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rafik gk

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  1. rafik gk added a post in a topic 6 Simple Tips To Keep A Conversation Going   

    I don't see why you're overreacting, we're just expressing different opinions
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  2. rafik gk added a post in a topic 6 Simple Tips To Keep A Conversation Going   

    'Choose a topic that's interesting' - this was mentioned at the beginning, plus when you're not good at conversations, compliments simply don't work. Not everyone is at ease in social situations, you have to see it from others' perspective, not just your own.
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  3. rafik gk added a post in a topic 6 Simple Tips To Keep A Conversation Going   

    You didn't really understand the point behind my post. You make a good point here, when someone is really your friend you don't need to know how to continue the convo, itjust does. But you forgot something, no one starts havinggood friends. My tutorial is ment for people who find it hard to make friends because they have nothing to talk about, while you're talking about someone who's already friends with you. When you're just starting to get to know someone, it's really not that easy to kee the convo going. I also wanted to say that you're sharing your own experience which is great, but remember that not everyone has the same level of social skills, so what seems natural to you is something to be learned to someone else. Bottom line is, This is for people who are finding it difficult to keep a convo when meting new people or dealing with a difficult situation. btw thanks for sharing your opinion 
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  4. rafik gk added a post in a topic 6 Simple Tips To Keep A Conversation Going   

    You're right
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  5. rafik gk added a post in a topic 6 Simple Tips To Keep A Conversation Going   

    I'm talking about making friends, and making compliments is really a generic piece of advice and it doesn't always work as it dries up quickly
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  6. rafik gk added a topic in Social Skills, Dating & Relationships   

    6 Simple Tips To Keep A Conversation Going
    Having good conversation skills is a really good asset today. Being a good conversationalist can help you in different settings such as business, relationships, and  all your overall interpersonal interactions. Having a good set of discussion
    skills will help you to demonstrate confidence, make new friends, and avoid those awkward moments when you meet someone out of the blue, and you find yourself stuck because you can't think of anything to say.

    If you're not very good at keeping conversations, this is for you.
     
    6. Ask questions
    This is the most simple advice you can get, yet it's effective when you don't have anything to say. To use it effectively, you have to ask the right questions, at the right time. So timing and context are crucial for this to work. Here are the main rules you should be aware of when asking your questions :
     - Don't ask anything too personal or private. Stay on more general topics like work and daily activities.
    - Avoid asking yes/no questions. Instead, ask open ended questions.
    - Don't ask generic questions like 'how are you' or 'what are you up to?' those are real conversation killers. Ask more original questions, such as 'what do you think of that new movie?' or 'what's your ideas on that new project?'.
    You have to be somewhat specific when asking your questions, but at the same time stay on a broad topic so that you can find something to talk about.

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    Ask open-ended questions on a specific aspect of the other person's life without being too intrusive.5. Make a comment on the setting you're in
    If you're in an environment that contains some special object, building, or anything special that's worth mentioning, don't hesitate to bring it up.. For example, maybe there's a really cool sea side nearby, or a really unusual building that you see when you're talking with someone else....etc. The idea is to find something that's special and unusual in your environment, and keep steering the conversation from there.

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    find something that's unusual or new in your surroundings, and make a comment about it4. Use your general knowledge
    If you're cultivated to a certain degree, then this won't be hard for you. When you find the conversation going dry, subtly use your common knowledge to your advantage. The trick is to identify the right topic, it shouldn't be too technical or complicated like physics or mechanics or anything, because that's boring. Instead, use a topic that's both common and simple to understand. For example, let's say you're on your way to work and you find your colleague on the same bus, and you find yourself going quiet, but you know that he's interested in anything related to cars, that's where your general insight kicks-in, you can for example look at a certain car in the street, and start telling him about it's price, what you know about it, and almost anything related to the subject. That alone can lead to a whole new conversation.

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    Use simple knowledge that you have about a specific topic, depending on the context you're in.3. Talk about an important upcoming or recent event
    That's an easy one. When you find yourself short on ideas, mention some upcoming event, or something big that happened in recent days. That's the most common way to break the ice in conversations. This is a flexible method because as there are many events in general, it allows you to easily relate to others because you can use it as common ground without much work, and that sets the ground to a longer conversation, and allows you to avoid awkward silences easily.

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    Talk about something important that will happen or has has already happened recently.2. Find common interests
    When talking to someone you know, you probably know a bit about them. Use your common sense to determine what the other person is about, is he more inclined towards music? sports? science? Find a broad area that he's interested in, and use your general info to talk about that specific subject. And if you don't know anything about it, even better, you can ask them questions about it, that way you'll be engaged in the convo, and you'll learn something new along the way.

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    Find a common interest, and use that to start a conversation.1. Teach what you know
    I know what you're thinking, but please bare with me. What this means is that everyone knows something. You can use what you know to keep a conversation going, you just have to know what to talk about, and how to talk about it.
    Choose a topic that's interesting, and talk in a simple tone, after all you don't want the other person to fall asleep do you? So how exactly do you do this? First, pick something that you know about, that's interesting at the same time. Good examples include art, music, entertainment....etc. But you can talk about anything as long as it's not too serious. After you picked a good topic, try to subtly bring it up in the convo, then ask questions to the other person about it, and answer them in a simple manner, to position yourself as the one who's explaining that subject. With that being said, you must give others space so they can participate in the convo, and avoid being too technical about it. Remember : keep it simple.

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    Bring up a topic in which you're well informed, then try to explain it in a very simple tone.I hope this helps guys. What do you think?You might also like 5 Ways To Master Your Confidence From Scratch
    6 Warning Signs Of Low Self-Confidence (And How To Fix It) 
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