NEW VIDEO: I Quit MMOs and THIS Happened
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Hello
Doing great no to little desire to play games.
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On 2/9/2019 at 10:18 PM, Catherine17 said:
@BooksandTrees, there is nothing humiliating in loving yourself and praising yourself for what you are doing to improve your life. And it is not about bragging like your abusive father did. It is about accepting and being self-aware. Reading your journal, I got the feeling that you are self-aware, you tend to analyse your behaviour and work out the solutions of your problems. You are yourelf. You wrote that others like you but you don't understand why, But it is their decision to like you.
Imagine yourself a researcher and think of everything you have achieved, all skills you have acquired throughout your life. You may also write it down and get back to that long list when you fell blue. Avoid negative framing and negative evaluation. I am not a scientist but I hardly imagine any researcher who would study some dark matter or any other scientific stuff and say 'ugh, it's ugly, let's quit'. You say that you have abandoned your father, write it down as well. Because after 21 years, good times are coming. And they are. Because bad things won't stay forever.
Speaking of relationship, it may be hardly comforting for you, but most girls don't understand why good guys prefer bad girls (just as you didn't understand that girls). Since the humanity haven't died out yet, misunderstanding isn't a problem. You will find that right person, but first you should become that right person for yourself.
I hope you get better soon.
That's awesome!
I came to the same recognition that it is good to be at first stable with yourself and loving yourself.
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Hey
I am prepping for my exams that will start end of April.
68 days left to push into 4 mayor subjects.
I am typing one subject that includes 2 years of material.
Pushed in 4000 words of pure typing with decent speed and decend accuracy.
That's a mistake.
Today I have 4 hours available which I want to put 2 h in typing and 2 in repeating
Never have repeated anything corious how this will work out.
Whether I can actually achieve that.
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On 1/27/2019 at 8:14 PM, katsudo19 said:
Hey! Are you okay man?
No I AM a little better.
I am on my day 1 I miss games and we are having exams in 69 days .
I want to take the approach to make good habits easy and bad ones more difficult.
I don't know how but that doesn't matter this time.
I 'll start with putting my class folders on my desk wh3n I come home from school.
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1 hour ago, Atari said:
That's a great mindset to have! Temporary obstacle, I will learn. Thank you for the encouragement and may your gaming days be over!
It is also important to start small and don't beat yourself up if you don't succeed immediately.(I even have to learn that for myself after coming out of a gaming binge...)
You are definitely at the right place and I can already see yo u succeeding!!
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I Can recommend going to a book store and get "atomic Habit" by James Clear and start with making the Cues visible through a habit scoreboard.
I'm still getting all of my habits together.
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2 hours ago, karabas said:
Yeah, I keep my phone in another room when I'm sleeping. I use a basic analog alarm clock to wake up. That way the last thing I see is not a screen, and the first thing I see is not a screen either. Highly recommended!
I am doing the same.!
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Keep it up!
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1 hour ago, BooksandTrees said:12 hours ago, Silverlining said:
to my problems.
I think when we quit gaming our other bad habits become stronger.
I feel the same.
As I quit games I got more and more temptation to pmo and grocery shopping or binge eating after some uncomfortable subject in school.
I don't like to face that cravings/emotions are getting stronger get more and more unpredictable.
I don't know how to deal with that yet.. I used to say what the hell just numb out to not go on your parents nerves.
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5 hours ago, fawn_xoxo said:
It's a tough thing to accept that this process hurts. But discipline hurts in the moment you do it, yes, it does. But if you say no to the urge today, tomorrow you will get to experience the pride and satisfaction for doing what is good for you. Otherwise you will experience another pain, harsher and heavier than discipline. That's the pain of regret.
I ask myself, do I want to experience the pain of discipline now or the regret later? It helps me decide. Maybe it will help you too.
Yes have to pause sometimes but I sometimes am busy and I don't do it.
Today I woke up at 6am but still got the things done though about 20 minutes later.
There's a lot to the water analogy @katsudo19 posted earlier.
Thank you for your comments!
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3 hours ago, katsudo19 said:
14/90
Life is fluid not solid. You must be shapeless, formless, like water. When you pour water in a cup, it becomes the cup. When you pour water in a bottle, it becomes the bottle. When you pour water in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Water can drip and it can crash. Become like water my friend. Human are adaptable. Look on the Planet. We can live almost on all places on Earth. I think even you put human to hell he will find a way. Like Bataan Death March where soldiers suffered. We must admit that we are weak generation. We give up easily. It's okay. We face new problems and we are in in another environment as our ancestors. We must find our inner strength and have strong why we do what we do.
Nailed it!!!!
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On 1/19/2019 at 12:46 PM, Lea said:
Day 7 (January 19th, 2019)
How Are You Feeling?
At the morning, I felt anxious because I dreamed about playing a game in which I have the character in a form of a bulldog. Thus, I couldn't sleep, but fortunately, it was only an hour away from my waking time. Then I felt normal and bored, but happier as the day progressed.
What Did You Do?
1. I had quiet time and exercised like usual.
2. I finished my font samples for my writing account (for now because I will add more new fonts in the future).
3. I talked with Eve for a while.
4. I was putting in more characters to my character list for my upcoming Harry Potter fanfiction.
5. I had phone calls with Eve and my grandmother.
6. I went to a shopping mall with my uncle, aunt, and cousin to eat and buy groceries because we don't have food back at home.
7. I had my math lesson with my tutor (usually once every week).
8. Then, I did my laundry with my aunt.
9. I read and replied to some of them in the forum.
10. I played with my cousin on the trampoline. I also talked with mom too.
11. I washed the dishes and helped my aunt to pick up the fish fillets from the air fryer.
12. I made my goals for now and the future. Again, I talked with my mom about how much I progressed since last week.
Highs (H) and Lows (L)
- 7th day (and already officially a week) of not playing games or watching YouTube. (H)
- I am consistent with my sleep and exercise schedule. (H)
- I am more aware to my surroundings. (H)
- I clearly know what I want to do. (H)
- I spend time with my cousin and have initiative to talk with Eve and my grandmother. (H)
- I get reminded for at least once, because my other goal after quitting games and YouTube is to get reminded less and less by my uncle and aunt.. (L)
- I am not sure if I set my speaking tone right. (L?)
What Can You Do Better Tomorrow?
Like I said before, I could keep reminding about the things I supposed to do. At the same time though, I should not beat myself up if I was reminded for only once. I also should keep up with my awareness to my surrounding and be grounded in my plan for the day.
Bonus
These are my weekly goals for this week:
- Finish writing two poems. (Accomplished)
- Finish writing 2 chapters of my new book. (In Progress)
- Finish chapter nine in my math textbook. (Accomplished at least the basics)
- Vacuum Bathroom and Bedroom (Accomplished)
Next week's weekly goals will be similar to this except for finishing a chapter in a textbook.
Nice job on your first week
How do you feel different than one week before?
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15 hours ago, katsudo19 said:
Do you need motivation? Really? Nope! You need discipline
That's so true you cannot go far without discipline.
I wanted to get up at 5.45 and I just couldn't make it.
I wasn't tired at all nor cold.
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On 1/16/2019 at 8:25 PM, Phoenixking said:
I can't express my joy and pride when I see you say this about yourself. Motherfucking badass.
Joooo What a power sentence!!
I like that one for sure!!
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12 hours ago, katsudo19 said:
Check This:
This is a good video.
I never focussed on my life but today I could myself admitting having a fixed mindset and that I am afraid of the future.
Today is my second day without games
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1 hour ago, katsudo19 said:
Some tips from personal experience:
A. Change selftalk! I love you, You are good enough, You are perfectly imperfect etc! It's working!
B. Visualise. Not to try hard visualisation on things you want or insignificant things. Start visualise how you love yourself, try see your soul laughing.
C. Go in front of the mirror and say: I love you and I will do everything for you. I will fix what is need to be fixed.
D. Try to change attitude to live. Love live.
From every fucking thing that I have tried. This worked!
I read your last post. Exactly my situation 2 years ago! Love is the answer.
Thank you very much!
I appreciate you reading my post!
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23 hours ago, info-gatherer said:
@Gaming Zombie It's once a week. Maybe next week I'll go. Maybe I should...? I felt the social pressure to perform (both in the game and "socially"), was too much for me and I'm not sure I want to feel it again.
Day 4
Day 4 of what? What is my goal exactly? What I wanted was cutting my screen time and I'm doing it, doing sports and I'm doing it, eating healthier and I'm doing it. But what if after a bad day I relapse once? And then twice? And then it becomes normal? I probably need a clearer goal, something I can measure.
Today I woke up, had breakfast, did some basic chores, spent all the rest of the day and evening at the library. Didn't procrastinate nor waste any time. Now it's 11PM of a Friday. I'm back at home. Normal people are having drinks and going out, me I think I'll comment some journals. If I can't help myself, maybe I can at least try to help others.
Update: it’s 2AM, I’ve been trying to sleep but I can’t. I’m struggling with thoughts that I don’t like. Jealousy, lack of self-confidence, loneliness... I’m also thinking: why my social life is so low a priority for me, when it’s so important? am I just scared? or deluded? Why don’t I work to change things, if so evidently it’s my main reason of unhappiness? Fuck... When I quit gaming I thought that my gaming addiction was holding me back from having friends and a social life. But what if that problem is even deeper than gaming? It has to be. Where does it come from? Why can’t I help it?
To be honest I had quite similar feelingsaround bedtime. With the difference that I woke up at 12 am and having headache right now and a bunch of unsolved problems slowly manifesting itself.
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I feel like a piece of shit.
Yesterday was very hard I got a bad grade in chemistry and I haven't drawn 2 cells in histology...
I have a negative attitude towards growing or learning in general and living in a fixed mindset for years.
I can't see why repeating school material unless the exams are tearing me apart. because I'm reading or journaling while having a game running in the background.
What da fucking hell am I doin?
Do I have to get a near death experience to finally hit rock bottom!?
I feel like my life is a rock bottom experience and I got numbed to the point where those experiences are not bothering me anymore.
I see no need to change and I NEVER want to change but in myself I see that I m bored of the state to make my life extremely boring.
I want to live a meaningful life but thast means to face life in all its forms.
I'm aware that I got to face and life with the uncomfortable situations.
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I also love reading your progress seeing you having completed the 90 day detox whereas I haven't even started it.
How do you sleep without videogames?
I have been awake till 5am not wanting to go in my room because my phone is in the kitchen.
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4 hours ago, katsudo19 said:
If you like me interested in building new habits try check Transform Your Habits guide from James Clear. It's free!
https://jamesclear.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/09/habits-v2.pdf
I have bought that book!!
It will be at my place soon
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On 12/27/2018 at 1:08 PM, info-gatherer said:
Hi Brian, welcome to the boards. In my experience, when you really hit your lowest you have absolutely no doubt about quitting. Did it ever happen to you to think that, concerning gaming, your own life was on the line if you didn't quit immediately? I don't mean to discourage you, on the contrary! I've seen many people come here "conflicted" and quit quitting after four days. I just want to put you in the right mindset to succeed! If you want to quit you have to know why quitting is important for you and be fully aware of the consequences, which are:
1) You will not be able to play any videogames for 90 days. I also strongly suggest not to watch any gaming video or stream, nor read any articles or even talk about games with your friends. Detach yourself from all gaming content. It's just a lot easier this way. This means that the new Civilization expansion will come out and you will not read about it, you will know nothing about it. In my opinion (it's just my opinion!) if you don't accept this, succeeding will be very very hard for you. One article leads to one video which leads to one stream which leads to just one game which leads to just one more game and we all know where "just one more game" leads.
2) With effort and dedication, you will see your life improving, getting better and better. At first it will be hard, but once you'll be on track you'll feel full of gratefulness and you will thank youself for this decision. On the other hand, if you fail, all the effort will be wasted and you will be back at square 1.
Are you ready to change your life? If you are, you have to give it your very best, you have to be 100% dedicated to it. Gaming is a very subtle addiction, understanding how to beat it is part of the process. Journaling is a very good first step. It helps a lot. I wish you all the luck!
That's very true!!!
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Oh my God!!
Thank you for that great videos!
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Ja das werde ich versuchen Dankeschön du sprichst ziemlich gut deutsch.
Day 0
on all I don't know what to tell you
I didn't wanted to quit games bad enough.
I took my phone in my room listening to emotional tracks then I gamed and then I have been full of regret and shame and I watched porn and after that I was just escaping into yt vids until my mum came up telling me about my obligations.
Today I woke up snoozed a little went up made a coffee wrote a gratitude list
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On 11/13/2018 at 5:12 PM, sick'n'tired said:
To be control of my own life if i were to put it short but precise would be to be a professor, good pay, and away from crutches of porn, and gaming; basically be the master of myself.
That s mine too !
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I dont want to game because they add more soup into my pain soup of discomfort.