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All you can do, in my opinion, is be a good example and not play video games (dont use the ipad for entertainment in this particular case). If her friends are playing with their Ipads too she might have a hard time ditching it and there is little you can do about it , if it is indeed a habit she picked up from you, just your quitting games and finding other interesting activites outside video games and gadgets should be enough to nudge her in the right direction.If you are that concerned about her ipad use, spend a few minuites doing something fun with her when you notice her playing.(Play hide n seek for 5-10 mins,or whatever). Kids are raised in different environment these days, much in the same way we ( we being millenials) were raised in a different environment than our parents of perhaps our older siblings.Using Ipad for a few minuites to play a game is fine for a kid (although not ideal ofcourse) , but if she is playing for more than 30mins or for hours encourage her to try other activites such playing outside ,sports and whatnot.

I'm going to join a Muay Thai club this week. Why I go out a lot and I although I'm not particurarly aggresive , I tend to get in trouble often.Mostly cause of my curiosity, my boldness and dont give a fuck attitude."Tact" is not my strong point so when the situation gets tough I want to be able to defend myself properly. I also intend to travel abroad as soon as I finish school so some self defence training will definetelly come in handy I believe. Moreover, I do find some appeal into the practice of martial arts.I believe that the philosophy behind them is something I would like to explore and train myself into. When I'm going to join a club the upcoming week and see how it goes. I workout at my home (5-6 days a week. Push-ups ,pull-ups and other workouts to stay fit).So I'll probably have to cut it down a bit to 3-4 times a week so I can hit the Muay thai practice a couple times a week.

@jaylajkosz , @Cam Adair Helpfull insight,thanks guys.

Great Video.I have a couple questions. I've set a few goals witha deadline and even though I've made significant progress on them and myself on that field I have failed to meet the deadline. I admit I have not tried with accountability partner.I'm trying to hold myself accountable,I'm quite satisfied with the progress I'm doing but I'm curious If I would be making faster progress with an "accountability partner". So the question is what happens when we fail to meet the goals on the specific deadline? And how can you find people that will hold you accountable?Do they have to be mentor's or just any well disciplined and sincere person in our lives willing to help will do?

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@FedererMagic Models is an interesting book indeed and it might be a good place to start. I can definetelly give you a few practical tips that worked for me to get out of my head and take more action.You'll need the proper knowledge and thought patterns to back you up into taking action in the long term.Changing lifelong beliefs will be your major opponent in this journey.(We truly are our greatest enemy).Anyway enough fluff, here are some practical tips that helped me. The philosophy behind these tips can help you in any aspect of life , but I'll focus on the benefits with women since that is what are both interested or we wouldnt be here. Practical Tips: 1)Read the fucking book . Ideally you would just approach the hottest girls you see anywhere, anytime you wanted and you'd be able to have amazing experiences with them.But I am not at that point and as far as I can tell neither are you :).So here are some steps you can work on to get there through so called "baby steps".If you feel excited and happy to walk up to a random girl so hot that makes you nervous and express your sexual itnerest in her and you can do that from day one good for you, dont read any further! 2)Give yourself permission to suck at first.To fail , to embarass yourself and do what needs to be done in order to get what you want. Don't be afraid to go to bars or nightclubs solo to meet women.You might think it will be wierd or awkward but it's really not.No one will ever care more about you than you care for yourself (especially random people at the venue).Just go in with confidence(even if you feel afraid as fuck to do something like that).You dont neccesarily need confidence at first, you need the appearance of confidence untill you break through your shitty belief system.Appearance of confidence is mostly body language.Stand properly with your head high,look people and women in particular in the eyes without shying away and SMILE slyly. In fact dont be afraid to dedicate a certain ammount of minutes or hours daily or weekly to chasing women. 3)I'd advise you to avoid drinking alchohol.As it will making aprroaching easier but wont help you in the long term.Any drunk can approach a girl. Perrier or Alchohol free beer works for me.(If you can go to a bar or nightclub without paying entrance fee or drinks, that's ideal . Go get some water from the barman to stay hydrated and save your money for things you actually enjoy.) Bars and Nightclubs generally have a lot of women.Find the hottest and go talk to her. Once you are comfortable (or can tolerate being uncomfortable) with bars and night clubs. Use momentum to transition to approaches that require more courage and balls. Again, ideally you wouldnt need momentum to just approach a girl on the street. But I generally find it easier to approach girls on the street after I have hanged out on a bar or nightclub and talked to and flirted with some stunning ladies there first. The ideal (for me) is to get to the point when I can approach the hottest girls anywhere without excuses. 4)Be direct as fuck think at loud,speak your mind. The most fun I had with girls is when I say what I think and express my thoughts freely.Whether it be on how breathtaking I think they are.How their tight jeans makes their huge sexy ass look lovely, or even expressing my opinions and thoughts on other random topics in the gist of a conversation. Expressing yourself, your thoughts ,your beliefs your desires takes confidence and women fucking love it. 5)Go for the most uncomfortable situations and the absolutely fucking gorgeous girls from the beginning. The more you push your comfort zone and the more exposure you have to stressfull situations the faster you'll grow. The idea behind this is this: The more hot a girl is the more attracted she'll be to a direct ,confident and charming approach. 6)It's ok to not know what to say or discuss.It's fine just go introduce yourself and talk about anything you feel like.But make sure to flirt and express your intentions. 7)When you are flirting with the girl.Look her in the eyes, especially when you offer a compliment or say something bold.It makes all the fucking difference.(A constant sly smile helps too). 8)Jump of a cliff mentality(obviously metaphorically speaking,DONT jump of a real cliff for fucks shake..). This is super important concept to grasp. You will absoltely,positively,definetely have to face the "excuses" that will pop into your head when you see a drop-dead gorgeous girl.The excuses will be a million different thoughts that your mind will produce to rationalize why approaching her and expressing your desire is not a good idea. Our minds are one cunning son of a bitch in some cases.Trust me you will think of a million excuses and million different scenarios"what will people think of me", "..but she is with her friends" , "she is on the phone"," she will be bother"..THEY ARE ALL BULLSHIT EXCUSES MAN.But in the heat in the momment they will all seem to be valid and solid reasons.The solution is to act fast before you build up your mental wall.(Though you should avoid rushing into women, you should act right away especially if you are on the steet and she is walking past you). 9)"I'm gonna do something "crazy" , sounds like fun, let's do it".That should be always in the back of your mind.Go have fun ,most hot women are lovely. 10)Keep out the bad stuff.Most people are going with the herd and you will experience resistance from some of them.Ignore everybody , including myself and think and act for yourself.But make sure you have the proper spectrum of knowledge first (read the book ). There are thousands of people out there offering shitty advice so be carefull. Final tips, Read book. If you want further tips with anything on this topic , or just want to share your expreiences and success feel free to shoot me a message. Cheers, Chris

This is what I do:] Haha just kidding.I find something new to try.I read books, go out for a walk or w/e. I basically think what do I not feel like doing right now? And that's what I will do.Sure gets me out of the boredom lol Side note: If I had a girflfriend i'd just had sex with her.. Like what the hell, no brainer... Try a new sex position or role playing

@FedererMagic From your 2 posts above you seem to be on the right path from my point of view.(I didnt have the right mentality when I was starting and it costed me mostly in time and in money). Please read on however so you avoid making unessecary mistakes that I made,that way you can focus on making the "right" mistakes through taking action (trial and error) and figuring out your own way. I'm on this path to improve my sex life and get the girls I want for a while now.The first year I spent on it I followed a particular "philosophy" and learned a few tachniques by some dating & life coach.(Convictions are the greatest enemy of truth)I wish I knew that cause I was conviced that what I was doing was "The best" strategy.How wrong I was :). I spent a year on that philosophy with crappy results to show for.A few months ago I picked up the book I mentioned above.I Read it cover to cover in a couple of days.330 pages or so.It changed the way I look at things entirely.I dont claim that anything in it is "easy" to do but I do believe that the mindset presented is simple and effective.I've picked up other books in my quest to find the best approach and still havent found anything better.(I've half-read half skimed through plenty of dating/relationships books but havent found anything like that one).At the end of the day if you are looking for mediocre results there are other ways to get there(learn a few pick up lines, a few tricks , never push yourself or challenge the way you think etc.) If you want long term awesome results, that book is a must. This book will help you in 2 ways. 1) You'll know the backbone mentality to be succesfull with women . You can use this mentality and mindset to do whatever you please.Even if you chose to follow other dating advice,or completely ignore any dating advice and find out on your own. 2)You'll be able to tell Bullshit advice right away.That will save you TIME and MONEY.(<---This one I can tell your from personal experience as I have wasted both on inaccurate advice that works occasionaly and didnt really get me anywhere). P.S. Another book that helped me personally cause I was rather fucked up(family issues and whatnot) is No More Mr.Nice Guy. This one is written by a Psychologist so it's completely different approach.I do recommend it to anyone who had a somewhat distant father and overprotective(or domineering) mother.Or generally anyone who was raised to excessively seek approval from women. If you dont fit in that description I encourage you to skip it completely and laser-focus on what you want to get it asap.

The Manual by W.Anton. Probably the best book I've read.

As I was reading through your post I spoted a thought pattern that I have too.See our brains find so called "inoccent" reasoning patterns to encourage us to get the dopamine rush we are seeking and the instant stress relief.You mentioned " So i clicked to watch at the video and i started watching another and another and i got really into it"I find myself guilty of this habit (not with gaming videos but other kind of youtube videos).What happens is , instead of going for what we want in life we just stay home and rationalize why we cant do the stuff we want, then after we have placed limits on our actions we usually become sad or down,which leads to stress and pain.I find myself watching youtube videos about lions hunting zebras: https://encrypted-tbn2.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcRWvnW_8y1WqDiuBTaUmaHeU3HeroF5A5kU6YlxFaq7CGDiSuzf .Or watching some millionaire kid's youtube channel talking about his life.Recently I started watching chess videos again.(I used to play chess way back)So the way I see it I always have 2 options 1)I can go out , and do whatever comes spontaeously into my mind, go hit on girls on a mall, go shopping , go try a new sport.Just up and go for a couple days or vacation , go explore new hobbies and all kinds of thoughts.Explore and Learn.Sometimes I go with this option and I find myself in many embarassing stressfull yet Awesome and "Feel Alive" moments.While other times I find a million excuses why I cant do all the stuff I mentioned above right now, why even trying is not such a good idea.What do I do? 2)I sit at home and browse 9gag or I click on stupid youtube videos that dont help me at all.Naturally I have natural urges so i am very tempted to go watch porn.I have the need for accomplishment so I watch other people's live and their progress and success(Stupid videos like Bear grylls eating all kinds of nasty shit) https://i.ytimg.com/vi/Uj9CysSSsps/hqdefault.jpg The wierd part is that it's a spiral.At first my brain is like you studied/worked hard today it's okay to watch some stupid video for a while.The next day I watch 2 videos.And before I know it ,after a week I am watching youtube videos for hours.Basically my old shitty habits re-emerge.

You are spot on. The insecurities are imposed from the outside.As kids we were super confident.We were running around with messed up hear, buck naked with mud all over our faces , we would look people straight in the eyes without fear and basically do w/e we wanted.0 f*cks were given those days. I consider the time I spent gaming as a challange and a gift.HaD I not been a game addict for so long maybe I wouldnt have the opportunity to see these dynamics you mentioned in your text and rise above them,I'd probably keep going with the flow. I believe I was "enslaved" into gaming (with no one but myself to blame ofcourse) but this experience is now leading me to explore knowledge and freedom to new extents. I doubt I'd bother to think my life through ,what do I want , where do I want to go and where I am really going had it not been for my gaming habits. So this challenge was really a gift in disguise!

Sit down and plan your goals and your life.Time management is by far one of the most important challenges. We are not going to live forever so we must prioritize to accomplish what we want. Planning your goals whether it is financial,personal or any other goals involves a big part of "strategy"

Reviewing my progress after about 40 days or so into the commitment. I have relapsed both in porn use and mastrubation. The results I got so far. No Porn: My best streak without porn is about 15 days or so. The results where: During this time I was more attracted to real life girls ,I was constantly thinking of them naked in my mind or doing things to them or with them.This made me take a lot more action and approach more ladies. No Fap: I did a couple streaks of 7-9 days without fapping during this 40 day span.But overall I had many relapses , at some point I really started doubting the benefits of no Faping.There were a few weeks when I was trying to train my d*ck to last longer (for 15-20+ mins) so I could get to a 30+ mark, which I thought would be better use of my time than nofap .Anyway what I noticed during the no fap periods and the the faping after a week periods are: While in nofap, my social skills are insanely improved I can chat effortlesly chat with girls or friends and my social and mental sharpness is at it's peak. The periods when I was faping every other day or so and trying to train myself: During these periods my sex drive has been at it's peak.I was constantly thinking about getting laid, I was having sexual fantasies about girls of all kinds and generally I was horny as f*ck. Results based on "duration". If you are in a long streak of no fap and you mastrubate or have sex, you are gonna cum in less than a couple of minutes.(Unless you are having sex during no fap) .You can however stay hard after that first shot and keep going for plenty more minutes If you are into the prolonged duration training you definetelly can increase your stamina in bed or with your hand, however this requires discipline and practice. I have started another No Porn No Fap commitement for March.I'm currently 5 days into it and still going , cheers.

I want to go to a tropical island.Priority #1 I also wanna travel to Brazil and the Amazon forest,some African countries and Australia,New Zeland and Mexico.

The Ultimate Secrets of Total Self Confidenceby Robert Anthony Feel the Fear and Do it Anywayby Susan Jeffers The 6 Pillars of Self Esteemby Nathaniel Branden Get Off Your Butby Sean Stephenson Infinite Selfby Stuart WildeThese are books about self confidence overall.Maybe they are helpfull maybe not.If you want to find books about having confidence with women you might wanna go for something different

The Ultimate Secrets of Total Self Confidenceby Robert Anthony Feel the Fear and Do it Anywayby Susan Jeffers The 6 Pillars of Self Esteemby Nathaniel Branden Get Off Your Butby Sean Stephenson Infinite Selfby Stuart Wilde

I can deifnetely relate to the answers above. Everyone sees quitting games in a slightly different way. For me it's about getting the fullfillment I want from my life.Games only provided me with temporary pleasure and comfort. It was an addiction because I was mostly dependant on them to have that "feel good sensation" or kill my stress.But in hindsight I realise that games was a waste of my limited time.Life is too short and you gotta live it your way, games are like taking a "break" from life in a sense, you are not really participating or letting life touch you.You dont go for what you want in life , or for your dreams.At least that's how the gaming experience was for me... At this point in my life, I'd much rather feel like shit for a day or two cause of stress,failures in some areas and whatnot, cause I know it will pass and I will survive and positive emotions will follow the negative Rather than go back to gaming or any kind of addiction and waste my precious time.Life is too short for that shit.

Coach Corey Wayne . https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQTAVxA4dNBCoPdHhX9nnoQ A shitload of youtube videos.Mostly about Relationships and dating .But has plenty of content about improving your social skills,success buisness.

Exactly like you said it.Applying it increases your skill on anything .Take action guys!I know it's easier said than done so let's just do it!

Hey in what particular field do you want self confidence? The best way to increase your self confidence overall is to find situations where are you are most uncomfortable and invite them.Push your comfort zone by conciously placing yourself in uncomfortable situations .Realize that you are afraid to do something ,accept it and do it anyway.The only way to increase your confidence is by taking ACTION.Eventually your mental barriers of fear and self doubt will dissolve and you'll feel stronger and more confident than ever. If you want to increase your self-esteem that's way easier!You have to realize that you are the most important person in your life and act that way.Do not judge your value by other people's opinion of you or their expectation.Accept yourself uncoditionally and try to be as good as you can be (No external comparissons are necessary)!! Cheers

Jim Rohn said you are the average of the 5 people you spend most of your time with.People who we interact with subtly influence us,for good or bad.It's good that you are aware of the influence your roomate has over you and the impact he has on your life.You should try to limit your time with him and find more friends with a similar mindset. The internet is a good place to find people with similar mindset.I can only tell you about what worked for me.. discovering idividuals over the internet who pull me up, who support me and encourage me and aspire me to grow and become more has helped me a lot to preserve all the crap that I and everyone else go through in daily life. (For more information ,check out a thread about personal developement http://forum.gamequitters.com/topic/1317-self-developement/ . Last but not least , you have to find your own path and your own truth.Put your self out there and you'll find out that are people who wont like you not matter what and others that will like you no matter what and will want to hang around and help you!Keep in mind "Those Who Mind Don’t Matter, and Those Who Matter Don’t Mind" Cheers

I'll be brief and get to the point. Since I quit gaming I have a lot of time at my disposal.To break bad habits you have to replace them with good habits. With that in mind I've embarked on a journey of self growth, and self developement. Here are a few people with youtube channels who I am following KareemOmar <-- Has a youtube channel and a website.He is life coach and awesome guy ElishaLong<--- This guy has a youtube channel.He is into book reading and body building. Knowledgeformen(by Andrew Ferebee)<--Andrew has youtube chanel and a website .He interviews succesfull people and does podcasts There are plenty of books and audiobooks that you can read (Some audiobooks you can get for free on youtube) if you wanna get into this kind of stuff. Check them out if you want.They all are amazing idividuals! Cheers

Hi Chris! I (somewhat) get where you're coming from, when I was 12 I wanted nothing more than to have it with a girl, which I couldn't do for a variety of reasons (7th grade was a rough year for me). As for your reason for quitting, I totally understand. Personally, I quit because my schoolwork was suffering, and because I felt that quitting could help me overcome a severe laziness issue I have (still working on that ), but also because I thought that there were better things I could be doing. It's actually a lot harder for me because I'm only 13, constantly surrounded by games (3 younger siblings, super annoying), and I'm always at home (I'm stuck, you could say, parents are always so busy and I don't have a lot of friends), but I figure once I'm older and I don't have a gaming issue I can do great things. Anyways, just wanted to share and to say welcome (even though I think you joined before me ) Cheers man

Hey Paul. I understand your struggle.Anger is a dangerous emotion cause we cant control our actions or use reason while we are furious. If you want to place your anger under control there are experts or articles who know a lot more about the subject than I do. But let me share some of my thoughts with your regardless, maybe they will help you maybe they wont. It's interesting how you pointed out the triggers of your anger.You have to understand that you are not angry at the other people for picking on you. You are angry at yourself for supposedly failing and doing something wrong.In this particular scenario you said you got striped of the ball. When we fall or fail there are 2 routes we can take.We can either get mad at ourselves and think "how could I allow this to happen?How could I drop the ball in such a clutch moment? I failed ..". This attitude is not natural!! The second attitude goes back to when you were a little kid and you fell out of a tree you didnt feel inadequate or lose your spirit,you just got back up more determined to climb that tree. Accept yourself UNCONDITIONALLY but still try to improve.Be COMPASSIONATE with yourself when you fail or come sort, cause it's normal and happens to everyone!!Lebron James has given his all and he still comes short .He's won 2 Championships in 6 finals .But he is still one of the greatest players ever to play the game. Thomas Edison was trying to find materials for the light bulb and he "failed" thousands of times. You know what he said? "I Have found 10.000 ways that didnt work" .You should only regard your own opinion and not of others.You were mad cause you were too hard on yourself not because others picked on you. Do not pay attention to what other people think or say. Perhaps you are very talented player in soccer and you are just not used to the responsibility at clutch moments.You may be an expert at soccer but you have to improve in handling the key momments.At least you have taken 1-2 chances on your back , maybe you droped the ball but that's allright.Learn from those experiences and you will do better next time.Keep taking the ball at key momments and be ok with any outcome , wether you score or you lose the ball again it doesnt matter.What matters is that you are ok with yourself either way and you keep learning from these situations And remember, a mistake that we learn from is not really a mistake.

I'm starting NoFap for 66 Days.That's my goal. I think that resorting to porn and masturbation is reducing my sexual drive and appetite to approach and interact with hot women.Since I can always resort to the easy solution (masturbation and porn) and I don't really push myself to go for what I want(hot girls). Anyway even if it doesnt ,help I'm gonna go for it. I'm really curious to see how horny i'll be after a couple weeks lol.