xela

It's not so much the courage of going up to girls and talking to them and complimenting them that "gets you a girlfriend". Sure that's going to increase your chances greatly, but that's not the only way to do it. Honestly, I don't even think I can do that in a random setting. I'm 27, I've had many girlfriends in my years and not one of them has been from approaching them randomly with a pick-up line or compliment. I have met girls through mutual friends, parties, sports clubs, organizations, school, online dating etc. I think the first mistake you can make is having the mentality of "I need to find a girlfriend" or "I want a girlfriend! but I don't know how to get one". Just be yourself, if you are with a group of friends and there's girls in the group, just talk! Be yourself, express interest in them, ask about them, make them feel interesting, that's how relationships happen. You will make a lot more friends in your life (and girlfriends) by showing interest in their life. There's no secret, or magic formula to getting a girlfriend, a few of my friends sometimes ask me "how do you get girlfriends? How do you get girls to like you?". I'm not an overly outgoing individual, but I would say I am very caring and compassionate. Those two traits are ones that girls I suppose look for in a potential relationship. When I am at group gatherings or parties that's where I feel in my element. It's incredibly easy for me to spark up a conversation with a girl in a common setting (mutual friends etc.). If I meet a girl and I like them or I feel there is a connection between us, you just gotta "be a man!" (iin Russel's accented voice*) about it. Ask her out for coffee, show her that you are interested in her. You will develop that confidence over time, and you will get used to rejection. A few of my friends are my age, have never had a girlfriend but keep saying "i want a girlfriend" ... but they don't know how to socialize. If you sat me down with a random girl, at a coffee shop I could sustain a conversation for hours (most likely) unless we had nothing in common or I deemed she was just a terrible person. Some of my friends wouldn't know where to start. There's definitely a skill that can be developed when it comes to socializing. My advice is just to express interest in them, and try and not talk about yourself too much. You will find you have a lot more friends that way. When I evaluate my "friends" there's two friends that come to mind as TRUE friends. Those are the two who will randomly call me, or message me out of the blue and say "how are you doing? I haven't talked to you in a while". They are good people, I'm not saying my other friends are bad people, I am just saying those two individuals are the one's you want to keep close to your side in life. This relates into a relationship, a girl is obviously going to like a guy who shows interest in them, shows that they care about their feelings. SO... express interest in the girls that you like, and it will most likely be reciprocated. And if there's a spark, a potential romantic relationship will most likely be formed. That's just my rant and input on the topic of 'finding a girlfriend'. *If you don't know what I am talking about here, it's from Russel Peters stand-up skit