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Reno F

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  1. Day 8 I had a really great weekend sightseeing in Kyoto with my wife and our guest. There is still time to do some exercise before going to bed. Tomorrow I get back to writing. Pretty excited for this week. The challenge will definitely pressure me up.
  2. Day 6 This is a quick post. I'm having a guest here for the weekend. Challenge wise, it should be a light one. Did my most important task for today. It's been a while since I've been postponing it. Didn't hurt doing it at all.
  3. What is "resting mathematic"? Is it like mathematics for meditation?
  4. Reno F

    Fresh Start

    Well done, Juha! This is a huge step, I think the biggest on the detox. I'll be following!
  5. Thanks for the kind words, brother! Day 5 I'm thinking of posting everyday, just for the sake of not having to count the days. Oh, look at me, that's how lazy I'm at the moment. I'm glad to have started writing again. Hadn't I opened this thread, I'd probably have choked the chicken yesterday. (Meanwhile, fap is such a boring slang for flogging the log) On building a routine: My work schedule is messed up, so it is hard do build a routine on that. I should have noticed it before. I think I had. I have my list of recurring tasks written down, but that isn't enough. I've tried to put some of it in my calendar, didn't work as planned. Gotta push through indisposition and toughen up. Hey, that's the reason I started this challenge, in the first place.
  6. Small steps compounded over time make big change! Keep the faith in yourself!
  7. Good job! It takes some balls do reach where you are! Congratulations on your first step!
  8. Welcome, Connor! Have a look at the tools already available. They have worked for many people and count on us for that extra support! Good luck!
  9. Hi everyone, it's been a while! About two weeks ago, my mother came from Brazil to visit me in Japan for about one week. Needless to say, I stopped everything I was doing to give her full attention and enjoy her presence, as we don't get to see each other often. We had a really great time! However, that came with a small cost. My routine and plans were put aside and now, 2 weeks later I've been having trouble to build them up again. I need to start moving forward urgently. Because of that, I'm starting the 90 days NoFap challenge. This will be a tough one, and to be honest, I'm not sure I can do it. Nevertheless, I expect to go through some sort of change during this process. Rules are: no masturbation for 90 days (easy mode: I'm married). I'll be posting a few times a week during the next 90 days and I hope to get in touch with some more awesome people through the journals and the rest of the forum! This is it! I'm already on day 3. See you around! PS: I don't have problems with masturbation. I'm only using the challenge as an excuse to put more focus and build momentum in my life. You know, to make things more interesting. PS2: I've been 9-months game free. Played a bit this February. Since then, I stopped counting.
  10. I've been there. Welcome, Stoic!
  11. Check out Judy and Mary. They broke up some years ago, but their music is awesome!
  12. I can answer for myself only. I didn't choose to feel shame. I just felt it. I was living a lie and gaming happened to contribute to it. The shame didn't come from gaming.
  13. This is an interesting topic. I understand that when you are confronted with your problems, you get on 'defense mode'. I see how parents should do better, but it is way easier to make a change on yourself first. Get used to having people trying to snap you away from your goals. They will never go away. My addiction kicked in way after I left home (back in the day games weren't as addictive as they are today), so my parents didn't play a big role in it. I am married though, and my wife never said a word about it. It helped that I made a decision of never playing when she was at home. I believe she thought there was something wrong, but she left me to see it for myself which I'm very grateful.
  14. Congratulations on your test! When you feel ready, get your to do list and start crossing some stuff to build momentum!
  15. Reno F

    Freaking out...

    Good Job, Craig! This is a big step. One of the biggest. You should be really proud of yourself! Keep on reading, the advice in there is solid.
  16. Hey, big fan of South Park and Canadians here! Good luck on your challenges, they seem very tough but doable!
  17. I had to do it once, in a job interview for an engineering position at a big company. When applying for a driver's license in Brazil, you have to do a similar activity. Instead of cutting images from magazines, you have to draw a picture. I've known people who failed at it. It is not kindergarden stuff, although it looks so. They are psychological exams.
  18. If you search for answers, you will find them. Welcome, Circle!
  19. Definitely! Favorite temple is Nanzen-ji, actually, my favorite place in Kyoto! Haven't been to Ohara and Sanzen-in yet, I heard Ohara is very nice!
  20. @hycniejsy Let the past be in the past. Thank you for your kind compliments, Hycniejsy! @Cam Adair Exactly. Thanks for taking the time to comment!
  21. Hi everyone! After 8 months without touching a game, two days ago I played 2 hours of it. It was more like a peek on the past, rather than a relapse, and I didn't like what I saw. You can read the experience here. Hope everyone is doing well!
  22. Hi folks, it's been a while! 1st of all, this is not a relapse post. At least not in the way I see my experience. Allow me to explain it. I quit playing on the 15th of July, 2016 (the date might be off +/- 5 days, I don't remember the exact day). From that moment on, my life changed in a good way. It definitely hasn't been an easy ride, but as the time went by, I felt less afraid and more confident with the decisions I was making for myself. I make myself responsible for whatever happens to me - I don't want it any other way. I found purpose on writing and started writing short stories for the very first time in my life. I am currently working on my second story with plans to self publish them as soon as I get the second one done. Fast forwading to 2 days ago. I was triggered. Nothing unusual, really. Yet, last week I watched some video games videos on YouTube, more than I wanted to. I endured being triggered day after day. On friday, I decided to give in. "The only way to get rid of a temptation is to yeld to it" - Oscar Wylde. I got myself a Sega Genesis emulator and played two rounds of Streets of Rage 3 (about 2 hours of gameplay, maybe less). Here is what I thought about the experience: First game was fun. Game Over screen, I couldn't beat it. I decided to play it again. "My addiction is kicking in" - I thought as I pressed start button for a new game.During play, I started to think about the things I should be doinginstead: the dishes, hang the clothes from the washing machine, write my story, tide up the room (I'd be receiving guests the next day), exercise, etc. I started to feel anxious. I wanted to stop, but I couldn't, not until I had lives and continues. I started to play faster, trying to speed run the game.After my second "Game Over" (still didn't beat the game on the second run) I stopped. My hands were shaking, I was nervous. I was thinking of what to answer if asked "How did you spend your day?" - even having played for "only" 2 hours.The experience wasn't satisfying. Not only that, it wasn't as fun as I remembered, not even close. The fun curve dropped really fast. I could easily think of 100 things that I could have done that would be more fun than spending those 2 hours gaming.If anything, these 2 hours completed my cycle with video games. I don't feel that my story with games is incomplete anymore, just as I thought it was at the end of my detox. I truly moved on, without being aware of it. About 8 years ago, I used to drink A LOT of soda while playing dominoes with some friends. Today I can't drink more than two sips of it. Video games went right in to the same place that soda is in my life's shelf.
  23. Congratulations on not relapsing! There will be ups and downs. I'm 7 months in and I'm sure someone who is game free for longer can say the same. Learn to float on the wave.
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