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Setting goals for new year isn't necessary if you have already set goals. Don't follow the fashion of making new year statements, but just go for better life.

It's great to hear from you, keep tight @Reno F!

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Cash creates options. :)

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Thanks guys!

@Piotr If you're still interested, have a look at the two pages that I wrote when I was studying code. I haven't touched it in a month, needless to say I was in the middle of something when I stopped (I think I was trying to make it responsive). But anyway, you said you were interested. Here are the two links. I'll pull back the links in two weeks :)

https://thimbleprojects.org/renofacundo/162917 - Sample page,

https://thimbleprojects.org/renofacundo/162921 - Simple name generator

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Today I talked on the internet with some old friends that I haven't talked in a while. Fun, but rather boring sometimes. We just don't share the same interests anymore. Still friends.

Awesome things:

  • Supermarkets
  • Telephones
  • Electricity
  • Stephen King
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Looks pretty! Thank you for sharing your work!

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Lots of new people in the forum!

Does the forum has a birthday?

These last days were spent reading and writing. Today I started writing a short story without plotting it first and the result was terrible. I got 500 words in one hour of focused work and nothing I wrote is worth reading. Plotting makes things so much easier. It is like cutting logs on the right size before you start carving your work out.

At the moment, I'm reading Brazilian classic authors. Even considering all the irregular verbs, Portuguese is still such a beautiful language. I'm stunned with rejoice when the beauty of a language and the skill of the writer steals the highlight from the story itself. I need a grammar book, asap.

Gradually I'm becoming less tolerant to the power of procrastination. I believe that it is related to the sense of purpose that I have built in the last months. I welcome procrastination when I can still be productive (when I decide to exercise to avoid sitting down and starting working on my craft). Too much entertainment is just unnafuckingceptable.

Awesome stuff:

  • Job at the hotel.
  • Fresh food
  • Vegetable juice
  • cozy socks
  • Public domain books

 

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I think it is great that you actually write stuff and not just plan(do some planning though). To be a perfectionist can really hurt you.

I stumbled over a nice idea to overcome the part of procrastination were you think that it is jsut too hard. Or that your result will suck anyway and it is not worht it. It is a simple idea. Set failure as a Goal. A selling Person should for example make  a daily goal of failed selling calls (while still trying to do their best). So a metric for a successful day would be to make 20 failed cold-calls (ofcourse there will be successes on the way). But this way you focus on the Progress and not on the results. Every real success is based on a big amounts of Little failures and lessons learned. So see that 500 words as a failure which is necessary to your seuccess! With software I'll try to adapt that idea with planning in a number of coding mistakes (I usually do that autoamtically but I still have to find them). With writing it is amybe a Little bit harder to measure something definit. But you could for example define a number of words which you'll have to delete because they would have no use in the endproduct.

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Does the forum has a birthday?

May 1st!

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Will you share your story with us? 

If you try to fight procrastination, check your rest schedule first. Maybe you're to overwhelmed? 

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@WorkInProgress I see what you mean, but I find this focus on failure very dangerous. For me, failure is to not do something you want to get done. The result is either good or bad, but never a failure because you've done it. But thank you for your support. You always give great insights!

@Cam Adair I shall remember

@Piotr Thanks for dropping by! I don't fight procrastination. I welcome it, but I tend to get enough of it quickly. I didn't quite understand what you mean by 'my story'. You mean how I'm less tempted to procrastinate? It's very easy to me. Imagine yourself at the age of 40. How do you see yourself? How would you want your life to be? Maybe you own a nice house in the city outskirts, in a quiet nice suburb. You drive a nice car, have a lovely wife and two beautiful kids. You're a manager at the company you work. Maybe you chose a Y career and now you're a senior product designer or something like it. You might even have your own estabilished business, employing a few couple of people. You help. You are loved. You feel important. You play golf every weekend. You travel with your family every six months. Sounds reasonable, right? You don't need to be the next Bill Gates to accomplish that in life, do you? Now here comes the plot twist. Ready? Imagine you only have 5 years to get from where you are to that point. The clock is ticking. 5 years doesn't seem that long now, does it? Well, that's exactly where I'll be in a month. I'm 35 in February. 5 years to my 40th anniversary. That recommended video on YouTube doesn't look as appealing to me anymore.

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Gratitude list:

  • New penpal
  • Olive oil
  • Clean water
  • books and kindle reader
  • laundry machine
  • The Ramones
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By story I meant the one you're writing, this 500 words or any other of your writing. Anyway, this vision of change of your life in 5 years, is very inspiring.

This is so beautiful:

Maybe you own a nice house in the city outskirts, in a quiet nice suburb. You drive a nice car, have a lovely wife and two beautiful kids. You're a manager at the company you work. Maybe you chose a Y career and now you're a senior product designer or something like it. You might even have your own estabilished business, employing a few couple of people. You help. You are loved. You feel important. You play golf every weekend. You travel with your family every six months. Sounds reasonable, right?

 

This is so true:

You don't need to be the next Bill Gates to accomplish that in life, do you?

 

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@Piotr I see! I missed out the point completely! I'm writing it in Portuguese and I'll be using a pen name! 2000k words now. I might finish it at around 4000k.

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Weather got colder in Kyoto, but now it is more fun because there is snow. The bad side is, with warmer sheets it is even harder to get out of bed in the morning. Seriously, this morning the world could have ended and I couldn't care less. I often write about cold. It bothers me that much.

3000 words in my short story. I might be able to finish the very first draft this week. Gotta do some editting before I request an opinion from my beta readers. Anyway, I'm glad I'm doing this. Feels so right.

I spent 30 minutes yesterday to check the annoucement of nintendo's new console. I was glad. Felt they are doing games the right way.

Gratitude List

  • snow
  • granola
  • 100 yen stores
  • coffee
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This is so beautiful:

Maybe you own a nice house in the city outskirts, in a quiet nice suburb. You drive a nice car, have a lovely wife and two beautiful kids. You're a manager at the company you work. Maybe you chose a Y career and now you're a senior product designer or something like it. You might even have your own estabilished business, employing a few couple of people. You help. You are loved. You feel important. You play golf every weekend. You travel with your family every six months. Sounds reasonable, right?

 

The goals you describe here are the common ones everybody expects you to strive for. But in my opinion this is neither beautiful nor reasonable. It's rather a trap. Let's examine it:

 

You own a nice house in the city outskirts, in a quiet nice suburb.

  • In case I don't inherit a lot of money (which I won't) I will have to take a loan, since property in such an area is quite expensive. 
  • Living in the outskirts forces me to commute to my workplace which will still be in the inner city. 

 

You drive a nice car.

  • I have to commute and I prefer the privacy and flexibility of my shiny car rather than taking public transport, thus spending quite some hours of my lifetime in the traffic jam every day.
  • Of course I want a comfortable and prestigious car which is expensive, adding more to my loan.

 

You have a lovely wife and two beautiful kids.

  • The order in which my goals are listed here is: house, car, wife, kids. So the wife comes third, right after the nice house and the car and the trait I give my ideal wife is: lovely, not loving or caring. This trophy wife does not work. She provides beauty and prestige, while I provide money and success. The side that can't deliver anymore get's replaced immediatly. 
  • Since my trophy wife spents her time in the beauty salon and the shopping mal, I have to hire a nanny for the kids and a cleaner for the nice and big house.
  • I work a lot to earn all the money that is needed to maintain all of this. So I can't spend time with my kids, but since I'm a loving father, I give them more money than they can spend to compensate for this. My kids will be spoiled and expensive. But hey, at least they are beautiful!

 

You're a manager at the company you work. Maybe you chose a Y career and now you're a senior product designer or something like it. You might even have your own estabilished business, employing a few couple of people.

  • So I'm a manager, I have my own business or whatever. I'm in charge, I lead the business, which means that I drown in responsibility and work, resulting in a 70 hour week at least. I don't have leisure time, I don't have weekends, even when I'm at home I'm at the phone or laptop dealing with my business. But I need this job to pay back the loan and I love to feel successful and important.
  • Employing people made the situation even worse. Now I'm responsible for those people too. Someone has trouble at home and is less productive at work. I have to fire him and make his situation even worse, but my company needs to stay competitive. There is no place for altruism.

 

You help. You are loved.

  • So my wife does only want my money and success and my kids don't know me since I'm never at home but they all pretend to love me.
  • I'm in the Rotary Club. I spend money for some humanitarian thing I don't really have time to concentrate on. But I know that the people in the third world I give money to do love me! Or maybe only my money?

 

You feel important. You play golf every weekend. You travel with your family every six months.

  • I feel important. That doesn't necessarily mean that I am important, but with my success with my business, my social status, my trophy wife and children and all my material stuff I can feel this way.
  • I'm playing golf every weekend. I don't really like this sport. It's quite boring, but this is what rich people do. Although it is quite frustating to get mobbed by the really rich guys. But in 10 years, when I'm 50, I will have reached even these people and show them! Isn't this a great goal for a successful life?
  • Every six month I travel to some 5 star hotel. The country doesn't matter because I never leave the hotel. I just sit at the pool with my phone and laptop and take care of my business that can't live without me even for one day. There is no time to relax when you are successful and important.

 

I have a big house, a big car and a big loan. I have a lovely wife that only wants my money and two beautiful and spoiled kids. I lead a successfull business which I need to pay back my loan and to keep my social status and I'm in constant fear that my business could collapse and I lose everything. I want to help, feel loved and important, but all I can give is my money since all my time gets sucked into my business. I have to play golf and travel two times every year, because that's what you do when you are rich and successful.

Sometimes I wish back my life when I was a young man. I had a girlfriend that loved me because of how I was and not because of my money. I had lots of leisure time and spent it with ordinary but true friends. I didn't travel further than to the next lake. I went there by bike and not by Porsche and lay there in the sun. Life was simple and beautiful.

But I can't go back. I'm already addicted to my success. I would feel horrible if I fell down the social ladder into obscurity again, where no one knew my name and my success.

 

Sounds reasonable, right?

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@Fagus thanks for commenting! these are not my plans. i just used a common idea of what would be a comfortable life on one's 40's to make a point. i also understand that you reframed basically every line of my comment to make your point as well. whether it is beautiful or not, it is a matter of perspective.

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