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Sending a CV is the first (and out of necessity formal) step in applying for a job. Building rapport is for the interview itself and for the trial period. It's not personal that company X doesn't reply to your CV. Maybe their HR is overloaded. Maybe the job offer isn't current. Maybe there are some hidden conditions they don't mention. Maybe some people applied before you and they're having interviews with them before (and if) they get to you.  You can't know, so there's no reason to worry about it. What I did in the past (some 3-4 years ago) was to find companies that I felt were relevant to me as a potential employer (that is, even without them explicitly offering a job). I jammed every email adress I could find into Bcc, wrote something short, attached my CV. I did that maybe twice or thrice. I'm sure I sent out hundreds of emails this way. From all those emails, I was at around 30 interviews. Maybe 5 turned out to be profitable (gave me courses at some point) and maybe 5 others came back to me later. But before I started that, I was also hung up on getting a response/interview/job from "that one company". Now I can turn them down, because I don't need them anymore and I have better paid courses. - As for the dicussion about authenticity that @wheatbiscuit @Pochatok and @Vee expanded on: I found out that honesty and authenticity works great in my life. But (and this is a big BUT), there's also a lot of "catching up" to do with others, at least at first. We've rebuilt ourselves since admitting the gaming issue. Some more, some less. Depending on how much we still identify with our "gaming past/gaming trouble", it will influence the conversations we have and the relationships we have. We all here joined this forum, because we understood we had a serious problem. Gaming is/was our drug of choice. Even being among addicts is often troublesome on its own. Some people will damn us for that outright just out of their strange principle that we're not "normal". And even if we never had a gaming problem, people are people and some people don't like others just because.

Entry 1704 (Written on 18.04) Day 566: No Useless Videos Day 564: Sticking to Food schedule Day 168: Eating Only between 06:30 and 19:00 (Last bite before 19:00) Day 158: Being in bed before 23:15 3 Things I did right, no matter how small. -3.5 hrs deliveries -about 1.5 hrs workout right after that -Having gone to the bike shop to have the pro look at my bike 1 Thing I could do better -I am really really considering the nutritional consultation.  

Hello everyone, I am a 22 year old in the U.S. submariner leaving the military in a few months. I was born in San Diego, California, raised in Las Vegas Nevada, and put on shore duty back at San Diego, though now I'm finishing up my contract. I want to quit video games as I've seen and felt the consequences of those long hours spending time doing nothing but looking at numbers go up on a screen. I hate myself for doing such things, even being aware that other things need to get done and yet always glued onto video games. I've ruined my sleep schedule, my health is slowly deteriorating, stopped talking to my family, worried about finding a new job yet taking no action on such things, and scared to ask those close to me for help because I worry about what might happen even though I have no idea what would actually happen. My main goals after quitting is to get my life straightened back up, get a good job, socialize with others to find that special someone, make a fiction series, and to be healthy.

Day 1/14 A few urges, but I managed to control myself and direct my thoughts elsewhere. Was somewhat productive today despite poor sleep.

I relate to a lot of that. The course I'm on has an employability module, and there's a lot of "be yourself!" alongside "Do X, Y and Z otherwise you're putting yourself at a disadvantage". I hate all the bollocks involved in getting a job, which is why I've dragged my feet over updating my CV and applying for jobs. I've been single for ten years as well, and haven't touched a dating app in seven years(?). I don't think you are penalised for authenticity in the same way there, but I can't feel authentic on a dating profile when I know I'm being selective about what I do and don't mention. That's true in real-life interactions too, but it doesn't feel so...manipulative.