Shonnasen The Light

Is there a connection between sexual health and digital entertainment ? Are there norms that we take for granted ? Both for male sexuality and video games. Example: *Men shouldn't express certain feelings *Sex / video game is a performance; the result is the measure of fulfillment in life *A man's man stick should always be hard with erection during sex / A person ' s worth can only be seen in a video game's progress and collection .....

That' s a good point. Also in noisy office places, too. I think it's better to use arm signs instead of yaping like angry all the time 😂 There are no free groups out there to practice by doing it ? I think the best way to learn is not sitting in classrooms, but by moving my arms out there, comunicating live, like volunteering in a disabled charity or something ?

Wow cool. the sign movement for baby ones are different from the adult ones ? That's complicated ? My dad and me could learn some together. He is hard of hearing, but too proud to admit any weaknesses and ask for help. ahhhh the tough fathers......

That's great. I am reading Calnegie's "How to win friends..." haha. I probably will be in dating group activities in the future, with all sorts of men and women. I like pretty women, with intelligence 😊

So. Did you read "The obstacle is the way" ? that white book in your photo. I heard it is a good one. Do you recommend it ?

That must be a painful , frustrating feeling. For any parents. I think the best way is to look at YOURSELF first. I agree with the idea "to change others, change thy self first. Become the change. Then the others will follow. Or leave." children will not leave parents forever, unless something serious is happening. ONLY trying to change others without changing the self is the common way of avoiding responsibility. Because you want to get good image for yourself, from your child's good behavior, don't you ? Are you willing to sacrifice for your child ? humans are all selfish. The goal is to Eventually change others, BUT to get there, the best way is to change THE SELF.....Wa ?? !! 😵‍💫😵🤮 Reading books help. I recommend: 1. the road less traveled. look at the parenting topics 2. seven habits of highly effective people. look at "the first habit“ ， or "paradigm shift" and the author's own problem with his child. Oh, I am struggling, too. No hard feelings ?

good luck, bro. Let's change together 😇

Hey, what's the meaning of these pics that make me drool, huh ?! 😁 Just kidding. You try to lose weight from those greasy sauce & salty fries ? I am trying to gain weight. I think I am under weight, you might call it anorexia, but a less horrified version.

There is no sensitive information there being at risk for the account if it stays there, right ? I could not delete my Blizzard software on my PC. I never thought about deleting my accounts. They are still there, they wouldn't use those to do some nasty stuff, do they ?

flip phones are really cool. I like them. They are less distracting. Don't you think we are becoming slaves of technology ? not the master anymore~ Ever heard of the song "Hotel California" from Eagles ? - "we are prisoners of our own device" less entertainment means more fulfilled life. That's a very hard thing to accomplish, for most average people, including me. Sometimes I think, "Oh, no freaking way ! I am going to give up my hard-earned, max -level monsters , or characters, or whatever ?!!"......In a few years, I might not be able to remember any of that, if I have a real life. That's where I belong..... looking at real faces, holding hands with a real beautiful girl, both physically and spiritually,feeling her warmth through the skin, appreciating the wonder of the universe ~~

I think it does not need to be a specific narrowed-down thing. I think it does not even need to be a video games group. It can just be an addiction group, like Alcoholic Anonymous , or Sex Addict Anonymous....the messages are all the same: make a positive change, forget the old habits, learn new habits and meet with people who care. I am doing this with no face-to-face, but only internet supportgroups like this forum, it's going ok. Good luck. you can talk to me if you want to. We can start from e-mails. Anyone is welcome, but I don't respond to negative messages. My e-mail: gui-tong-wan@hotmail.com

Yes. Totally agreed. I think games are one and the same as any other addictions, from heroin to hamburgers, promiscuity, credit card over spending, procrastination.... The idea is the same: using easy rewards or repeating old habits to avoid tough but positive changes

Agreed. Be the master, be the controller, not the one being controlled. Regret is a lack of game substitute and fear of replacing. It is the unknown.

I think you replied pretty fast. I started to make a habit of checking this forum as a priority in the morning. I have not find a face to face support group yet. Work and social situations are pretty tough, right ? I am getting used to my new job now and facing lots of changes. So good luck to both of us ~

This is an interesting story. A bit long, but I read it. I think like this kind of conflict in this fandom story, it is everywhere in life. I read it on a book says life is a never-ending process of conflicts and decisions to solve them, and it is also the only way to happiness... ... That would be some hard stuff to think about, right ?