dullage Posted June 2, 2016 Posted June 2, 2016 So about a month ago I decided to email Cam after watching his inspirational ted talk and love and behold i received a instant message back and he soon invented me to have a Skype call with himself and we had a massive chat. So now 4 weeks after, Cam has advised me to keep up with my progress by posting on here. This is something i have never done before and to be honest don't even know if what I'm writing will fit into this forum. I feel its important that people know i do not have a gaming addiction but have trouble keeping a routine on learning and trying to improve my life, staying motivated and most of the time give self talk to myself which makes me just give up and feel I'm not good enough and not going to accomplish what i set out to get. I also am nowhere near as confident as i want to be and feel i struggle half the time talking to people. I truly like a lot of you want to be happy and successful in life and one day own my own business with a beautiful wife and kids, traveling across the world. But for now small steps to help me get to this point. This is a big step for me and I am going to post a blog every-night on what i accomplished and the struggles i have. Hopefully this sounds okay and here we go...
usernameforworldpeace! Posted June 2, 2016 Posted June 2, 2016 Welcome @dullage!! I can relate to so much of what you said, particularly the negative self talk, lacking confidence and trouble keeping a routine.No one is judging you here. You can write whatever you like on your journey of self-exploration/improvement. Hopefully this sounds okayIt sounds great! Exciting times ahead!
dullage Posted June 3, 2016 Author Posted June 3, 2016 Thanks Tyrone and Cam for the messages really appreciate it as I'm sure your aware reply always help specially when there supportive. DAY 1: 5AM my alarm sounded and I pulled my self out of my bed and resisted the urge to roll over and full asleep with the simple idea in my mind (i can sleep and dream or i can get up and make my dreams) and wow did this help. My morning was extremely productive and as well as following my morning routine i had enough time to listen to a bunch of podcasts . I arrived at work two hours earlier then normal and spent the time tidying, preparing for the day and having time to waken my mind up in a productive mood. I had a bit of a confidence dip today while speaking to people (I work in retail) but was aware of all this and done the most I feel could have done to attempt to turn it around. I also got told by someone I work with today on what I'm doing wrong in work. Now normally as this women is sort of bossy I would have ignored her but instead listened to her and took her advice on board and thinking about it, its really good advice and I'm really glad i listened. Well done Grant ;).I have also managed to message some a thew people who i don't really speak to anymore on how i have been feeling and wrote to them starting what i have done wrong, how i could have helped the situation and by taking the blame even though most of the fault didn't lie with me. But it feels good and the person to whom I'm writing to don't feel like they have to stand up for themselves and they take the blame and attempt to convince me they are the ones that are wrong. So it has been a win, win.Im now listening to a Jim Rohn seminar and sticking to my guns on writing on this forum. All thats left is to read the rest of how to win friends and influence people and prepare for tomorrows day.
Primmulla Posted June 3, 2016 Posted June 3, 2016 Hello, @dullage It is nice to have you here on the forum, I can understand you perfectly because I am not addicted to games, either. I thought I was, though You can find my long story in my journal, you are not the only one who does not problem with gaming, so you definitely fit here I am doing a detox from the TV series "Game of Thrones," and there is another person who did a detox from sugar, so I guess the forum now includes various detoxes
Cam Adair Posted June 4, 2016 Posted June 4, 2016 Hello, @dullage It is nice to have you here on the forum, I can understand you perfectly because I am not addicted to games, either. I thought I was, though You can find my long story in my journal, you are not the only one who does not problem with gaming, so you definitely fit here I am doing a detox from the TV series "Game of Thrones," and there is another person who did a detox from sugar, so I guess the forum now includes various detoxes We welcome all if they want to improve their life!
dullage Posted June 4, 2016 Author Posted June 4, 2016 Thanks Primmulla will be sure to read your forum and many thanks and again to you cam.So today once again was up and out the door nice and early waking up at 5 and on my travels i took the time to thank a bus driver, catch his name, introduce myself and explained to him how he was the most cheerful driver I have ever meet, how he always has a smile on his face. All in the name of brightening his day and making him feel apprieacted. I really struggled at work today again at times with my confidence but on the positive side I'm fully aware that my confidence at work is a major point in my life i need to work on and improve as much as i can. I also didn't accomplish as much learning as i wanted to do, but knew today was going to work out this way as i had various events planned as evening. Well done though to myself as i did listen to a bunch of podcasts on the way to work instead of listening to music!! This is a massive help for me at the moment as i can learn on the way to work instead of shutting into auto pilot mode. Also a massive well done to myself for still finding the time to write in the forum even though it is well past my bed time haha. And i will see what tomorrow brings.....
Cam Adair Posted June 5, 2016 Posted June 5, 2016 Thanks Primmulla will be sure to read your forum and many thanks and again to you cam.So today once again was up and out the door nice and early waking up at 5 and on my travels i took the time to thank a bus driver, catch his name, introduce myself and explained to him how he was the most cheerful driver I have ever meet, how he always has a smile on his face. All in the name of brightening his day and making him feel apprieacted. I really struggled at work today again at times with my confidence but on the positive side I'm fully aware that my confidence at work is a major point in my life i need to work on and improve as much as i can. I also didn't accomplish as much learning as i wanted to do, but knew today was going to work out this way as i had various events planned as evening. Well done though to myself as i did listen to a bunch of podcasts on the way to work instead of listening to music!! This is a massive help for me at the moment as i can learn on the way to work instead of shutting into auto pilot mode. Also a massive well done to myself for still finding the time to write in the forum even though it is well past my bed time haha. And i will see what tomorrow brings.....Positive days like this compound over time. Keep going bro
Alkan Posted June 5, 2016 Posted June 5, 2016 Cam, I never really realized I hadn't appreciated just how much you stay engaged with us all.It really is incredible and awesome that you put in that much personal effort of your own.Thank you.
Cam Adair Posted June 5, 2016 Posted June 5, 2016 Cam, I never really realized I hadn't appreciated just how much you stay engaged with us all.It really is incredible and awesome that you put in that much personal effort of your own.Thank you.Thanks man! We're all in this together. I'm just doing my best every day.
AlexTheGrape Posted June 5, 2016 Posted June 5, 2016 Hi dullage, great to have you on board!Good on you for listening to a helpful podcast. I've found they can not only teach us, but inspire and motivate us to get out of our comfort zones I like to think that everyone is holding an invisible sign saying "make me feel important", so you had the right idea by giving the driver a compliment!If you'd like advice, then let us know and we'll be happy to help
dullage Posted June 5, 2016 Author Posted June 5, 2016 Many thanks Alex for the comment and what a amazing idea If i could see everyone with a sign like that i really think that would help, instead of thinking people are not interested in convosation with me. When on earth did you think of that idea? So this is the fourth night i have took time out to write in this forum and it really does make me feel good specially knowing Cam has my back. So today once again I listened to a group of podcasts on the way and back home from work and I really did feel like i was taking in all the information i was listening too (so well done to me) I do feel though today at work was not as great again as it could have been. I struggled to make convosation but i am now congratulating myself for the chats i did have with people at work. So my plan tomorrow is too alive at work nice and early and I want to read over this forum and reply and check out everyones pages who have commented and comment back on some of there posts. I also want to engaged a lot more in convocation and take my self out of my comfort zone at least once .
AlexTheGrape Posted June 6, 2016 Posted June 6, 2016 You're welcome! I'm glad that journalling has been helpful for you.I can't take credit for the invisible sign idea, I believe I heard it whilst listening to one of Tim Ferris's podcasts. That's all the more reason to keep listening to them I guess Celebrating the small wins is important for your growth in conversation, so good on you for doing that! You likely won't be instantly successful in trying something outside your comfort zone, but doing so will highlight your incremental progress and help drive you to continue in the long run
dullage Posted June 6, 2016 Author Posted June 6, 2016 So today was up nice and early again, got myself up at 5 and got to work bright and early while spending the time listening to podcasts and watching jim Rohn videos. I fell this helped me massively as the work day i saw a great improvement on my confident and socialising skills. Of course they weren't perfect but it was a start and that is good enough for me. I also finally finished my second ever book (how to win friends and influence people) which was without a dought a book i will recommend to anyone and everyone.I do however feel like i am putting pressure on myself which i feel is necessary to learn when i get home to when i go to bed, and if I don't i feel useless and i convince myself I'm not doing enough to improve my self or learning as much as i can be.... I also have been told by Cam that as long as I'm learning something a day I'm going forward, but i still feel like i need to. So tomorrow is going to be a good day as I'm going to make it and look forward to writing in the forum tomorrow.
WorkInProgress Posted June 7, 2016 Posted June 7, 2016 Hi man,Welcome in the forum,one thing I am working on right now is to find the right amount of self improvement. If I do too much every day I know that I wont stick to it. If I do to little I feel bad about myself. I think it is better to do a little, appreciate yourself for everything good you do for yourself and your development and do it everyday for the rest of your life then doing a ton for 2months and then falling back in bad behaviours, which hurt you. If you haven't read it all ready I would recommend you "The Slight Edge". It focusses on this aspect and is one of the basic principles here on this forum.Good Job on getting over your self and starting to change. This is awesome and I am always glad if new people join us here and share their experiences.best regards Mario
dullage Posted June 7, 2016 Author Posted June 7, 2016 Hi man,Welcome in the forum,one thing I am working on right now is to find the right amount of self improvement. If I do too much every day I know that I wont stick to it. If I do to little I feel bad about myself. I think it is better to do a little, appreciate yourself for everything good you do for yourself and your development and do it everyday for the rest of your life then doing a ton for 2months and then falling back in bad behaviours, which hurt you. If you haven't read it all ready I would recommend you "The Slight Edge". It focusses on this aspect and is one of the basic principles here on this forum.Good Job on getting over your self and starting to change. This is awesome and I am always glad if new people join us here and share their experiences.best regards MariThanks MarI really appreciate your comment I see exactly what your say and will out it in to action. See now I see why Cam told me to post on here. Comments like this really help
dullage Posted June 7, 2016 Author Posted June 7, 2016 So today is Tuesday and once again I made sure I congratulated myself for getting into to work early and waking up at 5AM. Today and work wasn't the best day I have had but I made sure after work I set myself of on my hour and a half journey to my first toastmasters event. Even after getting on the wrong train and my maps on your phone sending me the wrong way I still made sure even though I was late I went in to the meeting. I was unbelievable nervous which is strange as I normally can act confident when I greet people. This tells me I need to work on confidence more than I thought but at the end of the event made sure i stodd up, introduced myself amd i hoped I keeped some confidence but I don't think I did a haha. After the event I took the time to introduce myself to some people and asked what helped them and for there advice and what did they come back with......READ THE SLIGHT EDGE!!! so well done for today to myself for going.
dullage Posted June 8, 2016 Author Posted June 8, 2016 (edited) So Today i had a massive talk with Cam and to talk to me while being in Las Vegas was really inspirational, thats why I'm still up at stupid o'clock writing in this forum after spending the night writing a review on Cams Skype call. Today was a completely different day and i really felt a lot more confident and i know it was all down to me asking the slight edge to go ToastMasters last night. The talk with Cam honestly was one of the best talks i have had with him and what we spoke abut really made sense about how to gain confidence when your not feeling confident. Massive thanks dude!! Only a quick post tonight and well done to myself for writing in this forum. Edited June 8, 2016 by dullage changes made
dullage Posted June 8, 2016 Author Posted June 8, 2016 So Today i had a massive talk with Cam and to talk to me while being in Las Vegas was really inspirational, thats why I'm still up at stupid o'clock writing in this forum after spending the night writing a review on Cams Skype call. Today was a completely different day and i really felt a lot more confident and i know it was all down to me asking the slight edge to go ToastMasters last night. The talk with Cam honestly was one of the best talks i have had with him and what we spoke abut really made sense about how to gain confidence when your not feeling confident. Massive thanks dude!! Only a quick post tonight and well done to myself for writing in this forum.
Cam Adair Posted June 8, 2016 Posted June 8, 2016 So Today i had a massive talk with Cam and to talk to me while being in Las Vegas was really inspirational, thats why I'm still up at stupid o'clock writing in this forum after spending the night writing a review on Cams Skype call. Today was a completely different day and i really felt a lot more confident and i know it was all down to me asking the slight edge to go ToastMasters last night. The talk with Cam honestly was one of the best talks i have had with him and what we spoke abut really made sense about how to gain confidence when your not feeling confident. Massive thanks dude!! Only a quick post tonight and well done to myself for writing in this forum.
dullage Posted June 9, 2016 Author Posted June 9, 2016 So Today was one of the best, motivation days i have had in a while? and why well let me start at the beginning (obviously) So waking up as morning i took extreme focus on feeding positive thoughts to my self. I was up and on the public transport smiling away to myself listening to my podcasts which lead me working my ass of before work and tidying the hole shop. By 9 o'clock as morning while other people were just getting up or listening to depressing music i had listened to around 2 and a half hours of podcasts, which just felt great. I spend the day even though quiet at work keeping busy, thought cleaning to sorting out jobs to emailing people i owe emails too. At work i managed to keep smiling, and when feeling negative i used Cams 3 tips and first time it worked. (i know not every time i can expect the same result but practise make perfect). I then treated my self to a look in waterstone books shop and brought myself a little book called 642 tiny things to write about and why well thats easy. Little questions i have to write the answers too... To keep my mind working where ever i am due to its small back pocket size. So when i have nothing to do i have something to train, my brain. I then lost my temper majorly towards the end of the day but after giving my self 2 minutes to chill and then realise how silly i was being was completely fine. And even went on to speaking and acting a lot more confident talking to girls who found themselves the shop. Well done to myself for having major confidents all day. I then came home again listening to podcast and sat in the garden at home finishing it off. 4 and a half hours of podcasts listened to day and a bunch of this new book filled out. I also found the time to write down parts in my life that have scarred me early memories and how now by doing the tasks i don't even think about. How its second nature. Im now congratulating myself on todays progress and hope to keep it going. Well done!!
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