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NewComer added a topic in Main RoomReplacing gaming with worse! OVEREATING, IMAGINING, WANDERING. My three steps to overcome it.Hi, this my personal experience of my struggling with cravings and overcoming it. (as a male)
I quit video games and then I was drawn to other bad behaviors like overeating, wandering about, and imagining or watching video's on youtube. It's kinda retrogressing and I went from a bad state into another state.
Sometimes your mind craves for games, movies or something to stop the boredom, you might just wander in the house struggling with your cravings or killing time. You might be want to play all day and at the same move forward at the same time. One leg goes for games, etc and the other goes for doing what you want to achieve in life,like sports, dating, etc.
Youtube can be very helpful and handy at times if you use it correctly for example you can learn about self defense, but if you just watch a video about somebody getting pranked, you're wasting your time.
Overeating could be a reaction to many things, like stress and tension of life, work, exams, and it could also be a reaction to not receiving what your mind desires, games,etc.
I always told myself that I had to move forward and do what I really wanted and deep in my mind I knew it wasn't gaming. I set goals and tried to quit but it was a failure everytime because I still had second thoughts about gaming, that was the problem, I didn't let the past go. I had these problems, I overate because of the lack of gaming, watched videos on youtube, and wandered about for hours, days and maybe even months. Then I came to this conclusion after wandering in this forum for a while, a three-step self-guide to move forward :
First, I had to let go of my past, even if I had a second thought about games I might have been tempted and relapsed.
Second, when I completely let go of the games, movies and past, that was the right time to set my goal, make a list of what to do, put it somewhere noticeable and set reminders to do my best to attain what I sought, which was sports and study but before that, I had to be prepared.
Third, I had 90 days to prepare myself for study and sports, so I did some exercises to make my mind ready to study (I didn't expect to study 7 hours a day from the beginning ), read a few books about studying and how mind works, etc . I was playing sports for about five years (like two/three times a week) so I was ready to train a bit harder in that case.
After that I was all set.
Thanks cam and others here, I learned a lot and inspired by just reading about stories and topics. Cam's movies/guides really helped.
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NewComer added a topic in Start Here + IntroductionsA new comer into, and some tips to fellow quittersHi everybody, I decided to quit playing video games a long time ago and with lots of quitting, relapsing, months free of gaming, and then again playing, I'm here to share my experience about before I came to this forum.
First i have to say that one thing was certain for me, I could just shift from games to movies, cartoons/animations, and chatting, and I wouldn't crave for others, for example I could watch movies and not play, or I could do both but do one more. So it really doesn't matter if I quit playing when I'm right back at watching cartoons, there's no progress.
Recently I found out that when I was addicted and I went to school in the time that I couldn't play I became hungry because my mind was trying to replace the lack of receiving the DRUG and also my mind was so obsessed about the game that I couldn't focus on the lessons and sports.And I tried lots of things. Here's a log:
First my parents would take my stuff and saying study or no computer/games, movies, etc. That method never worked and works for me, not a chance. It's like you're deeply addicted to drugs and they take it from you while all you do is thinking about it and you don't plan to quit it, then you just crave more and neither you study nor quit it by not using it, you just lose your mind.
Then I decided to quit cold turkey, deleted my game saves, videos cartoons/animations, and all other things I had. The cravings and my mind's rationalizations to play dominated me. Like I finish this game and that's all, or I watch this series that I never completed and I'm done for good so I then I will practice to write with both hands, finish every book I have and read more, ... . Some times I managed to resist the cravings for a few days but you know what happened in the end.
Once I decided to gradually quit gaming and watching once and for all. I knew that if I were to quit by watching movies less everyday I wouldn't be able to do it, because I would have wanted to watch the next episode. So I decided to quit the addiction of games, started playing 2.5 hours a day, played 15 or 30 minutes less every day or two, aiming to quit in two weeks at most. In the end I thought I quit playing but in the next month I talked to a family member about an ongoing series that i used to watch and then I craved about it, my mind rationalized to watching it, and there I was an addicted again.
After that I tried to quit cold turkey again and again but same story.
Then I searched the web and I found a few websites to help me get through it and this forum was one of them. I watched the three steps of resisting the cravings, read cam's story and other stuff. Here I am, past my addiction and posting here and trying to help family and acquaintances to quit.
I think meditation and DESTROING the cravings really help and I'm resolved to never ever be addicted.
a fellow former addicted.
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