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Why did I quit playing games?

I want to be a self-relianr person being in bondage to games.

 

Hello Yesterday was pretty awesome felt no cravings and had some epic moments.

I had a dream about gaming 2 specific games today but they semed more surreal than realistic. I woke with having some cravings That's why I wrote this post.cravings

first weekend is coming

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Hello!

This night was extremely challenging! I couldnt sleep I had a PMO relapse after that I got a lot of things done

I had cravings to play games in the night.

The most important take away has been that you gotta be very intentional to make and take action on a daily agenda.

One advice is  to make that goal measurable.

 

 

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Be good on yourself. For me is PMO linked with games and internet overuse. Allow yourself M and O with your fantasy instead of artificial stimulation. Is worth it because you feel better about it. You are man and you have your own needs. Respect that. Forget video games. If you feel desperate or angry try to go out of the house. Its works for me. Mein freund Ich denke, du kannst damit umgehen. Versuchen Sie, diese schlechten Gewohnheiten zu ersetzen.

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Ja das werde ich versuchen Dankeschön du sprichst ziemlich gut deutsch.

Day 0 

on all  I don't know what to tell you

I didn't wanted to quit games bad enough.

I took my phone in my room listening to emotional tracks then I gamed  and then I have been full of regret and shame and I watched porn and after that I was just escaping into yt vids until my mum came up telling me about my obligations. 

Today I woke up snoozed a little went up made a coffee wrote a gratitude list

 

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I want to say that I was there too! Gaming, porn and emotional music in the past a lot. But what helped me was changing my selftalk. You are good person. I'm proud of you. Theres no shame. And it works. I'm a long way from this way of life but still stumble. 

Some tips for you: 

Try checking some books about manliness Iron John: A Book About Men, David Deida:The Way of the Superior Man

Try checking this video: You not be disappointed! Former Navy Seal speaking.

 Then check some wisdom:

 

 

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I feel like a piece of shit. 

Yesterday was very hard I got a bad grade in chemistry and I haven't drawn 2 cells in histology...

I have a negative attitude towards growing or learning in general and living in a fixed mindset for years.

I can't see why repeating school material unless the exams are tearing me apart. because I'm reading or journaling while having a game running in the background.

What da fucking hell am I doin?

Do I have to get a near death experience to finally hit rock bottom!?

I feel like my life is a rock bottom experience and I got numbed to the point where those  experiences are not bothering me anymore.

I see no need to change and I NEVER want to change but in myself I see that I m bored of the state to make my life extremely boring.

I want to live a meaningful life but thast means to face life in all its forms.

I'm aware that I got to face and life with the uncomfortable situations.

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Some tips from personal experience:

 

A. Change selftalk! I love you, You are good enough, You are perfectly imperfect etc! It's working! 

B. Visualise. Not to try hard visualisation on things you want or insignificant things. Start visualise how you love yourself, try see your soul laughing.

C. Go in front of the mirror and say: I love you and I will do everything for you. I will fix what is need to be fixed. 

D. Try to change attitude to life. Love life. 

 

From every fucking thing that I have tried. This worked! 

 

I read your last post. Exactly my situation 2 years ago! Love is the answer. 

 

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1 hour ago, katsudo19 said:

Some tips from personal experience:

 

A. Change selftalk! I love you, You are good enough, You are perfectly imperfect etc! It's working! 

B. Visualise. Not to try hard visualisation on things you want or insignificant things. Start visualise how you love yourself, try see your soul laughing.

C. Go in front of the mirror and say: I love you and I will do everything for you. I will fix what is need to be fixed. 

D. Try to change attitude to live. Love live. 

 

From every fucking thing that I have tried. This worked! 

 

I read your last post. Exactly my situation 2 years ago! Love is the answer. 

 

Thank you very much!

I appreciate you reading my post!

 

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12 hours ago, katsudo19 said:

Check This:

 

 

 

This is a good video.

I never focussed on my life but today I could myself admitting having a fixed mindset and that I am afraid of the future.

Today is my second day without games

 

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Hello. I feel like you could benefit from pausing, a lot. Whenever you get urges or feel lost and overwhelmed, remind yourself that you don't need to take action or a decision at that very moment. Take a pause, consider things. Write your thoughts down, extensively, until there's nothing left unexpressed and then try to understand yourself by reading what you wrote. Write down your ideal day, how you would love to be, if you could be the director in a movie about yourself, describe everything. Then compare what your urges are telling you with that you desire from your life, and if the urges are not helpful to you becoming closer to who you desire to be, then do an activity that is helpful instead. 

We are our actions, because actions involve choice. You do not choose your thoughts, your urges are a consequence of your past. But what you do today will have a direct result on who you are tomorrow and what urges you will or not have then. 

It's a tough thing to accept that this process hurts. But discipline hurts in the moment you do it, yes, it does. But if you say no to the urge today, tomorrow you will get to experience the pride and satisfaction for doing what is good for you. Otherwise you will experience another pain, harsher and heavier than discipline. That's the pain of regret. 

I ask myself, do I want to experience the pain of discipline now or the regret later? It helps me decide. Maybe it will help you too.

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5 hours ago, fawn_xoxo said:

It's a tough thing to accept that this process hurts. But discipline hurts in the moment you do it, yes, it does. But if you say no to the urge today, tomorrow you will get to experience the pride and satisfaction for doing what is good for you. Otherwise you will experience another pain, harsher and heavier than discipline. That's the pain of regret. 

I ask myself, do I want to experience the pain of discipline now or the regret later? It helps me decide. Maybe it will help you too.

Yes have to pause sometimes but I sometimes am busy and I don't do it.

Today I woke up at 6am but still got  the things done though about 20 minutes later.

There's a lot to the water analogy       @katsudo19 posted earlier.

Thank you for your comments!

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11 hours ago, fawn_xoxo said:

do I want to experience the pain of discipline now or the regret later? 

That's a good line. I'm gonna write it down and stick it to my desktop monitor.

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On 1/27/2019 at 8:14 PM, katsudo19 said:

Hey! Are you okay man? 

No I AM a little better.

I am on my day 1 I miss games and we are having exams in 69 days .

I want to take the approach to make good habits easy and bad ones more difficult.

I don't know how but that doesn't matter this time.

I 'll start with putting my class folders on my desk wh3n I come home from school.

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Hey 

I am prepping for my exams that will start end of April.

68 days left to push into 4 mayor subjects.

I am typing one subject that includes 2 years of material.

Pushed in 4000 words of pure typing with decent speed and decend accuracy. 

That's a mistake. 

Today I have 4 hours available which I want to put 2 h  in typing and 2 in repeating 

Never have repeated anything corious how this will work out.

Whether I can actually achieve that.

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