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  1. How To Apply it :

    Bring up a topic in which you're well informed, then try to explain it in a very simple tone.

    When I was a young girl and started dating at fifteen, my mother and Grandmother sat me down and explained some things to me.

    How to wait for a man to open the door.  Always have a little mad money with you in case something goes wrong on the date.  That the man should pay for the date. etc.

    One of their pieces of advice was to listen to what the young man said, find out his interest and ask questions that get him talking about it.  Then to listen to him.

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    If some person sat down and started to explain something to me in the simplest terms as though I was stupid, on a topic I had no interest in, it wouldn't last long.  I would find such behavior condescending.

    Combine my advice about a compliment with Robert's on listening and you have a good start to a conversation.

    Sorry if this seems condescending.

     

  2. Day 93: Alright, so in theory, I could be able to play again this wednesday if I wanted to. Since I do not want to rush the desicion, I need to thoroughly think this through, something that is best done with a list.

    Reasons it might be a good idea to game

    • I'm a curious guy, so I don't think I'd be able to rest until I had given gaming a shot again.
    • It might serve as a motivating factor. Right now, I spend a lot of time doing shit I do not really enjoy; facebook, youtube, league videos etc. If I had league to look forward to, I think I would be able to eliminate all these "Low Density-Fun activities" with the promise of something really enjoyable later in the day. Basically, I will be productive now, so that I can play later. (This might be a cop-out/band aid solution).
    • It would add another layer/dimension to life. This is something I've discussed earlier in my detox. If I have productive, meaningful activities (writing, guitar, drawing) combined with a project that is purely fun (league), it would add a nice tension to life (if I am able to maintain balance between these two).

    Reasons it might not be a really bad idea

    •  I've quit for 90 days now, which means, I know that I am able to quit. Sure it was a struggle, but I have changed now, and so has my brain. If I go back, and it turns to shit, and I can use all my knowledge (and this forum), to quit again.
    • Even when I were in the midst of my gaming addiction, I never did let myself sink beneath a certain point. I still maintained good grades, exercised, and on average never exceeded four hours of gaming per day (that still wasn't ideal, but it wasn't purely shit). I trust that I'm still like that.

    Reasons it might be a really bad idea

    • I might become addicted again, play 10 hours a day and waste a shit ton of my life. Yay. Tbh, I don't think this will happen, because I'll see it coming before it gets serious. 

    My plan if I actually do game

    • Make sure to get the high priority activities done before gaming (writing and exercising), and the other habits after/inbetween sessions. 
    • Make sure to not let it interfere with my sleep schedule. 
    • Make sure it doesn't exceed a certain time limit every day? (I hate setting time limits at all, for any activity, because it makes it feel... Meh. It might be necessary in this case though).

    So. Right now I am leaning towards giving it a try during the holiday.

     

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    This is what we call stinkin' thinkin' Your disease is talking to you.

     

  3. @phpsmith ha I can't take the total silence and non-connectedness.  I put Wagon Train on Youtube and use the little popout feature so it plays while I work.  It's like having a tv playing in the background.

    Day 3!  You're doing great :)

     

  4. @kingstravy I'm not really sure why you gave me a link to a game.  Is that a game? How odd. I meant more like this Pendulum

    @Reno F I bookmarked that link.  Thank you :)  I will check it out more later.

    Day 12

    Not sure what time it is...  8?

    I am cold.  The day is cold.  I am wearing sweat pants, long fuzzy robe, t-shirt, socks, fuzzy slippers, thermal jacket and coat, and hoodie.

    My fire is burning but that only does so much.  I have put a pan on the stove for humidity.

    My life is so messed up :(  My fault for sitting here playing games for a year and a half and still didn't get my damn character levelled.  Playing as hard as a good for incredible long stretches.  I object to a game that has years of grind just to take care of yourself in the game.  Let alone developing a super, awesome character.

    My computer crashed it's desk top cinnamon :( It's in fall back mode Linux mint 17.3  I think it's a problem with the updates I just did.  It's been making funny sounds for two days.  I restarted and now it don't work :( 

    Ah checked time on google it's 9:36.

    Well I'm running out of propane soon with the cold weather.  My electric will soon go off.  My check doesn't come until the 28th :( 

    Guess I have to go borrow some money from someone.  *sigh  I hate to borrow money.

    If things are all shut off you may not hear from me until the 28th. :(

    God has his own way of getting me off this computer. lol

    If I was playing Ryzom none of this would stop me.  I would still be playing until I was a cold, shriveled husk starved to death lying on my floor with the rats eating me.

    @Cam Adair  Thanks for starting Game Quitters.

    I'm going out to face the real world... :(

     

  5. One time I was trying to quit smoking.  I was wearing the patch.  One day I went to work and had forgotten my patch.  So somehow with my stinkin' thinkin' it seemed alright if I bought a pack of cigarettes to help me quit since the patch was also nicotine.  Just one or two ciggies to help me over the rough patch. lol

     

  6. @Koolman Welcome.  I am checking out the link on dopamine.

    I don't know why everyone keeps acting as though 90 days is the end of it.  90 days is the beginning.  It may be the end of detoxing our brains from overdose of dopamine I don't know.  But I know that when I belonged to AA they said don't try to start a relationship for a year.  Some advised five years.

    It takes a while to put our lives back together.  Everything isn't hunky dory magically at the end of 90 days.  But it's a great place to start!

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    On 73 days ;) 

  7. @Pierce I have made it a goal to read one journal a day!

    DING, DING, DING!  You are today's grand prize winner!  I have read your journal! :D   

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    Man you are wicked hard on yourself! :(

    Just a suggestion....  On your timer it would be helpful to me if you put that time is currently for not watching Youtube Videos about gaming.  What might be good for you and your readers is to also include a timer for your amount of time away from gaming...

    You have had some wonderful successes!

    I love to dance.  Salsa, Meringa, Combia (spelling) lol   I have to admit those are my favorite. :)  I think it would be fun to learn how to Tango!

    Just a thought have you tried keeping track of how many hours a day you beat yourself up?  I bet you could save about 10 hours a day not doing that!

    Oh have you tried this book? Like Water for Chocolate Just a good read. :D

    Also, I think a big lure that games have for me is the social aspect.  Seems almost every activity other than dancing or journaling here that you have chosen is solitary...   Might be something there.

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