking said:

Thanks man! We're on day 2 today and I can already feel old habits rearing their heads. But we fight and try to persevere :)

We ? Are you schizophrenic ?

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