Amphibian220

Books, but then doing all of the important things is necessary to stay healthy. Idleness causes many drawbacks and mental health issues, so it is good that you are going at a more measured pace, not rushing with things. Rushing everything wears you down long term. The basic things in your life require more attentio. You have employed some changes here and there to get morale boosts. Would you get disheartened if each day was exactly the same? Yes, which is why changing routines around is so beneficial and is something we constantly do.

What am I celebrating in April? Covered 3 lesson’s of beginner’s Greek, finished a book on ethical finance and just may be able to mediate a legal settlement in a dispute. I also brought my lawn to a more orderly state with the help of my wife, fixed a number of things in my house. I still have a bad back and suffer from fatigue so I need to start a therapy journal to track improvement.

When you are feeling emotionally tired from all the mental work Books, isn’t it the ideal time to practice your street hockey? how is it? Has you coordination and reaction speed inproved?

Alexander, I think I made an overarching observation from reading multiple journals and remembering the change in my reactions to real life issues as I gamed more and more. How video games affect you: they create some sort of unrealistic attraction of “cleanliness or neatness” (can apply just as well to films and browsing). Once that starts to happen, a gamer can develop abnormal disgust to his real life needs because it is less clear cut and orderly, more “uncertain”. Human relationships are less clear cut and orderly, are more uncertain. Eating healthy is harder because you may have to try food that lacks that immediate “kick” that fast food has. When I was a kid, I was scared of home made food cause I could observe how simple it was, that it was being used from the previous day, plates had some dirt on them. Later on, as my understanding became more profound, I could see that food comes to us from the earth, so the feeling of fear started to fade. erotic imagery creates abnormal disgust to healthy relationships with the opposite gender. This is because it short circuits the entire process! The person just observes it, experiences a quick hit. But in a healthy relationship there are emotions, the need to look after each other’s values and goals, moments when your SO may get ill and not look as perfect as fake erotic imagery. This observation feels important to me. Video games sort of channeled me to be averse to healthy eating, averse to attempting less clear cut and uncertain social interactions in my life. Life became very sterile at that point and I was embarassed of normal bodily functions. This is as much as I was able to introspect at this point. edit: the mentor that you asked about was my teacher who took time to give extra lessons for free at his home. I cannot really express what masculinity and leadership is about in words, but I felt it with this man.

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Tell me what is the concept of this dota? if it is a particular type of strategy, can you channel it into a sport? Say, physical fitness is like an upgrade system and by monitoring weight, healthy food intake, various stretching exercises: you are getting the chance to enter an amateur league in your favourite sport. If you manage to do that, you will be so pumped and excited by real life activities that there will no longer be a dilemma of whether you should play

One of those things you said are critical Alexander- the right kind of environment to foster change. I used to think meaningful goals were critical because they define everything else- but meaningful goals (except at certain stages like school and university) were very nebulous for me. Part of your environment is the people. My development radically altered when I encountered an influential mentor who encouraged an appreciation of higher values, greater discipline, vision. there never happened a sense of “why am I doing this”, despite the fact that I had a vague idea that this person is helping me on a journey to find greater meaning. Leaders are life changers Alexander. You and the other forum members have helped me a great deal.

Welcome to the forum! Can you share what sort of mission you are pursuing in life and why the video games are interfering with it? Apart from that, what sort of activities do you enjoy doing for recreational purposes. What kind of people are you interested in as friends? Maybe you could list some traits or a particular sport? Finally, Cameron Adair has a Vlog that covers many issues. I remember one of his videos with a caption: “About to relapse? Watch this” He basically addressed the most frequent and salient issues that a person who wants to sort out his difficulties may have.

I remember having this pokemon in my card pack when I was about 12 years old. You got that face right!

Welcome RB1, what sort of improvements do you want to see in yourself in one year’s time. Can you list them by category: communication skills, physical fitness, professional and academic goals? Can you identify your strengths as a personality and where you wish to work?

there certainly are people with a skill set, work ethic and experience at least matching yours in your country who are unable to find work due to circumstances that they cannot control. If you acknowledge this, you should be a lot more cool with accepting the speed of your improvement and learning on the whole. You will also feel a sense of gratefulness to your country that has raised you and offered this opportunity. Are you improving constantly? You posted a graph where there was a downtick in the bad habit. As always, apply the things that increase your self worth on a regular basis and you will drop the bad habit soon.

How about the nostalgia when you played sports with your friends? What about sports days, every english/american school in existence has them I suppose? How about the moments of connection you had with your friends? Tell me about a time when you did something challenging and fun? When you messed around and something happened that was so hilarious it caused you to fall over laughing? Everybody’s youth (even a gamer’s) is so rich it seems. I think I miss the experience as a whole and in that regard my memories don’t inspire a feeling of guilt. I also noticed people can run after that fantastic energy of youth not just by playing video games, but by doing other activities ( going “pro” in sports where they accept they may not make into the pro leagues- but interestingly thrive and shock everyone; playing paintball professionally) These healthier alternatives reignite some of that fire of youth, but they don’t let you run around for 16 hours a day. I actually have a friend who is married with a son who invited me to an airsoft event- his gear was top notch and his enthusiasm in the game unparalleled. The place was full of guys in their mid twenties. the second paragraph of yours is very inspiring. It reminds me that reward will always find its owner.

Wali, how are you man. What sort of goals are you pursuing? Trust your judgment, the rewards you will reap for going after a healthy life style will be manifold.

Something on “No Mr Nice Guy”, ever since I started applying his principles, I stopped worrying about being exactly “right” as much. I used to be tense and withdrawn because I worried that my responses (opinions) wouldn’t be exactly perfect according to others. I remember a course mate telling me in those years: “You spend far too much time researching cases to prove your point, when in fact you have already proved it”. Uncertainty in decision making doesn’t bother me now cause I noticed there can be ad hoc solutions on the way, plus you cannot sit on the fence for far too long or you won’t get anything done at all. I don’t like Nietzsche, I skimmed one of his books at an airport and the thing looked very hard to understand. Something about a super man. I like Aristotle for the simplicity of his ideas, even though I only saw extracts of his statements. I read somewhere that great scholars were true drivers of progress (advances in sciences, higher order values that improved health and well being of communities). This is kind of relevant for today- lack of leaders leaves a lot of people with lack of sense of direction.

Welcome to the forum and I wish you success. Little steps in the right direction have a compounding effect on your state. They don’t just add up, they multiply. Uncontrolled gaming is something that requires us to actively seek help, take care of our needs, establish meaningful connections with people. From my observation, relapse happens in all cases, but instances of relapse are supposed to fall over time, and reaction to them should change. At the point near recovery, there is little emotional need for gaming / time wasting. Somewhere in between, relapse stops to upset a person and he gets back on track faster.

You played actual street hockey? I played it just once in my teens. It was the coolest sport in my neighbourhood. Guys that played it looked a league above football because it took a great deal of effort to learn how to move and pass in a fast paced game. Remembering this tells me how much more connection I had. Everything was outside in the real world, I had no computer to waste my time. How do you play? Is it a two on two or proper five on five games? The time I played it was without goalies, but we put these small goals to make scoring hard.

Discipline crumbles when you are feeling tired or ill. But staying away from internet is highest order priority for me in such a case. This means my day is more boring but this boredom is good for me- it in turn encourages me to go out and do other things that are less hard. Like fixing things in my house.

Alexander, you are the standard holder. You go out and light up the spirits of men in distant corners of the world. With this attitude, I think you are going to develop much faster, just don’t give in to weakness, its a real downer for the rest of us. Stay on the books and journal. You may well give an example of a lightning war.

What was the moment or the time near the recovery from gaming? Can you recollect your emotions, how the grasp of the addiction waned and you looked at it with indifference? Was the new addiction just starting or was it there well established when you were coming off video games? I’m asking you this because I really want to see the stages or the algorithm of how the mind and body starts to recover. I think the stages are the same for all people albeit with slight variations.

I was basically looking to hear your view on how staying close to your roots, exploring customs and folklore helps to stay fit and healthy.

Ikar, how much does your ethnicity play a part in your identity? I was amazed to find out that Prague has enacted laws to prevent the modernizing of architecture and destruction of its historic heritage, I wonder how much the people still follow the customs of their ancestors and shun the dehumanizing secularism.

Books, So you don’t want a round trip over something so stressful as a potentially unsatisfying date after work. But what about the place where you live? I am totally feeling you about stress after work. You rightly stated you need some release like hitting he drums. I hope that will be a life changer for you. Edit: I am less and less at peace with the idea of having to escape. Nobody has to escape anything, we just have to engage different faculties and give ourselves breaks when we need them. I come from legal consultancy background in the UK and I had seen how substance abuse and exhaustion at work are related. James Good recently shared his insight into this subject. So I am against intense working accompanied by frantic worrying followed by escaping into oblivion. I am all for measured working, followed by activities that engage different faculties which means we shouldn’t ever need to escape.

Wali, I had dreams like that plus a few of my friends on this forum said they’ve had dreams like that. I was very upset in the dream that I relapsed, but waking up made me feel relieved.

It is very important for you that you encountered resistance with your decision. You are learning to make decisions independently, to trust yourself. You will notice in future that this will help you to make other more important decisions. Parents are usually your best guides, but the decision is always your responsibility. Edit: You should also look to make your work fun and exciting, that way you will break out faster. One of the ways in which the warm up in my boxing training got easier is by messing around and making jokes while we are warming up.

Something else that I want to say: Obsessions with things turn them into very unhealthy activities. Whether its the desire to look good, gaming, narcotics. The person elevates a thing to a point that there can no longer be a healthy relationship with it. I can remember my acquaintance that had anxiety because she bought the wrong shoes. In fact she coveted clothes so much, every trip to the shop was a stressful ordeal. Now onto this subject Books, a good way out of this unhealthy relationship is to kill the illusion. I had this girl at my high school that made this impression on me: she was easier to approach because I didn’t perceive her as so cool. Once I got talking, there never was any sort of tension, the conversation flowed naturally, no cravings, no fear of rejection, no fear of upsetting her. It just felt great because this set of conditions enabled me to learn. No attachment on either side. Suddenly, girls were just normal human beings, they weren’t from another world. It was a bit saddening, but it was a good thing for me to know at that stage.