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DETOX DAY 6
Late entry again! Yesterday was a messy but good day. I woke up and stretched in the morning but forgot to medidate. I was rushing to do other things and didn't take my time to organize my thoughts. I received my diet plan in the afternoon and already bought almost everything I need to follow it for maybe 1 week and a half. My intention is cooking means for the whole week every Sunday, but since yesterday was already Monday I had to cook yesterday at night. I also started exercising again, so I was pretty tired yesterday for practicing music or studying other stuff. Today I had to cook some things too and I'm going to exercise right now. Not really a lot to talk actually, but I'm gonna try to finish my other tasks today.
Current Streaks
No games - 6 days
No Porn/Masturbation - 6 days
Healthy Social Media Usage - 6 days
Introducing Good Habits
Wake up, stretch and meditate - 6 days (GOAL: 7 DAYS)
One amazing thing that happened/I did today
Started the diet and started exercising again!
Goals for today
- Begin programming course
- Good day of work
- Study (finish the first chapter)
- Singing and guitar practice (finish the module 1 of the acoustic guitar course) -->LEISURE<--
- Watch one episode of the TV series. -->LEISURE<--
- Read -->LEISURE<--
Goals for the FUTURE
- I want to record a song with just voice and acoustic guitar in 3 months (06/09/2020)
- I want to get back to running in 5 months and run a 5 km race by the end of the year (not sure if it's gonna be possible due to the pandemic, but whatever) (06/11/2020)
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9 hours ago, mks said:
So I am going the route of using a blocking software.
I found a blocker called "Cold Turkey". I am using the approach of whitelisting. So blocking the whole web
but I am unblocking specfic sites which I need for work or my Youtube channel and my own website.Let's see who it goes.
ColdTurkey works really well! I went the route of blocking software too. I think it works better for me because the blocker forces me to "forget" the habit of openning Instagram or another website a thousand times a day. Once I'm no longer trying to open it several times a day, the blocker is no longer needed, but I keep it, just in case.
2 hours ago, mks said:Made some progress with that. I think this comes from "having to say something really intelligent or something really funny". Or on a date "James Bond like confidence".
I think this problem is related to perfectionism and unrealistic expectations. So in my case I "freeze" because of those expectations. Lowering those expectations should
help with that problem I think.A good way would be to have no expectations at all when we talk to people.
Nice! I totally agree with you. We have expectations too high when it comes to be interesting to other people. And if we are not the funnier/smarter/cooler person in the group we judge ourselves in a very harsh way. My brain would think that everybody is judging me for making a fool out of myself. But the truth is that everybody is flawed. In general people are actually concerned about themselves, not judging other people.
I was trying something a while ago to break this pattern, it's called "exposure therapy", have you heard about it?
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DETOX DAY 5
Yesterday was good. Relaxing. Not too much urges. A healthy day, I would say. I practiced the guitar in a joyful way, I was even able to sing along it! I've never been able to do that before, I think that's a good sign.
I'm diving into this week with a really positive mindset. I'm gonna get back to exercising at home today following a diet made by a nutritionist - this gives me extra motivation. I don't have the diet plan yet but I think the worst part is gonna be cooking and eating in time, since I don't eat much junk food already. Going to cut alcohol too, to boost results. I'm also feeling a bit more more well disposed to other activities in general, like studying and working. I'm delaying for some days starting a programming course, but I think this week (possibly today, who knows!) I'm gonna start it. I'm trying not to over demand myself, trying to let things follow a natural flow. I hope today is a good day to all of us!
Current Streaks
No games - 5 days
No Porn/Masturbation - 5 days
Healthy Social Media Usage - 5 days
Introducing Good Habits
Wake up, stretch and meditate - 5 days (GOAL: 7 DAYS)
One amazing thing that happened/I did today
I had a relaxing day in general!
Goals for today
- Begin programming course
- Good day of work
- Study (finish the first chapter)
- Singing and guitar practice (finish the module 1 of the acoustic guitar course) -->LEISURE<--
- Watch one episode of the TV series. -->LEISURE<--
- Read -->LEISURE<--
Goals for the FUTURE
- I want to record a song with just voice and acoustic guitar in 3 months (06/09/2020)
- I want to get back to running in 5 months and run a 5 km race by the end of the year (not sure if it's gonna be possible due to the pandemic, but whatever) (06/11/2020)
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DETOX DAY 4
Quick update today, not in the mood to write too much (not in a negative way, I'm actually excited to do other stuff).
Current Streaks
No games - 4 days
No Porn/Masturbation - 4 days
Healthy Social Media Usage - 4 days
Introducing Good Habits
Wake up, stretch and meditate - 4 days (GOAL: 7 DAYS)
One amazing thing that happened/I did today
Music practice!
Goals for today
- Begin programming course
- Singing and guitar practice
- Hair care
- Watch a movie with family
Goals for the FUTURE
- I want to record a song with just voice and acoustic guitar in 3 months (06/09/2020)
- I want to get back to running in 5 months and run a 5 km race by the end of the year (not sure if it's gonna be possible due to the pandemic, but whatever) (06/11/2020)
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2 hours ago, mks said:
I have problems expressing my personality in groups of people and around strangers.
Mostly around more than 2 people. So when the conversation switches into a group
of 3 people (me included) I have a lot of problems.I have the same problem! I'm only able to be myself in groups that I'm really comfortable with. The more people, the worst. I think it's like an anxiety of being judged or something like this. Before the quarantine I was taking acting classes to adress that (extremely uncomfortable situation for me) and it was promising.
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1 hour ago, GrainSiloEnthusiast said:
Someone else posted this video elsewhere on this site- but I can't find the post, otherwise I'd quote them.
Either way I found the video in my watch history at least!
I'm not sure how to imbed the video on my phone but here's the link!
I find it very relevant to this discussion.
Very nice video! Something that hitted me hard in the video was what he said about how things close to the inner edge of your comfort zone can easily become uncomfortable if you stop challenging yourself. It's sooo easy to let go of good habits you just incorporated to your routine.
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DETOX DAY 3
A late post today, as it's already past noon. The cravings for masturbation have been the worst, but I'm holding strong.
I'm missing games but not that much. The main problem right now is that I feel bored and, at the same time, I don't have the drive to start something really productive. I reflected about it yesterday and my conclusion is that I plan a lot but my execution is poor. In many times it feels like I do things on "auto pilot" (when gaming it is visible that I do that). I just shut off my brain and execute things in an unproductive way. I think it is important for me not only plan what I wan't to achieve, but the steps that will take me towards my final objective. A lot of times I just plan something like "I'm gonna practice the guitar today for 30 minutes", and I just end up stalling during the 30 minutes. I think I need to make a conscious effort to plan something like this "I'm gonna finish lesson 3 today and I'm gonna practice what I learn in it for 15 minutes", that's much more productive. That's a daily effort that I need to exercise in studying languages, music, working, in everything.
I bought a microphone yesterday, it should be here by Thusday/Wednesday. I want to record a song (certainly a cover) with just voice and acoustic guitar in, let's say, 3 months. Bought an online acoustic guitar and an SQL course too (why not? haha). I should start them today, I'm just a little tired right now from all the cleaning.
About today, so far the day has been good. Woke up, stretched, medidated and deep cleaned my room. I'm feeling well. I always have the impression that an organized environment has a positive effect on my mood. During the rest of the day I'm gonna try to stay away from the computer, unless I am doing the courses I bought.
Current Streaks
No games - 3 days
No Porn/Masturbation - 3 days
Healthy Social Media Usage - 3 days
Introducing Good Habits
Wake up, stretch and meditate - 3 days (GOAL: 7 DAYS)
One amazing thing that happened/I did today
I had good reflections on what I want for myself for the future. I also had an appointment (virtual) with the nutritionist. I'm excited to see how following a diet will affect my body.
Goals for today
- Begin programming course
- Singing and guitar practice
Goals for the FUTURE
- I wanna record a song with just voice and acoustic guitar in 3 months (06/09/2020)
- I wanna get back to running in 5 months and run a 5 km race by the end of the year (not sure if it's gonna be possible due to the pandemic, but whatever) (06/11/2020)
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17 hours ago, ceponatia said:
On the subject of app blockers which was mentioned a bit ago, I supported a Kickstarter for something that is like a USB connector that disables functions of your phone that you decide on. This didn't sound like a great idea because what's the big deal if I can just leave the thing unplugged and play on my phone all day? Well you can actually only use your phone when the dongle is IN your phone. That little switch sold me. I've yet to receive it but they've started manufacture (supposedly! You know how Kickstarter is but these guys seem legit). It's nothing you can't do with apps that other people have mentioned above but I always just turned those apps off when I wanted to "misuse" my phone. I suppose I could always just delete the app but they made it sound like that's not as easy to do as it is with regular apps. We'll see.
Nice! I actually like the idea a lot hahahaha. While you are travelling, working or simply out of home, you can leave the little thing at home and voilà - a perfect app blocker.
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2 hours ago, WorkInProgress said:
Hey there.
I also realised that porn/masturbation is linked to gaming/youtube in my neuronal network. If I do one or the other, the probabilty increases a lot that I do the other too. If you are the same in this regard this is for sure a solid case to quit both things together.
I think there are two different skills you'll need to quit gaming. First you need to be able to be okay with witholding instant gratification (this is what this detox is for). Second you'll need to find out what feelings evoked your gaming habits. I can't generalize but for me it is the case that if I dread something, I will feel the urge to distract me. Often this isn't concious and I only realise whats really going on if I feel the urge to play/watch youtube/porn.
So my advice would be to watch yourself in situations you have urges and note down what you were doing. Over time and with some reflection you surely will find your own triggers.
In my case I am working on feeling the dread and accepting that I am scared of not finishing or beeing not good enough. Acknowlidging it often helps. And if not I atleast know why I have to fight that urge again and can try to avoid or accept this situations in the future.
Best of luck with your 90 days 🙂
Good points @WorkInProgress. I have the same feeling about dreading something, especially if I think I'm not able to complete that task (and usually I am).
I think I gotta pay attention too if I'm really withholding instant gratification or just replacing the gratification source. I was wondering if maybe a 24 hours domanine detox would help in that regard, maybe to get an insight.
Another thing that I'm questioning about my first detox is that I didn't find a hobby that really engaged me. I don't think I really worked that hard to make it work. Maybe the easy rewards that games provide bugged my brain. I really like music and singing, but I just can't get in a state where I'm as hooked to music as I am to games or a good TV Series.
Thanks for the tips!
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DETOX DAY 2
Yesterday was an ok day. Although I didn't play games and didn't waste time in social media my day wasn't really productive. I'm having a hard time to focus on tasks. Today I'm gonna try to begin working earlier, as I notice that my focus is better in the morning and decreases throughout the day. Then, by the end of the afternoon, I can do things that are more "fun", like having a singing practice or reading a book. Not nearly as estimulating as gaming, but whatever.
It's incredible how much stretching makes a difference in how my body feels. I started the quarantine stretching everyday, just to gain flexibility. By then I noticed that my stiffness and general pains/cracking subsided a LOT, but after the almost 2 months binging games they returned even worse. But then, after stretching just for 2 days I'm feeling good again. Sitting too much is terrible for our body.
Meditation is going fine too, but I gotta find guided meditations that please me. I personally don't like if the person that is guiding talks too much, and a lot of the material I find is exactly like this. I liked meditating just to soft music too, but I like guided meditations as well. Good day to everyone!
Current Streaks
No games - 2 days
No Porn/Masturbation - 2 days
Healthy Social Media Usage - 2 days
Introducing Good Habits
Wake up, stretch and meditate - 2 day (GOAL: 7 DAYS)
One amazing thing that happened/I did today
I read a lot yesterday. Had a good singing class.
Goals for today
- Begin programming course
- Good day of work
- Singing practice
- Get in touch with the nutritionist
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5 hours ago, WillDonisthorpe said:
So I deleted all my games. Pretty terrifying when you look at all the hours you've racked on on steam. Still. They're all uninstalled and steam is gone too. I had to pass on guild leader to someone and I do feel kinda bad about that, but he simply said "Real life comes first". That's a lesson I could have learned sooner 😛
Great first step! Quick question: In addition to feeling terrified, don't you feel a "relief" doing this? I sold everything game related I had and, although I had a strange feeling while doing that, it was a also liberating experience. Just wondering haha
Keep it up man
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46 minutes ago, apatton090 said:
Interesting. Would you mind sharing how you set up your app blockers? I am also trying to limit phone usage.
Yeah, no problem!
So, I'm using an App called "Blocksite". It has an extension for Chrome and an App for Android (don't know about IOS, though).
The way I do it is pretty simple:
Regarding websites, I block them in the app/extension by url (you set up a list). The free version of the app has an option for blocking adult content, so it's easier to block porn too. Since I experienced some buggy behaviour when blocking the urls of facebook and instagram, I block them too using the keywords (there is a function in the app where you add keywords that can't be present in the urls you visit). I do that just to be sure, maybe the bugs were corrected already.
After that, I set a password to protect the app/extension from myself. I have a pretty bad memory, so if I set a complex enough password and write it down in a notepad buried in my computer I won't remember it a few hours later.
In addition, I'm using an App called "AppBlock" just to block YouTube in my phone. I don't know why but BlockSite doesn't block apps very well in my phone. I don't protect it with password since I'm able to control myself in that regard.
Regarding Android, if you go to Configs/Apps and Notifications/Time Usage (not sure if it's written exactly like this, free translation to english) you can check the time you spent during the day in every app you opened. If you click in any app in that list you can set a timer to limit the time usage.
Of course this method is not perfect, since I can simply workaround the password, uninstall the apps or remove the time limitter, but it's like an "extra layer" of safety.
A program that is pretty hardcore for blocking stuff, but it works property only for PC is called "ColdTurkey". It's a little more demanding to work around it (I had to do it because of a bug hahaha).
I think that's it, if you have any other doubts you can ask me!
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DETOX DAY 1
Yesterday was a good day. I always get a good feeling when I start something "new", although it's the second time I start a complete detox like this. It was surprising for me that I didn't have the same intense cravings I had when I quitted games the first time. I guess I don't like gaming that much anymore, it's more of a time filler. Before my relapse I went through a not so nice breakup that took a big psychological toll on me, and I was watching Netflix and Youtube for more than 10 hours a day in the ocasion. Again, a time filler. I gotta investigate a little deeper why I do that.
Anyway, I managed to set up every blocker I need in my phone and computer and limited my daily Instagram time usage to 20 minutes (this time may be adapted in the next days but it's good for now). I discovered that Android has a funcionality that allows you to limit the daily time usage of every app installed in your phone, besides tracking the time you spend in every app on a daily basis. Looking at my history with Instagram and Whatsapp, I discovered that some days I would spend 4 hours in both of them! That was surprising for me because this 4 hours are spread throughout the day and I don't even notice that I waste so much time in mindless scrolling. After I spent my daily 20 minutes I noticed how every now and then I pickup my phone and automatically open the app for nothing, just to see that it was blocked for the rest of the day.
As usual, I felt really bored throughout the day, especially at night. Watched a movie that I liked called "Fruitvale Station", good movie. I read a little before sleep too.
I had some trouble to fall asleep. I'm getting some alergies from the weather but I don't think that's the sole reason. Usually in this situation I would stand up, fap (almost always to porn) and get back to sleep, and usually it works. Obviously it's not because I would be horny, it's just because of the dopamine release. I know that this habit is gonna subside with time, but sometimes it's scary as fuck how porn messes up our brain. I actually find it harder to avoid porn than any other thing.
Today I woke up and decided to introduce two things to my morning and, possibly, evening routine: stretches and medidation. Stretches because I noticed how gaming took a toll in my body - my posture while gaming everyday is terrible. I'm positive that I developed an annoying pain that I feel sometimes in my hip because of it. So I think it's fair to begin by reversing the damage. And meditation because I wanna be more mindful of my feelings, my pains and my general self. I never medidated everyday before, so I'm giving it a try.
Current Streaks
No games - 1 day (YAYYY)
No Porn/Masturbation - 1 day
Healthy Social Media Usage - 1 day
Introducing Good Habits
Wake up, stretch and meditate - 1 day (GOAL: 7 DAYS)
One amazing thing that happened/I did today
Accomplished all my goals for yesterday and even read a little.
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12 hours ago, apatton090 said:
Congrats on taking these steps to remedy yourself. It is inspiring to see others like you who are further along on their journey; as for myself I am nearing 30 days.
Since you have relapsed, I would work hard to try to identify the causes of your relapse and work doubly as hard to find solutions so that it does not happen again.
Good luck, I believe you can do it and I wish you the best.
Congrats on your almost 30 days, keep it up!
Yeah, I was thinking about it yesterday, I gotta discover the causes of my relapse so that I can identify triggering situations. I believe it's related to the escapism that games provide. But I'm not sure if I'm escaping from work, studying, social relations, I don't know... I gotta dig deeper into it.
Thanks for the tip and success to both of us!
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9 minutes ago, ace_dee said:
not to discourage you but it sounds like you are trying to do too much at once
maybe focus on one vice at a time - give yourself permission to wank to porn with reasonable limits (once a day-once a week) until you are 30 days clean from games
instead of going after big goals first go after small victories until you get yourself accustomed to winning and discipline - the guys who bench 400 didn't start with 4 plates, they start much lower and work their way up
focus inwards first
- fixed sleep schedule guaranteeing 8 hours (including a day nap if you think you need one)
- diet consciousness and cut out as much garbage as you are able (corn syrup, hydrogenated oil, other added sugars)
- regular exercise - in the beginning just focus on showing up, dont worry about your particular routine or numbers or even progress
get your personal sphere under control and keep it there for about a month
with that in place you will have a solid foundation from which you can branch out toward external goals
good luck on your journey!
Hey, thanks for the feedback!
By personal experience, I don't think tackling one bad habit at a time works for me. If I'm not gaming I usually compensate the lack of gaming with other stuff like fapping, spending too much time on social media, netflix, etc. More than that, keeping these bad habits make me feel lazy and hold me back from introducing good habits.
The last time I quitted gaming/porn was cold turkey and it worked pretty fine, lasted almost 9 months, I guess. But I was highly motivated, I don't even know where that motivation came from. This time I don't feel the same motivation, so my strategy is quitting bad habits cold turkey and introducing good habits gradually.
Surprisingly, I have a reasonably good sleep schedule and I eat well. I was drinking too much in the last month but I got it fixed. With the pandemic I'm unable to go to the gym but I was doing some stuff at home until maybe a month ago.
Again, thanks for the input!
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Well, I guess the time came. It's not a "walk of shame", quite the opposite, it's a fresh start.
As I read somewhere here in gamequitters I guess, the question is not "Will I relapse?", it's actually "When I will relapse?".
Long story short: my turn came and I relapsed hard to gaming during the last 1 month and a half. I felt again the awful sensation of despair, helplessness and impotence of doing something I don't really enjoy just for an addiction. The past 2 months (before relapsing to gaming itself I was using twitch) were meaningless in my life. I was gaming or watching games almost 12 hours a day. I could delete them and almost nothing useful would be lost.
The first time I quitted gaming I had a strong belief that I would NEVER again waste my time doing the same things over and over again (things like gaming, browsing the internet and social media mindlessly). Eventually I relaxed and fell back in the old patterns again.
It's important to point out that before relapsing I was flirting with Twitch and also watching a lot of meaningless videos in youtube, thinking that it would do no harm at all.
I've been really unproductive at work (working from home) and I've been blaming the pandemic for that. It would be a lie that the current situation didn't contribute to my relapse but, right now, I'm using the pandemic as an excuse to keep me down.
So today, June 3rd, I decided to quit gaming and any gaming related content again.
- I decided quitting because I have goals in my life.
- I decided quitting because I don't like the person I am when I'm gaming.
- I decided quitting because I it's a waste of my time.
- I decided quitting because I wan't to get back to exercising, reading and practicing music.
- I decided quitting because I have control of my life.
Right now things are really foggy and confusing to make concrete plans and give structure to this journal. As a matter of fact, while I'm writing this there is a twitch stream playing in the other monitor hahaha.
But my general goals are:
- I'm gonna quit gaming and any gaming related content.
- I'm gonna eliminate mindless browsing in Youtube and social media from my life (mindful usage is ok!)
- I'm gonna quit porn for good
- I'm gonna reintroduce good habits in my routine (self care, reading, learning stuff...)
So, for today my goals are:
- Set up website/app blockers in my phone and computers with an unknown password. From my phone I'm gonna block every game related and time consuming website, porn and youtube. From my PC I'm gonna block every game related and time consuming website, porn and every social media website I have an account in. I'm also gonna delete any game and porn content I have in my PC.
- Since I want to keep using social media as a way to interact with people, I gotta find a way to use it in a healthy way (instagram is my social media of choice). Maybe an app that blocks it all the time and leaves it unblocked in the time frames I specify. I'm gonna leave youtube unblocked in my pc since many times I use it to learn stuff, but I gotta watch if I'm not wasting time in it.
- Pay attention during the day if I left any of the things I want to eliminate unblocked.
I have a lot of plans, but I think I would be overwhelmed if I started everything right now, so that's it for today. I still gotta plan the structure of the journal and the things I want to do first.
PS: Started a new journal just to start fresh again and keep things organized for me.
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Objectives for the day
- Have a good singing practice - Done
- Have a nice guitar practice (even 5 minutes count) - Done
- Study some programming/machine learning - Not Done
- Practice social skills (smiling, eye contact) - Done
- Exposure therapy, as much as possible - Done
- Buy things in the supermarket for my diet - Done
Gratitude journal
- I'm grateful for another day to change
- I'm grateful for my flaws
- I'm grateful for my dog
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Day 28 Journaling
Update post today. I'm trying to change the structure of my daily journal entries to match my current activities. I'm replanning some other stuff too, life my hair/skin care routine and the physiotherapy I do everyday. I get bored of doing the same stuff over and over again easily, so I'm hoping this change of plans may give a little boost to bouncing back on track. Also, I gotta feel that the things I'm doing are really working, so that I get a motivation to keep at it.
In general, this was a messy week - I had no structure at all in my days. Made it to the gym most of the days but my morning/evening routines were sloppy as hell. It's important for me to fix that because I feel the difference in my efficiency in other activities if I start the day the right way. Hopefully this will be fixed in the next weeks. I relapsed to fapping like 3 times this week. Had some bad days regarding my relationship and things went downhill. I will set little goals for no PMO and I'm gonna reward myself for accomplishing these goals in the next days.
Besides all that, it was a good week. I started my singing classes on Thursday and the acting classes on Friday. Both classes went really well, and I'm excited to see how I'm gonna be by the middle/end of the year. I'm certainly gonna put maximum effort in it, so let's see how it goes. I actually was really scared to attend the trial acting class, but I guess that's normal. The other students are mainly teenagers and I was self-conscious about that (being the older guy there). But in the end it's all bullshit - I got comfortable right after the class started, and later in the class a woman in her 50s arrived and she was AMAZINGLY comfortable in her skin, laughing and joking around with the teens.
Current Streaks
No games - 232 days
No Porn/Masturbation - 0 days ----> CURRENT GOAL: 1 DAY LAST GOAL: NOT YET ACCOMPLISHED
Healthy mobile phone usage - 0 days ----> CURRENT GOAL: 1 DAY LAST GOAL: NOT YET ACCOMPLISHED
Things that I should do every now and then
Body grooming - Last done 28/01/2020
Hair Care - Last done 29/01/2020
Clip nails - Last done 28/01/2020
Deep organize room - ? - Gonna separate an hour in the day when the boredom hits to organize a drawer or any other thing.
Daily Habits/Activities Tracker
Perfect Diet - Not done
Cold showers - Done
Practice guitar - Not done
Study programming - Not done
Singing practice - Done
Gym - Not Done, but it was a conscious decision
Social
Fear Ladder (1/10) - Keep practicing eye contact and smile.
Exposure Therapy at least once a day
Morning Routine
1. Make my bed - Done
2. Warm up voice - Done
3. Physiotherapy - Done
3. Brush teeth - Done
4. Skin care routine - Not done
5. Day planning - Not Done
Evening Routine
1. Physiotherapy - Only in the morning.
2. Skin care routine - Not Done
3. Brush teeth - Done
4. Journaling - Done the morning after
Reading
Power of Habit - Read
The Narnia Chronicles - Didn't read
Read 30 mins of something technical and take notes- Didn't read
Weekly Goal(s) - (Week starts at Monday! - Update at Sunday!)
Plan the weekend -
Find a dentist and schedule it
Cook meals for the week -
Monthly Goal
Keep myself on track with the new routines
3 Month Goal
Get back to running. The physiotherapy is really important, SET GOALS!
One amazing thing that happened/I did today
I attended the acting class besides being scared!
What I could have done to make my day better:
It was a good day!
What I will do differently tomorrow:
Tomorrow is today, but I'm gonna replan all my routines.
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On 2/6/2020 at 9:25 AM, ceponatia said:
Lol we have a lot in common, hobby wise. I said above that I was considering acting classes but you've posted about singing classes and that's another thing I've been thinking about. It'd be way out of my comfort zone, too (I can't sing for crap). I'm studying programming in school for a degree in computer science and am learning piano. Guitar would be cool but I don't have the money for one right now because I'm going to be buying a bunch of synths. Let me know how the class went!
Hey! Yeah, it seems like we have a lot of hobbies in common! Learning piano would be great too, that's something I'm gonna probably try in the future. Right now I'm learning the guitar by myself and I'm having a lot of fun in the process (since english is not my main language I don't know if when I say guitar it refers to an electric guitar, but I am learning the acoustic guitar right now).
So, I had the class yesterday. It went pretty great! It was more of a "get to know you and your voice" class, so there wasn't much singing involved. I got exercises to do everyday at home - in general, to improve breathing and warming up the voice. And I gotta practice singing some songs too, all chosen by myself. Singing there was pretty uncomfortable, but the teacher is really nice and I think over time things are gonna get better.
I'm taking singing/acting classes partially for improving my social skills, to be more open to people, but another reason is to improve my voice. I have the tendency to speak not so loud, so I think these classes are gonna help me a lot. Can you tell me why do you have interest in these classes too?
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Objectives for the day
- Attend the first singing class!
- Have a nice guitar practice and get a good progress
- Study some programming/machine learning
- Practice social skills (smiling, eye contact)
- Exposure therapy, as much as possible
Gratitude journal
- I'm grateful for my energies
- I'm grateful for my job
- I'm grateful for the clothes I'm wearing
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Just writing some stuff today, not in the usual format. These last days (1 week and a half, I think) it's been hard to get back on track with my stuff. Some weekdays are really packed with activities and in the weekends I can only stay on track if I stay home, but that's not what I want, usually. At the same time, I don't think I have the same drive I had when I began this journey, so maybe I'm just burning out.
Right now I think I'm gonna make good use of a change in my routine. I get bored pretty easily when I'm doing the same stuff over and over again, so I guess I'm gonna feel more pumped with a change in my daily activities. On the bright side: In the next months I'm gonna be engaged in some brand new activities, and I'm excited for that. On Sunday I started studying programming/data science/machine learning and I have a studying schedule for the next 3 weeks (to be improved, but right now it's good. I still gotta plan for the subsequent weeks in the future too). Also, yesterday I visited a music school and I'm gonna start take singing lessons every Thursday, starting tomorrow. Finally, I found an acting school that's in my budget and I'm gonna take a trial class on Friday. This one is making me a little bit nervous, but fuck it. I promised to myself that in 2020 I would tackle as hard as I can my social anxieties and I'm gonna keep the promise. So, overall, I'm pretty happy with my new plans. Let's see what the future holds.
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Objectives for the day
- Visit the music school - Done
- Have a nice guitar practice and get a good progress - Not Done
- Study some programming/machine learning - Done
- Practice social skills (smiling, eye contact) and be really social in the music school - Done
- Exposure therapy, as much as possible - Not really
Gratitude journal
- I'm grateful for my mind, that keeps me from spiraling out of control
- I'm grateful for a warm day
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Hey! I'm having a hard time following even my journal but I like what I'm seeing here the last few days! Keep it up, engaging in all these activities will be good for you and, like Jay said, don't be too hard on yourself if something go wrong, shit happens all the time. Have fun on your weekend!
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Day 27
Just a quick update today.
Current Streaks
No games - 224 days
No Porn/Masturbation - 15 days
Healthy mobile phone usage - 2 days
Things that I should do every now and then
Body grooming - Last done 28/01/2020
Hair Care - Last done 29/01/2020
Clip nails - Last done 28/01/2020
Deep organize room - ? - Gonna separate an hour in the day when the boredom hits to organize a drawer or any other thing.
30 days challenge
Diet - 14/30
Cold showers - 22/30 (this is going pretty easy right now, it's really hot these days. Do it again on a cold month)
Practice guitar - 16/30
One amazing thing that happened/I did today
I challenged myself in a pretty natural way in exposure therapy. I was late to catch the bus and I had to run all the way down my street with a good amount of people looking. Felt a little bit weird in the beginning but in the end it was nice. In the past I wouldn't even considerar doing that.
Exercise
Gym.
Social
Fear Ladder (1/10) - Keep practicing eye contact and smile.
Exposure Therapy at least once a day
Morning Routine
Day planning - Done
Physiotherapy - Done
Skin care routine - Done
Brush teeth and floss - Done
Make my bed - Done
Meditation - Not done
Evening Routine
Skin care routine - Done
Physiotherapy - Only in the morning.
Brush teeth and floss - Done
Journaling - Done the morning after
Daily Habits Tracker
Staying out of the room - Stayed out almost all day.
Reading
Power of Habit - Read
The Narnia Chronicles - Didn't read
Read 30 mins of something technical - Didn't read
Weekly Goal(s) - (Week starts at Monday! - Update at Sunday!)
Plan the weekend -
Search another music school - I'm gonna visit another school next Thusday!
Search a place to take acting lessons - I've been avoiding this, gotta do it this week.
Find a dentist and schedule it
Cook meals for the week - I made "half meals" for the rest of the week in 28/01/2020
Monthly Goal
Gradute - Almost theeere
Start the programming course.
3 Month Goal
Get back to running. The physiotherapy is really important, SET GOALS!
What went well today:
I got a haircut! I've been needing one and I'm feeling better right now.
What I could have done to make my day better:
It was a good day! Maybe I could have been a little more productive in the night.
What I will do differently tomorrow:
I'm gonna start the programming course, I have big plans for 2020!
Starting fresh again
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DETOX DAY 8
Just updating!
Current Streaks
No games - 8 days
No Porn/Masturbation - 8 days
Healthy Social Media Usage - 8 days
Morning Routine
Light stretch and meditate - Done
Brush Teeth - Done
Skin Care - Not Done
One amazing thing that happened/I did today
Worked in the garden with my mother.
Goals for today
- Singing and guitar practice (relaxed session, no goals) -->LEISURE<--
- Watch one episode of the TV series. -->LEISURE<--
- Read -->LEISURE<--
Goals for the FUTURE
- I want to record a song with just voice and acoustic guitar in 3 months (06/09/2020)
- I want to get back to running in 5 months and run a 5 km race by the end of the year (not sure if it's gonna be possible due to the pandemic, but whatever) (06/11/2020)