WhatAboutToday?

Let's have faith that it will!

Objectives for the day - Deliver the last documents for graduation - Done - Visit the music school - Rescheduled to next Thusday - Have a nice guitar practice and get a good progress - Done (it was pretty short though, but who is counting!) - Have a good day at work (make plans for the day) - Done (didn't make plans, but it was good) - Practice social skills (smiling, eye contact) and be really social in the music school - Half done, didn't go to the music school - Exposure therapy, as much as possible - Done Gratitude journal - I'm grateful for the food I'm eating - I'm grateful for the air I breathe - I'm grateful for the will to change

I'm not expert on that, but sometimes I feel that my habits are collapsing too. A possible approach could be getting back on track with one habit at a time, and giving kudos to yourself in each step of this process. Stay strong bro!

Hey Tomas! Right after I quitted gaming I replaced gaming with Netflix and movies. It wasn't thaaat bad, but I wish I didn't do it. Reflecting about it right now, before quitting, after work I would play a game for some hours and then go to sleep. I didn't feel tired for gaming, it was quite the opposite. In my non expert opinion in the subject, I think we feel tired exactly because we are lacking that flood of virtual stimulation that we once had, and an easy way to get some similar stimulation is by watching Netflix. But this sensation changes over time, and I'm confident that you will be able to fill this voids with some go to activities.

Hey, congrats on your fitness achievements!! Exercising gives me a really good boost, right now I can't live without it. And congrats on the decision of deleting your league of legends account, that's a big step! I didn't delete my Steam account yet, but I gotta do it someday.

Day 26 Things got a little bit out of control after this weekend. It was a really good weekend, lots of oportunities to socialize and have fun and I enjoyed it a lot. But with all this activities lots of habits were left behind and as anybody can notice I didn't journal or planned my days at all. This, combined with some heavy drinking Friday and Saturday made my daily habits implode and my days were really messy. I don't feel really bad about the weekend itself, but the main problem is that it took me 3 days after the weekend for me to bounce back to journaling and having a structured day. I got sick on Monday evening/night and my Thusday was a waste of time with lots of Netflix and Youtube. Well, it's water under the bridge, and it's time to bounce back again! I didn't even notice but I'm on the 2 weeks mark on no fap/porn. Looks like it was yesterday when I relapsed, time really flew by! I'm feeling that no fap is a little easier right now that I got some long streaks going. Especially right now that in addition to porn itself I'm cutting all "virtual stimulation" in my day to day life - from social media to feminine sports news - things are feeling pretty balanced. I still see a lot a hot women in the gym and in the streets but I don't know, it feels different. Anyway, it feels good reaching this milestone! My guitar practice is falling a little bit behind. I feel like I should challenge myself a little more, but when I challenge myself too much I get a little demotivated with, for example, songs that I can't play. But I guess the most important is to keep practicing everyday. In no time the older challenges are gonna become easy and I will have some newer/harder ones! Ultimately, I gotta organize the section "30 days challenge", since it's specially hard to track something that I don't do everyday. The cold showers are going really well, but the other ones I skipped some days. Gotta think of another way to organize that, but not right now. Current Streaks No games - 222 days No Porn/Masturbation - 14 days Healthy mobile phone usage - 1 days Things that I should do every now and then Body grooming - Last done 28/01/2020 Hair Care - Last done 29/01/2020 Clip nails - Last done 28/01/2020 Deep organize room - ? - Gonna separate an hour in the day when the boredom hits to organize a drawer or any other thing. 30 days challenge Diet - 13/30 Cold showers - 21/30 (this is going pretty easy right now, it's really hot these days. Do it again on a cold month) Practice guitar - 15/30 One amazing thing that happened/I did today I'm doing it right now, I'm journaling! Exercise Gym. Social Fear Ladder (1/10) - Keep practicing eye contact and smile. Exposure Therapy at least once a day Morning Routine Day planning - Not Done Physiotherapy - Half Done Skin care routine - Done Brush teeth and floss - Done Make my bed - Done Meditation - Not done Evening Routine Skin care routine - Done Physiotherapy - Only in the morning. Brush teeth and floss - Done Journaling - Done Daily Habits Tracker Staying out of the room - Stayed out almost all day. Reading Power of Habit - Read The Narnia Chronicles - Didn't read Read 30 mins of something technical - Didn't read Weekly Goal(s) - (Week starts at Monday! - Update at Sunday!) Plan the weekend - Search another music school - I'm gonna visit another school tomorrow! Search a place to take acting lessons - I've been avoiding this, gotta do it this week. Find a dentist and schedule it Cook meals for the week - I made "half meals" for the rest of the week in 28/01/2020 Monthly Goal Gradute - Almost theeere Start the programming course. 3 Month Goal Get back to running. The physiotherapy is really important, SET GOALS! What went well today: I got a haircut! I've been needing one and I'm feeling better right now. What I could have done to make my day better: It was a good day, but I could have planned my day in the morning. What I will do differently tomorrow: I'm gonna have a perfect day tomorrow (planning, journaling, socializing and maintaining my habits)

Hey! I'm starting with baby steps and, to be honest, I gotta be more organized. I'm trying everyday to be more "open" and smile at people, even if it makes me uncomfortable. I'm practicing by myself in the mirror at home and I think it helps. Eye contact too. I'm really self conscious of what other people think of me so I'm trying things like singing by myself in the streets, but that makes me reeeally uncomfortable. I'm pushing my limits with baby steps, but I'm pretty happy with my effort. Do you plan on doing or already do it?

Hey, thanks for passing by! Coincidentally, I got overwhelmed the past few days by all this stuff, hahah. But I'm gonna try to get back on try right now. I'm gonna take a python towards data science course... I bought it some time ago.

Hey, congrats on this attempt! I personally felt a LOT of boredom after blocking social media, some news websites and YouTube. Starting to practice new stuff when this boredom hits helped a lot. But I still use my phone too much, I guess. Which app are you using to block things? Right now I'm using an app called "Blocksite" both in my PC and in my phone.

Objectives for the day - Exposure therapy, as much as possible - Make an effort to be really social in the singing school - Practice eye contact - Get a good guitar practice - Schedule the orthopedist Gratitude journal - I'm grateful for my fears - I'm grateful for my flaws - I'm grateful for my conscience

Day 25 Yesterday was pretty good. I like the feeling of excitement for change. I love the process of challenging myself. Especially right now that I'm trying to be out of my comfort zone everyday, it really gives me extra energy to go through my day. Today I have a trial singing class. I'm at the same time excited and scared. I'm not at all used to sing in front of other people. But I was told before, multiple times, that I have a good voice. Let's see what happens. Current Streaks No games - 217 days No Porn/Masturbation - 8 days Healthy mobile phone usage - 2 days Things that I should do every now and then Body grooming - Last done 06/12/2019 - I think I'm gonna do it today! Hair Care - Last done 17/01/2020 Clip nails - Last done 13/01/2020 Deep organize room - ? - Gonna separate an hour in the day when the boredom hits to organize a drawer or any other thing. Step by step. 30 days challenge Diet - 12/30 Cold showers - 17/30 (this is going pretty easy right now, it's really hot these days. Do it again on a cold month) Practice guitar - 14/30 One amazing thing that happened/I did today Exposure therapy was good. Exercise Gym. Social Fear Ladder (1/10) - Practice eye contact and smile Exposure Therapy at least once a day Morning Routine Day planning - Done Physiotherapy - Done Skin care routine - Done Brush teeth and floss - Done Make my bed - Done Meditation - Not done Evening Routine Skin care routine - Done Physiotherapy - Only in the morning. Brush teeth and floss - Not Done Journaling - Done the morning after Daily Habits Tracker Staying out of the room - Stayed out almost all day. Reading Leisure reading - Read 30 mins of something technical - ? Weekly Goal(s) - (Week starts at Monday! - Update at Sunday!) Plan the weekend - My weekend is full, actually Search another music school - Scheduled a trial class: 18/01/2020 Search a place to take acting lessons Find a dentist and schedule it Cook meals for the week - I made meals for the rest of the week in 22/01/2020 Monthly Goal Gradute - In progress Start the programming course. 3 Month Goal Get back to running. The physiotherapy is really important, SET GOALS! What went well today: My efforts to be more social. What I could have done to make my day better: I could've woken up earlier. What I will do differently tomorrow: I'm gonna put big effort in the social skills exercises.

Objectives for the day - Exposure therapy, as much as possible - Done - Practice eye contact - Done - Get a good guitar practice - Done - Schedule the orthopedist- I forgot about it! Gratitude journal - I'm grateful for a rainy day - I'm grateful for my honest smile - I'm grateful for another day and another day to improve myself

Day 24 Today was a good day. Reflected a lot on objectives for this year and I'm excited to put things in practice, especially exercises to improve my social skills. Not gonna write too much, just update the other stuff. Peace! Current Streaks No games - 215 days No Porn/Masturbation - 6 days Healthy mobile phone usage - 1 days Things that I should do every now and then Body grooming - Last done 06/12/2019 Hair Care - Last done 17/01/2020 Clip nails - Last done 13/01/2020 Deep organize room - ? - Gonna separate an hour in the day when the boredom hits to organize a drawer or any other thing. Step by step. 30 days challenge Diet - 11/30 Cold showers - 16/30 (this is going pretty easy right now, it's really hot these days. Do it again on a cold month) Practice guitar - 13/30 One amazing thing that happened/I did today I'm sticking to my plan of improving my social skills. That's an effort that I value a lot. Exercise Gym. Social Fear Ladder (1/10) - Practice eye contact Exposure Therapy at least once a day - Begin tomorrow Morning Routine Day planning - Done Physiotherapy - Done Skin care routine - Done Brush teeth and floss - Done Make my bed - Done Meditation - Not done Evening Routine Skin care routine - Done Physiotherapy - Only in the morning. Brush teeth and floss - Done Journaling - Done Daily Habits Tracker Staying out of the room - Stayed out almost all day. Reading Gonna read a little more before bed and I read during commute. Weekly Goal(s) - (Week starts at Monday! - Update at Sunday!) Plan the weekend - My weekend is full, actually Search another music school - Scheduled a trial class: 18/01/2020 Search a place to take acting lessons Find a dentist and schedule it Cook meals for the week - I made meals for the rest of the week in 22/01/2020 Monthly Goal Gradute - In progress Start the programming course. 3 Month Goal Get back to running. The physiotherapy is really important, SET GOALS! What went well today: I'm even more excited about my plans for social skills improvement. What I could have done to make my day better: I could've woken up earlier. What I will do differently tomorrow: I'm gonna put more effort in the social skills exercises.

Objectives for the day - Get a good guitar practice - Social skills practice - Buy yogurt and oats Gratitude journal - I'm grateful for having the will to change - I'm grateful for gamequitters to exist - I'm grateful for the people with whom I can change experiences

Day 23 I've been reflecting on how easy it is to fall in the comfort zone. We really gotta push our limits in order to see significant changes in our lives, but most of the times you relax and slow down exactly because the comfort zone is so convenient. Although I've been doing many things to better my life, I don't think I'm pushing my comfort zone enough. My lifelong problem revolves around social situations: public presentations, meeting new people, and other stuff. It's not that I can't talk to people, but I don't have charisma. I can't "charm" people. I get nervous in situations where I shouldn't. This shit affects my job, my relationship with my SO, my relationship with my family, basically everything. I have perfect awareness that in order to get better, I gotta put myself in uncomfortable situations. That's the only way. I gotta get daily exposure to every uncomfortable situation so that they become comfortable. So tomorrow I'm starting a plan to get exposure to these situations everyday by climbing a "fear ladder" (something I found out in google). It's gonna be hell, but I'm gonna get through it. I scheduled on Friday a trial class in a singing school that I found out the other day. That's an extra, and it's certainly gonna be uncomfortable, but fuck it. I wanted to learn how to sing for a long time and it's gonna better my voice. Current Streaks No games - 214 days No Porn/Masturbation - 5 days Healthy mobile phone usage - 0 days Things that I should do every now and then Body grooming - Last done 06/12/2019 Hair Care - Last done 17/01/2020 Clip nails - Last done 13/01/2020 Deep organize room - ? - Gonna separate an hour in the day when the boredom hits to organize a drawer or any other thing. Step by step. 30 days challenge Diet - 10/30 Cold showers - 15/30 (this is going pretty easy right now, it's really hot these days. Do it again on a cold month) Practice guitar - 12/30 One amazing thing that happened/I did today Work was good! Conducted a test today pretty well. Exercise Gym. Social Fear Ladder (1/10) - Day one: Morning Routine Day planning - Not done Physiotherapy - Done Skin care routine - Done Brush teeth and floss - Done Make my bed - Not Done (SO was sleeping when I got up) Meditation - Not done Evening Routine Skin care routine - Done Physiotherapy - Only in the morning. Brush teeth and floss - Done Journaling - Done Daily Habits Tracker Staying out of the room - Stayed out almost all day. Reading Gonna read a little before bed. Weekly Goal(s) - (Week starts at Monday! - Update at Sunday!) Plan the weekend - Search another music school - Scheduled a trial class: 18/01/2020 Search a place to take acting lessons Find a dentist and schedule it Cook meals for the week - Didn't cook much! Gotta cook tomorrow. Monthly Goal Present the final project and graduate (Got a day, 19/12!) - DONE (missing graduation) Start the programming course. 3 Month Goal Get back to running. The physiotherapy is really important, SET GOALS! What went well today: I'm excited about my plans for social skills improvement. What I could have done to make my day better: I could've planned my day in the morning. What I will do differently tomorrow: My day is gonna be productive. Gonna plan my day in the morning, do my social exercises, practice guitar and cook meals.

Hey @Zenrenn, welcome back! Contratulations on your son! Must be a big surprise having a son out of a sudden but maybe he is gonna transform your life! From my experience, journaling is a good way to track your progress and hold yourself accountable, so I highly recommend you start a diary. So, once again, welcome back!

Objectives for the day - Get a good guitar practice - Practiced just a little. - Get a good reading session - I was out all day, couldn't read! Gratitude journal - I'm grateful for waking up joyful today - I'm grateful for the desire to be better - I'm grateful for the fresh water that I drink

Hey, congrats for the progress, I like you mindset! It seems like yesterday was a really good day for you, enjoy!

Day 22 It was a good day, not much to report, just update. Current Streaks No games - 212 days No Porn/Masturbation - 3 days Healthy mobile phone usage - 3 days Things that I should do every now and then Body grooming - Last done 06/12/2019 Hair Care - Last done 17/01/2020 Clip nails - Last done 13/01/2020 Deep organize room - ? - Gonna separate an hour in the day when the boredom hits to organize a drawer or any other thing. Step by step. 30 days challenge Diet - 9/30 Cold showers - 14/30 (this is going pretty easy right now, it's really hot these days. Do it again on a cold month) Practice guitar - 12/30 One amazing thing that happened/I did today Had fun with my SO Exercise Rest day. Social Only normal conversations. My conversations for many times are really shallow and I'm really complacent on that. I will try to have more interesting conversations everyday with strangers or people that I know. This conversations could be simply talking about the weather, praise something someone is wearing, a tattoo, a dog, asking something about the person, whatever. I gotta get used to have genuine interest in other persons. And to tell the truth, I am interested. I'm just REALLY complacent in this aspect. Morning Routine Day planning - Done Physiotherapy - Done Skin care routine - Done Brush teeth and floss - Done Make my bed - Not Done Meditation - Not done Evening Routine Skin care routine - Done Physiotherapy - Only in the morning. Brush teeth and floss - Done Journaling - Done Daily Habits Tracker Staying out of the room - Stayed out almost all day. Reading Didn't read. Weekly Goal(s) - (Week starts at Monday! - Update at Sunday!) Plan the weekend - Starting next week Search another music school - Scheduled an experimental class: 18/01/2020 Search a place to take acting lessons Find a dentist and schedule it Cook meals for the week - Next day: 19/01/20 Monthly Goal Present the final project and graduate (Got a day, 19/12!) - DONE (missing graduation) Start the programming course. 3 Month Goal Get back to running. The physiotherapy is really important, SET GOALS! What went well today: I'm getting back on track with my habits and journaling. What I could have done to make my day better: I could've woken up earlier What I will do differently tomorrow: Guitar practice.

Nice! That would be a huge step out of my comfort zone, and I've been avoiding that intentionally. But I'm sure it would make wonders to my public speaking skills.

That literally put a smile in my face. Glad to hear that! Good luck in this journey!

Hey, nice job fighting the urges man! And this is the best output you can get from this situation. Our brains try to convince us that relapsing is ok, but as soon as you relapse you regret it immediately. Try to wipe this ideas from your head and keep forward!

Objectives for the day - Get a good guitar practice - Broke the streak today, didn't pick the guitar. Tomorrow I gotta compensate that. - Search some music/acting schools - Done. I have a experimental class scheduled for next week. - Do the laundry - Done Gratitude journal - I'm grateful for the weekend - I'm grateful for my fears that push me to change - I'm grateful for another day to do better than yesterday

Day 21 Didn't have time to journal yesterday again, ugh. Actually I had time, I just wasn't organized enough to stop and journal. So, today was a pretty normal day. Went to work, everything went fine. After that I went to the gym and then home. It was/is raining quite a bit, so my travel was canceled. I guess I have to figure out what I'm gonna do this weekend, especially in a rainy day. Thinking about it right now, I gotta start planning my weekends ahead of time. Like planning a tour to a place where I never been before in my city (museums, parks, touristic attractions, random events, etc). I think I'm gonna dedicate maybe 1 hour of my week to planning that, it should be good. My guitar practice was really weak yesterday, but I least I picked it up. Today I'm gonna focus on getting a good practice and get some good progress going. Current Streaks No games - 211 days No Porn/Masturbation - 2 days Healthy mobile phone usage - 2 days Things that I should do every now and then Body grooming - Last done 06/12/2019 Hair Care - Last done 17/01/2020 Clip nails - Last done 13/01/2020 Deep organize room - ? - Gonna separate an hour in the day when the boredom hits to organize a drawer or any other thing. Step by step. 30 days challenge Diet - 9/30 Cold showers - 13/30 (this is going pretty easy right now, it's really hot these days. Do it again on a cold month) Practice guitar - 12/30 One amazing thing that happened/I did today I got a perfect week on the gym!! Wohoo! Exercise Gym! Social Only normal conversations. My conversations for many times are really shallow and I'm really complacent on that. I will try to have more interesting conversations everyday with strangers or people that I know. This conversations could be simply talking about the weather, praise something someone is wearing, a tattoo, a dog, asking something about the person, whatever. I gotta get used to have genuine interest in other persons. And to tell the truth, I am interested. I'm just REALLY complacent in this aspect. Morning Routine Day planning - Not Done Physiotherapy - Done Skin care routine - Done Brush teeth and floss - Done Make my bed - Done Meditation - Not done Evening Routine Skin care routine - Done Physiotherapy - Only in the morning. Brush teeth and floss - Done Journaling - Not done Daily Habits Tracker Staying out of the room - Stayed out almost all day. Reading Didn't read. Weekly Goal(s) - (Week starts at Monday! - Update at Sunday!) Plan the weekend - Starting next week Search another music school Search a place to take acting lessons Find a dentist and schedule it Cook meals for the week - Next day: 19/01/19 Monthly Goal Present the final project and graduate (Got a day, 19/12!) - DONE (missing graduation) Start the programming course. 3 Month Goal Get back to running. The physiotherapy is really important, SET GOALS! What went well today: I'm getting back on track with my habits and journaling. What I could have done to make my day better: I could've woken up earlier What I will do differently tomorrow: Well, tomorrow is already today, but I will maintain my daily habits, all of them.

Great first step, welcome!