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  1. So I started not gaming again last Saturday and now it's Wednesday - 5 days. Man... I'm remembering how time goes so slow again when you stop gaming, in the best way possible - I have so much time now.

    I'll say what happened on the last episode of Arch. I went to Peru to do Ayahuasca. My intention was to heal myself taking the medicine as I had read online that people would take it and see Serpents and Jaguars, and learn things about themselves in revelatory ways. I was intrigued and felt this as potentially a way out of my feeling of loneliness in this world by figuring out what it is that I needed to fix. Before I left I said to myself "If I don't find a message or direction with the help of Ayahuasca, then I'll take that as the teaching and stop seeking."

    At the same time I was thinking of my future as well so I decided to do a TEFL course to teach English because I didn't want to get back to painting when I came back to New Zealand. The Painting industry was filled with people doing a lot of self-gratifying habits. The main person I was working with was an alcoholic who would drink in the morning, morning tea, lunch and just before or after finishing work depending on what he could get away with and I just turned a blind I. Why? He was one of the few people who gave the time of day to teach me things and he was one of, if not the best painter in our team. I was getting paid and I just wanted to sift through the few remaining months keeping my head down waiting for the escape to a strange land near the Amazon. 

    I respect something which I believe to be true and that's "You are the average of the 5 closest people next to you" and I could foresee myself going down a dark path if I stayed just another 2,3 or a few years more in painting. My consciousness for being aware of what is right and wrong is generally good but I think even if I stayed, given time, I would start drinking casually, cut corners around work and business as usual. I learnt a bit of confidence by working in trades and found it quite an honourable job but found myself not cut out for this line of work.

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    So fast forward my Ayahuasca experience. I had drunken 1 full shot glasses several times in the first week and toward the end of the 2nd week, I raised my concerns that I felt kinda scammed and asked for 2 glasses and at the last ceremony I had 2 and 1/2. For reference, 1 glass is enough for most. I took part in 8 ceremonies over 2 weeks. I didn't learn too much. There were a few factors for this.

    1. Potentially the brew we were drinking was weak as I had several other journeyers go past the centre and take part in ceremonies and they each had mild effects similar to me. 

    2. I had done around a significant amount of introspective use of Psilocybin Mushrooms to prod my ego, learn about my weaknesses, ask myself tough questions and look at life from a different perspective. So it may have been that I had gained a lot of self-development where I didn't need more, and this is what Aya was telling me, without telling me. I hadn't taken any other Psychs for over a year so I don't believe I had any high tolerance grow.

    3. The Shaman there sensed that I had a spirit of Cannabis clinging on me and said that this spirit doesn't work well with Ayahuasca so he spent the beginning of the 2nd week 'extracting' this spirit using direct chanting to it, to draw it out. He said he was successful but still I didn't experience the grand things I had read online of life-changing revelation.

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    ONE THING I DID EXPERIENCE:

    One great thing I did experience akin to the eye-opening accounts was the one and only time I did purge, which is an important part of the medicines work. You basically throw up which the shamans say is the toxins and bad shit you keep inside coming out, spirits, thoughts, etc. What caused me to purge was when I was thinking about my relationship with my Dad, which I think is at the core of many of my problems. Me and him have generally been quite distant and during the ceremony I thought to myself "I will only show affection or hug my dad if he fits the expectation of what I see in a dad" That... thought made me puke in disgust at exited my mouth as if it was sheer nonsense on an atomic level. I didn't exactly expect the medicine to point this out to me as I was expecting a kaleidoscope of visions.

    I think in western society, and I am guilty of this myself, is that we are taught to believe that getting ONE thing will suddenly improve your life. I call this "Pill Society", pop the pill in and tummy's all better. I went to the Amazon doing this exact thing and I think Aya was teaching me that maybe there is nothing wrong with me at all, and all this searching was the problem. As cliche as that sounds, I'm starting to realise a lot of cliches seem to be rooted in a bit of truth.

    What I found even more impactful on my mental wellbeing than the Aya experience itself was actually the environment. In modern society we live in unnatural environments, cars go whizzing by, dumpster tracks signal for rubbish collection, aircrafts fly overhead and we are on a constant schedule of GO and GO! Haven't got time for this activity? Spent less time on something else to be more efficient. Efficiency, efficiency, efficiency. Don't have time to cook? Buy takeout. So what goes at the cost of this efficiency and speed? I think it's appreciation. And what are the effects of an unappreciative society? No enjoyment, self-hate turned into agitation and anger at others, stress, stress eating and an endless list of self-gratifying habits that replicate 'The world is finite and shit, so I better get mine!' And where does that lead? The destructive world we live in today.

    I was taken aback by how I had time to just be with myself as there was no rush to go anywhere, no person to work for. I lived simple days and was fed a bland diet of simple food - no sugar, no salt, no oil, no meat, no sex. Nothing that would spike my senses in any given direction. This diet grounded me at it left my mental state clean from cravings and I could read clearly and write my thoughts down with more clarity and sense. There were days that were 30-33 degrees in the jungle with moderately high humidity and it made me appreciate the few days that were windy and able to cool my body. I also experienced a thunderstorm there which was insane, it felt like the gods were little babies in the skies clashing sticks against each other and we were little ants feeling their wake.

    Another journeyer said what was at the heart of why he was there was to build a permaculture ecosystem around the centre with abundant fruit and animals. This stuck out for me as I think this tied back to my appreciation point. Growing a garden takes months, or years to nurture and harvest fruit. Sometimes they don't and are ravaged by disease, natural disasters and the sort. Nothing is exactly a given and the grower needs to pay close attention to nurturing that garden. In this process it teaches the grower to learn to be patient and hence appreciative of what it takes for good things to become. This is what is desperately missing in our society that is at the core of what is rotting us to kill each other and our planet. We don't have a value of life so it is disposable. Anyways I'm talking about this because now I want to start on a garden to learn this myself.

    Here's beautiful sounds of the nature I recorded whilst there

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  2. Hey, I'm posting to rejoin the community here as I went off for a hiatus, in that time I relapsed but also went on an adventure to Peru and Mexico in the last six months. 

    I know I can overcome my gaming addiction as I've done it before.

    I'm currently staying at my older brother's place to redo my 90 day detox. He's recently had a baby and they're both stressed with a lack of sleep so I thought I'd help out with the baby. Last year I read a book called The Boy Crisis and it talked about how important fathers and male role models are to growing a boy. So I want to contribute in what way I can that this boy has a better trajectory than I did. I've come across the concept of Dharma and think maybe he's a part of it somehow.

    Anyways gotta go to work on building back a stable sleeping routine, buenas noches.

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  3. So I came back from my RSD course in Auckland. Besides the course itself I loved just being around young people fluid in their movements of travel. It permeates a sort of carefree lifestyle as well as resourcefulness amongst the group. I learnt that I need to go out waaay more, I'm pretty rigid and outcome orientated. We practiced some funny lines like "You're adorable, I would totally cuddle your brains out!" and "I'm on my period tonight so we can't do-the-do". These weren't serious, they were just openers if we had nothing to say but also to break rapport. The main thing was just to approach without thinking and after doing like 4 or 5, you just forget about approaching to talk to people as a stressful thing and it becomes more natural.

    I met a few people through the backpackers I stayed at and had some pleasant conversations with them and added one to a FB group who was from Singapore. I asked him if he played DotA because usually people from Singapore and Malaysia are known for it. He said he did and he was like me, a support player. He also did photography and later went out to Waiheke Island. On my way out of the backpackers I forgot to hand in my key and got charged $20. I didn't plan. Man I don't know what it will for me to get this! "Those who fail to plan, plan to fail." - Winston Churchill. I did indeed not put priority on handing the key in and was more worried about making it to my bus which was to leave in ~20 minutes. I ended up sending the key back to the hostel from a town my bus stopped at which costed $3.50. Small cost for now... but this planning to fail is costing me too pay large in the long run. I kind of fell stresses with the news that I forgot the key and emotionally bought chocolate for $2.50 and later tonight a block for $3 and another two snickers for $2. All cause I failed to plan. I think I'm trying to do too much and spreading my focus think, beating myself up with guilt from not achieving what I want.

    I think my goals for now is to become social. I think learning to have healthy relationships with people is central to a happy life, business, whatever else there is in life. Everything we do in life is with other people... but maybe I need to be ok without needing to be with other people too.. :S I plan to go out this Friday and Saturday and may sacrifice my photography recordings of music events for it. My instructor said I had this one face which I kind of get what she's getting at. I have this 'defensive' posture face like I'm putting up a wall for people not to judge me. This stems from me caring about what other people think. I think this is on my bucket list of one of the things I want to do before I die. I want to be center of the party and be ok with it, friends with everyone and just having a good time. I usually fail as when things get too big my reality can't handle it and I shut down and remove myself from the environment. 

    In the Social Studies course that I was doing, where I am up to at chapter 8, it says to talk to the easiest person first and then the next least stressful person. This goes contrary to what the RSD methods of 'diving in the deep end' supports. See I don't know if I actually have Social Anxiety or I've just made it up and used it as an identity to hide behind and use as an excuse to act like a victim to defend myself from situations where I could be successful. If I remember back In intermediate I would hang with basically one friend at a time and in Primary school, the same. High school a few more people but was definitely overweight. Remembering the literature I've been reading, the rational thing to do is to not focus on the past but on the present and where I'm going. But does the mean that the 1 and 1/2 decades of social anxiety I experienced doesn't exist and hasn't cause some serious neurological effects that require slow readjustments? I'm just wondering which way is better. I've found the Social Studies method to be quite effective as it is quite rational whereas the RSD spiking emotions and stuff feels like a bit of a gap. I know I'm making excuses :S Patience and perspective is likely my savior here.  

  4. What a crazy day. I started listening to Napoleon Hill's How to Think and Grow Rich. It's had profound effects.

    I got surprised yesterday by a billing by Facebook as I started running FB ads on the advice of Gary V. I assumed I get charged like normal instantly using a credit card but it was not so and so I was $40 short of my planned budget. I had planned to save like $30-$40 dollars for my trip up to Auckland to the RSD free tour/Hotseat. In previous days I had thought about buying a stereo microphone to help me record music videos and expand my available skills on offer as a professional.

    Remembering Laurie Santos' teachings in the Science of Wellbeing course, taught me that experiences are more likely to make you happier than things. One of my sticking points is socializing and avoiding people so I want to get that fixed. So I'm putting it to the test and working on what I've long avoided. I worked 40 hours this week so I will use that to buffer me for next week as I'm taking 3 days off to do this conference. I'm taking the cheapest means to accomplish this, long ass 12 hour bus from Wellington to Auckland and staying at backpackers. I remember RSD Julien's early days where he talked about sleeping on the floor on basements with cockroaches crawling over him as he was using his computer. I like to think I have it easy #perspective. 

    So going back to the FB surprise bill, I now had enough money to pay for 2 nights of sleep instead of 3. I needed to make $21 as I had $59 and needed a total of $80 for 3 nights. I remembered the chapter in Hill's book where he mentions Barnes who goes on a freight train to reach Edison so he can work with him. Barnes did everything in his power to make his desire happen. So I desired to make $21 - I looked around my room and thought of anything I could sell, I had a Steam Iron, lenses and books to sell. I thought why not go to the Waterfront and asked people if they wanted Portraits of themselves taken and that I would send it to them. I did this with a presupposition of it being an experiment to develop my social skills and say Hi and to get to know people and offer. In this evening I had made more connection with people than several days.

    One of the understated fundamentals, I think of being a good photographer is making the people feel relaxed, trust you so they can have fun = enjoyable having their pictures taken = better expressions in photos. I tried to work out why some people rejected my offer. I thought no one has $2 for a portrait in this day and age where everyone carries eftpos. One group had small kids and a grandma/motherly figure and I asked them if they wanted their pictures taken. One of the kids immediately said yes with exuberance and pouted her lips when the mother said no. Alot of people were just afraid and I thought it must be the way I'm approaching. I did have a beanie which doesn't exactly spell approachable but it's Wellington and I want my head warm. I just walked up to people I thought potentially would want their photos taken - young, laughing, couples and families, that sort of crowd. I had made only $1 from an Indian family whom expected me to make prints for him on the spot (I need to save this idea for later) instead of simply online through email. I had scowered the Waterfront for people and found the people that said yes were girls. 

    Now I don't know maybe I'm biased and 'try' harder around girls but it could also be that women are usually less rigid and can 'feel' the moment and go with my offer of giving them beautiful portraits. And I did give them beautiful portraits but unfortunately I won't reproduce them by their request and respect. It was nearing the end of the golden hour and I was feeling a little demoralized but I remembered to not give up and just keep trying. My last customers were a pair of Russian ladies. One of them had a daughter in the Arts who was a dancer and sympathized with my cause as she understood how difficult it was to be an Artist. They were a playful pair, I reassured the agitated friend that I would not post these online but to their email addresses and that I would whiten their teeth and make them beautiful. In the end I asked only for $2 but was presented with the rest of the sympathetic lady's purse.

    Every day I'm getting more and more looks from girls, they can feel me becoming more 'manly' in control of his course for life and I feel it too. The difficult part is accepting the success. I've had this whole shtick in my life about being 'humble' and diminishing myself so that others may prosper but now realise this is straight bullshit. Still it's hard to reprogram this BS as I identified with it as myself. The girls that allowed me to take their pictures today, I don't know if I'm being delusional or looking too much into it but they felt comfortable around me and let me take their photos. I looked through their photos and they had glimmers in their eyes, maybe they were just posing but I can usually tell when people have truthful expressions. One girl said she had to 'be somewhere', obviously she didn't as she spent 1 1/2 minutes for me to take her photo. I usually just applied principles from How to Win friends and Influence people and asked about their interests which naturally puts them in control and a happy spot and just letting them talk.

    Moral of the story: Never give up. The universe has a very chaotic but structured order of assembling riches to those who work hard, do the right thing and NEVER give up. To understand this is one thing but to live it is another. I need to print these teachings and put it on my vision board.

    Later on in the night I went to another gig and shot some Balkan folk music; the venue was small but filled out, probably shy of a 100 people. In the end, I talked to the organiser and he thanked me for reaching out to him and spoke about another gig which he could potentially name drop me in to attend and shoot pictures for. This is the message, DO the RIGHT THING and the universe will reward you, it may not be in the shape you expect or speed or immediacy you want but it happens. It sounds like magic when I talk about it but that's what I'm seeing unfold.

    One last thought I had: Kindness is the absolute transmutational gold of life. Most things require a transaction to achieve: you willpower through the cold and sacrifice temporary comfort for long term drive, you pay a cashier - you lose money, you get food. With Kidness it's different. It's not transactional, there is no give and take. It's give and give and give. The person that starts the giving eventually gets it back through the universe and the other is obliged to give it back for it is the most invaluable thing to be given something out of the compassion of giving. Gary V talks about kindness and I'm trying to understand it. Don't think it's something to understand, it's energy in positive motion that's all that needs to be understood.

    I am right now writing this at 1:15 AM and procrastinating when I should be sleeping or editing last night's gig because I feel these ideas are fountainheads to wealth.

  5. So it's been a while since last post. Many things have happened.

    I had a setback of eating chocolate for about 2 weeks, like a whole bar 170g sometimes 250g 5 times a week haha. Anyways, I deduced it down that why this was happening was I had slowly lost my direction of purpose an orientation of behavior corresponding with said purpose. 

    Things are quite good now. 2 days ago my favourite flatmate from Japan had moved out and I realised that he made my stay here at this boarding house even 5% warmer and inviting which was enough for a laugh or two. I asked the landlord of I could move into his room possibly. I had a look at it and he was living in a little sanctuary. The windows get more sun, the space is about 25% bigger, there is all 3 working lights, a big standing square slotted shelf space, a mirror... it has fucking everything and I'm pretty stoked! 

    A big decision I recently made was to cancel my trip to South America. Gary V started talking about Entitlement about a week or slightly more ago. Entitlement is when your parents, friends or someone else gives you something and this develops a sense of people owing you shit. He says this makes people soft and if you want to run a business, in the long run you will flop as your foundation is made of rubbish entitlement. I'm guilty of this. I have been entitled all my life, my parents usually took care of my needs financially, mom cooked food, bought shit for me... still does but now I say no. I'm making a change now to work on my photography and ideally make a business out of it and put my head down and work hard.

    I wanted to go to South America to go to a transformational 21 day Ayahuasca retreat in order to unlock the demons that are inside me an release/accept them. But this is really some idea in my head to short-circuit the process of Growth, so I choose the longer and hard route. I still want to do the retreat but maybe later when I have my own money to pay for it rather than the $1 top-up offering for every dollar I earn by my dad/brother. That would have just kept me going in the path of entitlement.

    This weekend past, I shot some pretty cool snaps. I photographed Gflip, KVKA and Maxwell Young at a local bar venue spruced up by Redbull Music NZ.  

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    I bought return train tickets to go to my mums place to pick up my older brother's computer. He is travelling the world atm with a laptop and hasn't been using his computer. I asked if I could use it as it would make my photo editing process much more efficient as well as not being in the negative environment of gamers in a netcafe. At the same time I'm a little hesitant of fulfilling my wish as it means I am being entitled again. But then I take a step back and realise I'm being black and white about this and will actually use this to progress my career in photography. 

    Once I arrived at my mums house, I found I had left some other potentially useful gear that I had stored away - a small Chinese glidecam and a boompole. I figured I'm gonna need a car to transfer all these pieces of gear and it would be silly to hustle across the city with my back burdened by the weight. I instead called an UBER, and thought about it for a few minutes. I was hesitant as it costed $53 where my return train ticket wasn't used. Haha i'm such a cheap ass. Anyways I ended up paying or the UBER and am happy I'm progressing in my relationship of moving on from my poor mindset mentality now that I have some money to spend. The UBER driver was super cool and listened to my journey of rebirth haha and I told him about Gary V and he was intrigued enough to ask me to write his name down for him.

    Next week I will attend an RSD Hotseat. Time to Fail ?

  6. Day 37,

    Meditating is becoming a little natural, I focused on breathing, nothing else. Ran my short run and celebrated by shouting winner again haha, it's pretty fun.

    I listened to my social studies course in the way to work. This week is about how if you resist it persists. The doctor alludes to the Wizard of Oz how Dorothy kills the Witch by staying calm and pouring water over her instead of using aggression. Here he is saying that you can fight a negative emotion with another negative emotion.

    I repeat listened to Dale Carnegie. Summary is: Don't argue - boy this one is hard, I love arguing, debating and making conflict to explore discussions. I'm keeping my mouth shut more now and letting others talk. Also not out shining other people above you so that they don't feel inferior makes them more likely to like you. Accepting the other person's opinion and genuinely trying to see the other person's viewpoint, again this one is pretty hard for me. I've grown up thinking facts and being right is the way to go but this directly contradicts it.

    I start with just keeping my mouth shut at work and acknowledging I'm most likely wrong and my superiors have more experience and knowledge. Something inside me is arrogant and likes to think I know as to gain confidence but this is fake confidence. Again hard for me, I think this is like a habit to cultivate over time.

    I came home and ate dinner. I planned to go out to Munfo Lingo but feel sick and thought it was better to not jeopardize my health and become full blown sick and not be able to work tomorrow. I appreciate that I can make more wiser rational decisions these days.

    Yesterday there were these drapes that were being thrown out and I thought they might be useful for photography so I took them home to use as background patterns. On the way home I asked 5 strangers in the street my business card design and if they could tell from the front face what service I was providing. I got positive feedback from all of them. The only thing that didn't work was the font used in the top describing my Business name and my name & occupation which is in a red font that isn't so clear. A solution my Mexican friend suggested was to use black or silver borders around the red writing to make it pop and stand out. 

    Grateful for: my breath, being able to paint, Spanish learning, dance performances, the Internet.

  7. Day 35,

    Was at my mum's for Sunday, didn't meditate or run cause I didn't set up any alarm.

    I still managed to do some things. Practiced Spanish with @giblets. Had accountability session with oldest brother. Went to hardware store to buy ratchet screwdriver for work. Helped step-dad with moving new washing machine in and taking out an old barbeque. He's wanting to clean out the house and get it spotless for selling and buying a new house come year's end.

    I came back to the City and headed to the net cafe to edit the photos of the portrait session I did with a friend. I got paid for this which I appreciate as I spent a bit of time focused on it. He said he was very pleased with them so that makes me pleased too! ?

    Over the weekend I also bumped into an old aquaintance who I briefly went out to 'game' with as in girls not video games. So I maybe will look into that, my only concern is how it will affect my morning sleep requirement. Maybe I lazy this requirementfor one day, either Saturday or Sunday.

     

    grateful for: Water, Spanish speaking partners, positive people, Gary V, the Internet

  8. Day 32,

    Mediated 5 minutes today. Did Fabulous exercise drill.

    Finished painting one place and moving on to the next site. Practiced using a roller, use a ratchet screwdriver and remove power point coverings. Simple stuff but I'm getting a lot of confidence in doing things I've never thought or done before.

    I went home and went to a community cultural center to practice Spanish. My teacher was friendly and warm hearted Peruvian. I learnt a few things about useful traits or things to do as a teacher for my venture into English teaching.

    We cooked causa, a potato mash with lime juice and Peruvian chilli sauce mixed together. Pasta, a chicken type of curry with onions, tumeric, oregano, ginger. There was a basil pesto and rice pudding as well. Our bellies were full ??

    I met most of the people thing and had some genuine conversations. Some young girl who was 19, who had traveled to Spain when she was 15, doing a double major in environmental and biology. I'm like farkk.. wake-up call time is running the fuck out yo! In a good way ?

    I spent more than I wanted to on the experience but when I look back it was worth it as I'm investing in myself and my future relationships which is priceless.

    I will say this again... The level of mediocrity is out of control in this world. How we can be so priveledged with the internet, having free flowing water and all this high quality of life and not have the perspective to see that going to work isn't a chore but a drive for positive action.

    One of my colleague friend was telling me how he thinks we're making shit money and how he's glad he got a got call from another colleague to be paid double what he was getting now. I was just like lala I don't wanna hear it, honestly people not having perspective on simply being able to be paid and be self reliant and instead chasing more money and learning to be content is straight poison, such scarcity thinking... It's so obvious to me now how everyone's so short term thinking, the most important question to ask - where am I being short term thinking? My chocolate eating habits, my meditation practice, my follow ups on friends, and more...

    I can feel my eyes widen when I look long term now.

  9. Day 29,

    I meditated for about 4 minutes and the. Went for a run. 

    Goals I achieved today was watch the Spanish course about regular are verbs and talk to my Mexican friend through a WhatsApp call. 

    I went out to Petone, an Industrious part of Wellington to check out if they had better deals for work equipment than the hardware store in the city. I went to Mitre 10 and they had a better tool box but less options for paint brushes. I had heard to pay for good paintbrushes so I went to the other hardware store, a 15 min walk to see if they had better ones. I ended getting tools from both stores.

    I figured if I'm going to be working in this profession, I should have the right gear to be self reliant and such. Up till now, I've been carrying my gear in a sturdy shopping bag and my gear was all over the show but this tool box brings about some order. 

    I came home and bought some chocolate, yes I have a chocolate addiction :) I actually want to make chocolate one day, I have a very curious and sensitive set of taste buds for flavours, the potential is endless with high quality chocolate. I noticed in the super market they started introducing some higher end chocolate now too. I don't buy those as they are $8+ for 100g, I bought $2.50 dark chocolate for 200g.

    This is an unnecessary expense that I need to stop spending on. I think this past week I ate through 4 bars of chocolate. I go through phases - as long as I don't touch chocolate I don't think about it but once I eat sweets the neural pathways start kicking in. Alot of it is just me being dehydrated and self rationalizing to buy chocolate when thirsty and not thinking straight. So I aim to drink more water this week and try to stay mindful of when I'm having cravings. Tough part is I knew they were cravings and I just gave in to them - there I realised it's addiction, the same kind from gaming.

    I unfortunately don't have work tomorrow as it is forecasted to rain reasonably but this gives me some time to learn about painting, practice more Spanish and maybe photography. It's very cool now how I'm all excited about work and when I don't have it I seek to fill in the free time to make the most out of that excitement. I'm grateful of my growth from the change in my mindset

    Grateful for: my Spanish speaking friend who practiced with me from Mexico, my legs that are able to take me what seems like endlessly around the city, water, my oldest brother for helping me keep accountable (obviously not in everything but better than none), photography and positive affirmations in the morning.

  10. He who has a why to live can bear almost any how - Frederich Nietzsche

    Sit down and write what you want to be doing in 10 and 5 years time. When you look through the long term perspective you can learn to love the process as it is all geared towards your long term purpose.

    In saying that, it doesn't fix your financial issue of covering your expenses. Simple, reduce your expenses - you don't grow in life in comfort.

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  11. On 6/27/2018 at 8:33 AM, JaniP said:

    You have been so cold

    So silent, yet so bold
    Your heart's pure gold
    Sands of time turn into mold
    Your head is filled
    You fear, that sand is spilled
    From the hourglass
    For you it's such a weightful mass

    You seem to be afraid   
    Confused to seek the aid
    Every grain you cannot raise
    It's but a dream you should not chase

    Your head is never numb
    Your heart beats like a drum
    Situation's unforeseen
    Anxiety makes a scene
    Your chest goes up and down
    Your mouth is dry but your lungs drown
    You are just out of control

    You seem to be afraid
    Confused to seek the aid
    Every grain you cannot raise
    It's but a dream you should not chase

    You see your figure in the glass
    So many times the feelings pass
    Still they are always coming back
    You perceive the ruthless vile attack
    You will learn to suffocate
    The fear of meeting your fate
    You will have to medicate
    Your mind when you're so astray

     

    Sick poem. Here's a soothing song for all the anxious people out there ?

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  12. Day 28,

    I had recently rediscovered this gem of a song that coincided my search for overcoming social anxiety, Soo peaceful 

     

    Meditated and ran. I found meditation to be more effective today as I had what I presumed a photography sessions with a friend. This goal in my mind allowed me to dedicate my focus to committing to the meditation with more presence and purpose. My friend later said he was too tired to come out to take photos as he had stayed awake stressing and thinking about work. 

    I listened to my social studies audio but started drooping asleep. The doctor has a bit of a monotone voice but I am usually sleep when sitting still in the cold of the mornings. I did go running so am usually warm for the first hour afterwards.

    I had planned to get fruit for the coming week but then got a call from my oldest brother who was in the city visiting our sister in law. He asked if I wanted to be picked up, at this time I was on a Spanish practice session with @giblet and he had by the time I had finished Spanish driven to the cafe they were having brunch at. He later offered to book me an Uber ride to get me to the cafe ? God I'm fortunate.

    We ate very delicious light meals where the whole cafe was geared towards Veganism and Vegetarian food, they did have meat options too. I ordered lentil, split peas and kale salad, God damn it was yum! 

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    The cafe was very unique. It outlooked towards the sea and had a blend of surf lifesaving themes, paddle boards and other quirky figures of interest. In the entrance, you would have to walk upstairs which gave it a vibe of exclusivity of a restaurant but this was just a cafe. On the climb of the stairs, I was met with literally a line outside the door with customers waiting to get in. I was questioned if I wanted to book a table and said that I had a friend here already to join and passed through freely. The whole cafe was full but it was well spaced out so that people could move, breathe and talk. The cafe was called Maranui on Lyall Bay for anyone interested. 5 stars from me.

    I went back to my sister in laws house and discovered there house, such a cozy spot near the beach. They had a 5 month boy and I took photos of him. I edited and sent these photos to the mother, she was pleased with the photos. I enjoyed taking the baby photos, babies have such a joyful and innocent charm , I could help but feel playful in my own photography approach.

    My friend who had previously canceled was able to come to the city later and I took a few samples shots and gave him a link at the end of the night. He was pretty pleased with them . I'm going to spend this week trying to learn this new camera my oldest brother lender me, he wants me to help shot a video for his business down the track.

    I went home and two of my flatmates had a quarrel. One of them is an empathetic guy who got fed up with the other guy coming to him in a flurry of panic seeking help and the first guy got triggered and they started shouting at each other for a minute. I realised that the first guy had taken the negative energy from the other guy and had bursted into anger. I tried to ask him to chill but he was beyond that so I remembered that in these cases it is best to hold space and just listen to the person raging and just let them. I asked him to come walk outside with me as he had planned to go to the skate park where we had previously planned to shoot some photos of skating.

     

    He said he didn't want to skate anymore after the other guy ruined his mood. I tried to make him realise that the world is full of negative influences and one must curate their influences as to not get washed away in the soup of negativity as it consumes you and you become part of it. I think I could understand what he was going through because I was similar to him, a people pleaser, a kind guy wanting to help everyone. I told him that this leaves us susceptible to being abused as we're too kind for our own good and allow other people's problems to become our own. I told him that he must realise that he must put himself first in order to help others. At the end of the night I asked him to practice meditation as he found he couldn't water properly with the seat of his mood. After I held the space for him and we meditated for 2 minutes he was able to calm down and skate a little.

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    This is an upcoming pro skater who lives in our boarding house, he recently got sponsored by a skate shop.

    I realise the place I'm in is not a good environment for me to be in to achieve my goals as there are negative influences that pass this boarding house. It's imperative that I find more professional, self development rational people to live with when I come back from South America. I'm thinking whether I should even do that now... ?

    My oldest brother reminded me of something very important at our accountability meeting at the cafe. He recalled how long ago we started doing our accountability meetups and the start of my journey only a mere 6-7 weeks ago... He said "imagine what can happen a year from now, imagine where you'll be 10 years from now with the growth your committing to now" my eyes opened and seemed with Glee ;D 

    Grateful for: peaceful country, the inter and cellphone, chocolate and open sharing friends

  13. Day 26,

    Meditated a little poorly. 10 minute intense exercise by fabulous, this things awesome I swear like I've gone for my run but I usually only sweat a little on my runs because it's mainly cold air and wind drying me out.

    I woke up a little early to make two extra sandwiches for my work mates. My supervisor already had made his Toasties and didn't take my offer since he had made his lunch already. I gave the other to my work friend and he appreciated the food. 

    I had watched more of my neglected  welbeing Coursera course last night that being with people and sharing food and eating it together makes the food seemingly taste better. I intentionally tested this out and found it to be marginally true, perhaps more so with comfortable friends. I found myself examining my peers faces when eating and in the same way eating their joyous faces. Describing the taste of the food, what it looks like, texture, etc makes us appreciate the value in the food we are digesting and as a result tastes better by feeling better about our shared experiences.

    I stayed till 5pm to finish a wall to paint, my colleagues usually leave a little earlier but I wanted to push myself and finish this wall of, it was the last day of the week anyway. I've learnt a good amount about painting in just the two days but I know there's a whole lot more to learn.

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    I walked back home and had a quicker shower because I had a community event to go to. It was called Vamos Peru, organised by Club Latino in Wellington. There we learnt about the different regions of Peru from the Andes mountains to the jungles of the Amazonia. They apparently have thousands of types of potato and corn ? :O. A peruvian guy introduced himself and talked to us about Lima and the surf life that's present there. Several women performed dances for us. I met an old lady who took salsa dances and teaches English and she told me about where to do these things, I wrote these notes eagerly. This event was do positive and fun, just like a big family gathering. The Peruvians there had cooked some food for us and even had a delicious dessert of the red-black corn jelly with rice pudding.

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     grateful for: water, food, Peruvian culture, easy access to shower that freely flows on demand and my brown mature man pants, lol.

  14. I thought I posted this but apparently not.

    19.07.2018

    Day 25,

    Meditation and running - yes.

    Went to work and learnt to paint weatherboards, made plenty of mistakes but made good progress by the end of it all. I thanked my supervisor for being patient with my learning and I will make him a smoked fish sandwich to eat tomorrow.

    I went to Mundo Lingo, at first hesitating with anxiety. After reading my social studies material, I worked up the courage and changed my perspective to see this activity almost like an experiment so I can detach myself from my anxious emotions and act rationally. I met a beginner learner of Spanish there and he said they practice Spanish at the previous suburb I used to live in and it's relatively cheap do I'm considering going there next week it's I think on Monday or Tuesday.

    Grateful for: meditation, water, laughs, hard work and running ?

  15. Day 24,

    Meditated, bit better. I'm beginning to understand now that it's mainly about focusing on breathing with experiential understanding not just knowledge.

    Running - there's a part of my run where I run through a series of flight of stairs, by the time I get to the top I shout "winner" and run down the middle of the street as part of my celebration. This feels good expending my impeded excitement for life in this quiet hour at 5.30 in the morning.

    I looked through social studies material and it says to look back over the material and condense the lessons so I don't have to go over all of them again. I remembered the ANTS handout and caught myself having ANTS thoughts about 4 times thinking that I wasn't doing a good job, fast enough. I caught myself and realised they are just lies to sabotage my progress.

    Went to work, told my work mate that I won't be giving him any more advice until he takes action. Its honestly fucked man, literally 99% can't be arse'd to make a change in their life in a week because it's easier to go watch a game and drink beer. I don't remove myself from this equation, its that pervasive across society. It makes me sad for my fellow man and hella scared now of who I make friends with and allow to become an influence.

    I came back home and had a nap, I think I was dehydrated and didn't drink water. I woke up 50 minutes later and started studying Spanish. I was meant to go to Munro Lingo tonight but chickened out. I decided to go to the net cafe to try edit the fireworks footage I shot. I couldn't install my video editing software and ended up going for a walk with my ex-gaming friend. I suggested if he thought he was possibly addicted to video games and he said he was more playing to fill in the time. Basically the same thing, just rationalising it. Again, its sad this guy has a good heart but just doesn't realise/want to change his life bad enough.

    It makes me wonder how the fuck I was able to realise my mediocrity and do something about it, I have no qualms that I am completely out of mediocrity but think at least I have begun my journey of realising my potential.

    Ending the night by reading Dale Carnegie which I was meant to do in the morning. Today was my first day of working 4 days this week, if I think I can handle this week, I'll ask if I can start doing 5 days next week. I think its time for me to bury my head in the dirt and work hard till my trip to South America.

    Grateful for: fabulous app, water, internet, meaningful conversations and speaking Spanish.

  16. Day 23,

    Today was so so. Stayed up till 2AM thinking of watching the world cup and wanted to nap so my sleep schedule won't be fucked but ended up waking up at 6AM.

    The previous night I spent trying to design a Business card but I think it's not clear in what I was offering as a service. I think I need to add a picture of a camera ? as cringy as I feel it seems, for the client it makes things more obvious what I'm offering. I keep forgetting I need to be thinking of what they, the client wants.

    Today I read my Social studies course and went back to nap for an hour because I felt cold and snuggled slowly into my bed. I ended up running at 10.30 AM and felt warm for the next hour and could take more action as expected  with my body being warm. Thinking rationally is one thing, acting it and being congruent with it is a whole other thing ? 

    I listened to slot of Gary V today, always makes me feel at the very least positive. He's like the father we need but don't deserve. 

    I went past a photography shop and went inside to look at second hand lenses and the cameras there. I asked to use have a look at the G9 and the guy was quite an apprehensive fellow and he told me to not go crazy with taking many shots as it was a new camera they were trying to sell. I practiced my knowledge of listening attentively and he was a wealth of information. I had mentioned that I sent an image to stock photos and was rejected and presented to me reasons why that might be. He basically said the people there can be anal because they've been told that pictures should be so many MPixels big but also they have a certain image in mind for what they sell. He told me that I should go sit down with them and ask them what they want and try to create what they need. He said to strip off the exif data out of my photos and deliver the pictures in 16 bit TIFF format for the highest quality.

    I bought some tools for work and some chocolate ? I was planning to edit the fireworks footage I shot two nights ago but procrastinated. On the plus side I practiced some Spanish at night.

    Our public transport system is now incorporating double decker buses

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    grateful for: chocolate, experts willing to share their knowledge, transport system, running and Spanish. 

    Buenos Noches!

     

     

  17. Day 21,

    I woke up and slacked off my routine. I ate food before exercising. I ended up running 3 hours later so felt better after that. Didn't meditate but practiced it whilst out fishing and driving back to the city home.

    We caught nothing out fishing, I ended up throwing up because of how Rocky the sea was. The wind was actually non-existent but the water was turbulent. We brought along another friend to join us and he made the journey a bit dinner with his humor. On the bright side we got a big dose of - that is life you win some, you lose some.

    We came back home and I told my folks about the fireworks happening in town. They dropped me off at my place and I grabbed my camera to go shoot it. I arrived a bit late but managed to get some decent shots.

    I practiced about 15 minutes of Spanish. 

    Later, I got two invites from people I recently met to events. Friend A invited me to A Justin Timberlake vs Stevie wonder jam battle off thingy... It definitely looked interesting and I could have shot it. My other friend from work invited me to go to this Colombian fiesta in celebration of their independence day.

    He said he'd be there at 10pm and wasn't there at 10.10pm. I sent him a text asking if they were coming (he was bringing his Mexican friend who he suggested I meet). I was disappointed and a little annoyed that my time had been wasted as well as spending $7 for entry. I didn't really care about the dancing I just wanted the opportunity to meet his Spanish friend and possibly practice some Spanish a have a point of contact for my travels in México.

    I guess this is me being pretty outcome dependent and not really that good. Regardless, I don't really tolerate my time being wasted anymore because I realise to be an effective person or business man you gotta be where you say, when you say. And tolerating behavior like this can assimilate bad behaviors with the five closest people rule. I wonder if I'm being black and white here or I'm actually setting healthy boundaries, I think it's more the latter. I told my work friend to not ask anything from me anymore until he finishes reading the miracle morning.

    A thing with me is that I'm quite empathetic in wanting to help people and am easily susceptible to being abused because I like to help or please people. I'm aware of this in me and am trying to change it. On the plus side as U was going out I met a guy that I previously met at Mundo Lingo but forgot his name. We had a good conversation on the street and exchanged phone numbers.

    I feel like I'm building network of guys that want to self-improve, I just need to weed out the serious ones from the not so serious ones so our growth can be exponential and positive.

    Grateful for: friendly Spanish people, getting invites from friends, water, cloud storage, warm winter days and men seeking to improve.

  18. About your Ex, just block her man and don't look back. If she was a negative influence as you say she was, then move on. If you don't then you are saying you want this relationship to continue. So you decide.

     By you engaging with her, you are tickling her emotions and making the thing stay alive. It's like addiction, you have to take the temptation away if you are serious about this. A thing that helps is to have the end in mind. Where do you want to go and what behaviours does that require? Surely being in this negative relationship isn't part of that, is it? You have to be rational about this if you don't want to be the victim of your emotions.

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  19. 13.07.2018

    Day 20,

    Meditation - yes, Running - yes.

    Last day of work for the week, Looks like  I can handle three days. I'll do 1 more week of 3 days and then consider if I can do 4 days. The things I want to do in travelling is going to require a lot of money so I need to put my head down and work away! I just value my peace and leisure time quite a bit but I think it's rational to put it aside for a couple of months to have an amazing couple of months down the track.

    I spoke to my friend at work about how to change for the better. He's always wanting to make more money but doesn't see his blindness to his own spending/expenses. I told him to first change his environment then change one of his easiest habit which is smoking cigarettes. He occasionally smokes and it seems he doesn't have a strong affinity with the habit. I can see this guy is more self aware and smarter than the rest of the crew because he listens and I admire him for having such great capability in doing so. Now that I've experience a little taste of growth - I think I've done more in these last 3-4 months than I have in my last 10 years on Earth, I want that for him too and everybody else. The sad thing is it's very likely that he won't do anything about it, just like I did for the last 5 years. I had the desire to change but not the energy levels to make the shift, so I recommended he read the Miracle Morning which I think was the key to the ignition of my growth. I asked him to provide his email address and he hasn't given me it even though we discussed it...

    Mediocrity is a cruel and disgusting thing that we don't even realise we are in. He says he wants to but he hasn't acted upon giving me his email address, a simple thing... so how is he going to even read the damn book? I told him you have to drag yourself out like you're running away from hell because you will choose to be comfortable and not do this. Regardless if he does or doesn't act on my advice, I hope that this at least begins a small bread crumb trail on self-development down the line however long it takes for him to snap himself out of it. I'm not going to give him any more advice... I think he's using it more of a tool to fantasize and 'feel' some dreams whirl in his head than actually take action, so until he takes action and tells me about it, only then will I give more advice if he seeks it.

    I went home, ate food and looked up some music bands that were playing and decided to put it off in favour of arriving earlier at my mum's to practice Spanish and go fishing. It looks to be a grand day! I'll try to take some photos of our catch.

    I talked to my father over the phone and he came back from Yemen in one piece which I'm grateful for. He said the minister of health there wanted to house the doctors in a hospital that had guns in there in case the people needed 'protection' and refused to move to the hospitals of his choosing deeming it not safe. It's crazy how much of the world we don't know sitting here in our little polite, egalitarian western societies when corruption is the norm in most others. That's part of why I want to travel as well, to break me from this comfortable spell I'm accustomed to and see a bit of the ugly of the world and give me some perspective of the things that I take granted for, in a way where I can have a paradigm shift.

    Grateful for:  Water, Buses/trains, Internet (many of us dont realise how stupidly powerful this thing lets us be and bears reiterating), notepad to jot ideas/thoughts, My father.

  20. Day 19,

    Meditation - 4/9, exercise - 6/9.

    Meditation still hard but getting used to it and remembering to focus on breathing more in daily life. I did the core and workout. 

    Went to work, there I've been working with a new guy and he's my age and also an ex-gamer. We talk endlessly about our noatalgia with games of the 90's and early 00's. He asked me if I wanted to go to the net cafe so we could play together, I said no. I

    It interests me if I could go back and play. I would approach the matter differently now though. I would play a maximum of 2 hours and only co-op games that have a campaign or definite ending. He mentioned Metal Slug, an old school 2D scrolling shooter and that's the type is be willing to experiment with. All in all, after all those criterion posed for me to play I still am not attracted to games in the same way I used to. I have a mature outlook now where I understand that playing games may be initially fun and provide us with a surge of feel-good noatalgia but end the end you don't accomplish anything. I'm more interested in making friends, building networks or a business so that I can have kids and have enough wealth to provide them with the best chances to fulfil their potential. I just see it as a waste of time to play games now... I rather talk about the art-style of games and the production processes in making them instead. I can't believe I'm at this point saying this but I know I'm on the right track.

    I came home, eat dinner. Checked if my parcel had been sent (a jacket sold online) and sure enough it had been picked up. I was trying a new courier system by Trade me where you can book a courier to pick your parcel, you just have to package it yourself and it is waaay cheaper. At a post shop I got quoted $45 to the South Island and with this system it was $8 AND they come to your door to pick it up! Amazing.

    I had shot a couple of photos last night and went to the net cafe to edit them tonight. I also uploaded two videos from my YouTube to my Facebook account. I really need to polish up my Facebook page by adding more details. I've become a bit more clear about what I want to shoot.

    Grateful for: friends, photography, feeling tired from working that my body is able to sleep easily, my shoes and water.

  21. Day 17, 

    Meditation - 5/9, Running - 7/9

    Woke up slightly more energized than usual. I had thought the night before that the first 5-10 seconds that I wake up are instrumental to starting the ignition to my life so I just sprung myself out of bed.

    I started week 5 of my Social studies course, read DC and finished watching Crumb, a documentary about a cartoonist and the upbringing of such a personality and his world.

    I washed and dried my clothes. Went to mum's again to use my older brother's computer and view the footage my twin brother has been shooting in Japan. I gave him tips a out his camera movements and audio as well as narrative content to improve his videos. He seems to be having fun troubleshooting through film-making. Reminds me of when I learnt, I still struggle with it now, just have a bit more fun though.

    I practiced Spanish on the train and didn't give a fuck if people could hear me, that felt good.

    It was my mum's birthday, we took a selfie and sent the picture of to her social medias. She found a lot of enjoyment for this occasion. 

    Grateful for: my jacket that keeps me warm in the rain, my life, my vision board that clears up my direction and goals, my mornings and water.

    P.S no post tomorrow.

  22. Day 16,

    Meditated - 5.5/9, Exercise - core workout.

    I did my social studies course, read DC but didn't practice Spanish (procrastinated) and watched RSD video by Tyler. 

    Called oldest brother for accountability. He told me I should be careful what words I use like 'Social Anxiety' as it frames you as someone who has it and is a victim, even though it may be true it puts brakes on the progress in overcoming it by identifying oneself with it. He cited how in the health sector we label people with certain illnesses because it makes it easier to manage people by categorizing them with problems and those people rarely get better because they cling to their label.

    I tried to defend the notion that I'm doing a social anxiety course because as Dr Thomas Richards says your brain can only believe things that are comprehensible so saying things like "I'm going to have an amazing day or climb Mt Everest" is unrealistic and unbelievable to your brain and in changing behavior. I then paid attention to what he was saying and realised he was right in that where I want to go, to overcome this I need to be using as many methods as possible to point me in that direction. I'm happy that I was able to shut my ego up and listen instead.

    I went to the last Kizomba instructional of Foundations, felt great and had fun as usual. Spoke to more people this time by approaching with what smile I could muster ?

    I signed up to tutoring English and set up a profile on tutoroo.co for my local area in Wellington city.

    grateful for: genuine friendships, Whittaker's artisan dark chocolate, dancing, Internet, feeling good.

  23. Day 15,

    I'm at my Mum's house.

    Meditated and used the 10 minute intensive exercise from Fabulous.

    I talked to @giblets for an hour about our first Spanish Lecture.

    Talked to my Dad who is in Yemen, he was watching the football and it is a great pastime of relief for the people there. He said "everything stops when the games start" I later suggested that we should go for some more walks because his legs kick the bucket. He nodded to my suggestion and picked the Bay of Islands as our next frontier. We had been there before but in a rushed manner and now we are different people I suspect it will be a nice experience. If anything I just want to forge peaceful and happy memories so that when he does get old and unable he can be at peace in his aching.

    I edited last nights photos and asked permission to upload them. 

    Added my working status to my LinkendIn profile

    Listened to Gary V

    Asked a friend to catchup later in the week. Asked a uni friend if he would be keen on shooting videos/photos anymore with me, he said he's not. I appreciated another High school friend's art on Facebook.

    Talked briefly to my oldest brother.

    Ate too much food - convenience of food at my mum's place is dangerous.

    My morning went quite good from 6-11AM but procastinated after that. I'm making progress now though. The successful techniques I utilized that kept me on track in the morning where water, my notepad and study/learning music.

    I had planned  to read about travelling and Finance papers but didn't get around to doing so. All in all a slightly successful day. My few photos from the music video got like 8-9 likes in 2 hours which signals that Music related photography/videography is the best to get noticed - its viral, people talk about it and share with their friends quickly so I'll aim my efforts of photography more towards this avenue and see if it proves correct.

    Grateful for: Sleepless nights, exercise, blankets and heaters, computers to connect us and Espanol

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  24. Yesterday's post:

    Day 14,

    Meditated using fabulous - 4/9. I will find a different guided meditation source, the one on fabulous is quite pushy and quick where I distracted by the promptness. The instruction is veruy good but very poorly paced. Exercise - Did Core body workout using fabulous.

    I bought a snapper card. The night before I had cooked crumbed fish and had plenty left over. I thought about how awesome of a lunch I would have the next time but opted to set aside my gluttonous desires for kindness. I gave fish to my workmates  to see the effects of kindness - they enjoyed it and thanked me. I found out that one of the other painters likes fishing and offered him to go fishing with my step-dad who is also a fisherman.

    After work I handed my contract agreement to a supervisor of my employer. I told him about my journey with quitting gaming and he also reciprocated with his own journey and how God helped him with his. He told me he was introverted and was going down the wrong path, etc. We built a bit of a more common relationship with understanding and see a little more eye to eye now. Not that he was a bad guy or anything but it goes to show you know nothing about anyone until you let them talk to you and are able to shutup and listen to them with your heart. No I'm not a christian convert yet but the lessons he shared with me were found on what he called 'truths' as hard as rock so that the wind can not blow you down. From his gospel, I drew a lot of parallels with the habit changes and purpose motivators that I have personally undergone and respected him for sharing his purpose. These conversations are at least intriguing and positive, able to motivate and inspire people compared to the dribble that goes on everyday life.

    I went to shoot photos for a band called The Moira Jean Band in the city. In doing so I discovered a site for music gigs called www.undertheradar.co.nz where they post music gigs there. I have been trouble finding music events to go to on eventfinda.co.nz but the former website showed 5 gigs in one day! :D So pretty happy with this. I called the bar a couple of hours before they started to play and asked if it was OK if I came to shoot photos of them. They said it was alright and I also asked Moira herself and she was ok with it and gave me her business card. Fuck I gotta get one of these printed! I told her I can send the photos to her and may post them online. I unfortunately left early and didn't get her to sign a release form because I wanted to get in bed in a reasonable time so I could wake up at 5AM. I will instead ask her permission in an email. I think working in this industry requires being able to push the time your willing to work in order to to build your reputation. So i've identified that this was a mistake and will be more flexible with my morning wakeup time to find a balance and be able to do both equally well. I said previously that I should put off my photography ventures aside whilst ramping up to leave overseas but I find it so fun and fascinating ;) I guess I can make exemptions for a Saturday lol, i'm so serious about my weekend time usage now.

    I went to my mum's catching a train to hers. She picked me up 20 minutes before midnight and I went straight to sleep.

    Grateful for: Mum, other people sharing their journeys, musicians, fresh fish and my legs to walk everywhere.

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