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  1. Interesting. I don't have a religious perspective at all, but I would like to incorporate spirituality into my life as well. I just can't seem to find time for it - as you said, getting distracted by the constant chase of productivity and results. Going on a retreat where all you do is pray/meditate/contemplate/take part in the community sounds pretty great. Let's see how it motivated you really are to crush it now! ?

  2. Board games are a very 'friendly' activity, something to do with your buddies. I'm not saying it's a bad date, but it doesn't set a tone of man-to-woman interaction. Also, some girls are just shy or really just want to follow your lead, wherever it goes. If she says she was really excited to see you and had a great time, that's a clear signal for you to take it further. Even though she might have not actually enjoyed it, it's likely that she is still into you and just wants to do something else - possibly more physical ?

    Just my guess from a brief text description. 

  3. 1 hour ago, Silverlining said:

    It took me a whole day to gather the courage to tell her that I would not go back to the game for the event. Still not telling her the full story. But at least I said no. ?

    Good job! I feel like the social aspect of gaming was a big pull for you, so this is something you need to be very cautious of, and to not rationalize going back to gaming with "meeting friends". Keep going!

     

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  4. 18 minutes ago, seriousjay said:

    Maybe my reasons just aren't strong enough anymore. Reminding myself of why I'm doing it doesn't seem to help much.. lol.

    I'm sure the reasons are strong enough. They are just not emotionally charged enough. I'd suggest two things:

    1. Make them more specific - instead of "I want to be more healthy", say for example "I want to have 10% body fat in a year". Or instead of "I want to be more social" say "I want to be meeting 1 new girl every two weeks".
    2. Visualize them - just sit down and visualize yourself having achieved those goals, one by one. Not just the imagery, but also the emotion, how awesome it will be, how you will feel, try to immerse yourself in the fantasy. Then, visualize the road towards those goals the same way. What I like to do is visualize my life 15 years ahead, then 10, then 5, then 1, and then visualize the next day(or right after I'm done with the visualization). 

    If you want a really good pump-up as well, incorporate some fist-pumping, power-poses, smiling, jumping, anything physical - this will change your state immediately and coupled with the visualization, will leave you motivated as fuck. 

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  5. 8 hours ago, Silverlining said:

    But now 9 pm is like 10 pm and I would feel too tired to run. This one hour of change really has some effect on my bio clock. I need to run around 8 pm now.

    Although of course, it's good to make things as easy as possible, be careful to not follow this principle in general. Sometimes, you gotta push through even if you're tired, even if you don't feel like it, even if you're in a bad mood, even if the environment or the money or opinions of others are not just right. This is what distinguishes the good from the great - excelling at times when other people would quit. 

    I don't mean to preach, just my 2 cents ?

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  6. 17 hours ago, Matt S said:

    No matter what happens in life, there will be people who try to hurt you and bring you down.  Your best option is to defend yourself and move on.  You'll learn who is pathetic and who is not pathetic.  You don't have to associate yourself with pathetic people and you damn well better be sure you're not pathetic. 

    I'm 12 days free of gaming and I'm years free of torture.  I can do anything and will always have my back.  Let's fucking go!

    Good attitude! 

    In a sense, you can be glad that your response is anger, rather than depression. It indicates that you automatically fight back, rather than succumb to fear. You can transfer this into a very strong drive to pull you forward. 

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  7. 1 hour ago, Deku said:

    @JustTom Halloween parties (well costume parties) in general are great--so much easier to make a good first impression. Do they celebrate Halloween where you live? (Dunno if it's just an American thing or if other countries do it as well).

    Kids don't go trick or treating, but there's always a ton of Halloween parties in the city. Do people rent the costumes or make something themselves or is it just make-up? I'm fascinated by this concept. It's like a permission to be silly. We should have more of those.

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  8. Hang in there! Things might have been better, things might have been worse. Doesn't matter. All you have is your current state and a set of actions you can take. As long as you keep taking the one you consciously decide is best, you're being successful. 

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