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On 11/3/2022 at 11:09 PM, Denki said:
I've been thinking on how I wanna approach quitting games. This is the start of my journey towards quitting/reducing my videogame playing
So I wanna ask, has any of you here tried to just limit videogames to once or twice a week instead of going cold turkey? Or is it easy to relapse into the addiction even if you only play 1-2 times a week?
There are way too many factors to consider. But shortly speaking on the rights of my humble opinion.
Do a 90 days detox. If you still will be feeling like playing games that means the reason is not a willpower but something deeper. You can try that, if you will really manage to game only on weekends 1-2 hour then congrats but chances are high you won't be able. If you will relapse do 90 days again and reevaluate your life choices.
I had experience when I didn't play games and then when I tried to play again in moderation slowly it started to take over my life in unhealthier way, including ocuppying my mind when i was not playing. I mean sure gaming in moderation does work for some people but it didn't work for us hence we are here. In the end the choice is yours but be carefull about it. -
10 hours ago, Yan said:
Small? Are you sure we're talking about the same thing here? Those are 4500 daily calories there mate, not to speak about volume..
(Edit)P.S. My height is 174 cm and my weight is now approximately 53/52.5kg, take that into consideration 😄Hmm, maybe not (lol), could you send me a calculator or something so I can check it up. I mean if i compare our nutritions i eat way more, and I am losing weight. I mean i have slow methabolism and it's my goal to be more shredded. Maybe your nutrition plan has more carbs though while mine has way more protein.
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2 minutes ago, Yan said:
To add on the previous post, this is my every-day meal plan.
But because I found out I was terribly overweight I gradually added to the breakfast 100g avocado, 60g dates
20g sunflower seeds, 20g almonds, removed the salt
To lunch 20g sunflower seeds, 20g almonds, 60g peanut butter and olives raw 50g or olive oil up to 50g
Dinner stayed more or less the same, with some variation of broccoli with kale and spinach.
Those are very small meals, I do less physical activity and I consume way more calories. I mean I do jogging 2-3 times a week around 6km and I do a calisthenics workout 3 times a week around 40 minutes-1 hour.
I will wrap some stuff in my journal soon but my nutrition will be probably crazy for ya.
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I have a question could it be that binge eating in your case is an aftermath of your gaming activity because usually those come together with each other.My suggestion would be to prepare meals in advance to avoid that. Usually I prepare a lunch meal for 4 days and then a second one for 3 days, dinner meals you can have some quick meals like spaghetti with something that don't require a long time to prepare.
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On 11/7/2022 at 4:03 AM, Pochatok said:
and acclimating to being in a new country so well @Niko_Buccellati.
I know the reason why I left first place and I know the goals that I am pursuing here. When you have both of those you will be doing fine. Because if you have reason you won't go back and if you have a purpose you will know where to move forward.
Same principle can be applied to many other things even if you workout you should have some goals both short term and long term. Like for example you don't wanna work out to become strong you wanna work out to be able to do 10 pull ups. Like goals ideally should be as concrete and measurable as possible.
On 11/7/2022 at 6:28 AM, blu said:very true. spare time can be as dangerous as valuable it is.
The reason why I have mentioned physical activity is that I work from home so I already spend time sitting at home in front of the PC. And as many of us (I assume) I don't have a super specific hobby, PE is something that doesn't require any big thinking and that everyone (unless you have a serious disability) can do, in fact I believe that many gamers have that issue of overthinking things which results in no action instead of any action. So yeah PE is the easiest and the best thing to begin with if you quit something and don't know what to occupy your time with.
Plus you know most games also apply to our inner masculinity and it's hard to have that masculine "warrior" mindset if you are unfit not just on spiritual level but simply due to a hormonal balance in the body. In 99% of games we don't play as a guy who sits at home and does nothing but mostly we play for a person who shapes the world around itself through it's actions.-
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2 hours ago, blu said:
hello. welcome back. although I'm practically new here. You seem to be doing pretty well apart from those few setbacks. 28 days strong is pretty neat. wish u all the best (^///^)
Thanks, from my experience once you have managed to make an initial detox even if you relapse it's easier to get back on track because you will have the memories of how good it was when you were grinding IRL instead of a virtual world and actually enjoying it and how big the positive influence of that on your mental health was. I mean I must be honest I had some days and weeks when it spiraled all the way down the hill with gaming, junk food, sleep deprivation, porn etc.(all those come along very often and it can escalate very quickly). In my case most of the time I gamed in order to escape from some real life stress factors or problems. Positive motivation is a key here.
What helped me the most are physical activities as they prevent you from sitting at home when you don't know what to do with your free time while also helping you to get a healthy dopamine and sense of accomplishment.-
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Hah it's been more than 3 years since then. I did game occasionally after that for sure , but not in a drastically amount, and I am pretty sure that I did 90 days not even once. I been mostly playing videogames when i was on vacation as my job by that time was at sea and during that time I didn't play videogames nor had to deal with computers at all. Overall been doing good despite the fact that I had some troubles in personal relationships and a depression which caused me to play more during the lockdown. However despite that I have managed to find a job during the pandemic and after that I have managed to find an even better job and relocate to another country. Which was exactly what I needed and what my goal has been.
So i have moved to another country, learned (still improving) the language from 0 and even managed to land a promotion recently.
The reason why I decided to visit is because a few months ago I had some issues with gaming that caused me to stay awake for too long and affected my job and my sport activities negatively and right now I am already working in front of the computer so an idea to spend even more time in front of a computer after that doesn't look appealing to me.
So here I am on my day 28 already-
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Speaking of a personal experience if someone is playing only 1-2 hours on a weekend a videogame it's not a problem by itself, but as probably many others with similar experience can confirm the problem is that eventually especially if the game is really interesting it will start to occupy a person's thoughts even during the other days and activities, f.e you sit at work and instead of focusing on what you are doing you are planing some game strategies or craving for a moment when you will be able to play again, which obviously affects productivity in a very negative way.
I would say a kid should get a push to craft things IRL, because this is what minecraft is all about crafting, cooking stuff etc. -
Sory folks thats been awhile since me posting here but its because I am currently busy with my work. I relocated to Miami, Fl one month ago and signed on on one of the cruise vessels.
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Day 36
Well recently I had a phone call with my employer we talked out the situation and they said if my visa will be issued they will reassign me to another work schedule. That is good because originally I was expected to be at my workplace today. I mean I am still kinda in a hanging situation but its better than losing a contract I guess. Recently I had a really strong craving to play some stuff interestingly enough it was more like a feeling of interest(related to some game stories), not the urge to game itself. Fortunately, I was busy with outdoor activities and some social stuff so didn't really have much time for it. The thing is that I used to do my workout activities in the evening but recently it became more snowy and colder so doing that became a bit pain in the ass, so I have to figure out a solution for it(maybe change it to daytime when the temperature is the max). Didn't do many things recently(studied some French though) mostly was just chilling listening to synthwave and stuff and ruining my sleep routine, but I have no regrets whatsoever it really did me good. What I noticed that in my social media I got some people who always post their sermons oversharing and stuff that really annoys me, I guess I will be better deleting them. Gotta have a farewell party today's evening with one buddy of mine who is about to join the army soon.Oh and one important note. Due to me being sick recently one jogging session didn't really go well. Actually, I died at the half of the planned distance but somewhat I managed to force myself to run all the planned distance, I just felt like I will die and lose everything if I stop so I kept going. That felt like a huge victory if you ask me because it wasn't as tough physically as mentally.
Update: Status of my visa has changed to issued today. Fells good man.-
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1 hour ago, Deku said:
I’m back after quite a long hiatus and...this is a long overdue post now. The truth is I relapsed quite quickly after hitting 90 days, going back to my old ways of playing League of Legends and pretty much any other game I could get my hands on. And immediately after starting to game, my life went right back into the shitter. I’ve been staying up way too late, procrastinating, all the terrible shit that got me here in the first place. I don’t know why I went back to gaming, but all I know is that it has to stop. Who knows if I can still get to medical school at this point, but I’m only going to live once so I guess I may as well try.
I’ve failed, guys. I think it’s important to acknowledge that. All I can do is promise to do better next time.
Well man. As one word of wisdom says " sometimes a certain defeat might mean more than a victory" will it be so? Well, it depends on you.
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On 11/28/2018 at 1:13 PM, measureofpeace said:
Tip: I think that "moderate gaming" don't exist for who played so much in the past. Because in the last two weeks I started with this is mind: playing something offline only as anti stress , then I'm started to search for gaming news, suddenly I was watching a streaming and then logged in discord and saw friends online and the rest you know...
3Well, I think it is possible( been playing a couple of games for a month in a sane way) but there is still a risk for you to lose the handle on it. It's like walking on the edge of the abyss or something like that can't think about the better comparison. That is why its not worth it and doesn't make any logical sense. I mean there are always better ways to spend the time after all?
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18 minutes ago, fawn_xoxo said:
Good job on being games free despite it all! Think about how a lot of us, maybe you too, used to avoid those negative situations by gaming, but no! You dealt with it! Keep it up!
A good word of support is appreciated. The dream was really weird though. It was actually the same experience as if I played something in reality despite me having no interest whatsoever to it in real life and was like the last thing I ever expected to happen because I didn't have time to think about gaming. Yeah the thing is that I had some plans but because my papers stuck under the "administrative processing" at the embassy (makes me wonder if they even touched them actually) I lost my contract(I mean i supposed to fly to my workplace at the 30th) and you know of course I was not happy about it because I just threw some money and time away but the thing was that it also put me out of track because I had a plan which was perfectly scheduled and it kinda ruined it, I managed to catch a cold and also I had a bizarre affair at the worst timing possible lol. Well, all in all, I am back on track that's for sure and objectives remain the same. The thing is that I had to adjust myself to some changes so to say.
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Day 32.
Well that's already pretty far and that's been a while since me posting here last time ? But its okay because I was really busy with real-life problems that almost led to depression but gladly sticking to the schedule helped me to pull it off. Today I had a pretty fucked up dream, I had a dream that I was gaming some stuff and I was really pissed off because I have ruined my streak lol. Gladly I woke up and realized that it was just a dream. Well didn't do many things today really just had a meeting with a buddy of mine at the evening to talk out some stuff all in all the day was good. I guess tomorrow I will have more things to do so I will be having more to write about.-
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22 minutes ago, seriousjay said:
Ah, fair enough!
Yeah, for me, getting married and starting a family are very important. However, I know that finding the right person is going to take time and effort. So I need to put a conscious effort towards meeting a lot of people and getting to know them at least a little bit. It's impossible to say where the right person is going to come from so I cannot close the door on any possibility really.
Yeh, the stakes are very high in that "game" and if you pick the wrong person the outcome might be quite terrible(worse than death IMO). Honestly for me getting married and family was like the last thing I ever wanted in my life but I gave it a try a couple of times to realize that its not my cup of tea. All in all, I appreciate people with true family values so I like your intentions. In my opinion, what is the most important thing is to be sure that the partner is really loyal to you because you know its easy to have people around you when you are on top but most of them will disappear like cockroaches after you switched on the light at night if you will hit the bottom.
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9 hours ago, seriousjay said:
What "stuff" are you referring to? Online dating and such?
No, relationships and their outcomes ? Honestly I never bothered myself with online dating.
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2 hours ago, seriousjay said:
Well I think in my particular situation there wasn't really a whole lot of chemistry. I think the biggest thing I've learned from this experience is that I cannot be too picky with who I meet with for now. I need to develop this particular skill which simply means to keep meeting women.
Yeah, it makes perfect sense what you said. All in all, I find all that stuff and the hustle related to it quite overrated but sure it's worth trying.
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8 hours ago, seriousjay said:
So my date turned out to be nothing interesting at all. It wasn't much more than just two people meeting each other for the first time. I'm starting to realize that my perception about dating is likely very warped, and that I need to practice this skill in order to become more interesting going forward.
It depends on the type of person you are and the one you are dating and its ok. For me, it works as it grows on me or something like that but just recently I had a date which was more like the girl tried to hook me up tbh.
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On 11/18/2018 at 5:06 PM, TheCrystalLake said:
Wenn Du magst schau es Dir mal an, das sind 2 Deutschrussen die ne Youtubeserie machen und dort wird deutsch und russisch gesprochen... ist aber auch nicht jedermanns Humor.... ?
Ich werde das machen aber spater. Jetzt bin ich ganz beschaftigt. Die Ursache ist einfach wegen der Idioten vom Ami Konsulat habe ich fast schon mein Job verloren(noch nicht aber alles kommt dazu) d.h bin ich noch arbeitlos und muss ein neue Job suchen.
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On 11/13/2018 at 9:10 PM, Philipp said:
Servus, ich wär aus Österreich (kleines Ländchen neben Deutschland) - kann also euch Deutsch.
Rein aus Interesse: Lernst du Deutsch weil dir die Sprache gefällt, oder eher aus beruflichen/schulischen Gründen?
Moin.Tut mir Leid aber ich war sehr beschaftight. Konnte nicht beantworten.Ich hatte es an der Uni gemacht. Es gefallt mir einfach Deutsch zu sprechen. Es ware aber echt Gut das irgendwie beruflich nutzen, aber habe ich keine Moglichkeit jetzt d.h ich hatte es nur aus meiner eigener Lust gelernt. Wieso? Weil ich kann ?
On 11/11/2018 at 10:14 PM, TheCrystalLake said:Sie ist eine sehr formelle Anrede, Du kannst Du sagen ? Es gibt eine sehr lustige Serie namens Ost Boys auf Youtube, kennst Du die? ?
Das weiss ich? Und nah, sowas habe ich nicht gesehen.
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Day 17
Well that's been a while since I last time wrote here but it was simply due to some things that escalated quickly? Was way busy with RL affairs and simply had almost no time for the web. What I noticed that I have cravings only when I am stressed about something and not occupied with anything at the same moment otherwise feel no interest whatsoever for gaming.-
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9 hours ago, TheCrystalLake said:
About what you want to chat? ? Btw i started to learn russian a while ago but its so difficult omg -_-
Alles was Sie wollen;) und ja ich finde Russisch schwerer als Deutsch.
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23 minutes ago, Silverlining said:
?And don't make watching anime a habit -- people can be addicted to anime, too.
I guees its a content consumption issue not directly related to anime. Because I met such types who been watching various titles like non- stop for example one guy was watching something on his smartphone and when i asked him what is he watching, he couldnt even remember the name.
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16 minutes ago, fawn_xoxo said:
During my past attempts I spent a lot of time self loathing, blaming myself, hating myself for who I was, how I was. First of all, it doesn't help. Secondly, I wanna share with you that whichever emotional state you are in, I know that it's difficult to break free from it, that's why I too would linger in this state for hours or days and what it would do to me is I would end up thinking I can't do it, that I'm doomed, that I'm depressed etc. Recently I found out about how a change of emotional state is necessary to move on, and usually we look for this in other people, when we share our feelings with them we're subconsciously seeking that, for them to tell us something that will make us feel another way so that we can break free from how we feel at this time. If you look into it you'll find that what really happens is emotions change, or can change, really rapidly. Just like you can suddenly laugh with a joke or cry if you get hurt, emotions just come and go unless we choose to pay them all this attention. Acceptance of an emotion and agreement with it are also different things. You can accept that you felt bad in that moment, without that it's right and fair to yourself to feel bad. What helped me in this was recognizing how humans work in a chain of reactions. There's an event, then there's thoughts we produce because of it. Then based on each person's unique thoughts, they feel an emotion. And then based on that emotion they react to the event a certain way. We can't control our emotions, but what can we control? How we think about the event.
I had the exact same problem myself, I couldn't let it go, I kept blaming myself and couldn't forgive and at one point someone from my family told me that it was my ego. And I was like what? How is this ego? And they told me well, you wanna think of yourself so high and mighty that you can't even make a mistake? I considered it. ad ego issues a lot of times in my life, didn't expect ego to mess with this too, but I think it is true. So what did I do? I accepted the following words like I would accept them for someone else. No, I'm not perfect and I'm not that amazing yet. I make mistakes, I'm human, I can do better if I try harder, but in order to do so I have to have me as an ally and to do that I have to love myself. If I love myself, I forgive myself and try again. What also helped me with this was reading the book the six pillars of self esteem.
Yeah a harmony with yourself is a very important thing. And acceptance of who you are is a first thing to come to it. And yeah what you said about ego I totally agree. I think ite right to find a balance, or the golden middle as we say so you dont turn into egomaniac imprisoned by your ego but also not being way too careless giving up on everything.
Source: personal experience.
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No useless videos for 90 days.
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Yes because usually people use calculator when they write portion so meticulously with grams etc. I also must add that i use whey, but due to my nutrition already being rich in protein (i use weekly schedule for my nutrition and in one week 3 days i eat around 75 g of protein per one dinner) i only use 15-20g daily.